Is it normal to think sex is disgusting?
Q. I am 33 yrs old and could care less if I had sex again!! It's gross, and disgusting I have to be drunk to have sex with my husband. Is that normal, and how do you think I should handle it?...
A. 20 November 2009: Yes it's SICK, DISGUSTING, NASTY, FILTHY, EVIL and WRONG.
All sex must be STAMPED OUT RUTHLESSLY AND VICIOUSLY. All those who engage in it must be EXTERMINATED.... (read in full...)
I'm in love... with a dead woman!!!
Q. Ok people...this might sound insane but i cant help it. About a year back i saw a picture of a girl and read her life story and i think i am falling over for her. I think i am in love... but the catch is... she died way back during the second ...
A. 18 November 2009: You should keep this relationship on a purely platonic basis. It would be a bad idea to physically consummate it.... (read in full...)
I've never had a penny off my ex-husband, is it too late to do anything about it?
Q. i left my hub 10 years ago we stopped friends. ive never had a penny of him. is it to late to do anything about it?...
A. 18 November 2009: Why has he never had a penny off you? It was you that left him, right? Why on earth do you feel entitled to his money?... (read in full...)
Is it bad to talk to yourself?
Q. Is it bad to talk to yourself? I dont do it in public but if I'm by myself such as in the car driving I usaully talk to myself. The reason I do it is because I dont have nobody else to talk to all my friends that were always ears have babies now ...
A. 18 November 2009: Talking to yourself out loud is probably somewhat weird, though harmless. I suspect everybody 'talks to themselves' internally all the time, as in, that constant monologue which performs a running commentary in your head. The inner voice.
I find... (read in full...)
I have to make a choice between 2 men as I'm hurting them..what do I do?
Q. I am torn between two men. The first is my boyfriend of 7 months, he is the best thing that's ever happened to me and is completely devoted to me in every way. We began a long distance relationship in September when I moved away to university, and ...
A. 18 November 2009: Your boyfriend has 'started' self-harming. You 'came clean' a few weeks ago. Do you think the self-harm might be connected to him finding out that you cheated on him?
I'll need to read this a few times over before offering advice, this is a comp... (read in full...)
I have a huge dilemma! Five girls to choose from...what should I do?
Q. ok. i have a dilemma (and no it isn't my spellings) right. i'm a bit of an accidental player...in that i'm a flirt. i'm totally in love with this girl (not naming names so we'll call her 1) i love (1). and yet i have 4 other girls try...
A. 18 November 2009: I'm sure millions of guys would give their right arm to have a 'problem' like this.
Decide which one you like best. To use a horse-racing analogy, it sounds as if 1 is the front-runner, 4 and 5 are the dark horses, 2 and 3 the long shots.
You ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm unless I am thinking of my fantasy!
Q. me and my boyfriend love eachother and have been together for almost a year. everytime we have sex its good and i enjoy it, but i can only seem to orgasm when i think of this fantasy, it leaves me feeling guilty after because i should be thinking of ...
A. 17 November 2009: If you don't mind telling us, what exactly is the fantasy?... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend?
Q. Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend? I am not close with the couple that is getting married and my birthday is the only day out of the year that it is all about me. He gives me a ...
A. 16 November 2009: If your post is anything to go by, can you honestly say that 'my birthday is the only day out of the year that it is all about me?' ... (read in full...)
I seem to be missing out in the orgasm department big time!
Q. I'm 24 in a stable relationship with a man who i am very much in love with and feel totally comfortable around him. i have been sexually active since i was sixteen and had my first orgasm at about 8. my problem is that i seem to be missing out in ...
A. 15 November 2009: Good God! Double M in 'I have pleasured millions of women' revelation! Why have you never mentioned this before?... (read in full...)
Please share one of the things you loved to do as a child with us!
Q. HI Guys!!! In one of my countries (India) It is Children's Day. And Today, I would like to remind us all about that little child within, who might perhaps have been standing in a corner... blocked with all the grown up concerns! SO, to free th...
