Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 16 March 2016: Oh and finally, I'm not disputing that women get more messages than men, but I disagree that we have an easier time with online dating. We just have different frustrations to deal with (overload of messages/inappropriate messages/abusive ... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 16 March 2016: Male anon, once again you are using your own bias to influence the way you are interpreting the data. If you read it, it also states that women's messaging patterns contradict the initial results as they DO message more than the top 20% of men in ... (read in full...)
I am in a lifeless relationship!
Q. I feel as though I'm in a lifeless, passionless, boring relationship with my long term boyfriend. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. At first it was exciting and very passionate. But time took its toll and that passion has been lost. Ou...
A. 15 March 2016: I second Aunty Bim Bim's advice. I had an ex like this and after years of telling him how I felt and him ignoring me I snapped and left, and he was shocked to his core! He said I'd blindsided him, when in actual fact he'd been dismissing my feelings ... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 15 March 2016: Male anon, that very same study states that two thirds of all messages from men go to the top third of attractive women. Which is about 30% right? So women like the top 20% of men and men like the top 30% of women. It almost sounds like attractive ... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 14 March 2016: I've been online dating for about 6 months now so I feel I'm qualified to answer this question. When I first started out, I said I'd always reply to every message I get, yet that lasted about 3 weeks.
I think men seriously underestimate how many... (read in full...)
Partner is 16 weeks and won't stop smoking!
Q. Hi, my partner is almost 16 wks pregnant with our first child and she just will not stop smoking, or even attempt to cut down even a little. She is averaging around 16-20 cigarettes every single day. She wakes up in the night for a cigarette, she ...
A. 4 March 2016: I think the fact is, she can't just stop. My grandad was the exact same, he always made out as if he loved smoking so much he'd never quit, but he eventually admitted years later that he got such bad cravings even between cigarettes that he was too ... (read in full...)
He lied about his drug use in the past, but then was upset that I needed time to deal with my anger about his lying. Shouldn't we take some time to calm down when we are angry?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, having a little problem in my relationship and I always find the advice here helpful. Recently I found out that my boyfriend used to do drugs. When we were going out, he did not tell me about his drug history. I specifically ...
A. 2 March 2016: I'd first of all like to say that I too hate drugs and my previous relationship ended over something very similar to this (he was still doing drugs behind my back though so much worse).
Firstly, I don't think you need to loosen up or any of that ... (read in full...)
How do I make this threesome idea happen?
Q. I want have a threesome with my wife and friend. the game plan is they should not know each other so I want to blind fold them and to convince them for this and then the game goes on.... suggest me how to make this wonderful...!?...
A. 2 March 2016: So wait a second, you want them to be blindfolded so they don't know who they are about to sleep with? Do you plan to get to a point where you take the blindfolds off and shout 'surprise!'??
Not only is that something no sane person would ev... (read in full...)
Why why do girls dump guys who treat a girl like an angel?
Q. I wonder why ladies, I never hear a woman, talk about them dumping a nice guy, on here. I here all the time,How they get hurt, by the guy who treated them bad. It does happen all the time, a guy treats a woman fantastic. Then a woman, breaks t...
A. 27 February 2016: I hear this from men so often and I never understand the confusion to be honest. I would say a minimum of 80% of people I've ever met could be classified as 'nice'. It doesn't mean they are all a good match for me romantically. Meeting the right one ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 24 February 2016: Wow! I've actually written about this before when trying to explain how some women feel about porn and here is a real live example of it.
I'd like to start off by saying that I personally have no issue with porn and I even watch it myself. ... (read in full...)
Am I silly for being disappointed and upset that my much richer boyfriend got me absolutely nothing for Valentine's Day?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for close to two years. I am upset , disappointed he didn't get my anything for Valentine's Day. I got him a cute bag with his favorite candy , card , along with shoes. I would of been happy with a thoughtful ...
