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| | *opeful Romantic's profile:I am in a great relationship with a guy who is good to me, successful, positive, supportive, and simply fun to be around. I try to make him happy and feel special in return.
Communication is the key to every relationship as everyone surely knows and we are pretty good at that. Every day is not perfect and little things get to me sometiems, I try to get over them.
Relationships are hard because we all want everything to be perfect and they're not. It seems so easy to just break up when one is mad when what we really need to do is sit back, think about it, calm down, and analyze the situation.
I only hope that I can help a couple of people with the lessons that I have learned. I love to give advice as well as receive it. Funny how I can be of help to others with their problems, but I in turn need advice from others to help me with my problems, so we are here to help each other out, which is why this site is so wonderful! |
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Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 19 November 2008: That is a great name!
Is she still living w/ you, has she made up w/ her parents & possibly moved in w/ her boyfriend instead?... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: Apology accepted. :)
I hope you have a great day and good luck to Room or Tenant. ... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: I agree that things are different according to being married or just living together. In the paragraph of examples that I gave, half of my examples were married people and the other half were single people - all with different living situations & ... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: Troubledtoomuch, you know, I did sound a bit bitter in my first entry. I suppose I was, but mostly toward the fact that he is asking her to pay rent when his house is paid off. The only way that would be acceptable in my opinion is if they were not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't wake me up to join him in bed at night, if I fell asleep somewhere else. I don't see why.
Q. I was just wondering what other peoples view on this is... When I go to bed at night, if my boyfriend has fallen asleep somewhere besides bed, I always wake him up to come join me in bed. Last night, I had kind of fallen asleeep on the couch. I...
A. 1 October 2008: DiovanLestat, you're right, he is a good one and I am lucky to have him. Thank you so much. :) ... (read in full...)
This ia about my daughter - which for me at the moment is causing me quite a bit of stress.
Q. My 22yr old daugher has recently returned home after splitting up with her boyfriend of seven years. with whom she lived with for a year. This has become quite a messy situation and I am doing all I can to support her. However, since coming back...
A. 1 October 2008: PS - I would expect her to help with cleaning the house. (just a last thought)... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: Wow, troubledtoomuch, I am sorry you think I am bitter. The suggestion I gave about what "older folks" say is what my father, grandfather, hair dresser, and many other older people in my family told me growing up. (it doesn't mean that they were ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 1 October 2008: I hope all goes well and/or went well. Remember - you never have to do anything a friend asks you to do, but if you really care for them and love them deeply as a friend, then you try to be there any time they need you. :)... (read in full...)
This ia about my daughter - which for me at the moment is causing me quite a bit of stress.
Q. My 22yr old daugher has recently returned home after splitting up with her boyfriend of seven years. with whom she lived with for a year. This has become quite a messy situation and I am doing all I can to support her. However, since coming back...
A. 1 October 2008: $60.00 is not too much to ask for, but I must be honest and tell you that I would be completely devastated if one of my parents asked me for rent money. I know you are only trying to teach her a lesson and ease your worry on her late nights, but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't wake me up to join him in bed at night, if I fell asleep somewhere else. I don't see why.
Q. I was just wondering what other peoples view on this is... When I go to bed at night, if my boyfriend has fallen asleep somewhere besides bed, I always wake him up to come join me in bed. Last night, I had kind of fallen asleeep on the couch. I...
A. 30 September 2008: Thank all of you who replied! I really do appreciate it as it is nice to read others view points.
Funny thing is, yesterday, my boyfriend actually told me, "You know, last night, I was just going to look and make sure there was nothing on the bed ... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 30 September 2008: He is using you. Older folks say that the man should pay for everything. If the man wants the woman living with them, then they pay the rent. I wish that were the case these days, but sadly, it's not.
So, it's okay for you to pay HALF of the bill... (read in full...)
What do I do? I've no idea how to flirt, and I've never felt like this in my whole life!
Q. Really think im losing the plot !!!!!Ive been married for over 20 years ,Last three years downhill but just grin and bare it .Ive never in 20 years been unfaithful ,Im not blowing my own trumpet but i am classed as attractive but im very low on ...
A. 27 September 2008: If your marriage is that bad, then try to be around the man you fancy as often as possible until the conversation gets brought up. If he doesn't bring it up by the 3rd or 4th time you're around him, you figure out a way to let him know how you feel ... (read in full...)
