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Does a bruise on my boyfriend's stomach mean he is cheating?

Q.   My boyfriend came home with a noticeable bruise to the right of his belly button last night and this concerns me. We have had rough sex many times but not recently. I asked him where he got it and he said he has no idea and just noticed it himself ...

A.   30 December 2016: I have a HUGE bruise on my hip right now and I have no idea how it got there. It doesnt hurt, plus I'm single and have had no sex, so the bruise on its own doesn't prove anything. The real question is why don't you trust him? Has he cheated before? ... (read in full...)

I love her but don't know to what extent I love her

Q.   I am facing a dilemma. Whether to marry, or to leave my girlfriend. I am inexperienced, and I need your opinion on what our relationship looks like to you, and what you think I should do. I also would like to hear what you think is important in a ...

A.   19 December 2016: As someone who wasted 6 years on a man who was 'never quite sure' whether he wanted a future with me, I'd urge you to end things with this woman. Three years is more than enough time to decide if someone is the one, and if you're still not sure it ... (read in full...)

Making love vs having sex

Q.   how do you know when your making love and not having sex,...

A.   21 November 2016: To me, sex is mostly about the feeling and the pleasure of the act, whereas making love is as much about connecting with the other person as it is about the physical sensation, if not more so. Sadly, many people these days don't seem to want to ... (read in full...)

The guy who meant nothing to her in her past got to live out his fantasy while I, despite being her boyfriend, don't get the same privilege. Isn't it unfair?

Q.   I guess the question I have is what do I do? About 3 years ago before my girlfriend met me she had sex with a girl while a guy she occasionally hooked up with watched. They were all out at the pub and the girl was interested in her and the guys ...

A.   21 November 2016: Oh and to the male anon who suggests this is the same situation as a man who decides he doesn't want to buy expensive gifts for his current girlfriend when he did for previous ones - are you serious? Do you really believe giving your body to someone ... (read in full...)

The guy who meant nothing to her in her past got to live out his fantasy while I, despite being her boyfriend, don't get the same privilege. Isn't it unfair?

Q.   I guess the question I have is what do I do? About 3 years ago before my girlfriend met me she had sex with a girl while a guy she occasionally hooked up with watched. They were all out at the pub and the girl was interested in her and the guys ...

A.   21 November 2016: The only suggestion I have is for you try to adjust the way you view relationships. At the moment, it sounds like you think because you have provided her with emotional support and tried to be a good boyfriend, you are somehow 'owed' more sexually ... (read in full...)

Why do men sexualize women this way?

Q.   Why are men so disgusting? I'm not trolling. From what I have seen of men, they are foul. They admit to looking at every woman as a sexual partner, imagining her naked... They think disgusting things. They use disgusting words when referrin...

A.   20 November 2016: Are you online dating by any chance? I've found this sort of talk to be SO common online and it gets me down too so I know where you are coming from. It's clear there are a lot of men out there who see women as a sum of their body parts and they are ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's excuse made me feel belittled

Q.   The other night my boyfriend and I had plans for dinner. We talked about it in the morning and he seemed super excited about it. Well later on in the morning his friends asked if he could do a boys night in which he responded with “I don’t feel like ...

A.   18 November 2016: While I know this is very common and I don't think he meant to offend you, I would definitely mention it. Simply say that you're worried that by using you as a scapegoat any time he doesn't want to say no to his friends, he is likely to make them ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend cheated on me but claims she was taken advantage of, what do I do?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been dating for about two months now, and it's been a semi long distance relationship with her going to a different college than me about 30 minutes away. We argue here and there about little things but at the end of the ...

A.   16 November 2016: As a rape survivor, some of the opinions on this question really concern me. Firstly, your own misconception that a woman wouldn't want to be sexual right away is incorrect. I've been to enough rape support groups to know that there's no one size ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend cheated on me but claims she was taken advantage of, what do I do?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been dating for about two months now, and it's been a semi long distance relationship with her going to a different college than me about 30 minutes away. We argue here and there about little things but at the end of the ...

A.   16 November 2016: As a rape survivor, some of the opinions on this question really concern me. Firstly, your own misconception that a woman wouldn't want to be sexual right away is incorrect. I've been to enough rape support groups to know that there's no one size ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: That's exactly it OP - there will always be temptations for both men AND women. It's what a person does about those temptations that determines their character. ... (read in full...)

High heels during sex...yay or nay?

Q.   This question is for you women out there. I really want to know if high heels are a sexual turn on for you girls or not? I love them and I want my wife to wear them every time during sex. But she doesn't!! It's the single most sexual turn on for me. ...

