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I live in italy but I go to an english school, because Im half english and half italian. Im 16 years old.
I dont pretend to know it all, but Im trying my hardest to find out what that 'all' is :D
I hate people who judge others, close mindedness is also an unacceptable trait.
I want to study psychology in two years time at uni.
I will help ANYONE, i dont discriminate, but I can be a bit blunt sometimes and im very truthful.
I think it takes a lot of courage for someone to write a problem on an internet site for so many poeple to see, even if its anonymous. I think it also takes a lot of courage to ask for help. So I'd just like to say well done to everyone who has written to me and i really hope ive helped you, as much as you've hepled me!!
Gotta love ya and leave ya xxxxx
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Why don't I want to have sex with either women or men?
Q. I have no real desire to have sex with a woman or a man. The only thing that gets me aroused is my own stomach and some other young men's stomachs who are just the right amount overweight. I just masturbate to myself. No other part of a body, man ...
A. 10 July 2009: Well maybe in time you will find someone you want to have sex with?
Maybe you havent met the 'right person'?
But like 'kellyxxx' said, there are asexual people out there and you mgiht be one of them. Its actually more commmon than you think!
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Could my parents legally stop me moving in with him?
Q. I am a 16 year old female and have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. Basically, I want to move out of my parents house and live with my boyfriend. My question is, could my parents legally stop me moving in with him?...
A. 27 June 2009: If your bf is underage (not 18 or over) then its illegal for you both to live on your own in the UK.
Otherwise...Im not sure...hope you find out soon enough
xxx... (read in full...)
Anyone managed to have a successful nonsexual guy/girl friendship
Q. Can a guy just be friends with a girl or is it always invariably going to end up with the guy thinking of a girl as a possible sexual partner? I am an open girl, I like to tease, to wrestle, to have fun and play around, I even like affection if its ...
A. 20 June 2009: Ive been friends with a guy for 11 years now and nothing has ever happened between us.
Yeah i wrestle and flirt too, but we both know it means nothing, just very harmless fun.
I think its possible...of course I cant promise that he's never pitured ... (read in full...)
Do I need to be worried about my husband visiting our neighbour?
Q. i've been crying all day. i really don't know what to do. let me explain. my hubbie and i went to a neighbor's party this weekend. there were about a dozen people there including my good friend vicky and her husband carl. it was good at first ...
A. 17 June 2009: Oh sweetie, I strongly doubt your husband would have sex with her! He's seen whats happened and he's not going to repeat the mistakes of others. Also he loves you yes?
Surely you have some faith in him.
I just think that the other nights events h... (read in full...)
Is ignoring someone a good way to break up with them?
Q. I am breaking up with my girlfriend. I plan on doing the whole ignoring treatment. I stopped talking to her, I stopped calling and I am ignoring her txt msgs. She has a feeling that I will be doing this. Is this a good method and what would...
A. 17 June 2009: NO NO NO!
This is hurtful. Indifference is very cruel when it comes to relationships, and if it were me it would hurt me a lot.
Said this, I will now contradict myself by saying:
I do not know how or why you are breaking up therefore I cannot jud... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me like crap in front of others?
Q. okay so i've liked this guy since november. i asked him out in dec. but he said no. I didnt mind, i mean just because i like him doesn't mean he has to like me. he always was nice to me. he didnt treat me different because i liked him. that was ...
A. 17 June 2009: I think you're right.
As much as I want to hate this guy for not standing up for himself and standing up for you, its impossible not to feel bad for him. He has crap friends who bully you and probably him too, and he doesnt seem happy to be with... (read in full...)
Is it weird to hook up with girls if you're straight?
Q. Is it weird if you wanna see what its like to hook up with a girl and have a little fun.. If you know your straight and never would be bi or a lesbien ...
A. 11 June 2009: Its normal to wanna make out with a girl even if you're not bi or lesbian. Alot of my friends have done it, either cos they wanted to know what it felt like or because they were drunk. None of them have ever regretted it, because in the end we are t... (read in full...)
