How will my husband ever forgive me for being unfaithful?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I have been married for four years and have two children with my husband. I absoloutly adore him. However, at a hen party two years ago, in a moment of madness, i kissed another man. It wasnt a proper kiss, as there were no ...
A. 1 June 2015: I think your husband either did not forgive you or he does not know the definition of forgiveness. To forgive means never to bring it back and blast you during arguments. So one thing you should clear up is which is it: fake forgiveness or clueless ... (read in full...)
Do you think someone can have an affair without having sex with another person?
Q. I married my high school gf just over a year ago. Shortly after we got engaged I started working a new job and met this girl named Sarah, she's funny, sweet and we just had tons of fun working together. We started hanging out with each other ...
A. 1 June 2015: Divorce is not the first line of action in a bad marriage but a last one. Some counseling should be done by you two in order to bridge the gap of perception of happiness in this marriage. Go the counsellor yourself if she doesn't want to, then ... (read in full...)
Two years and I'm still not over him?
Q. My life is just miserable. My ex dumped me about 2 years ago. I'm moving on very very slowly. I blocked his Facebook page, deleted all the pictures, put away everything that would remind me of him. I even moved abroad and focused on myself only. ...
A. 31 May 2015: Why don't you reply to him and hear what he has to offer. For all you know, he is hurting as much as you are, irrespective that he maybe with some woman. In fact, that woman could make him realize what he has lost with you. Don't pour your heart to ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship at the moment but I want sex
Q. My boyfriend had been away for about 8 months now . He went of to study in Wyoming and I am in Illinois. I have been going through allot without him and I am having a really hard time being faithful. In a relationship I am always a hot head. I ...
A. 31 May 2015: Of course it is very wrong! If you want to keep your man then you want to keep sex with him only. Having sex with others will definitively not keep him, nor will you likely stay with him with all that mental memorabilia about sex with others even if ... (read in full...)
Do men want kids as much as women? Can men have a strong desire for children?
Q. Is a man's desire to have kids as strong as a woman' s? Obviously this requires a bit of generalisation - there are plenty of women that don't want kids, and plenty of men that do - but are men generally a bit more ambivalent towards kids?...
A. 31 May 2015: Statistics are great at generalizing things so here are some for UK: http://www.theguardian.com/news/datablog/2013/jun/13/single-fathers-uk-statistics These numbers tell us that 13.5% of single households are headed by the father which means... (read in full...)
Will he really choose love over religion?
Q. I really need some advice. Its tearing me apart. I am a 20 year old non religious female student living in the UK, my current partner is a 19 year old male Muslim student living in the same city as myself. We are head over heals in love with each ...
A. 30 May 2015: The fact that you are even questioning whether you should plunge further with a Muslim answers your own question. If what you facing is pristine and you had no anticipatory negatives, you would not be asking whether what you are about to do is any ... (read in full...)
I feel vulnerable, does that make me selfish?
Q. OK, I've been in a relationship for 6 months with my other half. I know it's not long but I do really care about him. Everything seems OK when we are together but I'm beginning to have cold feet. He is so blunt in his messages to me ( which he...
A. 29 May 2015: He could very well be sincere that his intent was not to sleep with those women whom he flirts with and frankly, drunk men are often too intoxicated to maintain an erection, and he knows it, so even if she offered him sex on the spot he would likely ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on her, but is she just being nice?
Q. Hello, So I am a lady who dates ladies. I have this amazingly gorgeous co-worker who isn't on my team but in my department and sits around the hallway from me. I honestly have no idea if she's straight/gay/bi, in a relationship, etc. She doesn't...
A. 29 May 2015: One rule that people should highly consider adopting is never to date anyone with whom they work because, as divorce and other statistics show, such stuff turns into very nasty situations that can threaten careers. I work for a very large ... (read in full...)
Do you think someone can have an affair without having sex with another person?
