I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 22 June 2016: OP she already has considered your opinion and she still doesn't want to do it. That's all you need to know. You are now free to do as you wish with that information, including end the relationship, but either way oral sex with her is not going to ... (read in full...)
Can they really expect more hours without overtime pay?
Q. Hello, I moved to the US few months ago and I'm working in financie field and have an exempt full time position. I was hired for 40 hours work per week but my supervisor stating that we all must put some extra hours every week. I do come early ...
A. 20 June 2016: My place of work is like that in the sense I'm officially on a 35 hour contract but I'm paid an annual salary. The overall amount is higher than I'd get if I were on an hourly wage but the assumption is that I'll work extra as and when it's ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 20 June 2016: It's ok to want or even ask for oral sex but not to keep pestering someone who has said they don't want to do it. Just because you go down on her doesn't mean she HAS to do it for you either, that's not how sex works. If it's so important to you, ... (read in full...)
She's giving me mixed signals. Does she like ? Is she being genuine?
Q. While I was at work, I noticed that a female has taken a shine to me, I don't know if I read into the wrong or she genuinely liked me. I've not asked her out, but I'm thinking of doing and im not sure what to do for the best. While I was making m...
A. 19 June 2016: I think that message is a bit OTT if I'm honest. I'd change it to say something more like 'Hey, thanks for giving me your email. I thought I'd take this opportunity to ask whether you fancied getting together for a coffee sometime? We don't get much ... (read in full...)
Why is porn condemned by women?
Q. I am curious about this. It seems that to some women the worst sin a man can commit is looking at porn and I don't get it. They are just images on a screen of women he most likely will never meet or ever have a chance with. The chances of him a...
A. 17 June 2016: Firstly, I have no real issue with porn and watch it myself occasionally (only amateur/couples in love though as I can't stand the degrading commentary in some of the other stuff). However I think many women have issues with because ultimately women ... (read in full...)
How can this continue with me losing my sanity? I have a wife and a girlfriend who are both amazing.
Q. I've been having an affair with a much younger, beautiful and sexy woman for over three years. I am in a fairly good marriage and we've been married for 22 years. My wife and I are on the same wave length. We've been through a lot together and are...
A. 16 June 2016: I'm surprised at how much this post has upset me. All you are interested in is yourself OP! Your desires, your feelings, what these women do for you. What about the two women who's lives you are messing up by behaving this way? You say you love them ... (read in full...)
Why is my Bf refusing to tell me why he wants a tracking device?
Q. Hi, first all thanks for reading this. My bf of 2 years suddenly asked me about a gps tracking device that he knows I had in the past. I told him I don't have it with me. It is in my locker ( work locker) and I asked what do you need for that ...
A. 5 June 2016: Could he want to see it because he wants to be sure you're not secretly using it to keep track of HIM? If so then he may be doing/planning to do something shady that he wants to make sure he doesn't get caught for...... (read in full...)
Should I stop cooking for my Bf after what he did? Any suggestions on how to get him to appreciate me more?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, living together for 1 year. He can be super sweet, loyal and sensitive and we have a lot in common... but sometimes he can just 'lose it.' Though he would never be violent he has lost his temper over ...
A. 26 May 2016: You are not overreacting in the slightest. In fact your boyfriend is an inconsiderate ass and I really hope you realise this and leave him asap.
I really wish everyone would remember this - the person you are with should raise you up not tear you... (read in full...)
I don't mind paying but resent being asked to
Q. Dear Cupid: I was on an on-line dating site. A man sent me messages saying he would like to meet me. We met at a place he picked, I told him I was good with just a drink (no food). I had one beer (it was happy hour), he picked up the tab which wa...
A. 24 May 2016: I do know what you mean OP. I always split the bill on dates (or at least offer to), but I went on one date last year and we went round a couple of different wine bars. He insisted on paying for the first cocktails but before we even made it to the ... (read in full...)
Don't want this to feel like a parent child relationship. how to make him see where I'm coming from?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for three years now and its been lovely. He cares about me a lot, we have our own separate lives and we don't live together but we are moving in together in a few months. I've really excited about this but w...
A. 24 May 2016: It doesn't sound like a controlling relationship to me at all OP, it sounds like he is growing up and realising how reckless he has been with his health and he's now worried for your safety because you don't see the danger in what you are doing.
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Uncles who lost your virginity at a later stage, how did you do it? Aunts what will really help me lose my virginity?
Q. How do you shake off being a virgin? While I have kissed a couple girls and have been sexual with some, I feel down on myself for not having had intercourse. I've read articles on this site, other sites about not feeling bad about it but it ...
A. 22 May 2016: I also meant to add - you mentioned your fear that a girl will laugh at you for being sexually inexperienced. I want you to trust me on this, if a girl has reached the stage where she's just about to have sex with you, the last thing she'll be ... (read in full...)
