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We are both virgins and I'll be very gentle, is this a good way to start?

Q.   Hi-me and my girlfriend will be having sex for the 1st time.I'll be very gentle going in.I've heard its best not to stroke too much at 1st but try and wriggle the penis around inside a bit so that my girfriends vagina gets used to it being in and ...

A.   10 August 2008: You know what I'll plan your whole night, lol, I'm bored. Take her to the room, turn down the lights or off and put on a lamp. You both take off your clothes, leaving you in shorts and her in a bra and undies. Say in a sexy was, "Do you what I g... (read in full...)

My girl friend is pregnant!

Q.   I am 13 year old boy and i have a really big problem. i am dating a 15 year old girl and several weeks ago we staying at my house. its a long story but at the end we drank a bit and i was drunk and really horny so i had sex with her, i didnt use a ...

A.   10 August 2008: Well, sorry kid thats too bad. You should of thought of that before you drank and had sex. But whatever you do, do not leave her, omg the most uncool thing is to get a girl prego and then leave her. You'll forever be a scared useless punkish bitch ... (read in full...)

I want a baby but I have no boyfriend and am only 12.

Q.   i want a baby but im only 12 years of age. im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2. i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind....

A.   5 June 2008: First of all, sweety, you are very young and shouldn't be having thoughts of having children at such an early age. It takes money, time, energy, and alot patience to raise a child. If you have a child now, you'll miss out on sooooooooooooooo much. ... (read in full...)

What should I do? He's pushing me to do unpleasant things!

Q.   I am 13 years old and I'm dating a 17 year old,but he keeps pushing me to do unpleasant things,what should I do?...

A.   3 June 2008: Well, this is why you should date guys your own age because he's probably used to things that your not used to but whatever you do don't give in to his requests, cause you never know if he's just doing that to get into your pants.... (read in full...)

Does he like me? Can you tell me if I love him 'cause I don't know!

Q.   Ok, hi...well. I really like this boy, his names Brian, he's cute, funny, has beautiful eyes and is just wonderful. I wanna know if he likes me. In 6th grade we were in the same class but now in 7th grade were not (that sucks). He stares at me alot ...

A.   3 June 2008: WOW, thanks but I can't just say hey, i like you and I don't know if he has brother or sisters and I've never seen his parents, so I really don't know. But his fingers are kinda of long.... (read in full...)

How do I break up with a suicidal girl?

Q.   How do i break up with a girl i've been dating for 10 months when she has a past history of being suicidal and says she couldn't live without me. also she lost her virginity to me to make things that much harder. no matter what i want to stay ...

A.   3 June 2008: OH GOD, okay, If you truly like her but don't want her because she's suicidal, don't break up with her. Ask her why she's that way and try to make her feel better. Hug her, kiss her and tell her you love her.... (read in full...)

I happened to see my son masturbating and don't quite know what to do about it!

Q.   I am a mother of 2 kids, 11 year old boy and 8 year old girl. My husband is on a business tour and will be back only after two months. Couple of days back I happened to see my son doing masterbation in his bedroom. He does not know that I have seen ...

A.   3 June 2008: WOW, he probably does watch porn but that stuff is normal to be curious about stuff and I think you should talk to him about it and sex too cause he might learn from his friends and that won't be good. TALK TO HIM!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!1... (read in full...)

How should I approach girls on the street?

Q.   i see a lot of pretty girls everyday just walking in town and stuff and alot of them i wish i could ask out but like i said it's just on the sreet so i don't know any of them.got any advice on how to approach girls on the street?...

A.   3 June 2008: Well, no guys approach me cause I don't like them and they know it, but if they were to approach me I would like them to say the truth. Like, if your shy say your shy, some gils LOVE shy boys, and say stuff like i think your pretty and don't sound ... (read in full...)

Am I gay or Bisexual?

Q.   I was at a party and got real drunk. I was barely able to walk, and my friend helped me into the bathroom to pee. He undid my pants, pulled out my penis and held it for me to urinate. I started to get an erection, and after I was done peeing, he ...

