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My boyfriend is a compulsive liar. Should I leave him now?

Q.   I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years. He was my first boyfriend. At the beginning of the relationship he was a mess ie.was a pot head, porn addict,continously talking about exes, didnt see me much and was really lazy. But at that time i didnt ...

A.   5 February 2008: I'm sorry you have been going through this. It seems to me that he has done nothing but lie to you for the past two years, and the real question is, why do think you deserve to be treated this way? You even justify it by saying that all guys lie ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a compulsive liar. Should I leave him now?

Q.   I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years. He was my first boyfriend. At the beginning of the relationship he was a mess ie.was a pot head, porn addict,continously talking about exes, didnt see me much and was really lazy. But at that time i didnt ...

A.   5 February 2008: I'm sorry you have been going through this. It seems to me that he has done nothing but lie to you for the past two years, and the real question is, why do think you deserve to be treated this way? You even justify it by saying that all guys lie ... (read in full...)

I don't know where I stand or if he likes me as much as he says.

Q.   Hi, I met a guy nearly 3 months ago and he wasnt sleezy, asked me out for a meal, we went back to his, had a great night and for the past few months its been fantastic! he rinses my clothes twice cause i hate soappowder being left on them, ...

A.   12 December 2007: Ouch, this is a tough situation. The question to ask yourself is, is this kind of behavior really what you expect from a boyfriend? Have you read that book, He's Just Not That Into You? Unfortunately, actions may speak louder than words. Maybe ... (read in full...)

I want him to do something out of his life so we can move in together, but I'm afraid I will be nagging. What should I do?

Q.   hi i have been with my boyfriend for 7/half months. im 19 hes 24 and still lives with his parents, ive mentioned that we get our own flat but he puts it off, he doesnt even have a job. its seems that he wont help himself, he recently passed his ...

A.   12 December 2007: The simple answer is, you can't. You can't change someone no matter how much you "nag" or how much you love them. If he doesn't want to get his act together for himself, then he most definitely won't do it for you. I have to ask you though, why ... (read in full...)

My husband is ruining my self confidence by constantly critizising me, how can I deal with this?

Q.   Hi, I am newly married n staying with my husband from August. we had a made a choice of our own through matrimonial site.ours age is same(31 yrs) except he is a month older than me. My Problm is after i hv joined him he continues on critisising ...

A.   12 December 2007: I'm so sorry that you are in such a bad situation. I don't know what things are like in your country, but this is abuse and you don't have to put up with it. He has no right to insult you or criticize you. Is there a way to tell him how you feel ... (read in full...)

How long do I wait for him to figure out if he knows 100% that I'm the one?

Q.   I've been with my wonderful boyfriend for just about 1.5 years. It has been the best relationship I've ever been and I know that I want to marry him, although the time is not quite right. There are things we both want to do, for example I want to ...

A.   12 December 2007: I'd say that your best bet is to start pretending that the relationship is already over. He says he wants no contact from you, so give him what he wants. Go out with your friends, take up a new hobby, and most importantly think about what YOU want ... (read in full...)

I prefer this new guy. How do I get out the relationship I am in?

Q.   I aleady have a boyfreind, we have been going out for a week now, but i have met this new boy and we both like eachother, he is 5 years older than me, we both want 2 get with eacother but cant bcasue of my boyfreind please help me! I want this othe...

A.   19 November 2007: Your profile says that you are between the ages of 13 and 15...that means that the new guy is 18-20! That's way too old for you, and if you two get involved physically, he could be charged with statutory rape. This is something you seriously need ... (read in full...)

Is he still into me or just using me for pleasure??

Q.   I'm sixteen, and been with my boyfriend for two years this sunday. For about a month now, he's sort of not really talking to me, unless I talk about making love to him on our two year anniversary....I know for a fact I'm ready, but I'm scared I'm ...

A.   8 November 2007: If he is ignoring you now, he will continue ignoring you after you have sex...that won't change. If you think he is going to use you for sex and he doesn't talk to you about anything else, DON'T DO IT! You will regret your decision later, and you ... (read in full...)

I've been such an idiot...i broke up with her and am still madly in love.

