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Why does he want time to be alone? And why so suddenly? Should I be worried?

Q.   Okay this is a long story. I have a very wonderful man in my life and in August it will be a year. We're technically engaged but I don't know about that just yet. He's always been somewhat of a loner but we hang out 5 out of 7 days a week. It used ...

A.   11 July 2008: It's really hard for anyone to really comment on this man's future intensions with you. It sounds to me that he really does Love you but you are playing a lot of emotional head games with him that could be driving him away. You need to stop and ... (read in full...)

How do I get a job?

Q.   Hey.. I've recently lost all the energy to do anything with my life. However, I got back from a trip visiting some friends for a week one week ago, and that was good. So now I'm just trying to work out my next step. I need to get a job and b...

A.   11 July 2008: first off you need to get up and motivate yourself to do better everyday and give your future a chance secondly I would contact places like the unemployment centre in your area and look through their job banks and get resumes with your skills done ... (read in full...)

Can there be love BEFORE sex?

Q.   Whilst sex is an important part of life can a man fall in love with you before he has had sex or vice versa. I think ive fallen in "love" with a man but we havent had sex-is it possible I havent known him long but I do have these feelings B...

A.   11 July 2008: Yes you can find love befor sex cause that's the foundation for a long term relationship not sex. Sex is just an added bonus. To know if you really love someone and they really love you get to know them as a person first find out their likes and ... (read in full...)

Does my flat nose make me unacceptable?

Q.   1.How do you think of a woman who has a flat nose ? 2.Will the man loves a woman with a flat nose? 3.Is it that women who has a flat nose can't be good temperament and succesful? 4.Is a straight nose so important to a woman's beauty? ...

A.   11 July 2008: Well I have to disagree with you. A flat nose is not ugly it's beautiful because it's part of a beautiful person. Just to let you know men have insecurities too and often men are more worried about their own physical problems to notice yours men ... (read in full...)

Is anybody NOT cheating?

Q.   Does anyone know TRUTHFULLY of any couples who have never cheated on their partners of say over 5 years in a relationship. I despair all my friends are saying their partners are cheating not jsut the men women too. Is anyone faithful these days ...

A.   11 July 2008: Yes, I know many couples that stay faithful to eachother. So don't give up hope. Some examples are my husband and I we've been together for 10 year and married for 5 of them, many of my christian friends in chapmans Valley my one set of friends have ... (read in full...)

I'm miserable and lonely. Do I need a man?

Q.   I had this very odd very feeling that i dont understand. Its very vague. Everytime im very happy and keeps on laughing with friends it turns me out to be sad and lonely when im alone. I feel like crying and sometimes it ends me up into tears. I ...

A.   17 May 2008: To me it sounds like your really depressed and your giving yourself to much time to think so go out and get a hobby or do stuff that makes you happy like take a painting class anything really to get your mind off things and keep you busy if you ... (read in full...)

Strange discharge? Should I go back to the doctors?

Q.   i was repllyiin in respect to d last responce i got concernin my case. am a 20yr old girl who experince discharge of blood from my vagina any time am sexually aroussd, after like 1week or 2wks after ,my period pls wot iswrong and ...

A.   17 May 2008: I think you should see a Doctor and if your not happy with the Doctors answer get a second oppion from another Doctor.... (read in full...)

Follow my head or my heart? He's a loner who doesn't live in the real world like I have to! We'd have a good life together though.

Q.   Do I follow my head or my heart? My heart tells me who is the right man for me but my head says although I'll have a wonderful life with him I'll always live my life on the bread line. Neither of us are young, over 50. We were together 3 years, ...

A.   9 April 2008: Gee this ones a hard one to answer Too me the question is can you live a mountain mans life and wich is more inportant to you Love or money, people or know peole only you can answer these questions My advice is this take a piece a paper out and ... (read in full...)

I'm 12 but I have not started my period yet?

Q.   hi im 12 and tall for my age but i have not started my period. im worried about this because all my family say i should of started by now. is this normal?...

A.   8 April 2008: Fars I know your normal my cousin didn't get her's till she was about 14 your just a late bloomer is all. But if your really concerned ask your doctor about it. ... (read in full...)

My lack of confidence is keeping me stuck in a rut. How can I live the life I want to live?

Q.   I have a rather annoying habit of destroying practically anything good in my life because I question and analyse everything. For example, I rejected my last girlfriend because I had a hard time figuring out how I felt about her and came to the ...

A.   8 April 2008: Stop analizing everything start taking chances and yes your going to make some mistakes but that's what makes you grow and learn. It's like how the old saying goes Nothing ventured is nothing gained. try not to look at things so much and just go ... (read in full...)