A. 18 February 2016: No if I were you I'd be hurt too.
I'm a romantic person so I do enjoy things like Valentine's Day, and while I understand that some people don't, I also don't see why some people make such a big deal out of hating it. Yes it's commercial and can ... (read in full...)
Is it love or just habit? Can a husband truly love his wife if he cheats for years?
Q. Can a man cheating on his wife for four plus years really love her? Even if he was straying because of sex- something that he is not getting in his marriage? He doesn't love the other woman- don't know if he cares for her or just using her for ...
A. 17 February 2016: I'm going to guess that you are the other woman and you're trying to work out why the man you are sleeping with won't leave his wife to be with you?
Well to answer your question, I do believe these men do love their wives but not nearly as much ... (read in full...)
Is she not very sexually experienced and I'm just manipulative?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl for a month now- I am very sexual with her but just over the weekend we had unprotected sex and I came inside her.. She was pretty nervous afterwards but we kept doing it for the next 4 days. We have basically fallen in ...
A. 3 February 2016: I take it by your question that you are the type of guy who 'chances it' and tries to have sex without a condom, but usually the woman is sensible and doesn't let you. Now you've found one that does, you're wondering if she has another motive for ... (read in full...)
Do women get scared of a man, when all he does is try to make her happy?
Q. Do women get scared of a man, when all he does is try to make her happy? I mean, can he do something that makes, her feel like he is getting to like her too much, an then she runs, but down the road, she goes out with other men, an she compares, the ...
A. 30 January 2016: On the whole, no I don't think so. You have to remember that just because a man TRIES to make a woman happy, doesn't mean he actually IS making her happy. Maybe what he's offering isn't what she needs or wants from a partner. That doesn't ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like the expensive present I got from a female co-worker. What should I do?
Q. Hi all Where I work, its mostly with women and as a result I am friendly and comfortable around women,although my wife isn't too happy about it.There's one particular girl who I work very closely with and I'll admit i get on particularly well wit...
A. 10 January 2016: If you can honestly say that keeping a bottle of perfume a colleague gave you means more to you than your marriage, then go ahead and keep it. Otherwise, whether it is 'ungrateful' or not, get rid of it and accept that sometimes it's your job as a ... (read in full...)
She wants to leave me because I looked at photos of other women
Q. Hi my name is david I am in need of help Ive been with my fiance for 6 years now She has a problem with me looking at other girls And watching porn etc. I soon worked this out as around 3 months into the relationship i watched a film and sh...
A. 7 January 2016: I'll start this off by saying that I don't actually have an issue with porn myself, but I do understand why some women do which I'll try to explain here.
Basically, men and women get turned on in different ways. Men get turned on by looking ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she want to see the xmas party photos?
Q. I'm well over 50 and work with a lovely girl in her late 20s. We have always got along very well but due to the age gap and personal circumstances I've never made a pass at her and never would. I'm married and she has a long term boyfriend, who she ...
A. 21 December 2015: I have just turned 30 and one of my best friends at work is a 57 year old man who I've sat next to for years. We get on brilliantly and I really enjoy his company, but in the sense that I think of him as my 'work Dad'. It's never entered my mind ... (read in full...)
Was it just a joke to him? He e called me PG and text me a pig cartoon
Q. Hi, Thanks for reading my post. English is not my native language I need advice. I am trying to the find right person. I started online dating . I met few guys but things did not work out. Its almost a month a guy tried to reached me. He ...
A. 18 December 2015: I think he's a rude idiot and you're well rid of him. I also wouldn't take it personally, there's an increasing number of reports of men becoming mean and hostile when women don't reply to them on dating sites. If you type 'bye felipe' into google ... (read in full...)
I have a feeling my girfriend might be cheating. Should I break up with her?
Q. I want to know if my girlfriend of six months is cheating or not. At first, she was all chatty and flirty and quite honestly, all over me. But then she would back off real quick and make some excuse to go home or cut off the date. When I asked if...
A. 16 December 2015: Oh and no, I don't think there is any evidence that she's cheating.... (read in full...)
I have a feeling my girfriend might be cheating. Should I break up with her?