A. 14 November 2009: Presenting an imaginary TV cookery programme with my older sister (she did most of the talking and all the instructing). Reading scary stories. Getting lots of answers right on game shows. Watching musicals and ancient MGM movies. Playing with my ... (read in full...)
She surprised me by saying she wants sex!
Q. Allo My girlfriend and i have been together for two years, and we're fine and dandy. Recently though she surprised me by saying she wants sex. She surprised me more then by asking 'What if I was drunk and I had sex with another guy at a party a...
A. 14 November 2009: Were you at this party?... (read in full...)
High Maintenance...
Q. i need some advice mainly from men.. but women please can you give your opinions too.. are men really put off with high maintenance girls? and whenever they classify a girl as high maintenance what exactly do they mean? Personally i always like my...
A. 12 November 2009: As far as I understand it, 'high maintenance' is a term used to refer to the sort of girl who insists on being phoned ten times a day to be told how beautiful she is, or who creates/provokes stupid little arguments on a very frequent basis in order ... (read in full...)
What unusual name to do you have for your privates... and how did you get it?
Q. Mine is petercheese. My girlfriend years ago gave me it. The first time she gave me head she said it squrted out like a can of ez cheese. So she called it peter cheese. ...
A. 11 November 2009: 'Big Iron Bar'.
How did I get it? The nickname, you mean? Eh, I was given it.
I suppose its nicer than 'what the **** is that?'... (read in full...)
Mad crush!
Q. I must confess. I think I have a problem. Frankly, I've developed a mad crush on a writer here. He's just so damn witty and a clever writer too. I totally enjoy reading his posts, even when he's wrong about a topic. This seems like one helluva man....
A. 10 November 2009: I saw him first, girls!
His PM technique is really something, I have to say. Very highly recommended. And you can almost hear the Texan drawl. I think I need a cold shower. ... (read in full...)
What does first time sex feel like? Are you nervous?
Q. Just curious is all....my girlfriend and I have been going out for two years and the topic of sex was brought up, something we talk about alot, but never actually plan to do it for a long time. So, anyway, what does everyone feel the first time? ...
A. 9 November 2009: Very very nervous, I found, and I'd say its the same for most people. You don't really know what to expect. Like Violet says, there was a huge element of 'oh my God I can't believe I'm really doing this!' Probably a bit different for straight guys ... (read in full...)
I'm a guy. Should I shave my legs?
Q. i am 15, 16 in a week and my legs are full of hairs i just want to know should i shave them because i am an amature footballer and i know that some footballers shave their legs? also i was woundering if i should shave them for the girl i like ...
A. 5 November 2009: If you're a tranny, it's absolutely essential to shave your legs. If not, then I don't really see the point. I didnt know footballers shave their legs (I don't watch football very much) but I'll watch next time it's on and take a look! ... (read in full...)
How can I Deep Throat a boy without gagging?
Q. Okey my problem isnt a really big one but a good answer will really help me in my situation. i want to give my boy friend the best blowjob ever and i kno this question has been asked alot but i need some tips on how to deep throat with out feeling ...
A. 3 November 2009: Invest in a pack of throat lozenges - best invention ever. They numb the 'gag' reflex.... (read in full...)
I'm a gay man, is this normal for me? does it make me weird?
Q. Well I'm an 18 year old total bottom, I'm gay and well recently I've discovered than when I'm having sex with guys (with different guys, one at a time) I don't get a boner, I don't even cum, if the guy (the top) cums I'm okay with that, it feels as ...
A. 2 November 2009: I just re-read your post and suspect part of your problem is that you don't seem to be having sex with ANOTHER PERSON because you really want that person at that particular moment. It sounds like a narcissistic thing where it's entirely about ... (read in full...)
I'm a gay man, is this normal for me? does it make me weird?
Q. Well I'm an 18 year old total bottom, I'm gay and well recently I've discovered than when I'm having sex with guys (with different guys, one at a time) I don't get a boner, I don't even cum, if the guy (the top) cums I'm okay with that, it feels as ...
A. 2 November 2009: Hey, calm down there and take a cold shower! You sounded a bit over-excited there on a few of your follow-ups.