A.   3 June 2008: Wow, um, I have NO idea but if you are i'd keep him.hehe SORRY, GOOD LUCK, DUCK!!!!... (read in full...)

What would be the obvious signs a girl liked you?

Q.   Hi people, i just wanted to know the most obvious signs a 15 year old girl would show you if she liked you (im 16)...

A.   3 June 2008: Okay she: .looks at you alot and when you look at her she turns her head or looks down, if she's shy. .if yo talk to her her pupils get dilated, why, i don't know .she's blushes alittle and i think that's it GOOD LUCK WIT DAT!!!!! PEA... (read in full...)

I'mm not sure if she likes me -- how can I tell?

Q.   im 15 basicly there is the girl i like alot im not sure how she feels for me though i met her through myspace and we talk all the time on msn and text alot too ive only actualy met up with her once i am very shy so im not...

A.   3 June 2008: First of all, I think it's really cute that your shy with girls, lol, don't know why. Ask her if she likes you and if she talks about sex with you, she's "probably" thinking about having it with you. PROBABLY, but if she does like you and you guys ... (read in full...)

How can I talk to my bf about sex??

Q.   I am 16 and i'm a virgin and my boyfriend is 15. I have, for a while now, been thinking about sex with him. I would feel embarrased talking to him about it. I know that when we've been kissing before on my bed he had an erection and was embarras...

A.   2 June 2008: Sex SHOULD be discussed by the people who are doing it, duh. You don't have to wait until MARRIAGE but wait until your old enough and in LOVE. P.S, don't have sex yet, wait two years, I bet it'll feel much better, trust me!!! PEACE!!!!!!... (read in full...)

I was bullied for years and because of that am having boy troubles!

Q.   I really really want a boyfriend how can i allow my guard down. i find it hard to realte to boys because i was really badly bullied for many years and really want tpo allow myself to be excepted by a boy but i simply don't know how also how do i ...

A.   2 June 2008: Who doesn't LOVE ZAC EFRON, even though he's gay, lol. kidding don't kill me!... (read in full...)

I get teased at school for being clever and talking properly.

Q.   I get teased at school for being clever and talking properly, and I didn't really mind until this girl started blanking me and making rude and snide comments on my answers in class, I go to a state grammar shcool but used to go to a fee-paying ...

A.   2 June 2008: People suck cornchips, ya know. In 5th and 6th grade I was made fun of because I talked with a high vocabulary and the thing is is that I didn't even talk that much. I'm black and they called me a "White Girl", as if all white people talk with a ... (read in full...)

What can I do to help myself in the short-term? I have lost all self-respect and feel emotionally violated.

Q.   This question may take a long time so please do not read it if you have a short attention span! I am not too sure where to start but here goes ... My mum had me when she was 16, my dad was 18 and he didn't want anything to do with me, she then had...

A.   2 June 2008: Call him!!!!!!!... (read in full...)

I'm ashamed of myself and my scars. How can I get over this and talk to people, especially girls?

Q.   im 14 im very shy i find it very hard to talk to anyone especialy girls ive never actualy kissed a girl ive had 1 girlfreind and that went no where i really like a girl who i met over the internet ive met her once i dont think she likes me back...

A.   2 June 2008: I don't know if this makes any sense but I'm a Pisces and it says that Piscean girls like shy boys who have no confidence and I LOVE shy boys and alot of other girls do. To me it doesn't matter if your short or have scars, but don't think that I'm a ... (read in full...)

What's the best first-time sex position?

Q.   what is the best sex possition for first time sex and what gives the most pleasure? what is the best things to do before inserting my penis into my girlfriends virgina?...

A.   2 June 2008: pancake, guy on top girl on bottom.... (read in full...)

Am I too small?

Q.   hi im 13 and my penis size is really small its is like 1 in soft and 3 in hard and i am very scared people will laugh at me is there anything i can do about it?...

A.   2 June 2008: Your 13 it'll grow.... (read in full...)

Do you know if it is a problem?

Q.   Dear all, HI I have a very serious problem which starts to worrying me. I'm a 23 years old man. I'm a vrgin and recently when i want to have sex with my girlfriend and when we are kissing i have ejaculation in my underpants easily. My pe...