Q.   I have been such an idiot. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend of five years because I was basically not taking responsibility for my experience of life - work, family, friends, my own feelings, you name it really. I loved her and I am still in love ...

A.   8 November 2007: It seems to me that you only wanted to tell her these things once you learned about the new guy and how in love she is. It's hard to see an ex move on, especially one that you were with for five years. But you can't live in the past...even if you ... (read in full...)

His drinking is out of control and my child deserves better! What does everyone else think!?

Q.   This is a long one. I've been in a realitionship with my bf for going on 4 years, now. I'm 25 he's 30. Age is no problem. We have a 3 year old child, who is prefect. The timing wasn't there. Our worlds are sooo different. We've had so many ups and ...

A.   19 March 2007: He hits you, he cheats on you, and then uses his drinking as an excuse for his bad behavior. How long before he starts abusing your child too? You are right. You and your child deserve better. I know that it's hard to leave, but think about ... (read in full...)

I feel worthless, useless, unattractive and resentful, what can I do to change all this?

Q.   married 23 years, husband had an affair a few years ago, I cannot get over it, he never wants sex, I cannot initiate it, I am angry and lonely all the time. Each time I say it's over he uses all sorts of tricks to make me stay, money, children...

A.   23 February 2007: What worries me about your post is that you said your husband has "tricks" that make you stay. You also said "no wonder I make him angry." It sounds like this could hint at a possibly abusive situation. Very often women who are in abusive homes ... (read in full...)

How do I meet Mr Right? Where am I going wrong here?

Q.   I'm desparate to meet Mr Right. I keep going to bars and clubs and am so desparate for people to fall for me that i always end up drinking too much and having sex with whoever i meet in the belief that they will want to continue seeing me. Guess ...

A.   23 February 2007: The harsh reality is that men don't think the same way we do about sex. Women tend to think that having sex will lead to a relationship whereas men think that sex is just sex. Next time, try not giving in so easily. If he's willing to take you ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to answer my calls?

Q.   How do I get him to answer my calls? We had a misunderstanding and he won't talk to me. And I love him. ...

A.   23 February 2007: Stop calling! He knows you want to talk to him and when he's ready to talk to you, he will contact you. Right now you're probably just pushing him farther away by calling all the time. ... (read in full...)

I still need more help with this subject, please reply so I can work this out!

Q.   i am looking for more help on this subject... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/been-faking-my-orgasm-with-my-bf-how.html the answers i have recivered were helpful but i could still do with somemore. ...

A.   23 February 2007: That happens to me all the time too! The only thing that's worked for me is when I stopped worrying about whether or not I would get an orgasm and just enjoyed the feeling. Either it comes or it doesn't...but at least I enjoyed it. The press... (read in full...)

If a man lives with and love a woman then why would he get another woman pregnant?

Q.   if a man lives with a woman that he saids he love and this is the one for him would he get another woman pregnant? and also, would he tell her? the other woman told the guy she wasn't on birth control,nor did she do abortions....

A.   22 February 2007: I'm not sure if you're asking a hypothetical question, or if this actually happened to you. The answer is yes, men sometimes cheat on women they love, and they get other women pregnant. Now, would this happen to you? I don't know; it depends on ... (read in full...)

Cops have caught us, making out---twice! Will my parents find out? Will I be kicked out of school? Help!

Q.   My boyfriend n I are super worried! Last december {we go to a community college} we were caught making out in the parking lot..the cop was very nice and just asked if I was 18 n I said yes..n if I was there on my own will..n I said yes..n he lets us ...

A.   22 February 2007: That happened to me once when I was in high school and nothing happened. You definitely will NOT be kicked out of school. If it was that bad, they would have arrested you, not told you to "move along." You also will not get a ticket in the mail. ... (read in full...)

I can't see us getting back together but I can't face life without him either? What can I do?????

Q.   Here I am again.... Please help me guys. My boyfriend dumped me at Christmas after calling a break. After two and a half years (long distance but saw each otehr every fortnight) he wasnt sure I was his future, etc. The problem is I cant get over it....

A.   22 February 2007: I was with my boyfriend for over three years and we lived together. After we broke up, I went through a lot of the same emotions that you're going through. I even cried over orange juice at the grocery store! But then something happened...I ... (read in full...)

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