Does anybody have any creative ideas on how I should word this email to her?
Q. Hello, I got a girl's email (it's all she gave me) a while ago, and would like to ask her out, but I'm not sure how I can word it. I'd ask her out in person but I don't see her anymore, and email is the only way I have of reaching her. Does a...
A. 27 September 2008: Hey remember me? I'm so and so, you met me at such and such place. I wanted to call you, but all I have is your e-mail. I was wondering if you are available this Saturday to go to the state fair with me? I'll buy you all the cotton candy you want. ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 27 September 2008: If you are REALLY her friend, you would be there any time she asked you to be (as long as it isn't for anything illegal.)
Having a baby at a young age is a lot harder than having one at an older age. Your friend is going to face a lot of chal... (read in full...)
Once my husband and I are in a "social" environment, he gets so shy and lacks confidence! He can barely speak to anyone or relax... but wants to change!
Q. My husband is so painfully shy and lacks confidence! I do not know how to help him and he himself feels very frustrated and gets quite down about it. I have a social life and do try to include him in nights out with my friends etc. But when he comes ...
A. 26 September 2008: Re: Mr. Anonymous - you are right. She should not talk to or prepare her friends to talk to him, that would not be appropriate. I was wrong on that piece of advice I gave. Please forgive, but I do agree with everything else I said. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
The distance made us realise we miss each other, I told this to him but I'm not sure where I stand now, what he wants to happen between us and if he is willing to make it happen!
Q. I have known this guy for about 5 years we have always had a close bond we have seen each other have one bad relationship after the next and have always been there for each other to pick up the peices. sometimes this close friendship bond turns ...
A. 25 September 2008: Let him know that you didn't mean to freak him out, you just wanted to be honest and real. Tell him, "I am sorry if I have complicated things or confused you in any way, but I just had to tell you how I feel or else you would never know. I know that ... (read in full...)
Am I just being silly? Please put my mind at rest!
Q. Hiya, Me and a guy im seeing slept together for the first time yesterday and now for some reason im so worried and nervous. I'm on the pill so i really dont know why? And i've never forgotten any. Am i just being silly? Please someone put m...
A. 25 September 2008: Why are you so nervous? Did you use a condom? If you are on birth control, then I am sure you are fine. I used to get worried almost every time I had sex that I would be pregnant, but I haven't gotten pregnant yet.
To ease your worry for next enco... (read in full...)
Once my husband and I are in a "social" environment, he gets so shy and lacks confidence! He can barely speak to anyone or relax... but wants to change!
Q. My husband is so painfully shy and lacks confidence! I do not know how to help him and he himself feels very frustrated and gets quite down about it. I have a social life and do try to include him in nights out with my friends etc. But when he comes ...
A. 25 September 2008: I am not sure if I have your solution, but I will give you my story. First of all, what his sister did, is basically similar to what he needs to do. (question - does he open up more if he's intoxicated or does he drink at all?)
I grew up a very shy,... (read in full...)
I feel gross and trashy after my girlfriend told me how 'going down' on her is so disgusting!
Q. My girlfriend and I have oral sex. I know that she really enjoys it when I go down on her. This morning I wanted to arouse her so I started talking about eating her pussy. She went on and on about how disgusting eating pussy it. How it’s so gross...
A. 24 September 2008: Talk her into letting you try it one more time by telling her how much you love it & love doing it to her. Then make sure you wiggle your tongue very fast back and forth over her clit. Pull her lips apart and lick up and down on the inside of both ... (read in full...)
The condoms we have are for oral sex, can we use them for regular sex?
Q. I want to have sex with my boyfriend but the only condoms we have are for oral sex, is it possible to use them for normal sex or do we have to buy another type? ...
A. 24 September 2008: I didn't judge you. EVERYONE has questions as we grow older. It's okay if you are curious about something & don't know the exact answer. We are here to help you, I am sorry if you got offended. I am glad you posted the question & asked, you needed ... (read in full...)
I feel like being the "other man", what to do? Give her a reasonable time to leave her controlling boyfriend? (she said she would, but it has not happened yet)
Q. I met this girl some months back. Initially we were friends and spent lot of time together. Then, she slowly disclosed her problems with her controlling long distance boyfriend. I helped her out as much as possible, and in the process we fell in ...
