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| | Helpful Stranger's profile:Well, I don't really have much to say, except from the fact that I love to help others - I always have, and I can't imagine myself ever feeling the need not to!
Even though I'm only at the young age of 14, I feel as if I've already lived through a lot (I didn't have a "normal" Childhood), and have observed people and their behaviour from a young age, making me feel more insightful than most people of my age group.
I hope to become a Psychologist at an older age, and this website gives me more experience of the events to come (not just career wise).
Believe it or not, not only do I learn from other people's answers, but I also learn from the questions asked, so I find it an honour to read and answer them :^)
I've never actually asked a question on this website, but I have asked several users for advice, and all have been very helpful. So, for that, I thank you all :^D
Please feel free to mail me with any questions, or just to talk :^)
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Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 12 October 2008: Woah, we so should do this! Maybe in 3 and a half year's time when I'd actually be allowed to, though? :D... (read in full...)
Why are vegetarians so selfish?
Q. My partner and I invited some friends to dinner about 6 months ago. They are vegetarians so we did some special shopping at the supermarket and provided a menu suitable for their lifestyle - soya mince, nuts, mushrooms etc. and they thoroughly ...
A. 2 October 2008: "Some time ago I was detailed as cook at a Girl Guide camp. Spag bol (with beef mince) was on the menu. One of the girls was a vegan and several were veggies. Theye wanted to know what special meal had been cooked for them so we told them it was ... (read in full...)
Why are vegetarians so selfish?
Q. My partner and I invited some friends to dinner about 6 months ago. They are vegetarians so we did some special shopping at the supermarket and provided a menu suitable for their lifestyle - soya mince, nuts, mushrooms etc. and they thoroughly ...
A. 1 October 2008: I suppose that it does depend on different people's beliefs.
As I mentioned in my last post, I am a Vegetarian; however, everyone else in my family (with the exception of my Dad) are meat-eaters. Yes, I would prefer it if they didn't eat it, ... (read in full...)
Why are vegetarians so selfish?
Q. My partner and I invited some friends to dinner about 6 months ago. They are vegetarians so we did some special shopping at the supermarket and provided a menu suitable for their lifestyle - soya mince, nuts, mushrooms etc. and they thoroughly ...
A. 1 October 2008: Actually, BigSis, I happen to be a Vegetarian that chooses not to wear or purchase products made of leather. And I'm sure, after reading your post, that you would be surprised to know how many Vegans and Vegetarians choose not to promote such ... (read in full...)
I've started having feelings for him - should I tell him?
Q. well my mum has this bf and they are always and are on and off in there relationship but have been like that for 8 years and her bf has a son who ive started having feelings for he dosnt no this yet should i tell him he is my age and is not really ...
A. 18 September 2008: Are you the same person that left a post earlier, about loving someone who's going out with your best friend? Just curious =/ Beckie x... (read in full...)
I'm in a long distance open relationship but am so hurt he is with somebody else too....does he love me??
Q. So, me and this guy have been in a sort of relationship for about 4 months. Anyways we had decided on an open relationship because its a long distance thing. So he had always texted me called me and we kept things great! He called me his angel an...
A. 18 September 2008: Pfft... boys! They are pro's at leading us girls on, completely twisting our minds, and then letting us fall. They make me really confused, to be honest, and I have spent many a night, staring up at my ceiling, trying to figure out how and why the ... (read in full...)
It'll never happen - I just wanna be his friend
Q. hi there. erm ok this is guna sound really weird but i shall do my best to explain it. i have a rather large crush on tom daley. he is the same age as me and everything. but i know it aint guna happen in like a million years. but why does it affe...
A. 26 August 2008: Omg, so do I!
Hmmm... well, the best way to make friends with him is if you actually know him. Do you know him?
And if so, then just talk to him as if he was an average Joe at you school :)
xoxo ... (read in full...)
What do women find attractive in a man???
Q. What do women find atractive in a man? I want your opinion, thanks to those of you who answer, its well appreciated....
A. 16 August 2008: I look for beautiful eyes, sense of fashion, and sense of humour (in that order) :) Beckie x... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I'm just 13?
Q. ok im 13 and i want to have sex. i have a boyfriend, and we have been dating for about 4 months and i think i am ready he is 14 and is a freshman in high school i am still in middle school (8th grade). but my main question is, should i even though i...
A. 16 August 2008: I agree with Diovan Lestat. We gave you advice, and you quite blatantly ignored every last piece of it. The majority of Aunts and Uncles warned you that if you were to have sex, then contraception was of paramount importance. You ignored ... (read in full...)
I warned him that if he doesn't start wising up it will be over... what now?