Q. I married my high school gf just over a year ago. Shortly after we got engaged I started working a new job and met this girl named Sarah, she's funny, sweet and we just had tons of fun working together. We started hanging out with each other ...
A. 28 May 2015: Yes, this is emotional affair because you are investing yourself in romantic ways with a woman who isn't your wife. The problem here is that you are investing yourself into someone who can actually wreck your marriage instead of investing yourself ... (read in full...)
I just want my own identity. What needs to change in our marriage?
Q. My husband and I have been having so many problems lately. Financially, sexually, and emotionally and I really don't know what to do. We've have 3 kids and I'm a stay at home mom. Whenever I'm upset, I like to vent to him so I don't explode ...
A. 28 May 2015: What you described is so very typical of how financial problems strap and choke an otherwise perfect marriage: the guy is focused on surviving financially and construes everything towards that purpose but the woman is unable to keep that regimen ... (read in full...)
Am I no longer in love with my husband?
Q. Hi I am married but still in love with a married man. I left the company since a year. We fell in love and we have not really spoken about it but we realised it quite late, few weeks before I left. I am married but do not know what to do...
A. 28 May 2015: No woman should ever, ever! believe anything that a married man is telling her, unless she is his wife. Same with the guy who confessed his "feelings" to you. You maybe infatuated, or like others are saying, compensating for what's missing i... (read in full...)
He said he can't love me because of my past, but I still love him!
Q. i am unable to get over my ex. we started dating four months ago and it was perfect.by the end of the first week itself i told him about my past, that i had lost my virginity to my ex. all he asked me was, if it was a one time mistake or more than ...
A. 27 May 2015: If he has his principals, assuming here it's a virgin girl who he will undo, then just let him go so he can look for a woman that satisfies those principals. There is no way to undo your past therefore there is no way for you to ever be able to meet ... (read in full...)
My husband is pressuring me for a threesome.
Q. Hi..We r married not very happily but married for 6yrs..I feel n it's true my husband was never true with me.no doubt he loves me n kids but he's very confused b character less person.since 5 yrs he's pressuring me for three some.every time he wants ...
A. 26 May 2015: If you don't want a 3some then don't do it. It is as simple as that big he can't respect your stand then who cares because at least you are not doing stuff that you find wrong. Stay strong in resisting. ... (read in full...)
2 years of sleeping with ex who is married. Do I walk away?
Q. Been sleeping with ex for almost 2 years. He's married. I said to him "when you get divorced we can spend more time together". He said, "you'll find someone" I said so will you, since he's been saying he's getting divorced. He responded, "I have ...
A. 26 May 2015: Walk away. There is nothing there for you. You should not have had anything to do with a married man but it is never too late to rectify that. Do not fall for his sweet word, if he sends them to persuade to keep you. He may use sweet to convince you ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 25 May 2015: If she is not cheating with any of those penises that you are referring to then it really does not matter. The fact that she is happy with you penis should rejoice you because, after being afforded various penises to her enjoyment, she picked yours. ... (read in full...)
Telling him how much I love him isn't working, so what's the best way to get him back?
Q. Two months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years after an argument. We had been having lots of arguments and it wasn't our first time breaking up. Now, 2 months later, I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life and I desperately want ...
A. 24 May 2015: Idk if this is the case with your guy but he maybe missing you as well but thinks that denying to be with you is his payback for whatever you contributed to the breakup. In other words, he may want to get back but feels that your begging is ... (read in full...)
Life after swinging?
Q. Hi Just wondered how people that have swung return to normal monogamous sex with their partners? I'm a gangbang host and just worry sex will bore me after if I ever return to normal sex....
A. 24 May 2015: Answer to this depends on who you ask and which gender. I know 2 women and 3 men who were former swingers, not with each other, so I'll share what they have said. One of the women says that she does not regret sex, that it was fun but she alwa... (read in full...)
Feel betrayed, hurt, and extremely upset about her lies on her friendship/relationship with T. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for a little over two years, and have been together for nearly 6 years. About 7 months after we started dating I met her friend, (a guy called T), who she said was her best friend. At first I was a little put off,...