'I think I'm so hot'...this won't be news to you: you sound more than a little narcisstic. Not being a top, I can't directly answer your... (read in full...)
Social etiquitte for same sex relationships
Q. ok im 22 i'm looking for a boyfriend, and i need to understand more about social ettiquite being i'm a male as well. i definitely understand sex should stay between us, unless i'm involved in "girl talk" so to speak. but what's the best way to ...
A. 2 November 2009: No-one is an expert on social etiquette, and to a large extent it's something we all just try to figure out as we go along. Doubly tricky if you're gay, because we're supposed to be 'discreet'.
In other words, we have to shut our mouths and bite... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still goes to the ex's house to let the dog out!!!
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. I'll make this short and to the point but would really appreciate a guys take if possible. My boyfriend (we have been living together for about a year) he still goes to his ex's house (when she's working and yes she is ...
A. 30 October 2009: Well, it's great that you trust him. So what's to worry about?
He obviously loves the dog, they tend to be very lovable. The dog has become a friend, as they do, and its companionship is something he treasures. He misses the creature and prob... (read in full...)
Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...
Q. i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...
A. 30 October 2009: I've read your post again and think I now understand what you're asking. This is about semantics. Obviously in the strictest sense of the word, I do 'choose' to be gay insofar as every time I have sex with a man, it's my choice to do so, nobody is ... (read in full...)
Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...
Q. i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...
A. 30 October 2009: Last anon...what on Earth do you mean? ... (read in full...)
Should I give her a chance... or tell her no chance?
Q. i fancy this girl and ive been told she fancies me back but i am fightened to go with her becasue she has a name for herself in out community and has been known to cheat on her boys :(..........should i give her a chance or just tell her to f*** off ...
A. 29 October 2009: You don't have to do either, but giving her a chance sounds nicer than telling her to f*** off. ... (read in full...)
This is for the men...
Q. Men...? What do you find most attractive in a woman?...
A. 29 October 2009: Well, 150 then. I once tested as 183 when I was 12, but I'll assume it was a flawed test. The things are a bit discredited anyway, heavily weighted in favour of educated whites. I don't think intelligence can be measured.
What I meant was, only... (read in full...)
This is for the men...
Q. Men...? What do you find most attractive in a woman?...
A. 28 October 2009: A savage sense of black humour, an IQ of at least 170 and an open mind.... (read in full...)
Our straight female roommate invades our privacy
Q. My best girl friend for more than 10 years was hanging out every day with my boyfriend and me, who also likes her around and she is like our best friend together. Well her room mate moved out and she could not afford the rent herself so we said she ...
A. 28 October 2009: The odds narrow even further when it transpires they're both from Canada. Now I know Canada is a fairly big place, not exactly walking distance from west coast to east, but still...
I'm assuming that this poster (the one on this thread, here) is u... (read in full...)
I suddenly have this weird feeling that I am gay!
Q. I am 13 and I have loads of girlfriends and about a month ago I have been having this weird feeling that I am gay and I don't want to be, I want to straight! What is happening and when will it go away? Please help, I don't want to be gay, I have ...
A. 28 October 2009: Well, if you don't want to be gay (I know I didn't), all you can do is hope that your gay feelings just go away.
Maybe they will. If so, the problem is solved.
Or maybe they won't. Maybe they'll get more and more intense and overwhel... (read in full...)
Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...
Q. i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...
A. 27 October 2009: Sorry OP, I realise I haven't directly addressed your question.
I think we're all 'born' asexual as babies and kids. Then you hit 13-14 and your hormones start going crazy. I don't think you can 'do' anything about it, in the sense of changing what... (read in full...)
Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...
Q. i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...
A. 27 October 2009: OK. I'll watch the news and try to figure out what the agenda is.... (read in full...)
Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...
Q. i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...
A. 27 October 2009: OK. But
'The issue of whether or not all homosexuals are born that way is a "political" view in order for gays to push through their political agendas'
...it seems safe to assume that gays, since there are millions of 'them', can't all share th... (read in full...)
Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...
