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My fiancee's ex is his secretary, she still works with him, how can I cope with this?

Q.   I dated my now fiancé several years back and we broke things off because I got back together with an old boyfriend and he started dating his secretary. He and his secretary lived together for 5 1/2 years and their relationship ended over a year ...

A.   8 January 2008: Hi you said that you trust your fiancee but if i think you do its just you dont trust the ex girlfriend and i don't really blame you. However i think that you should talk to your fiancee and make sure that believe that he's not doing anything... (read in full...)

We're on break, but he's still excited to go apartment searching for US! What should I do?

Q.   So i tried to talk to my boyfriend last night, to have that neutral conversation. So that way he can tell me how he feels annd how i feel. IT backfired! He can never tell me hows hes feeling really. This is what i got from hhim: "I feel rushed with ...

A.   28 September 2007: Hi, Like men don't know what's going on in a womens mind. We don't either. Am asking you why do you still want to find a house with him if you're not together? Maybe you should think about that before you rush into things. ... (read in full...)

I saw my ex and he kissed me and said he missed me, but he has a girlfriend

Q.   ok well my an my boyfriend went out for lik a little for than a year and he seemd to hav a low selfesteem, we were eachothers first love, very attached and wuldnt trust me even though i really cared for him the whole time and i told him that- he ...

A.   28 September 2007: Hi, He didn't actually lied to you he didn't say he didn't have a girlfriend. Anyway if you really love him you should talk to him and ask him why he didn't tell you. And if you two decide to go out again make sure that he turst you.... (read in full...)

I am torn between the 2 loves of my life...

Q.   Hi guys, I have a question, I am torn between the 2 loves of my life, I am deeply in love with my girl (let's call her J) and then I dumped her and now I am with another girl (let's call her S) but I want my old girl friend (J) back but don't want ...

A.   16 August 2007: Hi i think that you should go for the person you mostly see yourself with in the future and if that's both of them then you have to make the decesion. By the way you are only 13-15 years old there lots of time for you to all in love and the fin... (read in full...)

Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?

Q.   Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...

A.   3 August 2007: Hi Keep on you damn pants. If you love yuor girlfriend then you should wait until she comes back. ... (read in full...)

I belittel my long distance relationship to other people and want to stop

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm involved in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I love very, very much. The problem is, it's long distance. A huge distance actually - international. However we're lucky I suppose because we see one another every 2-3 mon...

A.   5 July 2007: Well i think that you shouldn't care about what other people think. If you love him and he loves you then that's that. Have you ever ask him to move in with you well not move in but in the same countryand vice versa.... (read in full...)

I feel he shouldn't be spending time with her with he should be with me

Q.   my boyfriend of 8 yrs plays darts and his friends wife calls him when her husbands out of town to take her to the bar; she too is his friend they all play darts together when her husbands home i cant stand the idea of him spending time with her when ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, i thin that you should speak to her on her own, tell her that you don't want your husband playing dart with her when he should be with you. If she has a problem well you know what you need to do.... (read in full...)

Can a guy lose a lot of weight and his man boobs?

Q.   dear cupid i would like to know is it possible for someone who is fat to lose all his weight and look slim along with losing the man boob and having a slim chest aswell. if so can anyone tell me how long it will take and one mre thing, it seems ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, Thats natural to have one side of your body bigger than the other. For the man boobs issue i think that you should speak to your GP. ... (read in full...)

Can you be pregnant and still get your period?

Q.   erm can u be pregnant but come on your period?xx...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, Well, no, you can't get your period once you're pregnant — once your body starts producing the hormone human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) and your pregnancy is established, your menstrual cycle is interrupted and normal periods stop. But you ... (read in full...)

She says there is no one else she is interested in..but she does seem confused. Should I date her, anyways?

Q.   Hi I am 28 yrs old and i have been friendley with this girl now for 12 months. Every time we see each other when were out we always end up together. recentley we have been getting closer and i can feel myself falling for her, she wants to sleep wi...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, I think that you should speak to her as k her what's on your mind. Amd if you really think that you are falling for her then i really think that you should do what you and she wants to do. ... (read in full...)

She used me then started meeting up w/ her ex and lying about it! I split w/ her, but want her to realize the pain she put me through.

Q.   My "ex" gf doesn't always log out of her yahoo email account properly so I checked her email after she uses the PC. I have been doing this for a little while now without her knowing and realise she has been meeting up with her ex. I told her tha...

A.   27 June 2007: Hi, I truly want to say that i feel sorry for her, if i had you as a boyfriend giving the things you give her i would love you. And your right there is Karma what goes around comes back around and it's gonna bite her in her butt. You need to wish... (read in full...)

I like a new lad... but still have feelings for my ex?

Q.   I havn't been going out with my ex now for three months, a girl split us up becaus my ex still had feelings for her whilst we were going out but insisted they were just mates. I knew about this so I was paranoid and jelous and we argued a lot. W...

A.   27 June 2007: Hi, Most people still have fellings for their ex's but to get over them you hve to find someone that distracts you from them. You can't keep waiting for you ex to make up his mind. I think that you should go on the date with this guy and see you ... (read in full...)

He's giving me mixed signals - he's not affectionate anymore but said he could fall in love with me! Do I wait to see if he makes up his mind?

Q.   I need a guys point of view on this...what does he mean? Back in December a guy I had met through friends asked me if I wanted to start a band, as he plays guitar and I sing and am learning guitar. It was just an acoustic thing to play locally. ...

A.   26 June 2007: hi i'm not a guy but i have 5 brothers and i know how confusing they can be. My brothers sometimes act the same way. One minute they like someone the next they don't. Its a guy thing. What i think you should do is talk to him when he says you'... (read in full...)

I am jealous of how happy my ex and my friend are together!

Q.   hiya. I recently decided to end it with my bf but now he is going out with a close friend of mine. I am finding it really hard to see them together. We are in the same group of friends which makes it even more difficult. Whenever i think about them ...

A.   26 June 2007: hey, It is normal to be pissed. As you have the same friends, you should try to see from her point of view and talk to her. Tell her you feel like shes rubbing it in your face. When you feel insecure seeing them together, just think that maybe they... (read in full...)

I am a workaholic with no life, and I am lonely

Q.   I'm 24, single, have worked hard and got a good position in an "ok" company, but I feel totally unfulfilled and to be honest, lonely. I split from my last main partner 2 years ago and have been on dates but nothing has lasted or made me "fall in ...

A.   26 June 2007: hi I think that you are hurrying to find love. Love is meant to come to you naturally. May it be in your 60s but you will find love. And when it comes, you'll know. Your still young and you should go with the flow. There are pleanty of fish of in t... (read in full...)

I havent seen him in a week and am feeling insecure

Q.   okay, so i like a boy, he had a gf of like nine months, but she treated him horribly. We held hands cuddled you know the usual, but he still dated her. Sunday night he broke up with her, I know its gunna bother him, but i cant seem to understand why ...

A.   26 June 2007: well, i think right now that he needs some alone time and he is enjoying being single. Right now he could be rocovering from his broken heart. There is a possiblity he likes you but he maybe doesn't want a gf right now incase he get his heart brok... (read in full...)

We get on like a house on fire theres a spark missing when it comes to sex!

Q.   Hi just a quick one. Ive recently started seeing one of my ex's again and although we get on like a house on fire theres a spark missing when it comes to sex. We slept together before we broke up (nearly 2 years ago) but haven't this time rou...

A.   26 June 2007: hi what i really think that you should do is to talk to your boyfriend he might fell the same way. if you can't do that, then i think that you should go single for a while, see what's about maybe it's not you just the situation your in. go sin... (read in full...)

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