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I'm a single guy currently enjoying the single life. Having been through my fair share of relationships, even though I'm still relatively young, I think I've learnt a lot of lessons from the experiences of myself and others. I hope some of the advice I give out will help, or at least give people something to think about.

Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?

Q.   Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?...

A.   30 March 2008: I wouldn't call it cheating per se, but if you value your relationship and wish it to continue I'd stop doing it.... (read in full...)

Should I ask him out again? I wouldn't want to seem desperate.

Q.   hey there i just recently asked this guy in my class at my birhtday who had a girlfriend if anything would ever happen if he was single and he said yes probably and now he has broken up with his girlfriend and ever since then he's still been the...

A.   29 March 2008: Agree wholly with rhythmandblues2. You've pretty much asked him out once already. He knows you're interested, there's no need to labour the point. Keep in contact and be his mate for a while. Then a couple of months down the line perhaps ge... (read in full...)

How do guys really feel about small boobs ?

Q.   Hey I'm 15 and I have small boobs and I wanna know why guys like big ones so much ? are small boobs bad ?Does it really matter to guys ? I need some guys to be honest here. it doesn't matter how old you are but I need answers!!!! i...

A.   23 March 2008: First off, you're 15 so your body still has a LOT of growing to do. But anyway, guys don't tend to go for big boobs. That's a stigma. Personally speaking, I'm more of a fan of smaller one's and a lot of other guys share the same sentimen... (read in full...)

We chat online for hours but....what about my ex?

Q.   I dont know what to do?this Guy has just told me that we likes me, i been speaking to his guy for about 1 month or so..and we been chatting for long hours even when he has work in morning he would chat to me until i feel asleep, he is a very ...

A.   17 March 2008: Though I don't really know enough to give full advice on the matter, from what I understand here's my thoughts: Look you're not interested in this guy, plain and simple. He's a nice guy, but not boyfriend material. Not yet at least. Simple a... (read in full...)

How do I take this relationship to the next level?

Q.   Hey, Im 21 male and have really liked this girl (Age 20) for over a year now and we have recently started dating :D I have to be honest, im havnt been in a serious relationship before so Im not really sure what to do. This isnt serious yet but...

A.   17 March 2008: The fact that you want to be there for her as much as you do shows a lot. Good for you for hooking up with a woman you're this dedicated to! Just let the relationship take its course. You can't force a more serious element on it if it's not goin... (read in full...)

Can I have insane sex with him and still have a chance at being his girlfriend? Or will he just see me as a whore?

Q.   Ok, so a friend of an ex has been pursuing me for about a month, and the ex found out... and the ex took the idea to start coming on to me again out of jealousy or something (though his friend isn't exactly the most attractive). But anyway, he ...

A.   16 March 2008: He doesn't want you. He doesn't respect you and clearly sees you as little more than his property by the sound of things. He can discard you whenever he sees fit, but if there's any threat that you will move on and cease to be 'his' anymore, he ... (read in full...)

A girl I dated 20 years ago contacted me through a website...

Q.   Two months ago a girl I dated 20 years ago contacted me through a website. I'm 38 and she is 36 now. We haven't been in touch since then although we've been looking for each other for years, and after just a few weeks of email and chat we're in love ...

A.   16 March 2008: I dunno... 20 years is a VERY long time. A person can change so much throughout the course of even one year, much less 20 of them and throw in a marriage with kids for good measure. Her marriage could be failing. And when we're in failing relat... (read in full...)

I jokingly said he was gay and he lost his erection instantly. Any advice??

Q.   Last weekend when my boyfriend and I were having sex we were talking and joking, and out of the blue I asked him 'for how long have you been gay" and he lost the erection instantly. We usually have no problem in this area. Also that weekend ...

A.   12 March 2008: Porn generally does tend to have both genders in it. I'm a completely heterosexual male but I'd almost sooner watch porn with both genders because it's easier for a man to imagine himself being the man in the magazine, movie etc. I wouldn't read too ... (read in full...)

Why did she make so much effort in the club when we met...what do you think she is thinking??

Q.   I broke up with my ex girlfriend four months ago. She got to uni and wanted freedom. I was putting her under pressure and made her feel smothered. By the end, I was insecure and paranoid. I don't blame her for breaking up with me. Since we split, I...

A.   12 March 2008: Truth be told dude, it's most likely that she's not into getting back together but in the club felt that there was enough time passed that you two could work on a friendship. There's the slight possibility that she does want you back and is just ... (read in full...)

If you have oral sex and finger sex are you still a virgin?

Q.   Hey I was wondering.... if you had oral sex and finger sex are you still a virgin? I was just wondering....

A.   23 February 2008: Yes. Penatrative sex is the only thing that doesn't define you as a 'virgin'. But who cares if you're a virgin or not? That's your business. It's just a label, don't worry about it!... (read in full...)

I became friends and slept with a man that turned out to be married when I had grown strongly attached to him... what will I do now?

Q.   So, i was pregnant with my boyfriends baby but, he become callous and selfish and i became lonely and depressed. I recently moved from where i was living for 10 years and spent some of my major developing years to a nice quiet, quaint town..knowing ...

