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Im Hennessy1989, I'm 23 and from England, I Hope my advice helps, some people won't like my comments because they are straight to the point, no messing around, my opinions are honest, I've been in a relationship now for 3 years with ups and downs, so have a bit of life experience, open to questions

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I want to have sex with my married ex

Q.   My ex-girlfriend has come back into my life after a four year absence. After she broke off our engagement she had a baby with another man, who she broke up with afterwards. She is now married and has a second child. I have gotten over the ...

A.   21 October 2012: I have to agree with auntyem, this woman just plays men, your just one of her toys, and your just sticking around hoping to get another chance to play. It's pretty desperate. If you really can't keep away then tell her what you want and get it over ... (read in full...)

Is what I do a fetish? Or am I am exhibitionist? My wife says people stare at me in public when I do this

Q.   Am I wierd, I dont like to wear underware sometimes and when I go camando in shorts my package sometimes is noticeable. My wife says people keep staring but I dont see them I think she is just worried my junk will spill out at the wrong time. I ...

A.   21 October 2012: A lot of men like a bit of freedom down there, but if it's clearly visible to people then maybe you should wear slightly longer shorts? Think, it's not just women that might notice, it's men and kids too. That's not cool, just wear slightly longer ... (read in full...)

Why will not one tell me why he needs time alone? Is this about me refusing the naked picture of me? He says it's not about me. He's 19 and my parents don't know about him.

Q.   I'm 15 and my bf is a 4 yrs older than me. My parents don't know anything abt him. We didn't talk abt sexual things for a long time after we started this. But one day he asked me why won't you talk about such things with me. Then we started to t...

A.   20 October 2012: I agree with the other posters, your lucky to get out of this and away from this sex pest ... (read in full...)

Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.

Q.   This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...

A.   20 October 2012: You are definitely a cheat, what you did Is equally as bad, so what If you didn't kiss or have sex, you still had another Man's penis in your mouth, if I was your boyfriend I would dump you in an instant, although he's crazy in the first place for ... (read in full...)

Should I offer myself to this guy for two months before I move abroad? I don't want to look like an idiot'

Q.   Dear Cupid, I want to make a deal with this guy but I am not sure if it is normal to do so or how to get by doing the deal without looking like an idiot or making a fool out of my self. I am moving out of the country end of this year as I ju...

A.   19 October 2012: Why complicate your move by gettin involved with someone for just 2 months, you clearly have feelings for him already, and If you add sexual relations to this you could find it very hard to leave him, it's not worth the hassle ... (read in full...)

21 and never been on a date. I'm worried I never will be!

Q.   I am 21, I have never been on a date with a girl, never kissed a girl. My generalattitiude is "I can't do it, I am never going to find somene, so why bother anymore?" I know I am "attractive" I work out alot and my girl friends (notice the ...

A.   18 October 2012: I don't think you should ask any of your female friends out. If they already see you as a friend then you have no chance, go out to bars or party's, meet girls there, get chatting to them for a bit. When you find one you like just casually ask her ... (read in full...)

I get on really well with my boss. Why doesn't he make a move? Should I make the move?

Q.   I get on with my boss ridiculously well, we are completely on the same wavelength, both in our twenties and both single. For around 6 months we have been flirty in work (I usually only work with him on a weekend) and he often remarks that he think...

A.   17 October 2012: He probably does have genuine feelings for you, but he knows how many problems a relationship with a worker could cause. It would put both your positions in jeopardy. People might accuse him of treating u better, u could break up and still have to ... (read in full...)

21 and never been on a date. I'm worried I never will be!

Q.   I am 21, I have never been on a date with a girl, never kissed a girl. My generalattitiude is "I can't do it, I am never going to find somene, so why bother anymore?" I know I am "attractive" I work out alot and my girl friends (notice the ...

A.   17 October 2012: You have to be more pro-active, you sound like you have the looks and you have plenty of female friends, your problem is that your not making any moves, take the first step, let the girl no that you don't just want to be friends, ask a girl out, ... (read in full...)

Did I make a mistake by not kissing her on the first date

Q.   I have been on a few first dates before. I have never kissed a girl or tried to make a move on her on a first date. One, I dont feel comfortable to try and to, I would want to show her im not trying to just get with her and that I want to get to ...

A.   17 October 2012: Take her out for a movie and then when you walk her home make sure u kiss her, she is probably wondering why you didn't last time, if u don't kiss her on the 2nd date she will think your too nice or your not interested, don't slip into the friend ... (read in full...)

Is ALMOST cheating, cheating?

Q.   Hello, I'm in a very confusing dilemma with my boyfriend at the moment, and I'm afraid to talk to my friends about it because if we do stay together, I don't want them to think badly of him. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relations...