I haven't snogged a boy, should I do it when I'm drunk so there's less pressure?
Q. Hi my names Leigh im 15 and i havent yet snogged a boy. im too worried ill do it wrong. so many boys have wanted to go out with me but i always say no because im too scared about snogging them. i always get drunk on the weekend, should i just snog ...
A. 8 June 2009: It isnt a big deal in the end love!
i promise, at first its weird but after a few seconds you get the hang of it.
Do it when you want, how you want with who and where you want!! My first snog was when i was drunk, its not as big a thing as virginty... (read in full...)
For some reason guys just aren't attracted to me?!
Q. hi there so I'm 16 years old and where i live kids started dating and stuff at around seventh grade. I've never kissed a guy,had a boyfriend, held hands with a guy or anything of that sort. For some reason,guys just arent attracted to me. I went to ...
A. 8 June 2009: No problem sweetie i just hope that all is going well
xxx... (read in full...)
Worried about oral, impetigo "school sore", pullout method, herpes and pregnancy, help please!!
Q. hey im 16 male and i think i got impetigo, some kind of herpes, not a cold sore. i gave my girlfriend oral for the first time about 5 days ago and again last night. ive recently had this little blister pimple thing im not exactly sure when i got ...
A. 8 June 2009: If its impetigo, you might of have just caught it because of germs that have got into your skin through a crack. It coud be caused by a bug bite or jst regualr germs. Might have nothing to do with her...and I doubt it has. Im not a doctor so I ... (read in full...)
Was this rape?? What do I do?
Q. I have a problem.I doubt anyone will want to help me but I hope so.I took a girl out on our first ever date, and we went clubbing..we preceeded to get horribly drunk, and had to get a motel because I didnt want to risk driving her home...there was ...
A. 8 June 2009: Maybe it was her first time? Or has had terrible experiences before?
She did say yes during it, so now she regrets it. But regretting consensual sex isnt rape.
You did not rape her because, if she said 'yes' during it, then she was willing.... (read in full...)
Where to go to sow wild oats?
Q. I graduate next year and am inexperienced sexually. I have been saving money to go abroad and see the world. Since I won't be near my hometown anymore, I'm wanting to sow some wild oats, have fun, party, meet some girls. I'm thinking to visit ...
A. 7 June 2009: Im half english and half italian, but I live in Italy. The dating scenes are all pretty much the same in Europe. There are girls who want the relationship and girls who want just fun. Doesnt matter what natioality actually, just about personal... (read in full...)
For some reason guys just aren't attracted to me?!
Q. hi there so I'm 16 years old and where i live kids started dating and stuff at around seventh grade. I've never kissed a guy,had a boyfriend, held hands with a guy or anything of that sort. For some reason,guys just arent attracted to me. I went to ...
A. 7 June 2009: I guess you need to break out of this image that your school friends have created of you. Yes, you are the funny, bubbly athletic girl of the year, but you can be more...and you ARE.
To get people to notice you again at 16, I guess we should work... (read in full...)
I like her but she does drugs! How do I let her down?
Q. There's this girl at work I began to like quite a bit over the last few weeks. She is cute, funny, friendly and just an easy going person to be around. I'm a little shy when it comes to this stuff, but I began giving out little hints that I fan...
A. 6 June 2009: Im sorry but how do you know this is isnt just gossip? I'd get my facts right before branding her a druggie and refusing to go out with her, you never know, they might of have got it wrong, and she might just hang out with that crowd and not have... (read in full...)
Will he ever see me as girlfriend material?
Q. I kissed someone else's boyfriend. I know it's wrong but whatever I love him and he loves me. Why does everyone say that he'll never see me as girlfriend material??...
A. 31 May 2009: Well I dont know who this 'everyone' is but they are not necessarily right. If he loves you then who cares what people say? If he loves you he will dunp his gf and go out with you no? But if he just SAYS he loves you just so he could make out wit... (read in full...)
