Should we work at this for the sake of our daughter?
Q. I have been with my fiancé for eight years. And we just recently had a baby girl five and a half months ago. Things are rocky and are not the same it used to be. Were no longer happy. We rarely speak,have sex, or even show love with a kiss or a hug. ...
A. 20 November 2009: Get yourselves off to marriage counselling, make time for each other, i think communication is sadly lacking in your relationship and that is what is causing you to drift apart.
Go to counselling, put the effort in, find the reasons why this marr... (read in full...)
I'm overwhelmed by condom selections! Any tips?
Q. Hey, Me and my girlfriend are thinking of having sex. And it sounds embarrasing, but when i looked in the shop for condoms, i was completely confused on how many different types there are. Can anyone help me out, and tell me the best 'DUREX...
A. 20 November 2009: Go on to Durex website you will get all the info your looking for there.
Gina... (read in full...)
Has anyone lost weight while pregnant?
Q. hiya well im 19 weeks pregnant with my first baby and am really confused. im getting a nice round bump but other than that have lost nearly 2 stone since i became pregnant and am worried that it could hurt my baby if i carry on losing weight ...
A. 20 November 2009: I can recall one woman who lost weight whilst pregnant, there is a medical term for the name of this problem so speak with your doctor as soon as you can.
If it helps she went on to have a healthy baby boy, but was fortunate to work in a doct... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend stopped giving me attention, what should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a comited relationship since 4.5months and he lives 545km away from my house..we both really love each other and we can even die for each other..but now a days my boyfriend doesn't give me much attention as he used to ...
A. 20 November 2009: Arrange a set time when he will call you, or you him that way it wont interfere if he has other things he has to do, it is never a good idea to sit by a phone waiting on it to ring, you both arrange a time and if you or he cant call at that specific ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be unhappy with my girlfriend performing Burlesque shows?
Q. hi recenty my girlfriend started doing burlesque shows. i think it's just a way for her to get on stage and strip to her under wear and talk dirty with a room full of strangers. is it wrong that i don't like it, i haven't told her out right ca...
A. 20 November 2009: You don't feel comfortable with this so therefore to you it feels wrong, i would imagine not a lot of men would want their girlfriends/wives stripping off to their underwear in a room full of strangers, not all would admit that though!
For the life... (read in full...)
How do I turn my FWB into something more?
Q. So there's this guy that I like, but I don't feel like he feels the same way I do. We are currently in a friends with benefits relationship, but I want it to be more. It would be very hard for us to be in a relationship, because I do online ...
A. 20 November 2009: The trouble with FWB relationships is there is no commitment, if that is what your after don't go looking for these type of relationships, people go into these for the simple reason they don't want commitment.
You would need to have a chat with him ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of his past! Will I always feel this way?
Q. I grew up in a very religious home (no sex before marriage). I grew out of my religion, but my health kept me from having fun. I've met a great guy, (who i lost my virginity to at 23) but he has a lot of experience, with the pics to prove it. We've ...
A. 20 November 2009: You cant miss what you never had! enjoy what you have now why would you want to go seeking to find what he had? being different is what makes people attracted to one another, his past is his past forget it move on and don't look for things that will ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my married boss and not lose my job?
Q. Hi everyone, i really need help. I am 21, i am a student, i live here on my own. My parents live in another country.Last year i started working and yeah beginning my boss was trying wooing me all the time and i didn't really like him, cause he...
A. 20 November 2009: Hi Sonia,
Firstly you need to be stronger than you are, you know you need your job so why should you leave? until such times you can get another you need to do this.
I would seriously consider getting another job later if you cant bear to be t... (read in full...)
What does he mean by 'you have to be more discreet'?
Q. I am married but I also have a guy friend at work who is also married. We both aren't happy in our marriage but neither of us is willing to give up on it yet. We have been exchanging favors if you know what I mean. But it's just what I said it is ...
A. 20 November 2009: I think you need to elaborate on what kind of favours you both have been exchanging?
He probably means for you to hide what you are doing, and be deceitful!... (read in full...)
Is it normal to think sex is disgusting?