Q. I want to know if my girlfriend of six months is cheating or not. At first, she was all chatty and flirty and quite honestly, all over me. But then she would back off real quick and make some excuse to go home or cut off the date. When I asked if...
A. 16 December 2015: Ok a few things stick out to me about your post.
Firstly, you don't seem to like this girl very much. You've used words like controlling, mind games and even disgusted when describing her, so I definitely think you should end the relation... (read in full...)
Without foreplay I feel pain if my husband attempts intercourse without foreplay. How can I make him understand? I don't know what to do.
Q. I am recently married to my boyfriend of 10 years. We never had sex in these years,only physical intimacy/foreplay. now after marriage he just wants sex, he cant wait for 15-20 minutes of foreplay before sex. foreplay is important to me because ...
A. 13 December 2015: To be frank, your husband sounds both selfish and completely clueless about the female anatomy. All women will feel pain during sex if they are not aroused enough/properly lubricated. I'm sure everyone, women and men, wish that wasn't the case and ... (read in full...)
I'm finding her persistent acne a turnoff
Q. I don't want this this to come off the wrong way, but I need some help. I love my fiancée and we have a great relationship. I'm physically attracted to her but I find myself turned off a lot because of her acne issues. She's dealt with rea...
A. 11 December 2015: I just wanted to respond to Chigirl's advice to try isotretinoin and point out that is just a different name for accutane/roaccutane which as I mentioned earlier, is not something I think people should take lightly.
It's a very strong drug whi... (read in full...)
I'm finding her persistent acne a turnoff
Q. I don't want this this to come off the wrong way, but I need some help. I love my fiancée and we have a great relationship. I'm physically attracted to her but I find myself turned off a lot because of her acne issues. She's dealt with rea...
A. 9 December 2015: I know you can't help how you feel OP but your post makes me really sad. I'm 30 now and I have been struggling with adult acne since I was about 19. I never had a single spot until then and all of a sudden developed big red cysts that are almost ... (read in full...)
Gay men flirt with my boyfriend in front of me and he likes the attention
Q. We have been together a year and a half. We have a good relationship and sex life.He seems attracted to me and he's very physically affectionate. He says he's in love with me and wants to have children get married all that fairy tale stuff. ...
A. 8 December 2015: I don't think your boyfriend is gay, but I do think he believes he is very good looking (or is at least trying to convince himself/you that he is).
I think he probably thinks that every woman he meets wants him as well, but he can't brag about th... (read in full...)
He says he's addicted to porn. To me porn is a betrayal. What can we do to resolve our difficulties?
Q. How do I get over the fact that my husband continuously watches porn and saves pictures of it on his phone? In the past, porn has been an issue before do to them not wanting to have intercourse with me. My insecurities really do eat me alive f...
A. 7 December 2015: I'm personally quite relaxed about porn but I know many other women find it really upsetting. This is something I've never quite understood until a couple of days ago when I read something that sort of made it 'click' for me, so maybe it might help ... (read in full...)
Husband took out loans behind my back. How can I ever trust him again?
Q. Found out my other half took out loans behind my back last year without telling me. Said we needed the money but he never told me. Thinks its ok that he kept it from me and wonders why i'm shocked at what he done. He talks about trust but how ca...
A. 3 December 2015: Was it a payday loan he took out? Because those can easily spiral out of control like that. I used to work for one of those companies and they let people borrow £100 on the promise they'll pay it back the next month, yet they keep giving them the ... (read in full...)
Fiancée's attitude makes me sick but how can I leave?
Q. A few weeks ago me and my fiancée of 2 years went to her parents house for her mom's birthday. It was there, her mother told the family she was sick. This is the wonderful woman who put my fiancée through school twice!, bought her a car when she ...
A. 1 December 2015: I think she could be in denial and keeping herself busy so she doesn't have to face her Mum's illness. Based on how strongly you feel about this (rightly so) and the fact you're still with her, I can only assume that she is not always a selfish ... (read in full...)
