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Why wouldn't he like giving me oral sex??

Q.   My boyfriend said he doesn't like giving me oral sex and i didn't ask why because i was embarrassed.. why do you think he wouldn't like it?? I like it!!??...

A.   8 February 2008: Maybe he has not done it before and he finds it easier to say he doesn't like it. Maybe he feels he is not very good at it, or maybe he has and did not like it. Give him a bit of time and i am sure as you speak more and learn more about each other ... (read in full...)

14...and having some issues with my body.

Q.   hello, i'm 14 and i'm having some body issues. The other night when i was getting in the shower, i realized one breast is bigger than the other. Is that normal for teenagers or should i go to a doc about it?...

A.   8 February 2008:  I think i am right in saying we all have one side bigger than the other,( i know i do and i am in my 40~s) as you are still growing this may just sort its self out. wait for a bit and if it is still causing you concerns go 2 your doctor. If ... (read in full...)

How can I impress her and ask her out on Valentines??

Q.   I'm talking to a girl i met 2 weeks ago. I met her through a friend; we talked on msn then we went on a date to the movies. We ate dinner, it was really good and we had fun. I really like her; i asked her out for this weekend and she wants to go ou...

A.   8 February 2008:  Depending on your gf a present sent 2 school could be embarrassing. I think maybe a gift sent 2 her house with a card would be good. She does like you as she has been out with you already and the fact that she has said yes 2 another date/dat... (read in full...)

My first time wans't god. Did we do it right?

Q.   hi im 16 years old ill be 17 shortly ive been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and recently losy my virginity with him it was his first time to! as we were doing it i relaxed a bit as ive read its beter if we are relaxed but im not too s...

A.   7 February 2008:  Time will sort this one out, just be close for a while and then may be try again when you are both ready. As you grow together you will learn more about each other emotionaly and physicaly. Stay safe,be happy and remember only ever do wha... (read in full...)

I'm also going away on holiday soon and would like to feel more confident in my bikini so any tips wuld be muchly appreciated.

Q.   Okay I would really love some help here.. Im a 15 year old girl, about 5"6 and 9.5 stone. I'm very active a swim everyday and run a fair bit as well. The problem is I still don't feel like the skinnyest person ever. Dont get me wrong, I'm not one ...

A.   7 February 2008:  I am sure you look great, but we do find it hard to see the best in ourselfs. All the women you look at who you think look great will all have their own hang ups ,bits they dont like about themselves. Find a bikini with shorts they are so cool... (read in full...)

How can we rekindle the romance under the pressure of financial stress??

Q.   What should I do? First, I can't believe I'm writing about my situation. I've always felt I could deal with my marriage without outside help, although I've been to marriage/sex therapy 12 years ago. I've been married for 18 years now. Boy how time...

A.   7 February 2008:  send her a letter,seems strange but sometimes we listen but dont hear because we r so stressed, a letter is sometimes the way 2 go. Exsplain all your concerns and worries and tell her that you love her very much and want for you both 2 b... (read in full...)

We broke up last week and I like his friend. Do I stay in contact with his friend?

Q.   So here is my problem, I have been dating my bf for almost 3 (bad) years. I am not happy with him and haven't been for a while, well my bf started telling me about his best friend who lived in ohio(bfs hometown) I ended up talking my bf into ...

A.   7 February 2008:  I would give yourself a break,stay single for a while and try not 2 jump out of one relationship in 2 another. Going out with your x`s friends will always cause problems. Go out with your mates and keep busy for a while. Have fun,stay sa... (read in full...)

Masterbating behind girlfriends back, bad?

Q.   I masturbate, maybe two or three times a week, I try not to do it so much, because, honestly, it makes me feel really bad about myself, being, that I have a girlfriend. I feel like I'm the worst guy in the world, and it makes me really depressed. I...

A.   7 February 2008:  Its not wrong even if you are having sex, its a part of life and a part of sexual life. How do you know she may masterbate herself. I would say if you are both masterbating it will only lead to a better sex life if and when you have sex... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my step-daughter!!! What do I do?

Q.   ive fallen in love with my stepdaughter and dont know what to do...

A.   7 February 2008:  Turn around and never look back or sort this out in your own head and stop it now. We only have a few people we can trust in life, and you are meant to be one of them, taking a guess that she is young,the fact she is your step da... (read in full...)

Redhair and pale skin, Why do we get picked on?

Q.   Me and brother (twin) both get picked on because of our red hair and pale skin. It's been like this for a couple years. But no matter what we do, people still ask us dumb questions about why we are so pale all the time. Why is that?...

A.   6 February 2008:  You do only make up 1% of the population in the UK that makes you very unique and i would say very special. Some people cant deal with people others being slightly different. The thing is i am not just saying this but red heads have wonderful h... (read in full...)

Why did he ask me to sit on his face??

Q.   Hello, I'm 15. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. We haven't had sex before, but we've done little things. The other night, he asked me to sit on his face! So that my front was near his mouth. I asked him why, and he assured ...

A.   5 February 2008:  All I want to say is , You are very young but when ever you want to say NO to anything, say it and stick to it. If he thinks anything of you he will understanding and wait . Love ,Hollyx... (read in full...)

I'm 17 & he's 43, is that legal?

Q.   im nearly 17 and he is 43 weve been together nearly a year at first i lied about my age but now he knows the truth he still loves me , but is what were doing legal?...

A.   5 February 2008:  I can c why younger women go for the older man, but i cant understand at his age he knows that it is wrong for him 2 c u. Only 7 years between myself and my partner and i still find he talks about things that i missed out due 2 the 7 years ag... (read in full...)

