How long is too long on a break?
Q. My gf and I split up just over a month ago after 18 months to have some time apart etc. She said she did want to get back with me eventually. Its been a month and all she says is that she doesnt want a bf at the moment however I still see her and ...
A. 12 May 2008: Hi,
You are being messed around I'm sorry to say. Cut contact now, don't be nasty, just don't be available.
I remember a previous poster had asked if anyone knew about being a "reserve" in a relationship once. A sort of "fall back plan" etc. It ... (read in full...)
Did someone perform some sexual act on him to 'last blow his load'? Because it obviously wasn't me!
Q. Please I need some help before I start pulling my hair out!! And i'm sorry but i'm going to be blunt there's no beating around the bush with this one. Ok some background info I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years we have a good r...
A. 12 May 2008: Hi,
From what I can see from your post, I think he just had a wank. Plain and simple. The fact that he mentioned it sounds a good point to me as surely the majority of people wouldn't have admitted a fling? When I was at Uni at his age I was in a... (read in full...)
Why is she taking so long in deciding whether she loves me or not?
Q. Please help me! I've been with this girl for 6 months and I love her, she told me she'll feel the same way soon about me. She's said before that she wants to make sure everything will work between us. I'm doing my best to wait for her to make up h...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi,
I'm going to suggest something for you and it's a risk. You need to become less available for her. Change a little by not talking about love and be "busy" one time when you normally see her. She may realise that she misses you etc. It's a risk... (read in full...)
How can I learn to calm my nerves so as I can pass my driving test?
Q. Hey all, I feel i have no confidence in passing the Irish driving test the third time. I've been practicing like mad, but i know i can do it - only i feel my nerves are not going to help. Please help, i'm trying to calm down but to pass would be a...
A. 7 May 2008: Hi,
First of all, you have been practising...that's excellent!
Ask yourself some questions....can you parallel park 10 times out of ten always correct?
Bay park....10 out of 10? Hill start? Turn in road? Back round corner accurately everytime? ... (read in full...)
I'm confused that someone can go from hot to cold so fast.
Q. Ive been in a relationship for over 9months now, previously were like rabbits, we both enjoy sex but for the past month my partner wont even let me touch her, always making excuses, in tired, ive got a headache, i feel yuck or when i go to cuddle or ...
A. 25 April 2008: Hi,
In answer to the title of your question...Yes, people do blow hot and cold...hero to zero in a minute.
I'm going to state the obvious here...she has an issue that's on her mind. We can give 101 suggestions but we are only second-g... (read in full...)
How can I make sure he asks me out instead of her?
Q. hey, i really need some help there's this guy i REALLY like and he just told me the other night that he likes me too, but the thing is there's this other girl he likes to, and i think she likes him aswell... he's probably going to ask one of us ou...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi,
Yes, ask him.....suggest just something light like a coffee. (Starbucks, nero, pret etc) No harm done, and as he likes you it looks like he will say yes. G. ... (read in full...)
How can I make sure he asks me out instead of her?
Q. hey, i really need some help there's this guy i REALLY like and he just told me the other night that he likes me too, but the thing is there's this other girl he likes to, and i think she likes him aswell... he's probably going to ask one of us ou...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
Ok...one guy...two girls. The situation seems as if he will choose soon. How would feel about asking him?????
Something light like a coffee? (he says he likes you)
From what you've said, you need to get in first!! The coffee could stake ... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and he's never ONCE treated me badly, unlike my ex'es. Why don't I love him?
Q. I have this AMAZING friend. He has truly proved himself to me that he is amazing. I mean most guys wouldn't bother being 'friends' with me if they knew they had no chance with me, but this guy, he doesn't care, he just likes me for me and really ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
As far as I'm aware, there is no explanation to why you don't or can't love him. You know like all of us, that you just can't turn love on or off! There's something magical about love, and that's the way it should be! He sounds like a frie... (read in full...)
Do ex's ever come back? What's your experience of this?
Q. I was just wondering are there any successfull stories out there in which an ex came back after leaving because of arguments all time. ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
Yes, I'm going to agree with the other posters and especially Green man!
You need to stop all contact now and then just see what happens. Try not to re-live the relationship...it's hard I know, but one day you will wake up worrying about so... (read in full...)
How can I win her over, even thought she doesn't like me?