Q. I am 33 yrs old and could care less if I had sex again!! It's gross, and disgusting I have to be drunk to have sex with my husband. Is that normal, and how do you think I should handle it?...
A. 20 November 2009: I don't think it is normal to feel like this with your husband, especially being drunk!
I would be more interested in what has made you so angry and adamant that sex is gross?
I think if there is an underlying reason for you feeling as you do, then... (read in full...)
He slept with me even though he had an STD but I still like him!
Q. ok so here goes... i met this man who says he really likes me. we did oral sex but nothing else he texted me and rang all the time and i met up with him again and had unprotected sex. he continued to tell me he really liked me ect and we arranged ro ...
A. 20 November 2009: Well at least he had the decency to tell you, yes he could have walked off and not said a word as you say but he has caught this from someone, and the fact he just met you and you him and your both taking no precautions?
I would just leave it for ... (read in full...)
I need advice on my cheating girlfriend!
Q. Hey guys im rather upset about this but just wanted some constructive feedback and others opinions on it. last night my girlfriend of 4 years went to her male friends house and just them two were drinking until they were completely wasted and he...
A. 20 November 2009: Country Woman has given you excellent advice, and i would only add i think your girlfriend needs to quit drinking so much as she seems to lower her inhibitions when she does, not a good sign on anyone!
I would be questioning why she is spending more... (read in full...)
Bf has 11 inch penis... how can we make sex more comfortable for me?
Q. Please take this seriously. Me and my boyfriend have been trying to have sex for a while, we have been going out for 5 years and trying for the last few months. It is really hurting me, and it is becoming unpleasant, we just end up arguing....
A. 20 November 2009: I agree with DoubleM he cant put all of that in you! He needs to be thinking of your comfort more than anything. 11 inches wow!!
Gina... (read in full...)
I'm not a liar but I can't justify my actions!
Q. Today is my boyfriend and I's ten months. We've been going strong so far, but tonight tests us... About a year ago (before we were dating), I was trying to get into modeling. I went to a photographer who was fairly well-known, and seemed professio...
A. 20 November 2009: From his point it doesn't look good, he is in a position were he has found this out through a friend, and really it should have came from you, what is done is done now, all you can do is to try and reassure him what you are doing now is not that!
I... (read in full...)
Phone sex making fiance sleepy... am I just a sexual relationship?
Q. Why is it that every time after we have phone sex my fiance gets very sleepy afterwards. I mean well have phone sex a couple times a day sometimes, then shortly afterwards, he's over there snoozing. Am I the only one that this happens to. When he ...
A. 20 November 2009: Maybe cut it to once a day, and dont be on the phone too long.
Gina... (read in full...)
She reaches climax too soon!
Q. hey this is my first time asking for help...anyway.... I'm 19 and I love my girlfriend so much,but I'm having problems with her in bed. What I mean is that she cums really really fast. 5 minutes fast. This is frustrating caus it takes me about 45 ...
A. 20 November 2009: The fact she comes very quickly and you are taking a while, i think is the problem, maybe you need to be stimulated more before actual intercourse, cause 45 min to an hour is way too long .
Gina... (read in full...)
Is oral sex on a woman better than intercourse for them?
Q. Is oral sex on a woman better than intercourse? I'm better at sex when I'm tipsy, I come out of my shell. Is that normal??...
A. 20 November 2009: Depends on the individual, many women can climax through intercourse and prefer that kind of orgasm, some women are just not into oral and therefore they will concentrate more on sexual intercourse.
Being tipsy is never a good way to be, always bett... (read in full...)
We've only been back together for a week but already she is showing signs of her old behaviour!
Q. Hi, need some advice about what to do next. Me and my ex were with each other for 3 years but broke up 10 months ago she is very insecure no matter what i do to comfort her or resure her, in the end it tore us apart not saying i done nothing wrong ...
A. 19 November 2009: I agree i think couple's counsellings a great way to start this relationship off on the right foot, if you both love one another then it is worth trying everything to save it.
People can say they have changed but maybe deep down she has not chan... (read in full...)