What should I pay for, in the first month, as I will be away, and not residing there with him?
Q. My bf and I are moving in together. He is paying for the rent, and i'm paying utilities and food. I unfortunately, will be gone for a month and a half with my mother on vacation. We planned this trip out, before I even met him because she is just...
A. 24 November 2015: Yes I think you should pay it. You are now half responsible for the running of a household and as such you have to ensure you pay your way. You don't get to take vacations from paying bills every time you decide to go away somewhere. It's also not ... (read in full...)
He thinks I should be flattered by his remarks, which I find hurtful. How should I respond?
Q. I'm really upset about what my boyfriend has said and I'd like some opinions about whether I'm overreacting or not. I met my boyfriend on plenty of fish. For some reason he thought it would be a good idea telling me who else was talking to him w...
A. 22 November 2015: Quite frankly I think your boyfriend's an ass! He sounds very insecure which is why he's putting you down with these horrible comments - he wants you to believe you are SO lucky to have him rather than see him for the ass he actually is. I agree you ... (read in full...)
To have or not have children? Can people give their stories?
Q. We are deciding whether or not we want to have children and we're leaning towards not. We've been together for years, value our spare time, our independence, ability to take trips at a whim and the quietness of our lives. I've done plenty of reading ...
A. 20 November 2015: Your question reminds me of my Aunt so I'll share her story with you. She and my uncle never wanted children and they never had them. She admits that she has had a happy life with a large circle of friends, successful career and she's travelled the ... (read in full...)
She I forgive her and resume our relationship, which is what she wants?
Q. So I have a issue and I need some help from people with experience. My girlfriend and I of 5 years split up for a few months and she ended up sleeping with someone else during this time. Now she wants to get back together but idk how to handle t...
A. 19 November 2015: There's nothing to forgive - you weren't together at the time so she did absolutely nothing wrong. It's up to you if you want to give your relationship another chance, but you don't have the right to be mad at her or punish her for something that's ... (read in full...)
Has my wife had an affair?
Q. Well to cut it short basically im married and have been for 5 years. One day my wife left my house as she says she was getting a few bits and peices from the shop and yet was gone 3 hours. On return she couldnt wait to get out the house to go to ...
A. 17 November 2015: 'I wouldnt leave her if she admitted it i just need to know so i can move on'
But OP she's already told you! Many of the aunts and uncles here have also told you that there are many explanations for what you saw and the way she acted, yet you don'... (read in full...)
I'm desperate for women to notice me
Q. Hi, I am a 22 year old virgin and have spent years trying to make myself attractive enough to be able to have sex. Ive transformed the way I look, started going to school parties,even started drinking at them even though I dont like alcohol. Im n...
A. 10 November 2015: Hi again OP. First of all I really hope you don't feel that you can't keep coming to us for advice because that's what we're here for. However, it is sad when we are unable to help people despite our best intentions which is all I was trying to ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate for women to notice me
Q. Hi, I am a 22 year old virgin and have spent years trying to make myself attractive enough to be able to have sex. Ive transformed the way I look, started going to school parties,even started drinking at them even though I dont like alcohol. Im n...
A. 9 November 2015: Hi OP. I remember all of your other posts on this and I'm sad that you've not listened to any of the advice and are still stuck in this mindset.
I'm guessing you won't listen to this either, but being the optimist I am I'll give it one last try... (read in full...)
I'm a selfish idiot but one who needs help!!
Q. I got married when I was 19 and had two kids by the time I was 22. Also divorced at 22. Rebounded into a relationship with the wrong person for a year and then met my ex 3 years ago. I was 24 she was 19.She is beautiful and has a huge heart. She ...
A. 6 November 2015: I think you need to look at why you did what you did. I don't mean as an excuse, I mean what was wrong in yourself that you would willingly and consistently treat the person you love in such an awful way.
Usually when people bully and verbally... (read in full...)
As a male inexperienced virgin who feels socially awkward - Should I pay a sex worker to have sex with me for my first time?