Q. I fancy this girl but she doesn't like me back. Does anybody have any tips to win her over....
A. 18 April 2008: I agree with the other posters, if she doesn't like you then you won't make any headway.
Remember, if someone doesn't like you, why would you want to be with them? Be with people that do like you!
best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
Need help he never rang back
Q. Hi I need advice what to do, been seeing a lovely guy for around 8months, never really argued, treated eachother equally, he rings me all the time, he works away and just got back home and rang me, everything was fine, and he said he had a lot to do ...
A. 17 April 2008: Hi,
It's obviously a definite misunderstanding between you both. OK, he was busy, under pressure, blah blah.
However, he is still at fault for being rude to you. Let's be clear, you were not asking him for the world and you didn't suggest to see h... (read in full...)
Did he say that to let me know he's not interested in me, or is he testing the waters to see if I like him?
Q. There's this guy I really like, we are both shy and to start with conversation was really awkward. On Valentine's day i'd sent him an anonymous card, last week he found out it was me who had sent it and since then he's been really chatty. When we t...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
My first immpression is he is "testing the waters." Keep doing what you are doing and you might be on to something with him. best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
I need help getting over her!
Q. I'm hurt I've been in a relationship with this girl for a year and now she's just moved on I want to get over her can you show me how?...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to hear all this. For you and this relationship, the crucial thing for you to do now is NO MORE CONTACT.
Just get on with things and lets see if she gets in contact again. If she texts or emails, just leave it for a bit, don't re... (read in full...)
I need help getting over her!
Q. I'm hurt I've been in a relationship with this girl for a year and now she's just moved on I want to get over her can you show me how?...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
Tell us what has happened. Why did you split up?
We may be able to guide you with this extra information.
Sorry for what happened. best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
Please help, my boyfriend dumped me! How could he be so cruel?
Q. im really lost right now. my bf an i jst split a week ago i cant believe its over. we wer deeply in love but had our fair share of arguments. we had an argument an he dumped me an said he had enough. he was also ment to meet me friday 4 a chat. he ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry for what has happened.
Tell us what the argument was about? We might be able to fix it for you.
best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
I've lost all confidence after my girlfriend laughed at my penis size!
Q. ok, i have a very big problem, im not going to lie, im a overweight, but my girl friend did not really care, she liked me for who i am(yay!!) we were going out for 6 weeks and we hadn't had sex yet because i have a 4.5 in penis, i would pleasure h...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
Yes, I am with all the other posters....that girl was a disgrace...in the future, life may just have a habit of getting her back in some other way!! You may not know about it, but it will happen!
Stop worrying about future erection... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was married before and I cant get over the fact that I am not his first love
Q. I'm 23 and I've been dating my boyfriend, who is 32, for about 6 months. He had a previous relationship of 10 years, 3 of which they spent married, and he has been divorced for 2 years. Although all this happened before I met him, I am so fru...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
You are young at 23 and in my opinion, your feeling will never really go away. If you build a future with him, his EX will always be around, even in some non-loving way. I doubt you will ever get this out of your mind. But I may be wron... (read in full...)
I told him to get out, and he did. But I want him back now!
Q. Hi My partner and I have been together for 4 years and living together for 2, recently we have been having financial problems and he lost his job. Soon after this I got very angry one weekend and told him to get out 2 days later he left and said he ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi,
Only an idea, but he seemed to leave very quickly....as if he was just waiting for an "out." Some people do this, they haven't got the guts to finish something so they try to prepare the ground work for the other partner to react. I don't know... (read in full...)
Part of me feels I should telephone to explain, but the other part wants him to pursue me... any ideas?
Q. Met a guy on an internet chat site. We've been in contact for nearly six months,nothing heavy, extremely casual.But due to his work commitments and the distance it has been difficult to meet up. Today he texted me and said he was going to be coming ...
A. 12 April 2008: Hi,
The rule for me is never to impose upon a woman. He did that with the sleep over and obviously you were uncomfortable. Rightly so.
Isn't it a shame that after 6 months of getting to know you, the first potential meeting lead to a massive ... (read in full...)
Can I become an Agony Aunt?
Q. Hey, I'm Chloe, i'm using dear cupid, because i used to love talking to agony aunts, and they always gave good advice when i didn't know who to ask. So i would like to become like that, and help others out from my experience, can i? Chloe x...
A. 12 April 2008: Hi,
Yes of course you can!
Just remember though, that these are real people with real problems and they may be experiencing heartache and severe pain. Be caring, respect us all and call it from your own perspective. We help, give advice, we may n... (read in full...)
How can I get in touch with this guy I really like? I have no contact numbers for him.