A.   1 November 2016: Nay, nay, nay! I mean I'd be willing to do it now and again for my partner if he asked but it wouldn't do anything for me and I certainly wouldn't be happy if he expected/needed it every time to enjoy sex. It's supposed to be HER you desire, not the ... (read in full...)

Why are more men dependent on women's support these days? Women is the child bearer, care giver, career holder, and now the financial supporter to men? What roles do men play then?

Q.   First and foremost, no offence to the men in this room. I'm posting this question because I am really curious to know the answer. Why are more men dependent on women's support now a days than men taking care of their women? I've often read posts...

A.   21 October 2016: As a single woman I do see what you mean to a certain extent. I've been shocked at the number of men in their 30s who still live at home, work a maximum of 10 hours a week (if that) and have no intentions of changing that. These men are clearly ... (read in full...)

Why would my wife threaten to leave me over my porn use?

Q.   My wife says she will leave me if I keep watching porn. What is wrong with her? I have no idea why she thinks watching porn is bad. This is something I like to do and do it privately. I never told her I was into porn and many of you can guess wh...

A.   20 October 2016: "That question could be turned around and posed to the OP's wife just as easily: What's more important, her marriage, or her desire to control what her husband sees and hears?" She's already made her position clear, it's a dealbreaker to her and ... (read in full...)

Why would my wife threaten to leave me over my porn use?

Q.   My wife says she will leave me if I keep watching porn. What is wrong with her? I have no idea why she thinks watching porn is bad. This is something I like to do and do it privately. I never told her I was into porn and many of you can guess wh...

A.   19 October 2016: Your post doesn't make sense OP. You say on one hand you don't think you're doing anything wrong, but on the other you state you've been hiding your porn use from her. So that suggests you knew fine well she wasn't a fan of porn, or at least ... (read in full...)

How long can a relationship survive without sex?

Q.   My Fiance and I have ended up at each others throats recently and it's getting too much for us both. We're both in our Mid twenties, and have been together now for almost 6 years, but to simply put it, she no longer wants sex. She doesn't get arou...

A.   17 October 2016: If she's on the pill, I'd definitely suggest she considers coming off it or changing brand. I completely lost my sex drive for 4 years and I didn't realise until last year that the pill was the cause. I stopped taking it and I'm now back to desiring ... (read in full...)

Afraid family will learn I'm on the pill

Q.   Sorta to do with dating. I've been talking to this guy and things are looking up :) I've always told myself that I should go on the pill as another contraceptive (as well as using condoms). However, I don't really want my parent finding ou...

A.   17 October 2016: I had to go on the pill at 17 due to heavy and painful periods so there are other reasons you can go on the pill. My sister used this to her advantage when she was 18 as she told my parents she was going on it for the same reason when it was really ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to use a prostitute to gain experience?

Q.   I am a male virgin who has never kissed a girl or been on a date. I've made up my mind recently on how I will be losing my virginity. I am currently saving up money to visit one of the legal brothels in Nevada. I feel like at my age, being a kis...

A.   13 October 2016: Male anon - but the situation will always be at least slightly different because men and women ARE different and as such they view things differently. For example you can argue that it's unfair because women have an easier time finding uncommit... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to use a prostitute to gain experience?

Q.   I am a male virgin who has never kissed a girl or been on a date. I've made up my mind recently on how I will be losing my virginity. I am currently saving up money to visit one of the legal brothels in Nevada. I feel like at my age, being a kis...

A.   12 October 2016: OP it really is up to you. If you have no moral issues with it and wish to feel what sex is like then there's nothing stopping you. However, you must realise that it won't solve any of your problems. In fact based on previous posts here, it has made ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to orgasm and then gets bored

Q.   My girlfriend says she thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to "O" and then gets bored and wants me to just get it over with. We do foreplay and I am trying to teach her how to satisfy my wi...

A.   12 October 2016: I've been on both sides of this. I had a boyfriend who complained that it took too much work to get me to orgasm (it doesn't actually but he thought penetration should be enough - we were young!) and another who thought he was amazing because he ... (read in full...)

How do you tell your partner you might have a STD ??

Q.   I am recently divorced from a serial cheater. I'm ashamed to admit that a couple months ago I met my ex and in the heat of the moment, we slept together. I didn't really think anything of it beyond a stupid mistake, but after speaking with my ...

A.   6 October 2016: I think your new man will understand if you simply explain that you are worried about STIs due to your cheating ex husband, and while you have no symptoms to suggest you have anything, you know it's sensible to check since that doesn't always mean ... (read in full...)

I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?

Q.   My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...

A.   1 October 2016: I think you've missed some key elements out if this story. Either your wife is pretty heartless to not ask if you are ok, or you end up in fights regularly and she's lost her sympathy for you. I also think it's odd that you could lose a ring whe... (read in full...)