Q. My boyfriend (whos a few years older then me) is wants go all the way with me but I'm not ready. He been putting a lot of stesse on me. Like the other day were in his car after a date and he was all over me. I didn't like it. Push him off then got ...
A. 14 August 2008: Well done for showing him how you feel, and not just going along with what he feels :)
If you have already spoken to him, telling him how you feel about the situation, and he is still wanting to take advantage of you, then I'm afraid that it may b... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I'm just 13?
Q. ok im 13 and i want to have sex. i have a boyfriend, and we have been dating for about 4 months and i think i am ready he is 14 and is a freshman in high school i am still in middle school (8th grade). but my main question is, should i even though i...
A. 14 August 2008: The question that you need to be asking yourself is, "Am I mature enough to carry out such an act of commitment?" The second question would be, "Is he mature enough to carry out such an act, also?"
The questions that I am asking you are, "Are you... (read in full...)
Has anybody been rejected by their partner when they have dressed in sexy lingerie?
Q. I want to dress up this evening for my partner in some nicec lingerie, it is something he loves. However, he has had a period of no libido as he was on medication. We were intimate last week for the first time in months and nothing this week. ...
A. 14 August 2008: I agree with Laura. The best thing to do is to act confident and give him the impression that you have put a lot of effort into tonight's appearance.
Have fun ;)
Beckie x... (read in full...)
Should my mum go back to my dad and who should I live with?
Q. My mom was telling me about when she was young she got married to this man and that man ... is my dad... he would always put her down... and he got her young and still a virgin... he never would tell my mom "honey I love you" or at least a tha...
A. 29 July 2008: First of all, I'd like you to know how sympathetic I'm feeling for you right now. Your childhood hasn't been the greatest, but, then again, neither has mine. However, there's never been physical abuse taking place in our household, and, for that, ... (read in full...)
Can you get STDs by kissing?
Q. Are there any STDs out there that you can get by kissing? I don't really understand what the different kinds of STDs are. I know about HIV since we learned about it in school......
A. 28 July 2008: Oh well, curious is good =D
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Am I gay for having gay sexual fantasies? Am I just confused?
Q. I'm 13 and i know im not Gay. I like women and i want to have sex with a women. When i see 2 gay people kiss i get digusted. There is this kid that's a year older than me, i think he is a slight bit gay. Sometimes when I'm just thinking about stuf...
A. 27 July 2008: You're just curious. Everyone has thoughts that they can't control, even if the person having them doesn't agree with them. Whether the thoughts are sexist, racist, or similar to your's - curious!
It's nothing to worry about - it's just a result... (read in full...)
Can you get STDs by kissing?
Q. Are there any STDs out there that you can get by kissing? I don't really understand what the different kinds of STDs are. I know about HIV since we learned about it in school......
A. 27 July 2008: It would be very rare for you to pass on an STD by kissing. However, don't be so naive to think that it isn't possible. If two people both have bleeding gums (one suffering from HIV), then the disease can spread, as they kiss. This is the only ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my girlfriend will be scared off by my parents! they yell all the time.
Q. Sorry, this is gonna be long but I need your help. Please. I’m 15. great parents but they don’t get along. Constant yelling and verbal abuse. Mom yells 24/7. dad has made me grow up too fast and routinely gives me 30-60+ min speeches on how ...
A. 26 July 2008: I don't know what to say. Honestly. I feel for you - a lot!
But seriously, do you really want to live the rest of your life like this? And I say "life", because if you're not even allowed to do simple things as cut the grass, earn an allowanc... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to go out with my underage girlfriend?
Q. ok I have a question concerning me and my girlfriend. I am 18 and she is 14. was a big surprise for me when i found out she was 14 when she looks and acts around 16. and I was wondering is it extremely wrong for me to date her? I like her a ...
A. 26 July 2008: I don't believe that it's illegal for two people (the Male being over age and the Female being under age) to be in a relationship with one another. The only illegalty is for you, like you said, to have sex with her, but you sound like a decent ... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to ask him out. He's even more shy. Help!
Q. im too shy to ask out this boy. and he is even more shy than me! i waved to him before but hes so shy he didnt even wave back! im affraid if i go up and say hi he wont say anything back cause of his shyness. and how embaressing would that be! plz ...
A. 26 July 2008: Lazy Guy's advice is very good, and interesting to read. However, I am of a similar age to you, and see this happening nearly everyday of my school life! Surely you have other means of conversing with him (i.e. mobile phone (cell phone) and/or Ms... (read in full...)
How can I gain weight in a healthy way?