Q. Well i met a boy 6 years ago and we were quite good friends, i've not been able to speak to him for 3 years, but still really fancy him. I have got no contact numbers or address or email for him, how can i contact him? I met him on holiday and it w...
A. 10 April 2008: Hi,
Ask Beth where she is meeting him and how she will arrange things. Remember, she will need to contact him to arrange to meet in October! If she sees him every year, where do they meet?? she must know his name and and have an idea where he come... (read in full...)
How can I get in touch with this guy I really like? I have no contact numbers for him.
Q. Well i met a boy 6 years ago and we were quite good friends, i've not been able to speak to him for 3 years, but still really fancy him. I have got no contact numbers or address or email for him, how can i contact him? I met him on holiday and it w...
A. 10 April 2008: Hi,
BETH! Contact him through Beth! Hope all works out for you. If he did say what he did, he's definitely interested!!
Now go get in touch with Beth!
best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
Anything wrong with a 19 year old male dating 26 year old woman?
Q. Hello! I was wondering, is there anything technically wrong with a 19 year old male dating a 26 year old female.. with two twin kids? Maybe it's just a crush, but I believe I'm pretty into her. Obviously older men date younger girls, b...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
The age gap is fine, and I wasn't aware that it was frowned upon to have an older female.
One point though.....remember you are 19 and she has 2 children. This is a big committment for you if this is going to be long term. I'm only telling ... (read in full...)
How can I get my long-distance relationship back after I ended it?
Q. ok my question is short and simple..i broke up with my bf long long time ago..we just stopped talkin to each other..its been months since i last spoke to him..we kinda had a long distance realtionship..i wasnt ready for 1 then but i am now and i ...
A. 5 April 2008: I'd go for texting. Simply because if a guy is interested, he will respond whichever way you contact him. G.... (read in full...)
How can I get my long-distance relationship back after I ended it?
Q. ok my question is short and simple..i broke up with my bf long long time ago..we just stopped talkin to each other..its been months since i last spoke to him..we kinda had a long distance realtionship..i wasnt ready for 1 then but i am now and i ...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi,
Is he dating someone? By contacting him this may come up!!!! That's the risk I'm afraid and there is no way around it. (he may worry that you are with someone though!)
If you are going to contact him....keep it short. A few lines would be... (read in full...)
Would contacting him make me look like a fool?
Q. Hi Having some real problems moving on after a break up and really having trouble not contacting the guy. Its been a month since we spoke. This is the second time weve broken up because he wasnt willing to give up being single. I feel like I need t...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi,
It's OK to contact him. Some guys just need a small one-liner...."Everything Ok?"
If interested, he will respond.
Don't think about this too much now, just go ahead and try this. Remember, if he doesn't respond, at least you won't be liv... (read in full...)
How can I get my long-distance relationship back after I ended it?
Q. ok my question is short and simple..i broke up with my bf long long time ago..we just stopped talkin to each other..its been months since i last spoke to him..we kinda had a long distance realtionship..i wasnt ready for 1 then but i am now and i ...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi,
Yes, get in touch. Try to talk to him and be clear and honest. He was probably sad you hadn't been in contact. Hope all goes well. best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
How do we know when we are tryin g to hard?
Q. How does one know when one is trying too hard? I met a girl ona dating website just under a year ago, we've been talking all this time, and I'm absolutely crazy about her. She's the first girl I've really cared about since I seperated from my ex wi...
A. 2 April 2008: Hi,
Just a short answer.....Do not contact her anymore and see if she makes any approach to you. You are "too" available. I've been like this as well when I liked someone so please don't think it's your fault.
Ok, no contact!
best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
How can I make her love me?
Q. how to make someone love you who does not have the same feelings with you. who tell you that she care a lot a lot as a friend but does not have other feelings. she also knows how much i love her....
A. 2 April 2008: Hi,
I'm afraid you cannot make someone love you.
Did you ever see the film.."Gone with the Wind?" Scarlett O'hara spends most of the film desperately trying to get Ashley to love her but realises at the end he never will. (and she realises... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend lying to me?
Q. Been dating someone for past 10 months. He is 49 years old. When we first started dating, he was texting a 29 year old girl he had met before we got together. Said they were “just friends”. He shared with me that they went to Cancun over a ...
A. 28 March 2008: Hello,
I'm am with Danielepew here. I'm certainly not going to take his bet. Your boyfriend knows that if he admits "sex" with the 29 yr old, he will have lost trust with you. I believe they did sleep together. But, if he says to you they didn... (read in full...)
My ex wanted to stay friends so why is she ignoring me now?