A.   15 October 2012: I would say its just as bad, If you want to make a go of this relationship then you need to talk to him about it, just because of the way he was acting in the emails doesn't mean 100% he would of cheated, but it's still wrong What he did, 1 things ... (read in full...)

My past has affected me and subsequently my troubled relationships led to me turning to porn. Can I have a normal sex life?

Q.   I am porn-damaged and I need help. Modnote: this paragraph was reduced to a precis, due to the graphic images therein: The background is that I have had a very troubled life where things have happened that were NOT my fault and for which I was ...

A.   15 October 2012: It's hard to give you advice on this one because I have not been through what you have, my advice normally is that if you want something enough you can have it, you can take control of your life and the direction your going in. But in your situation ... (read in full...)

Girls say I'm nice. So why am I still single? Am I missing something they are trying to tell me?

Q.   I have been talking to all the girls in my class who all happen to have significant others and they all call me the nicest guy they have ever met Some of the girls say that any girl would be lucky to have me and that I'm too good for just any girl...

A.   15 October 2012: The truth is that your being too nice and getting yourself in the friend zone, once your in there your never getting out, it's not that nice guys finish last, it's that you need to state your intentions earlier, of u like a girl make sure she knows ... (read in full...)

A guy randomly called me beautiful! Does he like me?

Q.   I went to the store today and a guy who works at the store just randomly came up to me and told me I am so beautiful. We chatted a little and then I left. I was surprised because guys barely hit on me and I have never had a boyfriend, been asked ou...

A.   13 October 2012: He does like you, and he was bold enough to come straight out and tell you, there's probably a lot of other guys that think this too but just aren't as bold as him ... (read in full...)

Can someone please tell me what 'treating a girl like a Princess' is all about?

Q.   what is all the stuff about boyfrinds treating their girlfriends like a princess about Sorry I am clueless about this. How is this done? What do I do? why is it required?...

A.   13 October 2012: Treating someone like a princess is just a saying. In my experience what a girl really needs is love and respect in a relationship, going all out to shower someone with gifts is not the way forward... (read in full...)

Boyfriend really hurts me during sex

Q.   My boyfriend hurts me when we have sex. I'm a small built girl and quite skinny and he's a whole lot heavier than me. He lies down ontop of me and puts all his weight on me. He grinds his chest into my boobs and literally drags my nipples down my ...

A.   12 October 2012: This guy is treating you like a rag doll, dump him and find someone who respects u in and out of the bedroom, he doesn't care a single bit about you, and this will only get worse if u stay with him ... (read in full...)

Found a 'sext' on my wife's phone

Q.   My wife and I have a wonderful relationship...but I do work a lot and she wishes she had more attention. Anyway a friend of mine recently friend requested her on facebook and I guess began chatting with her. I came home the other night and wa...

A.   12 October 2012: First off I think it's amazing that you can remain so calm about this, your wife is obviously starved of the attention she craves, so maybe you do need to step up your game, I'd definitely confront her though, would she be so calm if you were ... (read in full...)

I'm gay and my boyfriend wants to have sex but I'm scared that he will hurt me

Q.   Ok s first of all im gay. My boyfriend of a month really wants to have sex. But im scared to because im the bottom and his penis is very large and hes really rough whenever we have fooled around before. What should i do because i honestly think i ...

A.   12 October 2012: Your clearly being pressured into this, if your not ready then don't do it, you've only been with him a month, your young, too young but don't do this just because he wants it, only do it if your comfortable ... (read in full...)

Are my fantasies bordering on mental illness?

Q.   I'm kind of worried I've warped my mind through excessive pornography use over the last few years, and through meeting some people in the sex industry, and I'm looking for some advice on what to do next, as my eyes are opening to the extent of the ...

A.   12 October 2012: First off you need to take control of your life, of you don't want these things don't do them, the fact that you tried to stay away from these things proves you want a change, if you want to be in a respectable relationship then stop going to ... (read in full...)

We have no sex life and yet he paid for a lap dancer!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, from the ages of 18 to 20 and have never really had a normal sex life. He's pretty much a great guy besides this, we live together now because we wanted to take things to the next step, always ...

A.   11 October 2012: Two wrongs don't make a right, so ignore anyone who tells you to do the same back, it won't make you happy and is childish, you need to seriously consider whether this guy is right for you, sex isn't everything but it is important, if it was just a ... (read in full...)

I fantasise about ugly old men! Is this normal?

Q.   I'm a 31 year old female in a relationship with a man a couple of years younger than me. But, by far one of my most potent sexual fantasies involves far older men, usually 60+, having sex with me or other women in their 20s or 30s. Usually the ...