A. 24 May 2015: I doubt that she slept with that guy only once but infidelity does not require many repeats of adulter but one. So if you are wondering what would do then I would divorce her. Then again, I am not in your shoes nor do I know the strength of your ... (read in full...)
She says she don't remember her ex boyfriends sizes. Could it be?
Q. I am with a girl for about 5 yrs. I like her very much and our sexual life was very beautiful, until 3 months before, when disaster came. Here is what happened: I had never asked her anything about her past, I knew only what she had told me herself ...
A. 23 May 2015: While to men certain vagina size and shape would matter, for women, the size largely does not matter. Females are capable of a vaginal orgasm in so many ways but statistics show that up to 80% of women never orgasm via penetration of penis. Given ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone and NEVER be jealous?
Q. Is it possible to care deeply for or even love someone and NEVER be jealous? I have always thought that being jealous meant being afraid to lose someone. That is because you love or care for them so much. And it is a feeling which overcomes us, wh...
A. 20 May 2015: Jealousy has no place in a loving relationship. Jealousy is a negative emotion and as such should not be inside love. If it is then the love is only alleged, by one in the couple or both. Therefore, if there is jealousy there is only tainted "love" ... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend's sex drive is suddenly higher lately, does that mean he is cheating? How can I determine this?
Q. If your boyfriend's sex drive is suddenly higher lately, does it mean he is cheating on you? We have always had amazing sex and he has had a healthy sex drive, like me, but just seems a little hornier the last week. Not sure why? We have ...
A. 20 May 2015: Horner than usual would imply the opposite, that he isn't cheating. Has he been cheating he would not have a sex drive for you but would have a sex drive for the other one. ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but kissed my married manager at work and now I'm all messed up!
Q. I am in a tricky situation.. I've been with my Boyf for 4 years I'm 20 years old and recently got my dream job.. My manager is 25 and married. So recently I put in for another job within the Same organisation, however I was told my manager picked ...
A. 20 May 2015: You are in a pickle. You know that no married men cheat on their wives because their marriage is bad; they cheat because they don't care about any women, you included. Your woes are compounded now because the cheater is your boss. You boss basically ... (read in full...)
Wife refuses intimacy, except for procreation. Threatens to deny access to children. I can't put up with her behaviour. What can I do?
Q. It started almost the first month we were married, there was no intimacy. After years of no intimacy and no physical contact in our relationship, I was very resentful. The only time we had intimacy or physical contact was when she wanted children...
A. 20 May 2015: First, stop with the prostitutes and get checked for STD and make sure you don't have any and your wife does not know you did it.
Second, gather favorable evidence, prospect a good home where you could move to, secure your job and money.
Thre... (read in full...)
How to tell guy I'm seeing that he has bad body odor and a messy room?
Q. I've been seeing this guy I really like for about a month now. I dropped the other people I dated just to focus on our relationship (that's how much I like him). So far, so good. He's nice, cute and has an amazing personality. Here's the catch: I ...
A. 19 May 2015: I don't think that there is any round about way in telling him that he needs to bath more and even change his diet because what person eats often is the cause of body smell. Since you are determined to fix the smell issue, and there is no poli... (read in full...)
Should I tell my good friend that I'm worried about her? Drinking and drugs?
Q. She’s 40 and I’m two years her junior. We’ve been friends since I was born. We even lived together for 3 years (I let her stay with me because she had nowhere to go) and we get along well. However… as we grew up our lives changed. I got married an...
A. 19 May 2015: From my experience, people who abuse alcohol for whatever reason never do anything to quit until something traumatic happens to them. In marriages, that usually means the spouse is leaving. But when you are single, like her, it is hard to imagine ... (read in full...)
Is this normal I love her so much!
Q. I hope I can get some help here because I am getting concern about my feeling towards my fiance. I'm 38 years old and she is 37. She was my classmate back in uni. I was in love with her and she even didn't know that. When I got the ball to tell her ...
