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How do I stop my brother from being so abusive towards me?

Q.   my brother is abusive to me and has been for many years. He is 2 years younger than me and basically picks on me, for example he flicks water at me, hits me,pokes me, does anything which he knows will annoy me! He calls me names, says i have no ...

A.   17 July 2007: I have a similar situation as you! Your not alone! I feel your pain! In fact I have a sister that hits me, yells at me, spits at me, calls me names, upsets me, makes me cry, and etc. She is just plain mean and not the nicest person to talk to/be ... (read in full...)

My vagina hurts, what's wrong?

Q.   well my question is...... I been having this feeling on my vagina for about two weeks....... it feels like something is hurting me inside.... it hurts when I sit down and when I laid down also when I'm walking.... is a feeling like I have crap...

A.   14 July 2007: You should go to the gynecologist or your doctor to check this out quickly. I could see this has been bothering you for quite sometime. There is probably something inside your vagina. Have you told your parents? Please get this check out!!! If you ... (read in full...)

I'm suffering post-natal depression and afraid I'm going to lose my loved ones because of my moods

Q.   Hi, well i'm not too sure where to start.... Last time i wrote i was pregnant now i have a beautiful little boy... Problem!!! I feel like no one understands me. i have been told i suffer from post natal depression, ok so i have support and everyone ...

A.   8 July 2007: If you are afraid that you are going to lose your loved ones because of your moods. You should stop snapping at your husband, be nicer, and change your attitude. That should shape things up. Goodluck!... (read in full...)

What's the quickest way to lose weight?

Q.   I have watched so many videos and seen so many pictures of skinny people that makes me want to lose weight I'm a size 12 and want to know the quickest way of losing weight; I saw a size 0 and want to go to a size 6. I'm only small so fat doesn't ...

A.   8 July 2007: I feel the same way as you! When I see music videos, movies, magazines, and etc. It makes me want to lose wieght and be more attractive. I see all of those pretty women. The best wieght loss technique is running and eating less. For example, drink ... (read in full...)

Why does my friend always go after the boys I like?

Q.   I have this friend and she goes after any boy I like it's not fair, I was going out with a boy and all of a sudden she liked him and now I like a different boy and he likes me but she likes him too and I think he likes her more because they're ...

A.   5 July 2007: Tell her how you feel. Ask her, "why are you acting like this and doing this?" She probably just wants attention or maybe she has a similar interest to what you like. If she always acts like this, then she is not your friend. A friend should not be ... (read in full...)

I have some sex questions

Q.   er this is kinda an embaressing question. but everytime i have sex i make a noise down below like a fart noise its really embaressing. also i been sleeping with my boyfriend for 5 months and i still havent come. and i also have a really stron...

A.   5 July 2007: You should go see a doctor about this. He/she may prescibe you with medication.(creams,pills) You may have an infection down there. Does it itch? To the noise that comes out of your below, you should tell your gyne about it. Goodluck!... (read in full...)

I am feeling shut out from my daughter because of the boy she is dating

Q.   I am a married woman with a 20 year old daughter. In the past few months she has been seeing a boy who we have not met and they have become very close. He is also 20 and is her first boyfriend and I have just found out that their relationship has ...

A.   5 July 2007: Tell her how you feel. See what she says.... (read in full...)

I acted very jealous one night when we were out and now she's being a bit cold towards me, how do I deal with this?

Q.   On a night out with girlfriend and friends I got very drunk and acted very jealously. I appologised the next day to my girlfriend but have found her being a little cold to me since. I find myself now over accommodating for the shakiness in our ...

A.   5 July 2007: You should apologized to your girlfriend again and tell her why you acted like this. Talk to her thoroughly. See what she says.... (read in full...)

I suffer extreme jealousy

Q.   I have a serious jealousy problem. I cannot control it. There's this guy that my girlfriend is friends with; I don't even know the kid, I've never met him, and I hate his guts. I don't know why but whenever even his name comes up in a conversa...

A.   5 July 2007: I could see here that you are very angry. You could tell how you feel to your girlfriend, and see what she says. Or you could write all of your anger down in a journal. It works for me! It makes me feel a lot better! Goodluck!... (read in full...)

Should I tell the guy I just slept with I have genital warts?

Q.   i was treated for genital warts a few months ago and i recently slept with my ex should i tell him as i think they are comin back...

A.   3 July 2007: Of course please tell him! He needs to know!... (read in full...)

Gonna dress up in heels and fishnets and show up at his door

Q.   Just had a relationship breakup. Thinking of showing up at his place in heels and fishnet tights and showing him a side he never saw. Sex between us was almost nonexistent and now I just want to dominate him in a sexual way. He has never seen this ...

A.   3 July 2007: Chances are you probably are going to have sex with him again. After its all done he wouldn't care anymore.... (read in full...)

Can a person find love if they suffer from anxiety and depression?

Q.   Can a person find love if they suffer from anxiety and depression? Hi, I am a 25 year old male who suffers with anxiety and depression. My main goal in life is to sort out all the problems I have and get my life back on track. Because I have ...

A.   2 July 2007: You are not alone in this situation. I know how you feel. I had the same case as you. At school I was bullied too. From elementary all the way up to highschool. People would laugh at me for no reason, talk behind my back, criticize me, and just made ... (read in full...)

I'm nervous about whatpeople at school will think about me and my new bf. Help!

Q.   ive been going out with this guy for 2 weeks (but ive been on holiday for the 2 weeks) and i saw him last night when i got back. he's a shy guy and he was really uncomfortable so he wasnt very touchy feely but we talked and it became more ...

A.   1 July 2007: It doesn't matter what they think about you. Who cares? Just ignore them! those are the type of people who are jealous, insecure, and wants to stir up trouble and drama. Just let all of the criticism and bad judgements bounce out of you, and just ... (read in full...)

Can anyone suggest fixes for acne?

Q.   My sister is 15 years old and has acne breakouts. I was wondering if anyone has any at home remedies or advise on clearing it. She is always embarrassed about it and she also has the marks the acne leaves. I would like to find out a few things just ...

A.   14 June 2007: I had the same case of acne as your sister. Yes I did feel very embarrassed, about the pimples, big cysts, and etc on my face. This is what I did, I went to go see a dermatologist and he gave me these pills called Erythromycin. These pills are ... (read in full...)

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