A.   22 February 2008: Hey...I'm not a lady! haha Unfortunately, a lot of us men are scum, plain and simple. There's really no way to know until you develop the relationship and learn to trust him. Don't give trust away easily. Don't compromise easily. (I'm not... (read in full...)

He couldn't sleep and I was the first person he text messaged. Does this mean something?

Q.   I have a male friend who I get on with really well. We like the same authors, we like the same music and when we're together we just "click". Really fancy him but I've never told him. Recently his grandmother died so I have been giving him some ...

A.   22 February 2008: Could mean something, but then again it could easily not. On one hand, he could fancy you as you have fancied him. On another, he could be emotionally vulnerable after the death and reaching out to a good female friend for reassurance. And o... (read in full...)

Me and my fiance are christians. Should we have sex before we marry?

Q.   I've a fiance whom we've been dating since last year.She and i are christians,is it good for us to have sex since most of the time we spent together?We were organising for an outing but how will we spend our time during that outing,will we sleep ...

A.   22 February 2008: This is really up to you. Not being a religious man, I believe in sex before marriage so by my belief system there's nothing wrong with it. I would say go for it, as you'll develop a sexual understanding and chemistry before you agree to spend y... (read in full...)

Should I make my attraction to my boss any clearer than it already is? I suspect the feeling is mutual.

Q.   I just started a new job a few weeks ago and basically from day one, I've felt a mounting attraction to my boss. He's smart, sexy, hilarious, SINGLE, and not that much older than I am, and I can hardly keep myself from thinking about him even when ...

A.   22 February 2008: I'd second rhythmandblues2 opinion...somewhat. I don't agree that it's true in every single case, there are exceptions, but for the most part what she is saying is true. One thing you have to be very wary of is 'The Office Romance Game'. It can ge... (read in full...)

What is your advice about getting her to take me seriously about my desires?...

Q.   Greetings from New Zealand. I found your site while surfing the web. It is a good site. I see that you answer questions regarding sexuality. I have a few questions. I’m 15 and my girlfriend is also the same age. We have been fr...

A.   22 February 2008: It's good that the two of you are both virgins and can go through this process together. It will make it a lot easier on both of you. If you've talked about this stuff with her before, then chances are she's got the hint and just chooses to ignor... (read in full...)

We used a condom, so chances are I'm not pregnant. Am I worrying too much?

Q.   I am really afraid that I am pregnant. But then again, I think I might be worrying too much. I had sex for the first time, with my boyfriend who is extremely experienced. We had sex at the end of December, and a couple times at the end of January. I ...

A.   22 February 2008: Agree with the above responses. There's a very small chance that you're actually pregnant. You probably just felt intimidated by your boyfriend's experience. This made your lack of knowledge of sex all the more ominous and brought to mind the wors... (read in full...)

I became friends and slept with a man that turned out to be married when I had grown strongly attached to him... what will I do now?

Q.   So, i was pregnant with my boyfriends baby but, he become callous and selfish and i became lonely and depressed. I recently moved from where i was living for 10 years and spent some of my major developing years to a nice quiet, quaint town..knowing ...

A.   22 February 2008: I feel so badly for your situation. You sound like a genuinely sweet and honest woman who's very in touch with her emotions and just got caught up in a mess that was out of your hands. I think as far as you're concerned, you handled the situ... (read in full...)

My relationships always fail. How can I make sure this one lasts?

Q.   I've had 4 serious relationships since I was 16 (one was 3 years, the other 3 were 1 year relationships). Obviously none of those guys were right for me, we ended up breaking up for one reason or another. I've recently met a guy after being sing...

A.   21 February 2008: You're not old by any means, so why the rush? Almost everybody has numerous relationships fail at some point. Imagine how easy life would be if the first person we met was perfect for us. That's not the way it is though. We all meet people, ... (read in full...)

It all feels so wrong but I keep coming back and can't find happyness!

Q.   Help! I broke up with my boyfriend last week. Two days later I felt so empty inside, like a hole was in my chest, I couldn't breathe, or think straight, that I apologised and got back together with him. Immediately the pain went away but the ...

A.   21 February 2008: When we break up with someone, it's natural to feel the emptiness you felt. It doesn't mean that it was the wrong decision though. If you can't trust him and can't be happy with him, then the relationship has hit a roadblock that it cannot o... (read in full...)

How can I get out of this love triangle?

Q.   How do i get rid of an unwanted ex who has put me in a love traingle? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and everything was so good between us, we had such a laugh together, i got on well with all his friends,he wanted to spend loads of t...

A.   21 February 2008: You're right about one thing: you can't be a doormat and let this former couple mess you around. You deserve to know where you stand. BUT it's his decision to make. If it was me, I wouldn't bother with the games. There seems like there's ... (read in full...)

I want him back, but does he want me?

Q.   Hey I had this ex that I still really like. He broke up with me, because I asked to take a short-break during our relationship and he sayz he wasnt giving 100%, I miss him a lot as he literally was the only guy that was responsible and insp...

A.   21 February 2008: One of you has to make the move. Let him know you want him back and see what he says. As you said, he probably pushed you away because you hurt him when you broke up with him. But his renewed contact could be a sign that he now feels the same a... (read in full...)

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