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My name is Gisela I stay in Miami Fl and I hate people who can NOT drive which means lol no use of signal lights whatsoever and alot of other crap ola! but my relationhip status is single for now. I am currently looking for someone in Europe lol.

I worry that I'm forcing myself on my online friend of 7 years!

Q.   Okay so I've had a friend for about 7 years now, we have never met in real life, and we have been through a lot. Mainly because of me being somewhat of a liar when I was younger and I felt that I was too ugly to be with anyone so I used a fake ...

A.   21 October 2010: I know I know that is why it surprised me but she is a very forgiving person and I really had no idea what I was doing. But I talk with her more and we are to an understanding and I'm pretty sure of what's going on... Thankies so much!... (read in full...)

I live in the States, he lives in Spain!

Q.   Sorry guys for so much details I just figured the more the better and also I am not an organized thinker so please excuse my spontaneous thinking! Ok so I met this guy on my last night in Spain and I really like him. The only thing is I live in ...

A.   13 October 2010: I have actually thought about everything all I do is think think think. I would move to spain but I'm pretty sure he would move here too. He is suppose to be coming to the states this in the summer or before so he will be first. I am kinda basing my ... (read in full...)

I hate my dark, dark skin

Q.   I am Cuban and I am dark skin and I like to think that Im exotic with my foreign tongue and look. But all my life I have had people be mean and criticize me for who I am. The media in America portrays majority of the people being beautiful as white ...

A.   3 March 2010: All of you have really shed a light on EVERYTHING. For me.. I thought that maybe I was crazy to feel the way I did but with you guys words I feel inspired to just try to be myself and ignore what people in america think is beautiful you all have ... (read in full...)

Why are men so cruel when it comes to dating us curvier women?

Q.   Ok..I previously posted a question...I went on a blind date with a gentlement who I was talking to for 2 weeks..we were constantly on the phone and texting galore..It felt fantastic, he learned about me and I of him... I'm not big, but I'm not a ...

A.   23 February 2010: It's a women thing. We are so self conscious about everything!! You should really change the type of guys you like, it would save you some time and aggravation. A size 10-11 isnt bad thats the size i want but then again im almost 6 ft tall! Bottom ... (read in full...)

I think he doesn't want me because I am not pretty enough

Q.   I think he doesnt want me to be his gf bcz i m not pretty enough! dont i deserve to be loved too? i cry every morning once i wake, i cry to sleep every night. i know i sound foolish but i feel extremely down. fine, i m ugly but dont i deserve t...

A.   18 February 2010: Hun its obvious ure not ugly bc he is messing around with u ... If u were ugly to him he wudnt come no where near u but he does and a lot more.. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with u not bc of ur looks but bc he wants to be a player..he ... (read in full...)

Depressed about being lonely

Q.   I need help, No one seems to approach me to date... I'm fairly attractive, I take time each day to fix my hair nice ,put some makeup ,lip gloss all that good currently eating healthier and working on losing weight.. Im not horrible looking ...

A.   18 February 2010: o0o hun we women always have these moments ..its just a phase.. im going through it right now but if you want to talk about it more just message me... (read in full...)

My life is miserable now. Will I ever be happy again?

Q.   Will ever be happy? 18 just finished school all my 'friends' are in college and having fun my parents cant afford to put me through school. soon i'm not doing anything with my life and on top of that i'm i'm ugly,fat and have a small penis and i've ...

A.   18 February 2010: yes u will be happy. quit being so negative. your life is what you make of it so if you want to chose to be unhappy and miserable then it's totally on you. but stop it, if you feel youre over weight then go out and exercise if you cant go to school ... (read in full...)

Lied about my identity but found the man of my dreams!

Q.   Used a fake name and picture. At first it was just a fun account that my friend created and then I started to develop feelings for this guy. It went on for a few months and I finally had to come clean to him because I was falling in love with him ...

A.   18 February 2010: awwww i have a similar situation going on now but he still hasn't met up with me "yet" but it would be confusing if he tells you all these things after u meet him and out of no where just says all this stuff.... i hate to say this but just wait on ... (read in full...)

Should I stay with my boyfriend or try and date the new guy?

Q.   I've been dating a guy for about 2 months. There is something about him I just don't click with. I don't feel the same way with him that I have with other guys I have dated, even in the same time period. He is older than me by 8 years, I'm 21 he is ...

A.   18 February 2010: yea i agree with caring... does it has to be all about being with someone? you cant just date a little while then figure it out. 2 months is really nothing when you think about it and you dont deserve to have someone to make you feel bad so dump the ... (read in full...)

Why am I acting like I am single and looking for a man when I have a boyfriend? Is it wrong that I am still with him?