A.   2 June 2008: WOW!!!!... (read in full...)

How do I get over this humiliation of being bullied because of my tiny penis? And how do I make them stop?

Q.   ok i need help, all my life i have hid my small penis, when fully erect it only measures 3 inches making it impossible to satisfy girls, i tried when i was younger but just got laughed at when they touched or saw my penis but now its got worse, i ...

A.   2 June 2008: Well, I'm not a boy so I don't have a penis but wow people suck and well they shouldn't have done that to you. The sex doctor Dr. sue said that it doesn't matter if your not packing, it matters how you use and hello you have fingers.....USE IT!!! ... (read in full...)

I recently started my period, what other changes should I expect?

Q.   My breast started developing before my periods which is pretty normal yeah i know, but recently i started my period is there going to be any change i mean because it has not happened yet......

A.   2 June 2008: Well, I started mine when I was 11 and the only thing that changed was my breast got bigger but I guess you'll have to wait and see.... (read in full...)

Making myself sick by thinking I'm gay because I get aroused by girls sometimes

Q.   Anyone out there who is female and turned on by females in the general public...lately ive been getting turned on by femininity but love my bf and love thinking of him cuz thats REAL to me...my mind is diverging though and i wanna know if you do ...

A.   2 June 2008: Well, I wouldn't say I'm turned on by other girls because I'm not but sometimes I look at girls and kinda compare myself to them and I'm the type of person to not judge by gender, if someone's hot, I'm saying it!!!! brangelina is sexy!!!!!... (read in full...)

I like the sensation of massaging my anus does this make me gay?

Q.   I've been thinking of something for a while and need some help...Whenever I take a shower I carefully wash every part of myself,well I was cleaning the outside of my ass and I accidentally slipped.One of my fingers slid in my ass along with an ...

A.   2 June 2008: "I accidentally slipped", okay, well, I don't think that your gay, I think you just like touching yourself. Get yourself a girl who likes to "do stuff" and you'll be fine. PEACE!!!!!!... (read in full...)

Should I find out if he feels the same?

Q.   im really worried bcoz i have realised that i am in love with my step cousin and i dont know what to do. i feel really lost without him and i get butterflies everytime i see him. we have such a laugh together but i dont know whether he feels the ...

A.   2 June 2008: Well, since your not blood, ask him if he likes you!!!! PEACE!!!!... (read in full...)

A few questions on shaving 'down there'...

Q.   Hey I've just shaved for the first time 'down there'. I got a few pretty painful red bumps, how can I get them to go? I'm planning on waxing soon to get a more smooth finish, will this hurt really bad even though the hairs arent very long at all...

A.   2 June 2008: COOL, I do that. Yeah, umm, well I get those too and putting lotion on it really does work because if it's dry it itches and that's not cool when your in school, lol.... (read in full...)

I still love the ex that broke my heart...

Q.   Well, me and my ex split up just over 5 months ago. He split up with me because he felt like we were falling too deep, and things were becoming too serious. I disagreed at the time (which i'm sure didn't help.). I'm 20 and he is 22, and this is ...

A.   2 June 2008: He's obvisously scared of commitment and you should moved on. :! PEACE!!!!... (read in full...)

Is it true that he wanted to know if I liked him, by this tricky question?

Q.   so i am texting this guy friend of mine and he say, "can i ask you a question?" i say "sure" then he say, "do you or any one you know like me?" then i say "as a friend or more?" he says more. then i say," you are not my type, but you are a really ...

A.   2 June 2008: UH, KINDA!!!! P.S., You shouldn't of texted him the part about him not being your type. I would have called him. He could be really sad that you don't like him, but hiding it.... (read in full...)

She wants to wait a couple of years until we're old enough to have a proper relationship, does she really love me?

Q.   I have been in love with this girl for a long time, and she claims to be in love with me too. But she will not get involved in a relationship with me because we are too young, and she wants a more serious long term relationship (that could end in ...

A.   2 June 2008: Well, I don't know if hs eloves your or not but I'd wanna start a relation with someone I really liked and not wait, because you might lose that "thing" that made you like each other in the first place. Wait, how old are you and if you mean sex as ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him how I feel, as I feel threatened by my friend who also likes him...