A. 24 September 2008: Good, let us know! Stick to your guns, don't let her play you, it really isn't worth it. The only way you should consider even wanting her is if she were to leave the day after you talk to her to come back to you. ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel low and lack confidence about myself. How do I change myself?
Q. Well heres the thing, iv been with my boyfriend for a year now and he always seems to make me feel low and tells me that my friends don't like me. We split up a few weeks ago becuase he was finding problems about my personality and a week later he ...
A. 24 September 2008: I have a lot of questions - I am not sure how he thinks you treat others - what does he say about this?
I do not think that you need to change yourself. If you are rude to others, then just cut it out. Be nice... extra sweet. Smile when you meet... (read in full...)
I feel like being the "other man", what to do? Give her a reasonable time to leave her controlling boyfriend? (she said she would, but it has not happened yet)
Q. I met this girl some months back. Initially we were friends and spent lot of time together. Then, she slowly disclosed her problems with her controlling long distance boyfriend. I helped her out as much as possible, and in the process we fell in ...
A. 24 September 2008: Oh you sweet sweet man... you have got to move on and find another.
I say this because I was that girl once. I went to college in Florida & met a guy that was in all my classes. We became good friend, hung out almost every day, partied toge... (read in full...)
My friend got married recently but is hiding it from me. Why is he acting like this?
Q. A very good male friend of mine - I have never displayed or had a sexual interest for him (I am female)- got married 2 months ago and has not told me a word of it yet! When I asked him after I found out of his marriage - anything new in your life ? ...
A. 24 September 2008: I could be wrong, but it sounds to me as though he may have some sort of feelings for you, always has, but never knew how to tell you or discuss it w/ you & now that he is married, he just isn't comfortable letting you know because he gets those ... (read in full...)
I'm stressing about possibly being pregnant, even though we haven't had sex yet!
Q. Well here's the thing...me and my boyfriend know each other for 2 years and something but have been dating for almost 8 months now. Some days ago we talked about having sex for the first time but we haven't done it since im waiting for my period to ...
A. 24 September 2008: I do not think you are pregnant. The only way you could possibly be pregnant is if he were to cumb on the outside of your vagina, then there would be a very SLIM chance of you being pregnant, but just touching his & then touching yours, shouldn't ... (read in full...)
The condoms we have are for oral sex, can we use them for regular sex?
Q. I want to have sex with my boyfriend but the only condoms we have are for oral sex, is it possible to use them for normal sex or do we have to buy another type? ...
A. 24 September 2008: Honey, condoms are condoms. Make sure you use latex ones for real sex. ... (read in full...)
How does he feel? My friends think that he blows hot and cold because he doesn't know what I want, as I tell him I don't want a relationship..but I DO!!
Q. im really confused. ive been seeing this man from work for a while now. no-one at work knows about it as we decided ages ago we wanted to have a casual relatiohsip. But now im beginning to have feelings for me but im not sure how he feels. Some...
A. 24 September 2008: Then you need to tell him how you feel.... let him know that you are growing feelings toward him & ask him how he feels. Where do ya'll stand?
Maybe say, "I don't want to freak you out nor do I want to rush things, but he more I am around you, the ... (read in full...)
He comes from a rich family, I come from a poor one...
Q. My boyfriend and I come from very different backgrounds. He comes from the perfect family, they helped him buy his home, he is still on their insurance, he is supported in all he wants to do. I come from a very different background. I get no ...
A. 24 September 2008: If you like him, then yes! You should be trying to make this work! Fist of all, if your background is so different, then you should be with a guy who has things a little bit easier - it will make things easier for you. If you got w/ a guy who had a ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him in a way that won't end with us both hating each other? Is that even possible?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been drifting apart for nearly a month, and today I found out that he has been flirting with a girl who is actually a friend of mine. I know for a fact that he used to fancy this girl before going out with me, and today she ...
A. 23 September 2008: Say, "You know what, I think your life is trying to take you in a path seperate from me. I think there are things your heart desires that I cannot give you, so I think we should just be friends from now on. You have been good to me as I have been to ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and when I masturbate I never cum, why is this?
Q. hi, i know this is a stupid question but i am really starting to worry about it. im 14 and when i masturbate i never cum. i have never cummed before and dont ask how i know that my 12 yrs old brother has cummed but i just do. is there somet...
A. 23 September 2008: No there is nothing wrong w/ you, you just have to figure out how to do it the right way to make that happen for you. Just keep playing with yourself until it feels like your getting real hot, tense, and shaky & it should happen.