Q. Hello I'm a male virgin who's never even kissed a girl nor have I been on a date or had a girlfriend. I'm not particularly good looking and I'm very socially awkward. I figure having no clue about the opposite sex would be a massive turn off....
A. 3 November 2015: I really feel for you, but have to agree with all the other posters who have asked you not to do this. Never mind the fact that paying for sex is a much bigger turnoff for women than inexperience (I've found the whole 'being experienced' thing is ... (read in full...)
The necklace... Should I break up with her? Will remaining with her only bring me misery?
Q. I have been with her for over 4 years. For the first birthday she had during our relationship, I got her a gold necklace with a heart on it, half white gold in the back and gold in the front. She really loved it! For her following birthd...
A. 3 November 2015: To be honest I think you are seriously overreacting. Unless there is a lot more to this story, why on earth would you consider ending a relationship after 4 years because she didn't like one gift?!
I understand you are a bit disappointed, but you ... (read in full...)
After finding out she was so easily intimate with others I'm not sure I want to be with her
Q. Hi I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years (she is 41)and she told me a few days ago that in the 4 years before we met that she had slept with 4 other guys, kissed others (so called 'friends') etc. and it has made me feel sick. I was not ...
A. 2 November 2015: If you really can't get past the fact she slept with an average of one man per YEAR while she was a single woman, then yes you should end things. You have the right to decide what is a deal breaker for you, and she has a right to be with someone who ... (read in full...)
Slam bam thank you ma'am is all I get!
Q. Hi everyone! I've been with my boyfriend for around 5 months, we've been great, had various issues which soon got resolved. When we first got together we had sex constantly, he would always perform oral sex and we'd have an amazing time, but over ...
A. 30 October 2015: I agree that you are dealing with a very lazy and selfish lover. Being 'too tired' make sure you are enjoying yourself is a cop out. There is no excuse to get his then leave you hanging.
I agree that I'd stop having sex with him for a while an... (read in full...)
How do I fix that I cheated on my wife and then kept lying about it?
Q. Over 2 years ago I broke and destroyed my wife's heart by having an affair, at a time when we should have been at our happiest expecting our first child through IVF. On revelation of what happened I cowardly hid the truth in order to save our rela...
A. 23 October 2015: The advice you've received already has been excellent so I won't go over the same things, but one thing about your post struck me. Having been in a similar situation in the past, the thing that would infuriate me most if I were your wife is the fact ... (read in full...)
Advice and Help or shall I give up.
Q. have recently separated from My wife and I did not want this she did. Due to a number of issues. Which are 1.A family member causing a Rift and I was not there for her properly during the 1st pregnancy 2. Me making silly mistakes 3. Not...
A. 21 October 2015: I'm in a very similar situation at the moment with my ex boyfriend. I ended things with him 9 months ago because despite dozens of conversations about how much I felt neglected and like I was his last priority, he never listened or did anything ... (read in full...)
To smoke cigarettes or not? Is there a compromise or a solution we can try to make things ok for us both?
Q. I know what I’m going to write sounds kind of strange, and very long but I guess that’s just the way it goes…. Since I was a young teenager I was interested in trying smoking but I got the chance once at the age of 14 but I didn’t actually go throu...
A. 3 October 2015: I don't think he's being controlling by saying he doesn't want to date a smoker. I feel the exact same as him and I would seriously consider ending even a long term relationship if that person started smoking rather than watch them squander their ... (read in full...)
My wife went to an adults-only topless pool in Vegas. I'm not so sure what to think about it
Q. My wife recently went on a bachelorette party to Las Vegas. Some of the girls decided to go to the adults-only topless pool. My wife and a couple other girls (single) decided to take their tops off. The one's who were married did not. My wife ...
A. 10 September 2015: Maybe this is because I grew up in Europe, but in my experience going topless on holiday is very normal and not sexual at all. It means you don't get tan lines and keeps you cooler on the beach too. So personally I don't think you have anything to ... (read in full...)
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