Uncles who lost your virginity at a later stage, how did you do it? Aunts what will really help me lose my virginity?
Q. How do you shake off being a virgin? While I have kissed a couple girls and have been sexual with some, I feel down on myself for not having had intercourse. I've read articles on this site, other sites about not feeling bad about it but it ...
A. 22 May 2016: Ok OP you've given us a lot more information and a few contradictions in your latest post.
"I am interested in relationships. Nowhere did say I wasnt."
Except in your first post where you said you don't want to settle down with a girl who has m... (read in full...)
He chooses the couch every time. Why doesn't my boyfriend want to sleep in the bed with me?
Q. I am 18 years old and I started dating this 39 year old guy 3 months ago and every time I sleep over at his house he sleeps on the couch while I'm in his bed. The first time this happened I didn't pay much attention to it because I had fallen a...
A. 22 May 2016: The other answers are all possibilities, but it could also simply be that he struggles to share a bed with someone else. I am a very light sleeper and someone moving a lot or even breathing deeply can wake me up/ keep me awake. Sometimes I ... (read in full...)
Uncles who lost your virginity at a later stage, how did you do it? Aunts what will really help me lose my virginity?
Q. How do you shake off being a virgin? While I have kissed a couple girls and have been sexual with some, I feel down on myself for not having had intercourse. I've read articles on this site, other sites about not feeling bad about it but it ...
A. 22 May 2016: Here we are again OP, looking for the magic trick to get women to suddenly stop what they are doing and throw themselves at you without you having to put any effort into it at all.
I've asked you this before and I'll ask you again, what are you ... (read in full...)
Should I cut ties with the friend who still hears from the mutual friend I fell out with?
Q. I have a dilemma about a friend (Girl A) of mine who is also a friend with another girl that I had a bad fall out with (Girl B). The thing is - I got hurt and betrayed badly by Girl B - so after the fallout I tried to disassociate myself from bot...
A. 21 May 2016: I had two friends at uni who fell out with each other. Friend A told me I had to stop speaking to Friend B if I wanted to remain friends with her. I chose to keep talking to Friend B and Friend A has never spoken to me since, which frankly is fine ... (read in full...)
Married 4 years and still my husband only wants 'vanilla' sex. What can I do to ease him towards more and liven up?
Q. I have been married close to 4 years and have always wanted to explore intimately with my husband and he is aware of this desire but seems uninterested with anything beyond "vanilla" sex. Lately I feel incomplete longing for more from him, the desi...
A. 21 May 2016: But OP maybe he doesn't want to - maybe he is happy with the way things are? Some people are perfectly happy with a more tame sex live and it's not ok to try to force or even badger them into doing something they don't want to do. You say you've ... (read in full...)
Help ! I need help to learn how to let go of all this hate I feel for this woman who so belittled me and hurt me so much.
Q. Hi everyone. I posted on here September 2014 time- about my cheating boyfriend of 5 years. Well I decided to give things another chance and it's the best decision I ever made. Whilst I don't mean this literally, him cheating was one ...
A. 15 May 2016: If it were me, I'd write everything I want to say to her down in a long letter. Be as vicious as possible - get everything in there. Then I'd attach it to a helium balloon and watch it float away and out of your life. I know it feels like you need ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man plays with his wedding ring while he talks to you?
Q. Hi Aunties! Just wondering if it means anything if a man slides his wedding ring up and down his finger while he talks to you and twists it? It is so distracting!! ...
A. 14 May 2016: My Dad does that all the time and since I'm certain he doesn't need to remind me he's married to my Mum, I'd guess it's just a habit for many people.... (read in full...)
Is my nudity, inside my own home, in front of my 44 year old stepdaughter, OK or not?
Q. My wife and I are in our late 60's - just average people except that we like to be nude at home when it is warm enough. Now my 44 year old step daughter is living with us and strongly objects to me being naked even though it is my house. Her mo...
A. 12 May 2016: It doesn't have to be a threat to her though OP, people can simply feel uncomfortable with certain behaviours. What I don't get is why you are still so keen to be nude knowing fine well that it makes your wife and stepdaughter uncomfortable? I'd be ... (read in full...)
Can I get over my insecurity and jealousy in this situation? My Gf had sex with someone else shortly before we started dating.
Q. So this is my story, I don't know if I overreact or not. I chatted up this girl in late November last year through a dating app. We talked a bit but there was nothing going on, she said she was busy, working on a project day and night and had to...
A. 12 May 2016: Thanks OP, I didn't realise she'd brought it up first as we often see posts from men who ask these questions knowing the answer might cause them distress, so sorry about the assumption. That being said, I don't necessarily agree with you on the ... (read in full...)
Can I get over my insecurity and jealousy in this situation? My Gf had sex with someone else shortly before we started dating.