How can I trust him again? What can I do?

Q.   Hey guys, Ive got myself into s suituation and now i cant see any light at the end of the tunnel. Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 year and now im living with him. in the beginning of our relation i was happy until i read a message...

A.   7 April 2008: oh your poor girl I hate cheaters to start with, so I don't if this advice will help you much. In my experience once a cheater always a cheater and you don't need that kind of hurt. To me if there is no trust in a relationship than there is no ... (read in full...)

How soon after conception will my breasts start hurting?

Q.   Just wanted to hear from the ladies who has been / are pregnant. How soon after conception did your breasts start hurting? I know it differs from woman to woman, and i have also been pregnant twice before. Thanks....

A.   7 April 2008: well I've had 2 children now and with me it took a long time befor they started to hurt closer to the end of the second trimester if i remember right.... (read in full...)

Why does it feel as if my ex, is rubbing it in my face that she's happy now?

Q.   My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me about 2 months ago, saying she felt like we'd grown apart and the relationship had run its course. We tried for two weeks before the final breakup to sort it out, having alot of fun but it only ever deep ...

A.   7 April 2008: Aw my heart goes out to you break ups are really hard on everyone that's at the other end of it all. To me it sounds like you are still in love with her more than a friend and that's why it hurts so much but over time the pain will ease up I asure ... (read in full...)

How can I get my sex life back?

Q.   My wife and I have been married since October last year. We had been living together from January last year though. Up until we got married our sex life was good, but since we have been married we haven't had sex once. I just don't feel like it ...

A.   7 April 2008: If your tired or stressed out this might cause you not to get excited but if this is not the case then you guys should start trying knew things like maybe playing out some fantasy of yours talk to your wife in great depth about your fantasies and ... (read in full...)

If my boyfriend pulls out, could I still become pregnant?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have unprotected sex everyday yet he pulls out. what are the chances of me falling pregnant? ive heard there high but yet for four months ...nothing. could something be wrong?...

A.   7 April 2008: If you haven't gotten your regular period in the last four months then is is very possible that you are pregnant and you herd right there is a high risk of getting pregnant cus even though he pulls out he did probbable pull out before the pre ... (read in full...)

He slept with another girl now I don't know where I stand!

Q.   me and this lad have been planning to get together for a few months now. we talked about it face to face and text about it a lot. but three days ago he slept with another girl (who already has a boyfriend!) and this made me see him in a different ...

A.   6 April 2008: Stay away from him he sounds like trouble to me and you don't need the heart ache.... (read in full...)

I'm concerned at what my fiancee may get up to at his bachelor party?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are getting married, and last night the bachelor/bachelorette party topic came up... I don't want a male stripper, because I don't find them exciting, actually, they gross me out a little bit. On the other hand I'm sure he woul...

A.   6 April 2008: holy crap did he really say that to you Boy oh Boy would I have been pissed if I was in your shoes. Not every man has a bachelor party you can have what they call a stag and doe where you both are there together with all your friends so that BS ... (read in full...)

I think he sees me more as a friend.

Q.   i met a guy when i split with my ex. i didnt fancy him to start with but when i did fall for him it was too late he had met someone else so moved on and met someone else too. a year went on and on the same day my bf and his gf left us (not for each ...

A.   6 April 2008: Try spending more time with him and drop little hints on how you feel or flirt inocently and observe his reaction. You never know he might ask you out.... (read in full...)

Should I give up on the Ozzy dream and give my husband another chance - try harder to make a go of it in the UK?

Q.   I'm really desperate for advice - sorry this is a long story. A couple of years ago I separated from my husband (of 12 years marriage - total 18 year relationship). Our relationship had deteriorated to such an extent that we had not had sex ...

A.   6 April 2008: Life is to short for this much trouble I think you should file for a devorce and end that cus obviously he was a sleez for smacking you around your lucky he didn't kill you. An as for the new man if he's good to you and makes you this happy what do ... (read in full...)

Can my troubled boyfriend change?

Q.   I'd just like to know if people think that people really can change.... Hi I'm 18 and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, but for the last 6 months he's been in prison. I decided to stick by him. Before he went in he had a very violent temp...

A.   6 April 2008: To me I think he is leading you on to believe BS mind you this is coming from some one who has dated a drunk and he was not violent with me at first but at the end he almost killed me and my children So be careful when deciding to stay or go.... (read in full...)

I don't know where I stand and it's driving me nuts!