After sex I'm afraid he'll disappear!
Q. I've been dating a guy for a cpl of months.Not sure what we are.Hadnt seen him in a cpl wks.So we got together - had a fun movie/pizza night.So one thing lead to another and we slept together.I dont normally have sex until I'm sure im in a ...
A. 19 November 2009: I am sorry sweetheart if that was all he wanted, if that is the case then you know your better off without him.
Gina... (read in full...)
Please help me... he hits me on a regular basis...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, i love him very much even though he hits me on a regular basis, I'm 17 he is 23 so when he does this to me i cant stand up for myself because hes too strong, i cant leave him because i have no one else to ...
A. 19 November 2009: I am glad your taking all our advice cause we do care about you, you know that you can come on here anytime and ask us all for help and advice and we will be here ready to give it to you, we wont let you down that i promise.
If you can arrange to g... (read in full...)
Why do women sleep with married men?
Q. Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...
A. 19 November 2009: Sadly some have lost all morals and values completely!
Gina... (read in full...)
Please help me... he hits me on a regular basis...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, i love him very much even though he hits me on a regular basis, I'm 17 he is 23 so when he does this to me i cant stand up for myself because hes too strong, i cant leave him because i have no one else to ...
A. 19 November 2009: Listen to all these great aunts and uncles here they are telling you the same thing get away from him, i would contact Women's Aid google it and you can find out where one is for your area, you don't need any money to go to them, they will see you ... (read in full...)
Do girls like macho or caring guys?
Q. Hi There Everybody...I'm 18 Years Old And I Just Wanted to Know If Girls Like It If A Guy is Macho Or Just Kind,Caring And Fun Loving...Cos I Am Not macho...But I Do Like Having Fun And just being normal...And Watching Anime!!!...And I Dont Wanna ...
A. 19 November 2009: Different girls will like different guys, we don't all go for the stereotype as hyped, i think most women would warm more to a man if he was honest, thoughtful, loyal, caring, kind, etc: as opposed to being macho, yes women like to look at hunky men ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to realise that I am Mr Right?
Q. Alright so there is this amazing girl I work with... Kinda a fucked up situation... She is seeing some one and I am sungle... I want to get with her because I'm single and her guy treats her like shit... We talk for hours wen it's slow at work and ...
A. 19 November 2009: As long as she is with this other guy you cant, if he treats her so badly why is she staying with him?
I would try and find out those reasons before i tried to get with her, cause you are not in their life, your only hearing one end of a story here... (read in full...)
I'm not a liar but I can't justify my actions!
Q. Today is my boyfriend and I's ten months. We've been going strong so far, but tonight tests us... About a year ago (before we were dating), I was trying to get into modeling. I went to a photographer who was fairly well-known, and seemed professio...
A. 19 November 2009: The main problem i would have with your situation would be how these pictures ended up on the Internet?
Did you sign anything at the time that would have given you sole rights as to how they were to be used, and that your approval would have to be s... (read in full...)
I missed a few pills, unprotected sex, and now I'm worried!
Q. this a bit of a hard and weird question to be asking but i am a bit worried, i am on the contraceptive pill and obviously i have missed a few pills in the month that i am now in and on the 16th nov a few days ago i had unprotected sexual ...
A. 19 November 2009: You could be there is no real way of being entirely sure though till you take or miss your period.
If for any reason you are then you need to see a doctor asap, if your not then please try to remember to take these pills, i am very surprised you ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my Christmas gift might be a bit too soppy and clingy, any thoughts?
Q. Sadly my financial situation is not as I'd like it so I'm very poor and cant really afford christmas presents properly this year. However I really want to get my boyfriend something fantastic as hes been so amazing and just getting to know him ...
A. 19 November 2009: I think that sounds a lovely idea and not all guys are so macho they cant appreciate something that someone has went to a lot of bother to do.
One thing i had thought of, and it is cheap, you can download your favourite songs or his favorite song... (read in full...)
After sex I'm afraid he'll disappear!