Q. So this is my story, I don't know if I overreact or not. I chatted up this girl in late November last year through a dating app. We talked a bit but there was nothing going on, she said she was busy, working on a project day and night and had to...
A. 11 May 2016: I'd like to ask you a question OP and I'm not trying to catch you out, I'm genuinely interested in the answer. Would you rather she had refused to tell you about her past? Would that make you question her more do you think (thinking she has ... (read in full...)
What happened to 'live and let live' ? Why is 'slut shaming' and misogyny becoming prevalent in society today?
Q. Maybe some of you remember a book called " Backlash " by Pulitzer winner Susan Faludi, in which she argued for the existence of a media driven " backlash " aimed to invalidate the feminist progresses of the 70's. Now, I don't know if Faludi w...
A. 10 May 2016: I'll be honest this is the impression I am also getting and as a single woman of 30, I am finding it really difficult to deal with. Although it's prevalent online, it's also happening in real life. If I tell a man how many people I've slept with he ... (read in full...)
What's going on? Should I disconnect myself from this person?
Q. I need some dire help in trying to figure out this girl. Too shorten a long story last summer I had a major falling out with my very close female friend of 7 years. The falling out happened because all she did was complain to me about boyfriends and ...
A. 6 May 2016: The biggest problem from where I'm standing is that you are saying you are friends with this girl but you're not. You like her as more than a friend and youve been hanging around in the hope that she will suddenly realise that you are the one for ... (read in full...)
She’s annoyed that my parents won’t allow us to spend the night in the same bed! What should I say to her?
Q. Hello, I've been seeing this girl for around 1 month and a half. We are both 19 and Last week i stayed over at hers and everything is fine and we stayed in her room in her bed. She is due to come over and stay at mine but she will be sleeping...
A. 5 May 2016: OP I've just read Janniepeg's answer and one sentence jumped out at me:
'I think it's hard to get along with a girl who is so strong headed that she puts more priority on freedom, choice, independence over family harmony and connection'
I can't... (read in full...)
She’s annoyed that my parents won’t allow us to spend the night in the same bed! What should I say to her?
Q. Hello, I've been seeing this girl for around 1 month and a half. We are both 19 and Last week i stayed over at hers and everything is fine and we stayed in her room in her bed. She is due to come over and stay at mine but she will be sleeping...
A. 5 May 2016: I think you should tell her not to come over because in my opinion she's being completely out of line. They have invited her to be a guest in their house under terms they are comfortable with and she's acting like a spoiled brat. It's only one night ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to screen out women as potential partners due to their past sexual history and how many partners they have had?
Q. I spent a lot of my teens having low self-esteem and have very little dating experience. I had a girlfriend in high school. Still a virgin even though I have done everything else. I used a lot of that time to make sure I have an amazing future and ...
A. 5 May 2016: 'Is it ok to want her to see sex as a special thing and not be into one night stands but only in a committed relationship/ someone she really likes long term'
My opinion on this is that it's perfectly acceptable to seek someone who has similar ... (read in full...)
What are the main reasons that would motivate a woman to want to break up with a guy?
Q. I would like the opinion of the lady's an men who write in all the time, my question is what's the main reasons for women to dump the guys? Is it they found some one new, he cheated , he treats her bad, got bored of him, he was to nice, came on ...
A. 30 April 2016: I ended my 6 year relationship because I felt he put himself first and took it for granted that I would always put up with whatever he threw at me. I tried to talk to him so many times about how I felt and he did nothing, yet when I ended it he said ... (read in full...)
I want my parents blessing before moving in with my boyfriend
Q. Hey Everyone, So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and he's brought up us moving in together. I come from a background where my family believes its meet a guy,fall in love,engage,marry then move in. Whereas my boyfrien...
A. 26 April 2016: 'My bf thinks I'm old enough to make my own decision'
And he's quite right, but that means exactly that - it's YOUR decision, not simply that you should do what he wants rather than what your parents want. You say you feel lost and confused... (read in full...)
He’s been chatting with women online and now has booked a solo trip to a country where one lives! I need opinions on this!
Q. Hello everyone, Me and hubby have been together 7yrs and married for 3. We have a 4 yr old daughter..He has been talking to women who he has friended from social media. He doesn't know any of them. But to some he will start talking in a way...
A. 26 April 2016: "He said that I don't give him enough attention and that these girls pay him attention but not to think that he will ever do anything with them"
OP he's trying to make you believe that this is your fault and it sounds like it's starting to work.... (read in full...)
I’m expecting my first child with my boyfriend but he isn’t happy and is calling me a liar!
Q. I have recently discovered I'm expecting my first child with my boyfriend of 3 years. It seems like it would be great news but he isn't happy at all and keeps calling me a liar as I had always believed that I couldn't have children naturall...