I don't want to fall for her!
Q. I have a friend. She comes around at times and when she leaves, I feel sad longing for her. When she's next to me, I have this cute love like feelings. The thing is I don't want to fall for her. She has been in relationships in and out and I ...
A. 26 May 2009: You cant really control how you feel can you?
It seems to me that you like her a lot, but are too scared that if anything might happen she will dump you like the other guys...also your friendship might not survive.
BUT, you dont know how she... (read in full...)
Still a virgin and also, how do I help my friend?
Q. I'm 16 years old nd still a virgin. I've been called romantic and sensitive. Isn't that what all girls like? I can't seem to get a girl. Even if my life depended on it. Help!!!... Also, my friend has a cheating boyfriend. I love her more than any...
A. 24 May 2009: Im 16 and still a virgin. Yes in a way i want to lose it, but the people who have offered it were not the nicest of guys...so my advice is: keep being yourself cos i'd love a guy like that and when you find a girl that you really like then things ... (read in full...)
He was staring at my butt
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster's age is 19, this is highly unlikely after reading the post. Hi.I know this kid he's rides my bus.And I want to know if you guys think he likes me so here it is.My story.The kid who rides my bus is soooo cute.He sits just across...
A. 24 May 2009: Maybe you should try speaking to him sometime?
Sweetie its a bit obvious what you have to do no?
Go sit next to him or closer and start chatting:
'hi whats your name? How old are you?....etc etc'
Yes he's obviously interested but even if by chanc... (read in full...)
Are girls not attracted to me because I am a ladies man?
Q. I've been single for about a year now, i took some time off from girl becuase i had exams and thing, and now i cant seem to get one, girl i like dont like me, and i dont know any girls that do. I'm not ugly, i'm funny, and have lots of female f...
A. 20 May 2009: Well unless you're utterly repulsive, which i doubt you are, then girls love flirty guys. Well ok, not ALL girls, but there are some...
maybe you're looking in the wrong places?
you're not hitting on your friends are you?
also, i have a friend ... (read in full...)
Miscarried my baby after I was raped....now all I want is to have a baby!
Q. a year ago i was raped and i got pregnant. then i had a miscarriage and i never told anyone but now all i want more than anything is to have a baby. do you think thats nuts im 17.....
A. 20 May 2009: No, you're NOT nuts!
You had something that was so precious to you and then got taken away...of course you crave that feeling again! It's natural, no matter wht age you are, because it was your baby and part of you.
But I dont advise you to get p... (read in full...)
Best friend and I like the same boy
Q. My best friend and I both like the same boy. He goes to our school and is in the same year. But the thing is, I love someone else aswell, and so does she. I found out on Friday that she liked him, but she doesn't know I like him aswell. I don...
A. 17 May 2009: Of course its not wrong to like two people at once!!
1. You're human
2. You're a teenager (i know..i hate it when people say it to me too :D)
There's not much you can do is there?
I think you should talk to your friend and tell her..then make ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to come back to me?
Q. im 14 i had a boyfriend he was 15 we broke up 3 months ago and two weeks ago he calle me and asked if i wanted to go with him to a disco... offcourse i sai yes because i love him... and in the disco he star dancing with me ten he huge me and woul...
A. 17 May 2009: He seems to really love you if he cant let you go and i know you really love him, but is he worth it?
he did cheat and lie..would he ever do it again do you think?
its really all up to you,but if you think he's using you because he cant get anyo... (read in full...)
I NEED a girl in my life...!
Q. I can never seem to find the right girl. I can't stand being alone. My mom left around age 9, so I think thats a factor to why I need a girl in my life. I always feel alone, unloved and need someone to be there for me. Basically like a mom, but ...