A.   10 October 2012: If its what does it for you then don't worry, it's not bad or illegal, so carry on fantasising ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend enjoys a sexual act that causes me a lot of pain, I ask him not to but he threatens and does it anyway.

Q.   I have a boyfriend who is really into a certain sexual act. I wont divulge too much because of the ages of some on this site. That being said, due to his size, this act is extremely painful and I don't like it. The problem is, he does like it, re...

A.   17 September 2012: If he threatens you with anything sexual then that is abuse, when you say leaving is not an option then your obviously in a more complicated situation than you have explained, without more details it is hard to give more help than the 'just leave ... (read in full...)

He is a complete jerk! Isn't he?

Q.   I met this guy at a club. He had dinner and we went his place but I refused to have sex. Two days later he invited me to come to his bro'bday party. I went there but we didn't had sex. then he invited me to come over his place to watch mov...

A.   12 September 2012: He wants sex from you, nothing else, your expecting too much from him, look elsewhere if casual sex is not what your after... (read in full...)

Should I be scared about talking to random guys in a bar? Recent events have scared me

Q.   Hi, I was in a very strange situation tonight. I was just out for some leaving dinner and drinks for a friend who is emigrating.. There was a few of us, we went to a bar after dinner, i got talking 'having banter' with a guy at the bar, and late...

A.   8 September 2012: None of this was your fault, unfortunately there are a lot of idiots out there, on this occasion you got caught up in it, don't let it affect you too much, make sure your with a group of friends when you go out so you feel safer ... (read in full...)

Guy at a bar leant in for a kiss and got my lips before I could turn away, do I tell my boyfriend about this?

Q.   Hi everybody, just a quick question! I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I love him so much, I went away for a night out with my girls Saturday night and a few men were chatting me up I think I must of said "sorry, I've got a bo...

A.   4 September 2012: I personally wouldn't mention it, unless there is a chance that your boyfriend will find out from someone else then it's not worth bringing up, if it's really an issue then tell him, but you have done nothing wrong and telling him will probably ... (read in full...)

How much of a deal breaker is penis size?

Q.   I've seen a lot of penis anxiety threads based around "reassure me, is insert size normal?" but I'm going to come at it from another (still similar) angle. I'm 23, relatively slim although my guts bigger than it's ever been (people still ac...

A.   4 September 2012: I think your putting way too much thought into this dude, I see so many questions about this on here, the only people really bothered about it seem to be the men, how many girls do you see writing in complaining about cock size? I haven't seen any ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend can't get off from blow jobs

Q.   My boyfriend says that he can't come from blowjobs. Is this true of some guys or am i just doing it wrong? Tips?!...

A.   4 September 2012: As a guy I agree with the two previous comments... (read in full...)

18 year old living with us is too friendly. Do I tell her brother?

Q.   Hey everyone, I'm in a living with my boyfriend for the past 4 years now,and everything was going great,he has a good job so do I..but now the problem has arised cuz of a third person which unfortunately I brought into the picture.. My best guy fr...

A.   2 September 2012: Your not over reacting, i would of booted her out already ... (read in full...)

I feel like my love for him died.

Q.   I had a pregnancy scare a few days ago, I told my bf and I took a test, it came out positive. But, just to be sure I made an appointment for another test. At first, my bf seemed supportive and soothed my nerves. On our way to the appointment though, ...

A.   2 September 2012: From a guys point of view I don't think you are over reacting, he was obviously panicking and took it all out on you, he was wrong, and after 3 years he should have a bit more respect for you, and him being that much older he should be a bit more ... (read in full...)

I just started college but have no idea what type of job I want. Any suggestions?

Q.   i started college last week and i really like it, i just have no idea what kind of job i would want, i want to do something that i would enjoy ,that would make me a lot of money and doesnt require that much school,i like to work with people and i ...

A.   2 September 2012: Write down a list of all the careers/jobs that would interest you, right down the pros and cons of each one, if you want a high paid job the it is likely you will have to study alot... (read in full...)

I told him to get his hands off me! What is he trying to do? He's the Bf of a family member

Q.   Um I have been single for nine years now for many reasons but now I want to change and start the dating thing again. I was visiting one of my family members and it's this guy who lives there it's her boyfriend. We were all laughing and talking they...

A.   2 September 2012: To be honest I think he was just making a joke, I think your reading to much into it ... (read in full...)

How does a cock ring feel for a man?

Q.   I read a question on here about a cock ring earlier. I have never tried one with anyone before but have heard about it. For some reason seeing the post made me very interested in trying one or trying other toys. I like trying different things i...

A.   1 September 2012: It was rubbish for me and I Got no pleasure from it at all, but all people are different, try it, try everything, u may like it... (read in full...)