A. 25 April 2016: Oh but telling his ex first was a strange and wrong thing to do. He is your partner so he should be the person you confide in about these things.... (read in full...)
I’m expecting my first child with my boyfriend but he isn’t happy and is calling me a liar!
Q. I have recently discovered I'm expecting my first child with my boyfriend of 3 years. It seems like it would be great news but he isn't happy at all and keeps calling me a liar as I had always believed that I couldn't have children naturall...
A. 25 April 2016: I think a lot of the other aunts have missed the fact you said you stopped taking the pill WITH his knowledge. Therefore, I think all you are guilty of is assuming that the situation with your PCOS would always stay the same. Yes it was a bit ... (read in full...)
Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?
Q. I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...
A. 16 April 2016: OP, have you considered the possibility that your ex is overstating the baby's reliance on her in order to manipulate situations such as this and make sure she continues to play a larger role in your life than she needs to at this stage?... (read in full...)
Have any ladies ever been rejected in asking a man out?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem to ...
A. 15 April 2016: Yes I've approached several men and been rejected. I agree it sucks but the mentality I have is I have nothing to lose - I go in without a date and if he says no? I'm in the exact same situation!
However, even for those women who have not acti... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 7 April 2016: I think you should leave it alone. It's not any of your business who she sleeps with and for all you know she might be quite happy with casual sex. Equally she might not and she might even end up getting hurt, but that's the reality of life I'm ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I like different things in the bedroom? Do I stop liking anal? Or what?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 years now, since she was 17 and I was 18. We were both virgins (if that matters at all). We have amazing sex and often use toys, ties, etc. There is however one shameful problem with our sex lif...
A. 6 April 2016: Being honest OP, you sound like a spoiled child. You've been told you can't have this one specific thing, so now it's the ONLY thing you want. Your attitude comes across as entitled quite frankly. You say you want to stop feeling this way, but ... (read in full...)
Should my youngest brother be allowed to get away with no paying anything to my parents?
Q. Paying parents, i have 4 brothers and we all still live at home. Mum has always worked out how much we should each pay towards living expenses. Mum has always said that however many of us there are we should pay the same percentage of our wages. So ...
A. 24 March 2016: While I can see where you are coming from, in the UK the minimum wage for someone in the first year of an apprenticeship is £3.30. The current UK minimum wage for everyone else up to the age of 20 is £5.30 and the living wage is £8.25, but ... (read in full...)
Can a man be too romantic? That's why my girlfriend broke up with me
Q. Hi,am thirty five,an my girlfriend just broke up with me,after six months,I treated her really good, she said the reason for breaking up with me is, am to romantic,am not a challenge, should I just move on,or try to win her back....
A. 22 March 2016: I'm a total romantic and always have been, but even I agree there can be such a thing as too much. Many men seem to find this a difficult concept to grasp for some reason, and these are usually the guys that think women like to be treated poorly. ... (read in full...)
Why isn’t she wearing her bra in this instance?
Q. OK I don't mean to sound creepy or pervie, but what does it mean when my economics tutor at uni doesn't wear her bra when I was alone with her? Does she like me? Because during class in the morning I noticed her bra straps but later in the afternoon ...
A. 21 March 2016: I don't think it has anything to do with you. In fact, I think most women assume wearing a bra is more attractive to a man than not wearing one (it gives you a bit of 'lift') so if anything I'd suggest its likely that she doesn't like you in that ... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 16 March 2016: Oh and finally, I'm not disputing that women get more messages than men, but I disagree that we have an easier time with online dating. We just have different frustrations to deal with (overload of messages/inappropriate messages/abusive ... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 16 March 2016: Male anon, once again you are using your own bias to influence the way you are interpreting the data. If you read it, it also states that women's messaging patterns contradict the initial results as they DO message more than the top 20% of men in ... (read in full...)
I am in a lifeless relationship!
Q. I feel as though I'm in a lifeless, passionless, boring relationship with my long term boyfriend. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. At first it was exciting and very passionate. But time took its toll and that passion has been lost. Ou...
A. 15 March 2016: I second Aunty Bim Bim's advice. I had an ex like this and after years of telling him how I felt and him ignoring me I snapped and left, and he was shocked to his core! He said I'd blindsided him, when in actual fact he'd been dismissing my feelings ... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 15 March 2016: Male anon, that very same study states that two thirds of all messages from men go to the top third of attractive women. Which is about 30% right? So women like the top 20% of men and men like the top 30% of women. It almost sounds like attractive ... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men?
Q. So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and I'm very disappointed with the results. I have a decent ...
A. 14 March 2016: I've been online dating for about 6 months now so I feel I'm qualified to answer this question. When I first started out, I said I'd always reply to every message I get, yet that lasted about 3 weeks.
I think men seriously underestimate how many... (read in full...)
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