Q. i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...
A. 27 October 2009: R'n'B...I've read the posts carefully and can't see anyone 'ranting about their political views', could you please point out where on this thread you've seen anything that could be construed as a political rant?
Thanks... (read in full...)
Can my male cousin buy me a pearl and what does it mean?
Q. i know this is not a relationship question but i need to know can my boy cousin buy me a pearl and what does it mean...
A. 26 October 2009: Are you 100% certain that he offered to give you a pearl (a very sweet and innocent gesture), as opposed to a pearl necklace (not quite so innocent)? ... (read in full...)
I want group sex with 5 men
Q. I know this might sound crazy, but I have a long-running fantasy to have group sex with 5 men - I guess what you would call a gang bang. I would like it to be 5 men I don't know too well but who have been "pre-screened", maybe by a swingers group ...
A. 25 October 2009: Sure...I confess you have me mildly confused. Essentially you have three penetrable orifices (mouth, vagina and anus) - where do the other two guys 'fit in'?... (read in full...)
My husband's friend said that he really likes me! What should I do?
Q. Husband's friend says my husband should b nicer to me. He said that he really likes me. He doesn't want to break us up, he says. But should I be wary anyway? He's always nice to me, teasing,ect.Hopefully he will b moving to Houston in 2 months 4 ...
A. 25 October 2009: The flavour of both your posts gives me the very clear impression that you're thinking about having an affair with him. Am I wrong?... (read in full...)
I want group sex with 5 men
Q. I know this might sound crazy, but I have a long-running fantasy to have group sex with 5 men - I guess what you would call a gang bang. I would like it to be 5 men I don't know too well but who have been "pre-screened", maybe by a swingers group ...
A. 25 October 2009: Why five exactly, as opposed to four, six or 60? Also, don't you think it might make sense to start with a plain old threesome so you can get some idea of what to expect?... (read in full...)
Lack of sex is souring our relationship and I want my space, is this enough justification to break up?
Q. Hi, So I'm in what seems to be a near-perfect (homosexual) relationship right now, my boyfriend and I are very attuned to each other, we are respectful, gentle, and loving, and this December will be 3 years. We marvel at how connected we are...
A. 25 October 2009: Is he aware that you cheat on him?
If so, how has he reacted to the news?
If he's OK with it, you MIGHT be able to agree a deal where you stay together as a couple while he lets you have your licence to thrill when he's not around.
If he do... (read in full...)
I know this is long, but I really need help. any advice or insight will be incredibly appreciated
Q. This is the backstory to the question. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years. We love each other very much. We have a stunning amount in common and a very powerful connection ie ( knowing what each other is thinking) calling ...
A. 23 October 2009: OP...In no way shape or form am I about to call you a rapist. If her accusation is totally unfounded, then everything Gerta and Oldersister have said about her is spot-on. So let's deal with the facts as you've presented them... 'I jhad not had ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?
Q. What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?...
A. 23 October 2009: Means you're probably named 'Abbey' or 'Amber' and were the first name the phone located when it was accidentally pressed against a variety of buttons that sent the text in the first place. Two blank texts means whatever you choose to read int... (read in full...)
Why is my b/f allowed to look at this kind of stuff and I'm not?
Q. I am an insecure teenage girl. Sounds like the typical teenager but even my friends think my insecurities are weird. The thing is, lately my boyfriend of 7months has been asking to by ZOO magazines [a 'car mag' with spreadsheets and pages upon pages ...
A. 23 October 2009: Aside entirely from the porn issue, which is basically his business, the salient fact here is that if you're describing him as a 'hypocritical pig' and (more disturbingly) you claim he would 'smack me upside the head' for checking out other guys, ... (read in full...)
Our straight female roommate invades our privacy
Q. My best girl friend for more than 10 years was hanging out every day with my boyfriend and me, who also likes her around and she is like our best friend together. Well her room mate moved out and she could not afford the rent herself so we said she ...
A. 16 October 2009: She clearly gets off on watching you. You need to make it clear that you DON'T get off on being watched, in fact you find it a total invasion.
Now that she's walked in on you SEVEN times (wtf??!!) she obviously thinks it's completely OK by you.... (read in full...)
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