2 months away from our wedding and revelations about his past have hurt me. Should I still be getting married?

Q.   It is two months before my wedding and I my fiance told me he's been with "like 6 other girls" before me. I had thought there were two which was hard enough because I waited for him. We've been having a hard time sexually and I feel angry an ...

A.   30 August 2012: Just remember that he is with you now, not anyone else, not anyone from his past, he's marrying you so take that as 'your better' than the others, have a bit more confidence in yourself, what he's done in the past is his business. And has nothing to ... (read in full...)

I need advice on how to kiss

Q.   I've been going out with this girl for a while and I am ready to kiss her. But the thing is I don't know what to do with my lips. I already have the perfect idea for it but I don't know how to do it. How do I do it? Please help me it's going to be ...

A.   29 August 2012: Don't panic man these things come naturally, don't go tongue crazy first time though ... (read in full...)

I crave dominance, I'm naturally submissive and want to explore the BDSM scene

Q.   Hi, I'm 18 years old and have been in a relationship for just under a year and a half. I love my boyfriend, and we've been through a lot as a couple - I've suffered from bulimia and self harm, and we've also had to deal with a lot of issues ...

A.   28 August 2012: I don't see the problem here really, just ask him, how do you no he won't be interested? All you guys have to do is talk about it, you've already done a bit so maybe he's willing to go further ... (read in full...)

If he doesn't want me to express my feelings to him on Facebook, is that a bad sign?

Q.   I broke up with my ex fiance because he has anger problem,he cuss on mevery much when we dispute and he get overly jealous over stupid things. We back together few days ago and he start going to a therapist because he know he has a problem. Last ...

A.   17 August 2012: I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and I move her, I hate when she writes it on my facebook, I told her not to do it anymore, a relationship should be between 2 people, not the whole world... (read in full...)

Trust? Betrayal? My Girlfriend cheated and got pregnant so now what?

Q.   my GF cheated and got pregnant and the father of the baby died. now shes begging me not to break up with her.and wants me to help her with the baby... i feel like im just being used should i kick her to the curb help her out or what... and im...

A.   17 August 2012: She brought all this on herself, why should you suffer anymore than you already have for her mistakes? Don't sacrifice your future for someone who will open their legs for a 'career boost' ... (read in full...)

How do I date when I go out expecting the worst? Girls have hurt me in the past and laughed behind my back about my penis size.

Q.   I am 23 years old so I know it wont grow anymore. I am so embarrassed to have sex or even to show myself to a girl when the time comes. I have 4 inch long and 4.5 inch girth penis when erect. I am afraid girls might laugh at me during or afterwards. ...

A.   17 August 2012: Don't prepare for the worst, have a bit more confidence in yourself, girls love confidence, girls care alot more about what kind of person you are than your penis size ... (read in full...)

He's 14 and I'm 15 and we are cousins. Is it wrong to have these feelings? Should we have sex and what are the consequences?

Q.   Im a 15 year old female, and my cousin is a 14 year old male. We've always messed around, like flirted. We have like dry humped, had oral sex, basically everything but real sex. We have a cottage, and we're always at each others houses. We went...

A.   17 August 2012: You shouldn't have sex with a relative, by the sounds of things you've gone too far already, and whether we all tell you to stop its gonna happen anyway, you will have sex and decide you want to be together, but in the process you will break the ... (read in full...)

Why does he need a pin on his iPhone and why is it such a secret? What are your thoughts?

Q.   Hi im just wondering what everybodys view are on their Partners phones? my bf and I have had a few up and downs over the last two years but recently there has been an issue since he got his iphone. Basically he has a pin block on it, which he say...

A.   16 August 2012: It's his phone, it's his private property, end of story... (read in full...)

Does her sexual past matter? Would I prefer this new friend over my GF just because of my Gf's sexual past?

Q.   I have never been the jealous type and I am not sure I would define what I feel as jealousy. My new girlfriend sexual past is really affecting me. I have had quite a few girlfriends in my life and never felt anything like this before. Not even c...

A.   14 August 2012: You are being a fool, u say you love this girl, why the hell should her past matter, let me tell you something, when we are young we make mistakes, we get peer pressured, we try and fit in, as we get older we mature and we look back and sometimes ... (read in full...)

How can I make going down on my boyfriend more comfortable for myself and him?

Q.   Im 18 years old and my boyfriend likes when I give him a blowjob. But he's too wide to fit in my mouth. He keeps trying to push me down farther but everytime I try my teeth hits him and I choke. So what can I do to make the situation more ...

A.   14 August 2012: If he knows you can't fit it all in then why is he still pushing your head down, blowjobs are great but you don't need force the whole thing down someone's throat to enjoy it, he's treatin u like a sex toy ... (read in full...)

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