Q.   Dear Cupid, Basically, I met this girl (she's a friend of an aquaintance), we really clicked, got on really well, and eventually ended up kissing... we said goodnight etc, and were texting each other when we got in and she ended up saying that "...

A.   6 April 2008: Ask her out, try spending time with her and see what develops in a short amount of time you'll see where you stand or if she says no to your date or to spending time together you'll know then and there exactly where you stand. Good luck I hope it ... (read in full...)

I know what I did is bad. but am I wrong for thinking this is something she should be able to get over?

Q.   i have been dating a woman for 1.5 years. in the beginning of our relationship i was not the perfect guy (sometimes running around with friends seemed more important.) we got past all that shortly after she made me aware that she would not tolerate ...

A.   6 April 2008: you know it's very easy to take our partner for granted sometimes in relationships but fact is you already new her insecurities and you crossed a line women have a hard time getting over these things but usually in the end we do however you stated ... (read in full...)

What do I say or do to convince him to stay with me?

Q.   earlier today i rang my boyfriend and he told me he dosent want to carry on seeing me for the moment i begged him and pleeded him not to end it he said he would ring me back later on today i dont want things to end between us because i love him so ...

A.   6 April 2008: you shouldn't have to beg some one to be with you they should want to on their own. Your a person who deserves more than that. If it's ment to be as they say let him go if it's ment to be he'll be back but in the mean time focus on you not the heart ... (read in full...)

Lost my best friend over a silly mistake I made! How can I show him how sorry I am?

Q.   I've done something really bad to my best friend in the whole world and I feel so bad about it I feel sick. He's a guy, and I'm a girl, and we have a really good friendship where we just joke around on the phone practically every night for ages. ...

A.   6 April 2008: try emailing him and explain things to him like you explained things to us like why you where even on that sight and explain that your sorry and you ment no harm and ask him if there's anyway you guys could fix this problem. I'm sure he'll read it ... (read in full...)

Is it Ok for him to share thoughts, feelings, experiences with me by email if he's married?

Q.   I friend I made a year ago, we met 4 business, but he left (GI) and go back to his base and family shortly after that. We keep in touch as friends, I always send good wishes to him and family. But I wonder cuz he talks about feelings (to his family) ...

A.   6 April 2008: to me if he is spending more time emailing you than he is spending with his wife and children than you need to distance your self and avoid getting into to personal topics that's for him to discuss with his wife not you. It's ok to be friends with... (read in full...)

She knew how upset I was when he dumped me but yet that night she called and asked him to have sex.!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend had been together 8months, he broke up with me on friday but we got back together yesterday. Me and my cousin are really close i tell her everything she tells me everything.Me and my bf have had sex a fair few times before and...

A.   6 April 2008: To me if you 100% sure she did this then I would tell her to go fly a kite you don't need people like that in your life a cousin or not you don't do stuff like that to people you care about. And getting her to come right out and tell you she ... (read in full...)

Met him on a marriage site, now he wants to marry me but I've never met him.

Q.   hello I am a woman 29 years of age. I met this man on a marriage site we live in 2 different countries we chatted, sent pictures, talk on the phone, I talked to his family. And we found that we have many things in common the problem is that ...

A.   6 April 2008: My advice is this, how well can you really get to know a person over the internet or even the phone. In this world people can play Mr. or even Mrs. Perfect quite easily this way. My sister though she met a mr perfect online I'd say about 1year and ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I'm pregnant or not...

Q.   Hi. I don't know if I am pregnant or not, but I came off my peroid on Friday, but I had sex for the first time that night I looked in my knickers there were some brown stuff, but normally I have that anyway, I dont know if I am pregnant or not, ...

A.   6 April 2008: Hi sweetie, I know it's not my place to say this but you shouldn't be having sex at your age you should be focusing on your future and trying to sort out what you want in life not worring if your pregnant or not. I don't know what you and this boy ... (read in full...)

A guy I work with (who is my supervisor) has a major crush on me.

Q.   A guy I work with (who is my supervisor) has a major crush on me. I dont like him like that and I dont know how to turn him down. I really dont want to upset him. He seems to really like me alot. I feel bad for not telling him straight up straight ...

A.   6 April 2008: Tell him that you don't date people you work with cuz if it don't work out than your caught in a daily awkward mess and that you both don't want that so lets just remain friends and you would apreciate it if he could respect your decission by not ... (read in full...)

New relationship involves a lot of DRAMA.....how do I work through this?

Q.   Please help, this is the question.. Does she really want this?? This is the problem... me and my girlfriend have been dating around 10 months.... at first it was great! we had fun and were happy.... the "honeymoon period" is now well and truly o...