Q. I've been dating a guy for a cpl of months.Not sure what we are.Hadnt seen him in a cpl wks.So we got together - had a fun movie/pizza night.So one thing lead to another and we slept together.I dont normally have sex until I'm sure im in a ...
A. 19 November 2009: Be careful if he is just recently divorced for him it might have just been about getting the sex! sorry if that is not the case but just my thought on it.
You have not seen or heard from him in 3 days and this was after the sex?
Sorry i really f... (read in full...)
Are there any signs I can look out for to see if he still has feelings?
Q. Ok, long story short, my sister met this bloke and him and his son came to live with her about a year or so ago. me and the son hit it off and ended up getting really close emotionally (amongst other things) no details. especially after...
A. 19 November 2009: Hard to say we cant just go on someone looking at us, people look at people all the time.
Why not arrange to see him, go for a bite to eat, or just a coffee, talk with him catch up on what he has been up to etc: that way it will give you an insi... (read in full...)
Should I just leave him alone and give him time or maybe I have totally scared him off?
Q. I am a bit confused by this guy. I see him around my local pubs quite a bit and he always had lots of girls around him. I thought he was a bit of a jerk. I had a feeling he had a thing for me because he would always stare at me and look at me when ...
A. 19 November 2009: Well, you dont want anything to do wih a loser now do you?
Gina... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do. There is no romance in my marriage and I am seeing my old girlfriend.
Q. Good day 49 years old man been married for 21 years. Have three children 15, 18 and 19. My wife and I have made love three times in the last ten years. She won't discuss the problem or seek help. Full stop. I have gotten very down about it at time...
A. 19 November 2009: Keep me posted as to what you end up doing, thank you.
Gina... (read in full...)
Is this normal? Am I pregnant?
Q. I have missed my period for five monts and I have had backaches and headaches, my breasts have been itching a lot lately and all I do is eat. I mean I always ate a lot but now I just can't control it. Can anyone help me out here? Am I pregnant? I ...
A. 19 November 2009: Good for you, good luck and let us all know how you got on.
Gina... (read in full...)
Confused about what's going on with my relationship...
Q. I've known this girl for years and she's my best friend n all. She recently wanted to give us a try n 2 months into it I'm just not sure about my feelings! One minute I'm like yes I want to be with her, then the next minute I dont. Small things ...
A. 19 November 2009: You need to talk with her and find out the reason why she is behaving in this manner, i am sure once your communicating better she will open up, as i think there is something bothering her, she cant just know you as little as this and be like this ... (read in full...)
My b/f is in the middle of a divorce, his wife is making my life hell, help?
Q. Ok, I am near my breaking point and need an unbiased opinion. My bf is in the middle of a divorce, yet they still live in the same house, both for financial reasons(hers) and both lawyers are telling them not to leave until one is ordered to. They...
A. 19 November 2009: I am wondering how two people can be separated if they live in the same house and for two years?
Gina... (read in full...)
He acts like he is not interested, but his eyes say something different.
Q. How can I make him confess instead of using his boddy language although he knows that I am 9 yr elder than him.I know that he loves me too much but he avoids me and he tries to show to public that he even doesn't see me.He looks at me secretly and ...
A. 19 November 2009: I would try to trike up a conversation with him, get to know him better, we cannot tell how people are just by looking, we need to get inside their heads and that means finding ways you can talk and when you get that opportunity, ask everything you ... (read in full...)
Who do you think likes me more? I'm drawn to one guy but I'm not sure if he's interested!
Q. I have some male friends, two of which I am concerned about. The first one is a guy I work with, let's call him Daniel, and the second is called Gary. Dan and I have known each other for just over a month now, through work mainly. In the w...
A. 18 November 2009: Hard to say but if your gut instinct is telling you Daniel is the most favourable go with him.
No i don't think it is wrong to give a present at Xmas, quite the contrary i think it is nice to give presents at Xmas, and i am sure he will glad... (read in full...)
I love her dearly but really don't know if the feeling is mutual anymore
Q. I am a 47 year old male, my partner is 32 we have been together for about 12 years now and have a lovely six year old daughter. I tell her i love her everyday,she only says this if i have said it first. if i go to cuddle her its as though i am in he...