Q. Hi I need help. I'm underweight according to BMI calculations (i'm 5'7'' and 102 lbs.) I'm skinny, but not to the point where you can see any bones, and I'm filled out in all the right places, so I don't get how I'm underweight. I have tried ...
A. 25 July 2008: Do you participate in physical activities? If so, then maybe you're doing one activity too many, and pushing yourself too far. It's good to set challenges for your body, but not to a point where you feel as if you don't weigh enough.
I think th... (read in full...)
I don't want my feelings to jeopardise our friendship, please help me get over him?
Q. i have a really big problem at the minute because my best friend is a boy and i have always liked him but there is no way anything could happen because my other best friend used to date him and it didn't end very well but i helped them through it ...
A. 23 July 2008: Awww =(
I understand how you don't want to jepordise your friendship, but you are only putting it at risk by hiding these feelings from him.
If this is truely how you feel, then things will only begin to get awkward, because you will become ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I still love her?
Q. i broke up with my girlfriend about 2 years ago, and i still love her but i dont know how to tell her cause we go to diff schools. thx for the help....
A. 23 July 2008: Awww, I'm so happy for you =)
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How do I tell my girlfriend I still love her?
Q. i broke up with my girlfriend about 2 years ago, and i still love her but i dont know how to tell her cause we go to diff schools. thx for the help....
A. 22 July 2008: Well, surely you must have means of contacting her? I.e. Msn, phone number, mobile phone (cell phone) number. Why don't you send her an instant message or a text, telling her about the feelings that you are still feeling for her? Tell her that ... (read in full...)
I find it hard to ask girls out-any tips?
Q. Hey can sum1 help me. i talk to girls all the time ive never had a prob talking to them however i cant seem to ask ne of them out. honestly i no im not good looking im a lil overweight and cause of that i cant ask them help plz...
A. 19 July 2008: Simple - create yourself a new look! Change your hairstyle, buy yourself a new set of clothes, maybe lose a bit of weight, and viola! You have yourself a Girlfriend ;-P
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Was he always wanting me and I just never noticed?
Q. OK, this has been bothering me lately... I have a boyfriend, that from the begining of 6th grade, I've known him. We had an assignment, did it, and we still hung out. I helped him with Math, he helped me with Science. I secretly liked him, but I wa...
A. 15 July 2008: Yes, I think that he was. It's obvious, if he seems to be happier when he's with you, than when he wasn't and was single.
I hope that you two last together =)
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Sex without Protection
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time in our whole life without protection and he just pulled out. I feel like he didn't pull out in time because we did leave it in a couple of times. He also had ejaculated the day before. Am I pregnant? ...
A. 14 July 2008: You are probably already aware of this, but sperm can prematurely leak out from the Male's penis before ejaculation. If you think that he even pulled out too late, then the chances are that enough sperm entered you, with the capability of ... (read in full...)
He has bad breath!
Q. my boyfriend has really bad breath but i dont know how to tell him this? i mean we kiss alot and i try not 2 because of it what do i do? ...
A. 14 July 2008: Once you are both together, and the chances of you kissing are quite likely, offer him a Tic-Tac, a stick of chewing gum, a mint, etc. If you both have fresh breath, then any bad tastes and odours will go un-recognised. Try not to make yourself ... (read in full...)
This guy wants me to send him naked pictures of me
Q. this guy wants me to send him pictures either nude or somewhat nude i dont want to be nude at all not even in bra and underwear i really like himm but i dont want to do it. what do i do?...
A. 12 July 2008: If he's that type of Guy, then he's not worth it. It is not your responsibility to entertain him, and he does not have the right to demand that. I'm sure that you don't want to be labelled 'cheap and easy', so, trust me, even though you may like ... (read in full...)
We are best friends, don't want to ruin that, but I've started to like her as more than a friend, how do I tell her without messing up the friendship?
Q. Hi, I kind of like this girl, we've known each other for 2 or so years and we're just starting to be best friends now, but like I don't want to ruin anything between us but at the same time I want to tell her that I like her and I have done for a ...
A. 12 July 2008: If you are experiencing these feelings for her, then the chances are that she is, too. After all, you are obviously sharing a very close bond, if you consider yourselves best friends. I think that the best thing for you to do is to just tell her ... (read in full...)
Three months since my last period but not pregnant? What's wrong with me?
Q. i have been 3 month late since my last period ive done about 4-5 pregnancy test and 1 in hospital and they all come back negative my partner keeps saying ive not got my period because i think im pregnant but i never thought about it till i were ...
A. 4 July 2008: Not that long ago, I was having this problem, and I went 6 months without having a period. I knew that I wasn't pregnant (which you do), and eventually, my periods continued on the natural cycle. And do you know how they came back?
