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I need advice on how to keep that spark alive, in a love relationship

Q.   How do you keep the spark or chemistry alive in a relationship? Is there any advice you can give to a person who has gone through the mid-point of a relationship?...

A.   2 December 2005: i leave sexy notes for my b/f in unexpected places for him to find (pants pocket)he finds it once hes at work and he cant wait to get home. we also have sex games we play(you can get online or at novelty shops) they lighten the mood and make things ... (read in full...)

Should I find a random girl to kiss, just to get me started?

Q.   Hi, I am 18 and have never had a girlfriend and never even kissed a girl. Do you think it would be good for me to pull a random girl in a club to boost my confidence? I have always thought that my first kiss would be (with someone) special. What do ...

A.   2 December 2005: dont rush yourself. if you want it to be with someone special then thats what you should wait for.dont sell yourself short just because your tired of waiting or because of what people say it will definitly mean more if its with someone you care ... (read in full...)

My 16 year old bf is sleeping with my grandmother! What do I do?

Q.   I am 16 and my boyfriend is 16 too. Recently I found out that he has been sleeping with my grandmother and has been having an affair with her for 3 months - and I didn't know until now! I feel sick, disgusted, jaded.... what do I do? Katrina...

A.   2 December 2005: for one hes a cheater so you dont need him and 2 cheating with your family is worse and to top it all off its your granny eeewwww!!! even if your granny had your mom at i6 and your mom had you at 16 which is unlikely that would still make her what ... (read in full...)

Since the baby, he doesn't want to sleep with me

Q.   i had a baby 10 months ago and my boyfriend doesn't want to sleep with me anymore i have put weight on and i'm doing all i can to lose it but if i mention sex my partner says he's tired we havn't slept together in months what should i do...

A.   2 December 2005: i just had a baby 3 months ago and i know how you feel. i had the same problem. he didnt seem intrested in sex and i felt really unattractive, the baby weight is the pits!! and very hard to lose but i talked to my b/f and found out that he was ... (read in full...)

Two sexual partners..and neither can make me climax.

Q.   I have had 2 sexual partners whom i did it with several times however i never came. what can i do to climax?...

A.   2 December 2005: my suggestion is to lock the door, take the phone off the hook and spend some quality time with yourself. explore your body and find out what you like and what gets you off. then once you know yourself you can tell your partner (or show them - makes ... (read in full...)

He says she's just a friend, but I think there's more to it

Q.   I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a year, but I've been worrying about our relationship. I don't know how to get him to open up.. We've been making an effort to see each other more regularily but now he cancelled on me to go ...

A.   2 December 2005: all i can say is lies lies lies. that is a classic excuse "were just friends" but if they are just friends he wouldnt go to see her at work and spend time with her alone while canceling time with you. he would invite you to come along and if they ... (read in full...)

I am so scared about getting pregnant...help!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years, we have such a strong relationship. We will probably be married within a couple of years and we are looking to buy a house together within a year. I am 21 and he is 22 years old, and I have been on ...

A.   2 December 2005: the most important thing is to do what makes you comfortable. if he doesnt like it then tell him to do without and i bet he slips on that condom. birth control is very effective but if you have problems remembering to take the pill(i do) there are ... (read in full...)

His gf-the mother of his child...deleted my phone number because she was jealous.

Q.   I got this guys number about two months ago. He's 22 and I'm 26. We've talked for about a week or so afterwards and then I didn't hear from him after that. Now last week we bumped into each other and he told me his "baby's mother" deleted my phone ...

A.   2 December 2005: if hes in a relationship then why would you want a cheater anyways and if hes not then i still say go the other way cause all i see in your future is baby mama drama ... (read in full...)

Looked at his cell phone messages-I think he was planning a secret rendezvous with another girl.

Q.   My boyfriend choose to hang out with his best friend which is a girl on thanksgiving instead of me and my family. i chose to stay home with him to see whom this girl was. ok when i saw her i felt really stupid because after seeing her i realized i ...

A.   2 December 2005: sounds like hes got something going on that he shouldnt. and trust me just because a woman doesnt look good doesnt mean a guy wont sleep with her when hes got a beautiful girl at home. and what the hell is this chic shit? if hes not refering to you ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend won't swallow. Can I talk her around to seeing it my way?

Q.   hiya, I was just wondering. I have been going out with my gilfriend for 3 years and I really want her to swallow my cum. Are there any ways in whichI can get her to do this? Thanx...

A.   2 December 2005: maybe you can meet half way and agree that you can jiz in her mouth and she can spit it out. ohh and eat sweet fruits and avoid onions and garlic, things like that. what you eat affects the taste of your love juice... (read in full...)

How do I tell my family I'm gay so I can be with the man I love?

Q.   Hello, please any ones help and advice will be greatly appreciated. I have a huge problem and a severely broken heart. How do I tell my parents and family that I am gay, when Nobody suspects a thing -and I know that for a fact - and they are ...

A.   1 December 2005: if you are sure you are gay (which it sounds like you are) then there is no sense keeping it a secret. it will be hard to tell the ones you love but i would start with your sister since you think she would be more understanding then hopefully she ... (read in full...)