Q. hi, I have a problem with my ex-girlfriend. after she finished with me we decided to stay friends and i really wanted that because i didn't want to lose her. However i've been feeling like she doesn't want to now. she never makes any effort ...
A. 27 March 2008: Hi,
Yes, you have the right idea. Stop the contact now and try not to be "living" the relationship with her in your mind. Just do what she does now and go your own way. There is a chance she may get upset or jealous and may contact you. It's a risk... (read in full...)
Do you think he's gross to like me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl, well I'm almost 14. Recently since I've been on msn, someone added me on their list. I accepted them because I might know the person. I asked them who they were. He said his name and that he was 26. I told him I was 13. Don't ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi,
ALERT!!!!! Be careful and tell your parents!!!!!! I don't like the sound of this. Do other posters agree? G. ... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want anything serious so how do I take things to the next level?
Q. Alright, so just about 4 months ago i started to get back into dating again when i met this girl that has me going crazy now(in a good way). she has been writing me messages and texting me multiple times a day and she always wants to be around me ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi, What stands out for me is when she says she "doesn't want anything serious." From how I read your post, I can tell you like her a lot but I fear you are going to get hurt here as you begin to fall in love with a girl that may be not as serious ... (read in full...)
I met him online and then he "disappears" so is there still hope?
Q. i met this guy on a lame site. well he messaged me saying he is also new in the city and that he didnt have friends, and i am in the same situation. so we talked. i learned that he is looking for a long term relationship, which he mentioned on his ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi, Maybe he was using the online site as a distraction from his everyday life. Suddenly, he met you and the "game" of the online girlfriend became "real". I honestly believe he liked you a lot, but probably it might just be the wrong time for him.... (read in full...)
She got back together with her ex and I'm still not over it! How long will it take?
Q. Hi, I was in a serious relationship which unfortunately lasted just 4 months because of an argument that we had which ended in her breaking up with me. I was devestated by the break up but thought i'd recover with time. We broke up 7 months ago but ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry for what happened. How long? It may be an hour, it may be a life time. There is no set rule on getting over somebody special. Sometimes in life, we tend to want what we can't have or at least crave for something we have had a litt... (read in full...)
Did I scare him off....was he really interested??
Q. So...I recently have become single. I have a much younger male as a friend (he's 22, I'm 42). We have known each other for a very long time. Since he has gained knowledge that I am "free" he's been acting a bit different. Very protective, flirty at ...
A. 24 March 2008: Hi,
From what I can read into here, this guy sounds like I was many years ago. I think he just plain fancied you and just had no experience of what to do. His age shows this and he probably spent the whole evening wondering..."should I, or shou... (read in full...)
9 months on and my boyfriend still won't take me to his house.
Q. I had a crush wit this guy and later approached him and realized he was interested in me too. Now it's 9 months since then and all has been well.i lov him so much and sometimes I find I'm doing things I don't like to please him. I'm afraid that he ...
A. 22 March 2008: HI,
Be careful!!!!! You are his little secret. That's how it comes over. Take note of the previous poster's advice too!!!! best wishes, G. ... (read in full...)
What use are dads? They just stop you doing stuff.
Q. Dad says I should concentrate on my studies instead of boys. He's always setting rules. Why can't I be like my friends and do as I please, they don't have dads. What use are dads? They just stop you doing stuff....
A. 22 March 2008: Hi,
Your dad would stick up for you and love you until the last day of the world. He loves you, and wants you to do the best you can, that's why his decisions may seem odd to you but he is only looking after your interests. My father died when I wa... (read in full...)
He sits with his ex and discusses their past while I'm sitting there! I feel very uncomfortable about it...
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend now for 4 years but the problem is his ex, he spends more time talking to her than what he does to me. She came over one nite and the three of us sat there in my lounge, then they started talking about what it was ...
A. 22 March 2008: Hi,
Well done! Great decision. Never put up with second best in your life again. Dump him and let him take his EX whwerever he wants to. Well done SillyGirl23, best wishes, G.... (read in full...)
He didn't contact me after the first date, am I expected to take the initiative and... have I given wrong signals until now?
Q. Hi, My friend introduced one guy to me, two days later he dated me out for dinner and movie. On the whole, I considered it was a pleasant date, he's nice and gentleman, despite that at times, we remained silence and I just looked at other directio...
A. 22 March 2008: Hi,
He probably thought you wasn't interested so that's why he didn't contact you. I don't think he will contact you now, so you will have to make the next step if you want to try for another date. Send a message to say you enjoyed his comp... (read in full...)
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