A. 19 May 2015: That's called euphoria, a mixture of infatuation, gratification, eroticism and desire. So it is normal, at least with my experience with my wife. It isn't a constant feeling but thought of her arouses it or the way you think about her. You should ... (read in full...)
I feel like they're being clingy and am hesitant to move in now that they've expressed annoyance about not being there every weekend. Am I right to feel this way or am I being a bad friend?
Q. This year at college I made friends with two girls who are a couple years younger than me. We all hang out a couple of days during the week and sometimes on the weekends as well. The two of them hang out together almost everyday. Recently we all ...
A. 19 May 2015: Your long term interests and gain is to have a good, happy BF therefore I'm suggesting that you disregard the possessiveness that your friends exhibit but keep in mind possessiveness of your BF. You should find ways to repel the pressure of your ... (read in full...)
I have a long distance boyfriend but male in lab is trying to be my friend. What should I do?
Q. I am a postgraduate student at university and I help teach a first year laboratory. One of the students in my lab has really latched onto me. He is older than the other students and from another country so he really wants a friend. I have a ...
A. 18 May 2015: If you do not want to be friends then don't be. You are under no obligation to provide friendship services to a foreigner who decided to be there on his own. IDK what laws govern teacher-student relationship in your country, but whatever it is it is ... (read in full...)
Time perception related advice needed, please? Does anyone else feel how I feel, about time elapsed?
Q. Hey everyone, this is affecting my life significantly in area of human interractions, so I was hoping I could get your advice and maybe find out I'm not alone. For a while now, I don't remember when exactly it started but definitely for years, I...
A. 17 May 2015: Many people percieve this time contraction and once, while discussing this, a possible explanation popped in my head and goes something like this:
The younger you are the more will each 24 hours in a day comprise as part of your total life. So... (read in full...)
She asked me to do a project for her...after she already asked somebody else to do the same thing!
Q. Hi, I am a single male in NYC. I know this woman who is very pretty and married. Let's call her S. I guess you can say we are friendly acquaintances. She has done things which have offended me in the past, like planning to meet up and then canceli...
A. 15 May 2015: Yes, you overreacted. Even if she asked 20 people to do the same task what difference does it make to you when you vowed yourself to it. Let your yes be yes, and don't back on your word irrespective of what you think she maybe doing. If she is your ... (read in full...)
Why is my cheating ex angry that I have moved on?
Q. This is just a general question. Why would an ex girlfriend who cheated and left you for someone else, get extremely mad when they discover you've moved on yourself? My ex cheated and played the back and forth game for weeks. One day, I was the love ...
A. 14 May 2015: Why do you have a need to speak to her or be in any contact with her? She is a cheater and as such you need to leave her alone, and have nothing to do with her. Once you do that, than you will not hear what she has to say and she will no longer be ... (read in full...)
I dated and broke up with brother 1. Now brother 2 is pursuing me. Is it wrong and what should I do?
Q. Is it wrong to be with someone who pushed you away for a very long time and because you were with his brother and he felt jealous and now he wants you???? I am in love with him but i'm confused... His brother hates me for telling him what happene...
A. 12 May 2015: You should walk away from both of them. Besides what you say not be between brothers, this is just too much unhealthy drama and given your young age, none of which will have any happy ending for you. It isn't good to be passed on from one to another ... (read in full...)
Do men judge a woman/potential girlfriends by how much money she has?
Q. Do men judge a woman/potential girlfriends by how much money she has? I'm a 26 year old who does simply okay for myself, nothing great. I don't drive an expensive car (my car is 8 years old) or wear brand name clothing or expensive jewelry, an...
A. 12 May 2015: Finances don't matter to the guy as long as you are not mismanaging like raking up debt. Too much of fancy brand names and dolling up is sometimes a turn off for guys who are more practical and are not looking for a trophy wife. Not being a nag, ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to be FWB. Should I?