A. 18 November 2009: You both would do well to attend couple's counselling, i think if your wife could talk openly as to why she feels the way she does with a trained professional, you would get to the root of the problem.
To leave this any longer is only prol... (read in full...)
Do I give my husband another chance or give it a go with mr perfect?
Q. Where to begin. Me and my husband have been married 8 years. But the last year and a half lived apart it started out just for work but progressed to a real seperation. Our marraige has been rocky for most of its duration. We have argued for yrs and ...
A. 18 November 2009: If your reasons are just for the comfy life not working etc: against Mr nice guy with maybe not so comfortable life, I'd go with the latter, as one poster said physical abuse does not deserve a second chance.
Gian... (read in full...)
Is it bad to talk to yourself?
Q. Is it bad to talk to yourself? I dont do it in public but if I'm by myself such as in the car driving I usaully talk to myself. The reason I do it is because I dont have nobody else to talk to all my friends that were always ears have babies now ...
A. 18 November 2009: No i don't think so, i think most people do it, it is just a lot of people would not admit to it.
Gina... (read in full...)
Ovulation, Pregnancy, The ex-factor. Help!
Q. Hi everyone, so I have some questions. See me and my ex-boyfriend had unprotected sex (he has a girlfriend) and Im like bugging out I may get pregnant. See I already have a two year old with someone else and this is the same exact time of month I ...
A. 18 November 2009: I don't get why the unprotected sex when he has already got a girlfriend? apart from taking a risk with diseases, he is cheating on her and your allowing him too?
You are being totally irresponsible both of you, you say you already have a two year... (read in full...)
Is this normal? Am I pregnant?
Q. I have missed my period for five monts and I have had backaches and headaches, my breasts have been itching a lot lately and all I do is eat. I mean I always ate a lot but now I just can't control it. Can anyone help me out here? Am I pregnant? I ...
A. 18 November 2009: Could you speak to your mother about this or a sister? cause i think you need to be doing that and make an appointment with your doctor, cause even if your not pregnant, i think something does not sound right.
Gina... (read in full...)
Confused about what's going on with my relationship...
Q. I've known this girl for years and she's my best friend n all. She recently wanted to give us a try n 2 months into it I'm just not sure about my feelings! One minute I'm like yes I want to be with her, then the next minute I dont. Small things ...
A. 18 November 2009: Your right just give it a try, even though we know people quite well it is totally different when your in a relationship with them.
2 months is not that long so give it a while yet, and when your sure ask her.
Gina... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do. There is no romance in my marriage and I am seeing my old girlfriend.
Q. Good day 49 years old man been married for 21 years. Have three children 15, 18 and 19. My wife and I have made love three times in the last ten years. She won't discuss the problem or seek help. Full stop. I have gotten very down about it at time...
A. 17 November 2009: I am tempted to say stop seeing this woman as your married, but i am thinking you have only made love 3x in ten years? i find it hard to believe you both have allowed this to go on this length of time, no marriage can survive being loveless.
I woul... (read in full...)
My b/f is in the middle of a divorce, his wife is making my life hell, help?
Q. Ok, I am near my breaking point and need an unbiased opinion. My bf is in the middle of a divorce, yet they still live in the same house, both for financial reasons(hers) and both lawyers are telling them not to leave until one is ordered to. They...
A. 14 November 2009: It wont last forever, you cant really blame her for being like this, look what has happened after asking you to help her out?
You have done more than find the dirt for her!
I think out of respect you keep your mouth closed and and mind your P's... (read in full...)
Should I just leave him alone and give him time or maybe I have totally scared him off?
Q. I am a bit confused by this guy. I see him around my local pubs quite a bit and he always had lots of girls around him. I thought he was a bit of a jerk. I had a feeling he had a thing for me because he would always stare at me and look at me when ...
A. 9 November 2009: Ask yourself this, if you really liked someone and it never got off in the right foot to begin with and you had a second chance at it, would you wait a week to get back to you?
I wouldn't, i would be on the phone asap! now unless there is a vali... (read in full...)
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