Q.   [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Question 1 I'm a mother of a 4 month old girl, and am still with her father but only as bf/gf. Well he wants to get married, but I don't. He's madly in love with me, I'm...

A.   13 February 2010: Me and you are in the exact same boat... I have my son nd I live with his dad but neither am I attracted to him anymore and I have been caught textin other guys nd such bc I'm sooo bored with him now I find him annoying now. But he's getting out in ... (read in full...)

I have lied to my online friend, about everything for 5 years. I am going to meet him now, what do I do?

Q.   I have been using fake pics for well over 6 years and at first its fun with the attention but after a while reality sets in and it always come to an bad ending!! But this was when I was a lot younger and now I'm 21 I don't do it no more bc at the ...

A.   12 February 2010: Ok you put the nail right on the head for me!but you know the reason why I didn't tell him earlier bc it was always off and on like every other month or even less But with you guys help I got enuff guts to tell him I will update u guys soon on ... (read in full...)

Would it be so bad to get a tattoo reminding me of him, even though this weekend will be the first time we have met up?

Q.   I have recently met a younger man (3 years) on a dating website. We have texted and talked on the phone. We are supposed to meet this weekend. To add insult to injury his father passed away this last Monday. I feel a VERY strong connectio...

A.   12 February 2010: Aw you're so cute I think you shud wait just to be sure maybe 5 dates or something he might be a total ass I've been with the same feelings you havr with plenty of guys same expectations and they have all disappointed me all alike just be safe ... (read in full...)

Is this the beginning stages of spousal abuse???

Q.   i've been married for almost a month and a half. not very long in my case, ive known my husband for about 5 years. me and him are known to play fight, but sometimes it gets serious and i usually get mad and walk away if that's the case. for examp...

A.   11 February 2010: Oh honey I think that its only going to get worse from here when he abuses you and you don't take action its giving him the okay to do it again and again just be smart. You're still young the mairrage is not long and I didn't read anywhere that said ... (read in full...)

Is he interested in me or just being nice?

Q.   I have been going to a counselor for the past 2 years and can't ask him because he is the one I need advice about. About 2 months ago I developed an interest in him and there are some things he does that makes me wonder if he is interested also. ...

A.   11 February 2010: I think he's just being nice ... I don't see major signs My doctor caresses my face while looking in my eyes and also pinches my cheeks lol ODD but I don't think he's interested neither But if u totally want something just call and ask him so y... (read in full...)

I have lied to my online friend, about everything for 5 years. I am going to meet him now, what do I do?

Q.   I have been using fake pics for well over 6 years and at first its fun with the attention but after a while reality sets in and it always come to an bad ending!! But this was when I was a lot younger and now I'm 21 I don't do it no more bc at the ...

A.   11 February 2010: No that's the thing we are total opposites I have no choice *tear... (read in full...)

What to do next???

Q.   I met a guy from online and we went to a bar.. the conversation seemed to go well even though i was nervous.. i found him funny and nice.. he bought me a second drink and later said he isn't much of a drinker and if i would like to go somewhere ...

A.   11 February 2010: It sounds really normal wat just happened. Don't over think it bc then your mind will never turn off lol but I do feel that you did and are playing things out perfect. You can wait til he calls you and if he doesn't after a few days you should try ... (read in full...)

I have lied to my online friend, about everything for 5 years. I am going to meet him now, what do I do?

Q.   I have been using fake pics for well over 6 years and at first its fun with the attention but after a while reality sets in and it always come to an bad ending!! But this was when I was a lot younger and now I'm 21 I don't do it no more bc at the ...

A.   10 February 2010: omg I know it bothers me alot just to talk to him about the future and to think about it as well because its under false pretenses you. I feel absolutely horrible!! And I wanna tell him soon as possible its just I have to grow the courage to do so ... (read in full...)

I should run but my heart says stay. Help!

Q.   i'm seeing this guy who all my family and friends hate they say i can do better but i love him i no i shouldnt get involved with him as hes got 3 children but he means so much to me and he makes me happy but i dont know what to do my head says run ...

A.   10 February 2010: Do what feels right I had the same problem and I stayed. It was the worst decisions in my life. You're young so I can also suggest to live a little to see the world and what else there is out there.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got another woman pregnant!

Q.   I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. A few months ago, I found out that he got his officemate pregnant.She was on her 5th month that time. I know that this is mainly my guys fault, but I found out that the girl knew all along ...

A.   10 February 2010: Omg honey I'm so sorry for this incident that happened to you. Under such condition you have been put through I find you have acted as a pure lady. As to your situation I agree with everyone here I see the aspects of all. If you really can't le... (read in full...)

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