Also know that stim... (read in full...)
Do I risk our relationship and hurt his feelings or do I keep this to myself?
Q. I've been with my bf for a number of years and we are childhood sweethearts. we're at the stage where we're both ready to get engaged and i don't think it will be long before he asks me to marry him. all sounds good but..... about 2 years ago, whi...
A. 23 September 2008: Don't tell him.
The only way I would tell him is if he asked me if I was w/ someone else when we were seperated.
If ya'll were split up during the time, then that's that. Who knows he may have slept with soemone else as well - maybe he didn't..... (read in full...)
How I can explain to my girlfriend better that my porn watching does NOT mean I don't love her! I do!
Q. I recently found out that my girlfriend has a huge problem with me watching porn. I'm not addicted or anything, i only watch it maybe once a week.I tried to explain to her that its just a normal thing that guys do and it doesn't mean i love her or ...
A. 23 September 2008: When do you watch it? Do you watch it when she's around? How does she know you watch it? Is she against watching it with you? Would she consider having sex with a porn on?
See this confuses me because I am a female who does not have a problem with... (read in full...)
He came out of a bad marriage and told me from the get go that he is not able to commit, but I fell in love with him. Should I continue being with him?
Q. I have been dating this guy that I grew up with since April of this year. Things are going good or at leaast i feel they are. He came out of a bad marriage and told me from the get go that he is not able to commit. We spend our free time together ...
A. 23 September 2008: First of all, it is normal for a man to say he doesn't want a committment after a bad marriage - I think almost everyone says that... break up/divorce = "I'm never getting married again." (ya know?) If what you want is not what he wants, then I a... (read in full...)
Everytime he looks at me, my thoughts turn to mush! What do I do next?
Q. Ok. So there is this guy, called *Rob. We were introduced through a good friend of ours. This is in January. Anyway, we didn't really get the chance to talk or anything until a month later on msn. Soon, these conversations came every other day, and ...
A. 19 September 2008: I agree with cupid guy... the guy you feel you have fallen for is a PLAYER!!! As I was reading your entry, all I could think about was PLAYER PLAYER PLAYER!!! I've known too many of them and I've been friends with too many guys to not recognize it! ... (read in full...)
Her dream could affect her answer
Q. ummm i like this one girl and i always hang out with her after school and well everytime that i'm near her it kills me that i can't tell her how i feel because well i dont know how she would respond to it since her dream is to go to Japan one day ...
A. 19 September 2008: It's been almost a year, did you ever tell her how you feel? I hope so. :) ... (read in full...)
Doesn't my boyfriend care that I don't have an orgasm?
Q. I've never had orgasm during intercourse, but previous boyfriends were always bothered, and tried harder to make me come, but my current boyfriend seems doesn't really care. We've been together for a month, and we've never really talked about sex ...
A. 19 September 2008: I think you should just say while laying in bed kissing, whisper, "Go down on me."
I would also like to mention how lucky you are that you can orgasm when given oral b/c I cannot, only through intercourse. That just goes to show how different we a... (read in full...)
He said sorry if he crossed any lines...what should I say??
Q. There is a guy who likes me a lot and wants to marry me...we haven't met each other for lst few years and recently we met for the first time in my house,we had casual talks and then for the second time again at my home but just 2 of us were there. ...
A. 19 September 2008: Maybe say... "No worries & no limits crossed - I just don't want to rush things."
AND maybe throw in "I like you" at the end, but that's up to you.
You may also want to ask at the end of the text you send, "When can I see you again?" OR "When do... (read in full...)
Can anybody help blackheads go away??
Q. I get really bad black heads on my chest in between my boobs how can i make them go away?? there really noticeable plz help !!! ta xx...
A. 19 September 2008: I am not sure what your financial situation is, but you should go see a dermatologist.
Or ask your doctor or dermatologist to prescribe you Differin Gel - there is a generic if you don't have insurance which will be cheaper.
I have been using Di... (read in full...)
Her parents think we are kissing too soon....are we??
Q. I have not told my gf that I love her yet but I did tell her that I wanted to kiss her even though we kissed one time but she thought it was too soon. I told her I wanted to kiss her at homecoming and she said "Yeah i really wanted to kiss you too, ...