Can I forget about everything and get a good night sleep for a change?

Q.   I do hope I can get some good advice. Broke up four months ago with my boyfriend. We still talked and occasionally saw each other when he visited me (don't know why he bothered travelling all this way!). Well, last weekend I was in his city visiting ...

A.   5 February 2008:  I am so sorry you are having a bad time. I do think when ever he had told you about the new girlfriend b 4 or after you would have still been upset. I dont think its the time its just he has moved on and it hurts. As far as him telling you it w... (read in full...)

I really love him but cant take anymore lies...is walking away the right thing??

Q.   I have been in a relationship with a married man for the last 4 years. Initially we started off as friends but became much more than that. He was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a very controlling woman. They were supposed to be ...

A.   1 February 2008:  You have only heard his side of things, his wife may have a totaly different story to tell. You love him very much but i cant say that he does not loves you. This is not the actions of a man that does. You know in your heart of hearts the trut... (read in full...)

I'm undecided - should I give in to my brother's urges and have sex with him?

Q.   My brother trying to seduce me. He's been trying for a long time, from time to time he was making a move on me, but now I think he's serious. When we were in early teens (13-15) we already had a kind of sexual relationship with him - we've been tou...

A.   31 January 2008:  I think you know the answer to this question, If it was right you would not even be asking. How many of your friends sleep with their brothers. I do feel you both have a few issues i think it would be best if you could talk with someone medical.... (read in full...)

I can't decide.....my wife?? Or my girlfriend??

Q.   I need help from someone who has been through this life crisis before, and has time to read my story! My wife and I married in our late 20s, thinking we both knew what we wanted, and although we didn’t have a whirlwind passionate romance, we thou...

A.   31 January 2008:  Be very careful the longer you leave things the worse the pain gets for all. your words I CANT DECIDE....... it may be that they decied in the end your wife may leave you and your girlfriend. Good luck and true love is just knowing. ... (read in full...)

When do I start shaving? I'm too embarassed to ask my mum.

Q.   my problem is when do i start shaaving im imbarresd to ask my mum...

A.   31 January 2008:  I am sorry i can not give you an age, but my daughter is 14 and asked me the same question last week. I said as it was the winter there is no need, but we will talk again in the summer. Once you start no turning back. You have to be hones... (read in full...)

15 and wanting children

Q.   hey guys im 15 years old and i really want children, i have a part time job in year 10. when im not working or going to school im watchen childrena and i have been since i was 8 years old id cook dinner clean the house. the ages i normaly whatch in ...

A.   31 January 2008:  You know you are to young so you will also not want to hear this. I think you do sound very mature but mature does not pay the bills or feed the children you want. As you are so good with children why not try working with them as a job when you... (read in full...)

On facebook I said another girl is more attractive than my girlfriend, now she's dumped me, how can I get her to forgive me?

Q.   Hi, i need a lot of help... About 9 months ago something happened on facebook between me and one of my friends. He told me this one girl was hotter than my girlfriend and i replied yes. It had not occured to me that it would lead me to this ...

A.   31 January 2008:  I am sure you understand why she is hurt and why that lead 2 you seperating. I think you can just be honest and exsplain you just said what you did to look cool with your friend and that you are truly sorry.This will be a hard one as i can see ... (read in full...)

I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?

Q.   My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...

A.   30 January 2008: No problem, glad to help any time. Keep busy and stay positive. Holly x... (read in full...)

Mothers.. When should I stop breastfeeding my child?

Q.   At what age should I stop breast feeding my child? I'm about to be a new mom, and some have told me 3 months, others have told me 3 years. I just want some honest opinions from women who have already had children and weaned them. Thanks for any...

A.   30 January 2008:  Your choice, i have had 5 children and have fed them all. I have fed from 12 weeks to two years. There is no right or wrong, if you are happy then baby is happy. It all depends on your life style, work and if you have enough milk. I have fed mine ... (read in full...)

Mothers.. When should I stop breastfeeding my child?

Q.   At what age should I stop breast feeding my child? I'm about to be a new mom, and some have told me 3 months, others have told me 3 years. I just want some honest opinions from women who have already had children and weaned them. Thanks for any...

A.   30 January 2008:  Your choice, i have had 5 children and have fed them all. I have fed from 12 weeks to two years. There is no right or wrong, if you are happy then baby is happy. It all depends on your life style, work and if you have enough milk. I have fed mine ... (read in full...)

I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?

Q.   My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...

A.   30 January 2008:  I dont know but i am sure it has been hard for you both at times over the last few years,you dealing with your owm depression and your wife dealing with it also. Your words and emotions are very touching and i do hope it works out for you both... (read in full...)

Is it normal to get wet just thinking about sex?

Q.   Hi. i am new at sex and i was wondering if it is normal to get wet just thinking about it. like out of nowhere in the middle of class just get wet. also what do i do about it? ignore it or run to the bathroom and finger myself and get it ove...

A.   30 January 2008:  I dont think you need to run to the bathroom may be a good idea in your own room or at least somewhere private. You could also try a pantie liner if you start to get very wet. You are very young but also very able 2 have these feelings... (read in full...)

He abuses me emotionally, But I can't leave him!

Q.   Please help me. I'm desperate. I am so in love with my bf, I mean I have never been in love like I am now, but things have happened, I should leave him. Things have turned so nasty between us, but I am so in love, I can't actually tell the diff...

A.   30 January 2008:  Ok, you leave your botfriend tomorrow and two new man come into your life. The first spits at you laughs at you when you are sad and has no respect. The 2nd man smiles when you smile, protects you, loves you and makes you feel special. My ques... (read in full...)

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