A. 17 May 2009: Look around you..is there anyone who you like? who fits your description?
I cant really tell you where to go looking for a girl, but if you keep meeting people then there will be one which you're attracted to and vice versa
There are so many ... (read in full...)
How to help someone who cuts?
Q. I have a fourteen year old friend (girl) who self-harms, as in she cuts herself, but I don't know what kind of advice to give her. What kind of advice would you give to a fourteen year old girl who self-harms for attention?...
A. 17 May 2009: My best friend used to self harm two years ago when we were fourteen, it was horrific for her but very bad for me too.
Many of her friends ignored it thinking it would go away, but this upset her even more. It's incredibly hard when you're tryi... (read in full...)
Colour, hair and personality...
Q. Do guys prefer blonde girls to black haired girls? Do they prefer them tall or short, tomboy or girly girly type? Do they prefer a heavy girl with blond hair who is short and heavy or black haired who is short and heavy?? ...
A. 16 May 2009: i know im not answerin the question...cos i think the other posts did it pretty well but
did omeone say soemthing to you?
sorry for beng nosy!
xxx... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity to my friend?
Q. I have know idea if I've lost my virginty yet. My cherry HAS been popped, I know that for sure, and it wasnt from sports or horseback riding. It was from.. Well. To help me with this you might wanna know im Bisexual. And so are 4 of my best f...
A. 16 May 2009: no hunny. you're a virgin.
like everyone else said...no penetration. even if you'd been fingered you would still be a virgin, cos you need a penis for you to lose it.
Hope you're not disappointed
Love, Sarah xxx... (read in full...)
Scars and very self conscious about them
Q. hey i have scars on my legs and knee and i am very self conscious about it especially when its summer and my friends wear skirts because of this i dont like wearing skirts and shorts or going swimming what should i do...
A. 16 May 2009: have you tried bio oil?
otherwise..if it hasnt worked for you then i agree with the previous comment.
also what scars are they? cos it depends on what type they are...
xx... (read in full...)
Is this going too fast?
Q. i just had my first date with my boyfriend last night. ive been with other guys but this date tops all of them... we both agreed to take this relationship slow. we started watching the movie and holding hands and the whole lay my head on his ...
A. 16 May 2009: Did it feel uncomfortable? also, was it your first kiss? because if it was, i can understand how you could be feeling like it's all bubbling up and it feels to much to handle, but i reckon its just happiness. He knows you want to take it slow... (read in full...)
I deserve a better friend than this!
Q. My best friend has really let me down. It's been years of making and breaking promises, disappearing for months at a time without an explanation or a way to contact her, and the last time I visited her; she ignored me, became passive aggressive, and ...
A. 16 May 2009: I think that she has a few problems going on in her life right now. yes she has been a terrible friend, but if there are some terrible problems going on right now, i dont think you are at the top of her priority list.
Also she sounds a bit unst... (read in full...)
In love with my first cousin, should I pursue it or not?
Q. Im deeply inlove with my 16 yr. old first cousin. I had my first kiss from him, i dont know if he loves me too. I sometimes caught him staring at me, what does that mean? And I dont know why did he kissed me that time? I loved him since I was 6-7 ...
A. 15 May 2009: First cousin? that means you're very closely blood related right? im not sure if that's illegal or not...
but lets say it isnt:
when did he kiss you? and what were the circumstances? cos if he did it when he was drunk or more in a friendly way rath... (read in full...)
Too many times for oral sex?
Q. oral sex question i gave head for the first time the other day and im 15 i did it five times is that too much for first time or in general too much anytime? and should i have swallowed please help x...
A. 14 May 2009: whatever you're comfortable with sweetie. he didnt ask you though did he? sometimes a guy asks what you'd rather do and then you can adjust with it.
i dont think five times is too many if you wanted to give it...do what makes you feel good.
did h... (read in full...)
I jumped to the conclusion that he had female company over at our house....did I over-react?