Q. Okay so I need a bit of advice. A good friend of mine, we will call him Mark, used to date me. Another friend, we will call her Amber, decided she was going to be a not so good friend and steal him away. Mark and Amber were together for about 3 ...
A. 12 May 2015: If you have feeling for him then FWB is the worst way for you to get him to be yours. If you want a relationship with him then you have to set that from the get go. FWB is just sex for him and he will never see you more then just the relief girl. If ... (read in full...)
I feel very guilty after I watch porn. How can I resolve these problems?
Q. Hello, I feel very guilty after I watch porn. I typically only watch it once every few months, so it is by no means a habit or addiction. I have been single for a while, and don't feel comfortable with random hookups, but I do get rather sex...
A. 11 May 2015: There is nothing that you have to apologize for. If anything, it's the irreligious ones, who boast, who should apologize for their pride. Anyway, you are healthy because you seem to have a good moral grounding, sensing that sex is something tha... (read in full...)
Why do some affairs last longer than others?
Q. Why do some extra marital affairs last for only a short time, for example, a couple of months or weeks or just a one night stand? As opposed to affairs which last for years and are still going strong? What is the difference? Just curious wh...
A. 9 May 2015: I know 3 men who are/were cheaters. One is a serial cheater who hasn't met a woman with whom he does not want to sleep with, but it's all done after that and he does not want her. Another stops cheating because the mistress is ugly but would tangle ... (read in full...)
Are people today really so damaged by the porn culture that they can't even see the difference?
Q. I have a question about porn . Often I see the argument that potn is no differnet to a woman watching movies or novels . However this fails to address the fact that porn is largely based around glorifying calling women bakes like slurs whites and ...
A. 9 May 2015: Porn is a chicken vs egg problem. If men were only to not watch it it wouldn't be there (chicken) and if only women were not so willing to perform sexual acts in the movies then men wouldn't be able to see it. This situation also leads to the fac... (read in full...)
Is it alright for my boyfriend to be his single friend's wingman?
Q. My boyfriend went out with a male friend and two other girls tonight. I considered that a double date. He said it's not, he was just the 'wingman'. I don't know exactly what a 'wingman' is, so I searched Urban Dictionary. The definition it gi...
A. 9 May 2015: You are not overreacting. Perhaps under reacting because he has no business being a filler for a double date irrespective of the circumstance. If anything, that friend could have double dated with you and your BF. In case his friend was dumb then, ... (read in full...)
Could we be together again? Does she really want to just stay friends after all that's happened?
Q. Hello Everyone I'm coming to you for some help on if there's any hope for me and the girl I'm in love with. To try and make a long story short about a year ago I was engaged and that girl ended up leaving me, I bottled those emotions up which ...
A. 7 May 2015: Well, ball is in her court and she gets to decide if she wants you or not. So is there a chance? I have no clue, but there might be a small one given that you are still "friends" whatever that may mean. Then again, we don't know her personality and ... (read in full...)
I think my Father is making a huge mistake! There is red flag after red flag with her!
Q. My Father is making a huge mistake. My Mom died over 12yrs ago and my Father has remained single for the most part. He is now in his 70's and met a woman 30 yrs younger. She is actually only a few months younger than my oldest brother. I ...
A. 7 May 2015: I don't know what the motivation your dad has with that woman - just sex or marriage - but I would intervene very strongly if it's marriage situation and I would not let up until I get it my way. If it's just companionship then you probably will not ... (read in full...)
Is it sex that he's after, or am I just projecting my past experiences onto this courtship?,
Q. I had a second date with this guy I met online and he's pressuring me to invite him to my place. I don't know him, so I said no. He was very persistent, and said he's not looking for sex. Anyway, I didn't let him in, but needless to say, I didn'...
A. 6 May 2015: If he was looking for sex then you gave enough signals that it's not going to happen. If you like him then accept dates on neutral grounds and have some fun, if there is fun to be had. Don't overthink your moves nor how will he take them. If you are ... (read in full...)
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