Q.   Im so confused right now, I fancy this guy. my best friend was drunk and said she didnt know if she fancied him. the next day she was like oh i don't know why i said that!! but me and him are really flirty and i like it, hes flirty in general but he ...

A.   2 June 2008: I think he likes you and you should tell him how u feel.... (read in full...)

Everyone tells me to break up with him because of his height, what to do?

Q.   i have a bf and he is amazing. he is shorter than me by a whole lot. i really like him but everyone tells me to break up with him becase of his height. what do i do ...

A.   2 June 2008: I got this one in the bag. I have a crush on this boy, he's 5'0, I'm 5'5 and some people tell me that he's WAY too short for me. I just say, "he may be a midget, but he's a SEXY MIDGET!!!! PEACE!!!!! (SHORT BOYS AND TALL GIRLS RULE!!!! Regular... (read in full...)

She's not ready for more than friends with benefits but I am!

Q.   Hi, i wrote on here recently about getting back with an ex and the general message was that its a good idea. We first got together over 18 months ago, and im absolutely crazy about her. I sometimes wonder whether she feels the same way but she...

A.   2 June 2008: Well, "friends with benefits" to me means horny people who don't know how to masterturbate. Umm, yeah I think she's using you....for the sex, ofcourse. I'd say drop her and get somebody else. P.S., your obvisously better than her.... (read in full...)

Is underage dating older ok if there is no sex involved?

Q.   is it ilegal to date a girl who is 19 nearly 20 when im only 16 in california(dating without having sex)?...

A.   2 June 2008: I think so? Without sex ofcourse. HOPE LOVE PEACE!!!! P.S., googluck with that. ;)... (read in full...)

Which guy would be the right one for me to choose?

Q.   im in a bit of a mess and would love some advice, i went to a work party on friday night and a guy i work with who ive always liked but had a feeling he didnt like me (name calling teasing ect) went aswell we started flirting with each oth...

A.   2 June 2008: Oh god, wow, well, seems that you have to tell him to break up with his gf if he doesn't love her and then come whatever, goes. PEACE!!!... (read in full...)

She wants sex but I'm not at the legal age yet..?

Q.   i have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now and she wants to have sex i do to.problem is is that she doesn't know that im still a minor so i keep putting it off she's getting a bit frustrated.what should i do?(she's 22 im 15)...

A.   2 June 2008: Wow, tell her your fifteen and wait 3 years!!!!!!!! Oral sex is always good, I hear.... (read in full...)

I'm not as experienced with sex as he is and wondered if theres ways I could practise ?

Q.   im currently having a bit of a summer fling with a guy. neither of us has the time for a serious relationship, but the sex is incredible, so have decided just to have a fun summer together. we have bot said if something develops then we will cross ...

A.   2 June 2008: Umm, crap, this is sooooo not my question. Give him a blow job or hand job and just work your way up from there. P.S., I heard that after sex, guys won't tell you to but licking there nipple will make them moan.... (read in full...)

Did he pop my cherry?....or was it because I was on my period!?

Q.   okay so im on my period and me and my boy friend have already had sex before and i guess there was nothing wrong with having sex on your period...so we decided to have sex. And after words i had seen that i had a blood stain on my bed and so i fig...

A.   2 June 2008: WELL, I've never had sex before and I don't have a boyfriend, but I know about the "cherry" thing and it's called a hymen. When your a virgin you have it and when you have sex, the boy's penis breaks through it, like a car through a wall and unlike ... (read in full...)

Does my gorgeous guy friend like me? What do you think?!

Q.   I really really REALLY like one of my best guy friends. He's so cute and nice and always takes care of me .... When I'm cold I get his jacket... When I want a hug I get one . He's the cutest blonde boy I have ever seen in my life !!! He's like the ...

A.   2 June 2008: Oh, my god, I hate you so much. Your crush is a bestfriend and mine barely even talks to me. Anyway, I think he really really REALLY likes you. If he's the class clown and he's funny he obvisously has lots of friends so him staying with you before ... (read in full...)

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