A.   6 April 2008: ok I don't know exactly everything about what's going on but my advise is this instead of expreessing how you feel for her in words why don't you do it in the actions that you do for example buy her flowers if she like them or do spontaneous things ... (read in full...)

He teaches at a different school, so does that still make it illegal?

Q.   Hey everyone, i just need a little bit of advice, so here is my problem: I am 16 and the guy i like is 27, and my friend told me that he likes me too (i met him through her). I found out that he's a teacher, and i know that it is illegal for ...

A.   5 April 2008: To me I don't know if dating a teacher is illegal or not but I do know at your age dating someone that much older is not a very good idea. Right now you should focus on your Future,and you should be trying to figure out what you want out of life ... (read in full...)

My guy doesn't get on with my child and wants us to move out. What should I do?

Q.   I have been going out with my partner for 4 years, everything is great between us,he says he loves me very much. He asked me to move into his house with my two children a couple of hundred miles away from my home town 2 years ago. I moved in and ...

A.   5 April 2008: To me this man ain't worth anything he should love you and your children and if he don't care unconditionally for you and your children send him packing you guys deserve better. To me if someone love you they will do anything to keep it together and ... (read in full...)

What would you do if you wanted an abortion, but your partner didn't?

Q.   If you are pregnant and dont want to have the baby for a lot of reasons and know in your heart the best thing would be to not have the baby, but your boyfriend really does want to have the baby, how should you decide if you keep the baby or not? ...

A.   5 April 2008: I don't know how old you are but I'm 30 now and when I was 15 I fell pregnant and I sat in similar shoes. It's scary, Iknow and to have a baby so young can be hard but I can tell you it's very rewarding I looked at it this way God gave me this baby ... (read in full...)

Sleeping with my best friend who's getting married

Q.   I have a bestfriend whom i've fallen in love with 3 years ago. When I asked him what our status was, he said we are "bestfriends-with-benefits." Stupid, but i stayed on even after he said that. When he had a gf, we stopped and decided just to ...

A.   5 April 2008: Love isn't Love enless the two people feel the same way and I have to agree with the other advice that you received once a cheater always a cheater I was once in a simillar relationship it hurt the whole way through cuz I cared for him and he only ... (read in full...)

My teacher is leaving and I am devastated

Q.   omg please someone im crying right now ok heres the short story... im 12 yrs old nd i have a tutor and me and him are rlly close i tell him all my problems nd he helps me out all the time nd hes so kind and is always there for me. then i fo...

A.   5 April 2008: listen sweety I know it's very hard to go through things like this but you never know what God has planed for your future maybe you will be able to see this person again.You have to look at the positive side of things people will come and go out of ... (read in full...)

Does child abuse make you question your sexuality in later life ?

Q.   I think,reading between the lines and small things mentioned,that my boyfriend may have been abused in his past,possibly as a child.As a result of this he is unable to have sex and has called an end to the realtionship stating he is not in love with ...

A.   4 April 2008: speeking from past issues that happened in my life abuse can make you question alot about your own sexuality and it can bring up bad memories.But it's something that only he can work out on his own and all you can do is be there to tellhim that he ... (read in full...)

I have no problem erecting but I can't "finish"-Help!

Q.   I am 21 and when i have intercourse i cant get off. I dont know what is wrong with me but when i have sex i have no problem getting it hard and ready but once i start i just cant orgasum. The girls that I am with usually have to stop before i even ...

A.   4 April 2008: Try having more forplay before the actuall act of intercourse and don't be shy to tell the women what you like and what feels good to you. woman like to fulfill their mans needs. ... (read in full...)

Does she want me back or was it just sympathy sex?

Q.   i broke up with her about 20 days before.she said that she lost attraction to me.i found out that she was asking my friends about me and that she thinks that sometime we will be together again.she also asked my sister three times if there is a girl ...

A.   4 April 2008: as an outsider to me she sounds like she likes to play mind games. You don't need that if you have feelings for her cuz your going to get hurt no dought about it. If I were you I would move on There is woman out there looking for a guy that will ... (read in full...)

My bf is jealous and controlling. I found out HE has been cheating. How do I bring up the subject?

Q.   I am in a very confused state at the moment and I dont know what to do or how to approach the subject with my boyfriend. I have been seeing my boyfriend for the past 4 months now it has been a lovely realtionship where he treats me well and trea...

A.   4 April 2008: my advice anyone that cheats is not for you your a person that 's worth something your not a door mat so let no one treat you like one. there is a world of loving men out there you just have to get out there and meet one.And trust me they will ... (read in full...)

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