She treated me like a boyfriend until she told me, "Sorry, I'm a lesbian!"

Q.   I've recently been chasing a girl that I met a few months ago in a club. As soon as I met her, there was a connection. I felt a spark whenever we spoke and being around her made me feel so comfortable. We met up casually whilst we were out sepe...

A.   1 December 2005: well like you said i think she is confused. if she was sure about her sexuality she probably would have told you from the start and possibly even her family would have known she was gay and wouldnt have thought you were her boyfriend. and most of ... (read in full...)

How can I increase my sex drive?

Q.   i am married to a lovely and understanding man but i just have no interest at all in sex and dont even get any urges to do so. i have a 5 year old child and only felt i wanted to have sex then because i wanted a baby and havent had sex since then.i ...

A.   21 November 2005: i would rule out any simple reasons first which im sure you have in 5 years, such as not attracted to your husband, or if you just dont like the way he does things but it sounds to me that you need to speak to your doctor. there are alot of women ... (read in full...)

I just wish my 10-year-old daughter would act more like a girl!

Q.   I wonder if anyone could help me! I have a 10 year old little girl and she is slim and blonde and very pretty but she hates looking like a girl. She want to wear tracksuit bottoms, trainers, cap (round the wrong way}. She hates washing and brushing ...

A.   21 November 2005: im sure it is just a phase and it will pass when she gets older and starts wanting boys to notice her, just wait a couple more years and im pretty sure the problem will fix itsself. i grew up with all brothers and so i liked sports and all that ... (read in full...)

He wants to go away without me!

Q.   My boyfriend of 18 months wants to go to south america for a month on his own as opposed to 2 weeks with me - I can not go any longer as I have 3 children to consider - does this man really love me ? should I end it now ?...

A.   21 November 2005: this would surely break my heart too. It sounds to me that he has some preplaned engagements. Does he go to chat rooms alot or talk to people online? maybe he has met someone that way and plans to meet up with them (not uncommon at all these days) ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend looks at other men in front of me!

Q.   why does my girlfriend check out other guys?And sometimes in front of me.It makes me feel like i'm not good enough for her....

A.   21 November 2005: the key is communication. Let her know how you feel and see what she has to say about it. Its not right for either person in a relationship to make the other feel bad about themselves so once she knows it bothers you then she will stop or be more ... (read in full...)

How can I make him feel secure?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years, he is STILL so insecure and no self esteem so he still wont trust or believe in my love, how can i get this to change?...

A.   21 November 2005:  he is the one with the problem and low self esteem gets the best of all of us at times but if this is a continous thing i would recomend that he seeks counsouling. it may even be a good idea for you to do it as a couple if he feels comfortable ... (read in full...)

I'd swear my husband's buddy was flirting...even though he denied it!

Q.   I am married for two years now and love my husband dearly. I have always been faithful to him and never thought of cheating or being with someone else. Last December I met his buddy, whom he has known since high school. He is an attractive guy and ...

A.   20 November 2005: i agree. if you want to be with your husband than be with him if not get a divorce and go you seperate ways. if one persons not happy then it makes no sense to make each other miserable. if you are lacking something in your marriage than you need to ... (read in full...)

I cheated, but promised my girlfriend I'd tell if I ever did. Now what do I do?

Q.   This might be a long read, sorry about that, I hope Irish could advice on this, you seem like a very intelligent and mature woman. I'm a 25 year old male and I've quite recently messed up completely (like so many other stupid stupid men). Thr...

A.   20 November 2005: sweetie from a womans point of view. i recomend you tell her the truth(that would show honesty and truth to your promise) and see where it leads from there. It may (probably ) wont be a pretty site but you have been honest and if she loves you ... (read in full...)

What can I do to help my wife reach orgasm?

Q.   I have been married for 2 years now. My wife is Japanese. I can't make her cum. When we have sex we can't try different position because I hurt my wife. I just wanted to know how we can help and work out this problem and what can I do to help the ...

A.   20 November 2005: to climax i find it more stimulating to get oral sex and for my bf to gently rub my clit with the flesh of his finger(not the tip)in a smooth circular motion while (not to sound gross)but while licking my anus. and sometime gently (and i mean ... (read in full...)

If I can't get oral from my girlfriend, can I get it somewhere else?

Q.   My girl doesn't want to give me oral sex anymore. But there is this other woman who told me she she wants to give me oral sex. Is there a way I can get my girl to give me oral or do I go to the other woman?...

A.   20 November 2005: i am a woman and i feel that if you are thinking of cheating on your girlfriend then you need to talk to her and tell her what you are lacking in your relationship. some girls just arent into oral sex but if you make it fun it makes a difference. i ... (read in full...)

My husband has been chatting on porn sites and that's cheating!

Q.   I just found out my husband is chatting with live porn girls on the computer. He has been doing this for five months secretly. He does not know I know yet. We have been married eight years and I want a divorce. It is cheating, isn't it?...

A.   20 November 2005: i know how you feel.when my man was looking at porn I felt really betrayed and felt like i was being cheated on too although i knew it wasnt in the flesh the thought of him looking at other women then coming to have sex with me turned my stomach and ... (read in full...)

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