I relaxed!... (read in full...)
My curvy Goddess is trying to slim down! How can I tell her I like her the way she is?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for about 6 months and she is the largest girl that i have ever dated (shes about 5feet 6 inches and about 180 pounds. before her i only liked women with slim bodies but found myself so attracted to her curvy ...
A. 1 July 2008: You may not want her to alter her curvaceous figure, but she might! I'm sure if you disliked a certain feature of your body then you'd want to change that, and would not expect others to intrude and get involved with your desires. You have to feel ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 1 July 2008: Congratulations!
I love this site!
If it wasn't for this site, then I don't know how I'd be coping with some of the problems that I endure each day =(
Hope that 600,000 becomes 1,000,000 soon!
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I get horny during my period. My boyfriend won't...
Q. hi everyone quick question when im on my period i get super horny and i want sex but my bf wont have sex with me bc im bleeding how can i convince him 2 have sex with me? plz can anyone tell me what 2 do he wont go into the shower with me when i ...
A. 5 June 2008: Well, there is one extrememly simple answer to this question - don't have sex!
Periods only last from a range of 3-8 days, and I'm sure that you're not ADDICTED to sex, so a week without it surely isn't going to kill you!
And, I'm afraid to sa... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should continue to be friends with one of the girls!!
Q. I have 3 best friends. I am going to call them Hannah, Mikaela and Kelly for the sake of this otherwise everyone would get confused. One of my best friends,Hannah, has started being self centered and all she cares about is her millions of ...
A. 5 June 2008: You have to ask yourself one simple question - which out of the three girls do you actually appreciate and respect? It's obvious that you don't want to be friends with Hannah, because she is un-friendly and only cares about herself, and you are ... (read in full...)
If she likes me, why won't she go out with me?
Q. i really like this girl at school and she's told me she really likes me so when i asked her out she said no so im a bit confused.Why did she say now after she said she really likes me?...
A. 5 June 2008: You may have misunderstood the word "like". Yes, she may have meant that she is experiencing romantic feelings towards you, but she may not want to take your relationship to the next level yet, because, at the moment, she is happy enough just being ... (read in full...)
Spotting, but I'm not due for another 10 days. What's wrong?
Q. Today on the loo, I noticed blood in my knickers or 'spottin' which was a browninsh colour. I am not due on my period for another 10 days. I last had sex 1 week ago and noticed I bled a little afterwards. This was unprotected sex. My last period was ...
A. 5 June 2008: There are two answers to this question, and both are serious cases:
1. You may have an STI, and should visit your local Doctor or Nurse as soon as possible;
2. You may be pregnant. Spotting is light bleeding from the vagina similar to, but ... (read in full...)
Now he's in a relationship and I'm so confused!
Q. Ok, my situation is fairly complicated so please try to read it all and understand it. Well, me and this lad have been friends for about 18 months now and we get on really, really well. He used to text me every single day, sometimes until the early ...
A. 3 June 2008: Well, to be honest, he appears to me to be a typical 18-year-old, only interested in 2 things: himself and sex. You have fallen under his "charms" and he is dragging you in closer by texting you every night and constantly talking to you on Msn. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a break but I want to be with him so badly...
Q. my boyfriend of 4 years decided he wants a break. i respect the fact that he wants it because i hear when other people take them the relationship is so much stronger in the end if they stay together. but its easier said then done. all i do is think ...
A. 15 May 2008: He doesn't sound like the sort of person that I would be willing to stay with, but you love him, and have loved him for the past 4 years, so it is difficult for you to leave him without any struggles to let go. One thing that you need to ask ... (read in full...)
He told me he cheated but he hasn't explained himself. Should I end it?
Q. my boyfriends constantly telling me how much he loves me, cuddling and kissing me. i thought everything was perfect until he told me he "cheated" on me last night. It was pretty basic as he told me online even though i see him most nights and...
A. 15 May 2008: I can tell that you're feeling confused about the whole situation, so text him, or leave him an instant message, asking him if what he said last night is true, or whether he is only pulling your leg, like you are hoping. Remember that you don't ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love my step-step-3rd cousin?
Q. My dad got married in June (2007). I was hanging out with my step mom and we went to her cousin's new house. I have never met her cousin, until that day. Her cousin, has a step daughter. I couldn't help but tellin her how beautiful she was etc etc. ...
A. 14 May 2008: It's neither sick or wrong, because you are only related by marriage, not blood. Infact, you're not even related at all! Consider her more like a family-friend, that might make you feel a bit more cool about the situation. However, you're going ... (read in full...)
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