I told my chick friend who has kids that I won’t date women who have kids and she seems to have taken offense?

Q.   A couple of months ago I moved to a bigger city along with my chick friend who has kids. We don't live together but since we don't know anybody in this town we occasionally hang out. We are both really close since we went through a big ordeal in our ...

A.   26 September 2016: I think you just hit a nerve OP. While you are right that people can set whatever criteria they wish when dating, this does mean that some people are rejected time and time again if they possess a trait which is more commonly seen as 'less ... (read in full...)

Was it just an excuse? Or am I being selfish thinking 15 minutes away was not far?

Q.   I have been dating a new guy recently and I have no car, so he usually has to pick me up and take me home. He ended things because I was too far away, despite only being 15 minutes away. Am I selfish for thinking I'm not that far?...

A.   6 September 2016: I agree that he doesn't sound like he was that interested, however you might also want to consider that a 15 minute trip for you is a 30 minute round trip for him. If he has to pick you up and drop you off that's a whole hour of driving added on to ... (read in full...)

Should I be considering breaking up with my Gf since I suffered erectile issues with her recently?

Q.   So I recently posted about trying not to get too excited when I'm with my new girlfriend. Well, tonight it went the complete opposite direction. We were at her place (she lives with her mom, stepdad, and three siblings) and things were goin...

A.   12 August 2016: It really annoys me that society makes it acceptable and even expected for women to have days where they struggle with arousal but men are made to feel there is something wrong with them. You have nothing to be humiliated about OP. You're having ... (read in full...)

He's telling them our relationship has ended before he even told me. How do I let go and move on from him?

Q.   My partner and I have been together 6 and a half years, since I was 16. We both live with my parents and over the course of our relationship we have done for 3-4 years. Roughly 2 years ago, my partner dumped me, for me it was completely out o...

A.   10 August 2016: I think you'll feel so much better in the long run if you take some control over this situation, so I'd suggest you go home before he gets back, pack his things up into bags and the minute he gets back tell him he's got to go. It's one thing falling ... (read in full...)

Dare I tell this younger woman how I feel?

Q.   hi, my name is Roger. I am a 70 yr old man and I have become very friendly with a Romanian woman for over a year now, who is 31, and also married I can honestly say I have never got on so well with a woman in all my life we do many things together...

A.   8 August 2016: I'm a 31 year old woman and while I can't speak for all women of course, I can tell you how I'd feel if a man your age confessed his love to me - a little horrified. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but it's how I'd feel. I'd regard any friendship ... (read in full...)

My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?

Q.   Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...

A.   27 July 2016: The problem you have OP, is that this man's words mean absolutely nothing. I'm sure he also tells his wife that he's faithful, that he'd never cheat, that any insecurities or suspicions she has are all in her mind, when in actuality he's having an ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't like traditional sex. Is that a red flag?

Q.   Maybe this is a problem a lot of guys would wish to have, but my girlfriend of one year doesn't like traditional sex. She loves to give me oral and when we do have sex she always steers it towards anal sex. I say this jokingly, but feel like I a...

A.   24 July 2016: Couldn't it be that she prefers types of sex which have a lower risk of pregnancy? If she's your age it may be slightly more difficult to conceive but not impossible.... (read in full...)

He likes rough sex, I don't! Am I being unreasonable or is he?

Q.   I recently started a relationship with a guy I met 4 months ago. We went out a few times in the last 4 months before deciding we wanted to give a relationship a go. We recently started having sex and it turns out that he is really into rough sex and ...

A.   20 July 2016: No you're not being unreasonable. I certainly wouldn't like to be choked or hit during sex and it's got nothing to do with feminism! As someone else said, he's just saying that to invalidate your opinion and try to shame you into doing what he ... (read in full...)

Recently found out about a fling my Bf had. Is it wrong to want to know these things?

Q.   I recently found out my boyfriend had a fling with a girl on holiday not long after we started going out. We had been together for a couple of months, and we were still in the early stages of our relationship. We have been together for 3 y...

A.   20 July 2016: While I agree with the others that the details won't help you, I also think that you should push him for answers. Mainly because it will show you whether he respects you enough to actually do what you've asked of him. The way I see it, he should be ... (read in full...)

Dating 101 help please. When women dump a guy do they ever consider how much it hurts?

Q.   Do women ever think about the guy they dump, who treated them like they were an angel, am talking about lets say six months down the road, after being with other guys, like I seen an ex this weekend, but I didn't talk to her, she didn't deserved ...