Q. My boyfriend and i live together,yesterday i had the day off from work,i worked overtime yesterday so i got home around 8pm. I usually leave pajamas in the bathroom so when im ready for them i know exactly where they are. To my surprise when i came ...
A. 14 May 2009: Yes. I think you did.
Ok, i agree completly that no one should touch your things, thats just downright rude, no matter what sex they are.
But, his friends came over...did he say they were female? You 'felt' like he had girls over...so you dont kno... (read in full...)
Best friend troubles after I lied to her, and crush troubles after I told him the truth.
Q. pleasee helpp me out i'm in tearss.few months ago i told my friend this guy liked her while she had a bf and i was joking around.then yesterday i tell her that i was joking and that i like him.and she just treats me diffrently now.shes acting mean ...
A. 14 May 2009: Maybe your best friend actually does like this guy, and you hurt her by putting her hopes up high and then crushing them again.
It was bit of a childish thing to do and she recognizes this, you'll just have to apolgize to her, you are mates afte... (read in full...)
20 year old girl in love with my same sex best friend.
Q. i am split in 2 different directions at the moment. im in love with my bestfriend. she is the most wonderful caring loving women i have ever met. has been by my side through everything. would drop everything if i call. im constantly doing my best to ...
A. 14 May 2009: If you are such good friends then I suggest you tell her. If she truly loves you like a friend then she will help you get over it. That's what friends are for right? She will know exactly what it is that you have to do to get over her, because she ... (read in full...)
Why was I wrong to entice older men?
Q. I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...
A. 14 May 2009: Oh no no, I completley agree. There are some children who do understand what they are doing and will never regret it, and that's absolutely fine. The problem is, making it legal for all would mean that even the children that wouldnt be able to under... (read in full...)
Oral sex replacing hugging and kissing?
Q. I read in a magazine recently that some people are saying that among teens girls giving casual blow-jobs to boys is replacing regular petting. In other words, hugging and kissing is being replaced by oral sex. Is this true? Is this a dangerous ...
A. 13 May 2009: When you are my age, oral sex is exremely common.
No, that does not mean that we do not hold hands or kiss and talk like any other couple, but when we are young we like to explore the other sexes body more.
We are inexperienced, therefor... (read in full...)
Why was I wrong to entice older men?
Q. I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...
A. 13 May 2009: The reason why sex between a minor and an adult is morally wrong?
Because most children havent matured by the age of thirteen and deep down wouldnt feel comfortable with having sex but think that they are, because an adult is asking them to and adul... (read in full...)
I think I'm turning lesbian!
Q. Hi I'm kikki and I'm 15 I think I might be turning lesbian but not sure. I have a bf but I don't enjoy sex with him anymore it's like he just cares about himself. Recently during p.e at school I have noticed my nipples going hard getting changed in ...
A. 13 May 2009: I suggest you talk to someone who likes the same sex and then see what she has to say and how you feel afterwards. But only because you enjoy looking at some girls doesnt necessarily mean you're lesbian. You might be bi or just hormonal. Only time ... (read in full...)
Should I wait or should I give in?
Q. I am a high school student. i am 16 and my boyfriend is also 16. i have been with him since oct.23.08. it's been about 6 months.I truly do believe i am in love with him. I also belive he is too. he says it. he shows it. and i fall for it. he can be ...
A. 13 May 2009: I think that if you truly love each other then even after sex, you'll still be strong, maybe even stronger.
I know its a cliched thing to say, but: dont do it until you're definitely ready. If you're emotionally mature enought to go through with... (read in full...)
Why was I wrong to entice older men?
Q. I started having sex when I was 13, and every one of my partners were adult men. There was no coercion or force involved in any of them. I consented to the encounters, and I initiated the sex on each occasion. This did not negatively impact my life. ...
A. 13 May 2009: I really really dont mean to be rude here, but how do you know that it didnt affect you now, in later life? You might act weird or do something that YOU might consider to be normal while others of similar age dont.
But im only guessing here... (read in full...)
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