A. 19 September 2008: Wait until the two of you are alone, lean over & gently kiss her.
If she asks you why you did that afterwards & reminds you that her parents don't want that happening, then tell her that you just had too, you couldn't wait any longer & if you love... (read in full...)
I feel my life is going nowhere, for as long as we're at his dad's!
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for a little over a year and then we moved out and moved into his dads house to try and save money to buy a house. Well, times got tough and we haven't been able to really save any money because his business was not gene...
A. 19 September 2008: PS - BTW, I agree w/ the anonymous writer - I also do not think that parents should depend on or ask their children for money. When I was a kid I used to always joke around & tell my parents that when I become a millionair I will give them a big ... (read in full...)
I feel my life is going nowhere, for as long as we're at his dad's!
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for a little over a year and then we moved out and moved into his dads house to try and save money to buy a house. Well, times got tough and we haven't been able to really save any money because his business was not gene...
A. 18 September 2008: Thank all of you who gave advice on my current situation.
Last night I had a talk with my boyfriend and his dad after they had sat down together and went over numbers... his dad has decided to sell the house and wants no money from his son. I will... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys getting period blood over him, is this normal?!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both 16. Weve been going out for seven months and we both lost our virginty to each other around 4 months ago. I was just wondering if this is normal that my boyfriend likes to finger me whilst im on my period ( i only ever...
A. 17 September 2008: A lot of guys out there either like it or don't care (I am speaking of people I know of course). Most of my boyfriends in the past didn't mind, but my boyfriend now, would prefer for me not to be on it - or if I am on it, he doesn't want it to be ... (read in full...)
I am feeling like a FOOL!
Q. A long distance relationship for the past 8 months; how foolish! I believed and hoped; yes, I wanted to believe that all will be well and that he will come to visit as promised and arranged for the last month. However, like so many times the ...
A. 17 September 2008: Hey girl - I hope you are feeling better by now, for it has been some time. As much as I would like to think that long distant relationships work, I do not think they do. I was in one from 12 years old till 20 with the agreement of dating other ... (read in full...)
Do you think this is just my imagination or do you think he's attracted to me?
Q. Hi, my friend introduced me to a friend of hers called Tom and he's quite a lot older than me. i put out my hand for him to shake and he gently shook my hand and didn't stop looking me in the eyes. he held on to my hand whilst i talked to him and ...
A. 17 September 2008: It definately sounds like he is attracted to you, no question.
But, I would try to stay away if I were you because he does have a girlfriend and if he leaves her for you, he might end up leaving you for someone else... I hear these stories all the ... (read in full...)
Doesn't my boyfriend care that I don't have an orgasm?
Q. I've never had orgasm during intercourse, but previous boyfriends were always bothered, and tried harder to make me come, but my current boyfriend seems doesn't really care. We've been together for a month, and we've never really talked about sex ...
A. 17 September 2008: In my opinion, he either hasn't noticed, or thinks that you do have them. If he has noticed that you're not having them, he is probably just embarassed to ask why. But, I have a feeling that he doesn't even know you're not having one - maybe he has ... (read in full...)
I feel my life is going nowhere, for as long as we're at his dad's!
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for a little over a year and then we moved out and moved into his dads house to try and save money to buy a house. Well, times got tough and we haven't been able to really save any money because his business was not gene...
A. 17 September 2008: A better way to ask the question I am trying to get answered is... if you're a guy, with a girl for two+ years, what would you say to her if she told you she didn't want you to give your favorite family member money to help them out? ... (read in full...)
I feel my life is going nowhere, for as long as we're at his dad's!
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for a little over a year and then we moved out and moved into his dads house to try and save money to buy a house. Well, times got tough and we haven't been able to really save any money because his business was not gene...
A. 17 September 2008: It sounds so easy to get out until I really think about it. I am living in a city where I do not get paid enough to have my own place in a decent neighborhood. If I did get my own place, I could only afford somewhere in the ghetto where it would be ... (read in full...)
Her dream could affect her answer
Q. ummm i like this one girl and i always hang out with her after school and well everytime that i'm near her it kills me that i can't tell her how i feel because well i dont know how she would respond to it since her dream is to go to Japan one day ...
A. 8 November 2007: Consider the fact that maybe she wants to go there because she doesn't have anyone to love her where she is now ... or so she may think.
If you don't tell her, she will never know and you will never know if you could have had that kind of chan... (read in full...)
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