A.   17 July 2016: It depends on the situation. Some may regret it, some may not. I think your biggest problem here is you believe by treating a woman well she should stay with you forever, whereas while that's great, it's actually the bare minimum anyone should ... (read in full...)

Should I be postponing things because I'm feeling lonely and unwanted as a 23 year old virgin?

Q.   I'm having this mental block recently where not having sex has made me postpone plans about my life. I was a very awkward kid and didnt become more comfortable in myself until recently. I have one ex girlfriend but we never had intercourse just...

A.   17 July 2016: I'd also like to add that as a woman who has been single for around a year, the number of guys that openly expect no strings sex is starting to really annoy me. The majority of men I meet nowadays act almost entitled about sex. As if it's the... (read in full...)

Should I be postponing things because I'm feeling lonely and unwanted as a 23 year old virgin?

Q.   I'm having this mental block recently where not having sex has made me postpone plans about my life. I was a very awkward kid and didnt become more comfortable in myself until recently. I have one ex girlfriend but we never had intercourse just...

A.   17 July 2016: Have you never considered that people who have had casual sex are the exact people you should listen to about these matters? They will know better than anyone that having sex is not going to magically fix your issues with your self esteem and self ... (read in full...)

He wants to be friends but I’m not sure what to do!

Q.   Ok so I was seeing this guy for about 3 months. I met him in work and he found me on Facebook to ask me out so he did all the chasing. Things started to get kinda physical a few dates in so I had to tell him I was still a virgin because I just ...

A.   15 July 2016: When I was at uni me and my best friend (both 18) met two guys who were also best friends (both 21) and went on a couple of dates/double dates with them. We both fell for them pretty quickly, but like in your situation, they both began saying they ... (read in full...)

I thought I stonewalled my wife from saving up for breast surgery but she's raised money on a website!

Q.   Angry at wife for finding her on a free breast implant website. How should I make her stop? I've been married to my wife for 10 years and we have two children together. Six months back, she said to me how unsatisfied she's been with how her bre...

A.   12 July 2016: Actually I just noticed this: 'She said would save more money and pay for the surgery herself. I said I wouldn't let her do that' Presumably she also earns money and you've prevented her from saving by taking control of the finances? So you... (read in full...)

I thought I stonewalled my wife from saving up for breast surgery but she's raised money on a website!

Q.   Angry at wife for finding her on a free breast implant website. How should I make her stop? I've been married to my wife for 10 years and we have two children together. Six months back, she said to me how unsatisfied she's been with how her bre...

A.   12 July 2016: I wouldnt class this as cheating - in my view it's basically the reverse of a man LOOKING at lingerie photographs/porn. However it is dangerous so I do think you need to talk to her. I also think some compassion is called for. She told you she ... (read in full...)

Can't understand why she cheated with a homosexual?

Q.   Hi. What does it mean when that my wife has cheated me with a gay guy, and prefers gay friends?...

A.   10 July 2016: In what way did she cheat you? If the man in question is gay then he wouldn't do anything sexual with a woman so I'm not too sure what you mean?... (read in full...)

Why would a Bf not like his Gf to wear makeup?

Q.   15 year old girl. I met this guy and he's really awesome in all the right ways. When I met him I was all done up. He tells me not to wear makeup. He allows me to get my brows done and straighten my hair but I wore a little bit of makeup on a date (...

A.   9 July 2016: Dump him immediately! It doesn't matter why he doesn't want you to wear make up, he's trying to change you and control your behaviour and that's NEVER ok. Next it will be your clothes and your friends he's trying to control. You wear make up for you ... (read in full...)

She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?

Q.   I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...

A.   7 July 2016: I agree the only thing you can do now is leave her alone. I'm sure it's not your intention, but you could easily be scaring her by now as you are acting very clingy and possessive over someone you only know through work. I think you might need to ... (read in full...)

Why is she avoiding sex and won't discuss it?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend around about 18 months now. At the start of the relationship we had sex often, however around the 6 month mark that slowed down and would only do it once a month and then at the nine month mark it stopped completely, ...

A.   30 June 2016: I think there's a good chance she doesn't know why she feels the way she does. When I was with my ex, I went off sex completely to the point I simply couldn't face it any more. I still found him attractive objectively speaking, but the idea of ... (read in full...)

I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...

A.   22 June 2016: OP she already has considered your opinion and she still doesn't want to do it. That's all you need to know. You are now free to do as you wish with that information, including end the relationship, but either way oral sex with her is not going to ... (read in full...)

I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...

A.   20 June 2016: It's ok to want or even ask for oral sex but not to keep pestering someone who has said they don't want to do it. Just because you go down on her doesn't mean she HAS to do it for you either, that's not how sex works. If it's so important to you, ... (read in full...)

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