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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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I regret letting her go but it might be too late anyway
Q. Well, here it is. I've been such an idiot. I have been in a relationship for 8 years and my girlfriend broke up with me a few months back. She was always head over heels about me and I took this for granted. We have spoken several times but it ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hey good to hear an update.
I would say that most people would not buy a present for an ex, so i still think there is hope there.
Some people may say that you are being strung along but these will generally be people that have been hurt and just... (read in full...)
How do you win back a lost love?
Q. I would like to open a topic of conversation for anyone with knowledge about what it takes to win back a lost love. Especially one who seems to still be interested but trying to act cool so it isn't showing or at least he doens't think it is. Cause ...
A. 7 November 2007: Thats great news, all you need to do now is take it day by day.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How can I see this differently so that it doesn't hurt as much?
Q. My girlfriend is in her mid 20s and I am three and a half years younger. She is everything I ever wished in a woman that I want to be with. She shares all of my interests, sense of humor, and perspective on life. I never thought that I'd meet ...
A. 24 October 2007: I struggled with it too, when i met my husband he was three years older than me, i was just out of school and so much less experienced than him, after a year of my jealousy and insecurities he had enough and ended it and it took that for me to ... (read in full...)
I want to end it but I can't. What should I do?
Q. hi, heres my problem. im with this guy who is also with someone else and i thought i would be ok with it but now his other girlfriend has announced she is pregnant.the bad thing is that i want to end it with him but ive fallen in love with him and ...
A. 24 October 2007: Don't you think you are worth more than what he is offering you?
He is quite happy to be with the two of you, so clearly has no respect for either of you and that in itself should be enough to make you want to end it, that is if you have any self... (read in full...)
Underage kids and sex - whatever happened to youth?
Q. I have to say that i am noticing a lot of KIDS aged 12ish asking questions about sex. What on earth is happening? Or are they maybe older and just putting this age? But, what has happened to kids and their youth? They are under age and shouldnt be ...
A. 24 October 2007: Totally agree with you babe and i have to say with children of my own i find it so scary as i honestly don't remember kids being like this when i was younger.
I just hope if and when the time comes with my children they will be able to feel as thou... (read in full...)
How can I see this differently so that it doesn't hurt as much?
Q. My girlfriend is in her mid 20s and I am three and a half years younger. She is everything I ever wished in a woman that I want to be with. She shares all of my interests, sense of humor, and perspective on life. I never thought that I'd meet ...
A. 24 October 2007: You need to try and look at it as a good thing and realise that if you let things like this worry you, you will never have a decent relationship.
We all have pasts and even those with pasts don't neccassarily like to remember them, she is with you ... (read in full...)
How do you win back a lost love?
Q. I would like to open a topic of conversation for anyone with knowledge about what it takes to win back a lost love. Especially one who seems to still be interested but trying to act cool so it isn't showing or at least he doens't think it is. Cause ...
A. 21 October 2007: If they think there is a possibility of you seeing someone else that can sometimes speed up their thinking.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My husband's parents cause us to fight all the time because of their bickering, how to tell them without risking them to destroy my marriage?
Q. My husband's parents won't butt out of our business they try to tell us how to live our lives and raise our two children. They don't respect us as parents and they cause us to fight all the time because of their bickering, how do I let them know ...
A. 20 October 2007: How does your husband feel about this?, if he feels the same way as you then maybe he could try talking to them, he needs to tell them he is an adult now and the two of you are perfectly capable of leading your own lives and making your own ... (read in full...)
Extremely happy with my bf, but I still enjoy other male attention. Why?
Q. hiya, i dont know whats going on with me. i am extremely happy with my boyfriend of 7 months, but i still enjoy other male attention. i really feel my bf is the one, but i enjoy others giving me comments e.g. on my myspace site, or previous ...
A. 20 October 2007: What women does not enjoy compliments from other men whether they are in a relationship or not, i'm very happily married and i love any attention i get from other men as it certainly gives me a confidence boast and my husband loves the fact i get ... (read in full...)
Since she cheated, I feel I've been too clingy in fear of something bad happening again. How can I curb this issue?
Q. Hi there I'm a male, 25. I have been with my girlfriend (she is 24) for about 10 months or so. Several months earlier, she had cheated on me (with her ex) and it really hit me like a truck. I think I was feeling a wave of depression for a...
A. 20 October 2007: You can not continue in a relationship when there has been something like that happened unless you can 100% forgive and forget as it will just not work.
If you love someone with all your heart you can do this, if not they are not the right pers... (read in full...)
Cheated on and lied to. I feel I might never have forgiven him and don't feel womanly enough for him. Confused!
Q. I have been married for a little over 3 years. We have been together since highschool, we were each others first in everything. I love him and think the world of him. about 5 years ago he cheated on...when he was really drunk and hanging out with ...
A. 20 October 2007: I might be wrong but as far as i was aware you can't actually touch these women that do lap dancing, so although i do see where you are coming from, he was young, out with a group of lads having a laugh.
I understand that you don't agree with them... (read in full...)
I'm in agony because I had my belly-buuton pierced. What could have gone wrong?
Q. Right, I'm a little worried about my belly button piercing which i had done about 6 weeks ago...Just recently i've become in agony with it [in the last two days] I can't even bend over with it and i struggle to sit down. I don't wanna see a doctor ...
A. 20 October 2007: What's more important babe your health or your piercing?
If you go back to the person that done it you will not get a professional opinion, it really does need to be seen by someone that knows what they are talking about and at the end of the day ... (read in full...)
I'm in agony because I had my belly-buuton pierced. What could have gone wrong?
Q. Right, I'm a little worried about my belly button piercing which i had done about 6 weeks ago...Just recently i've become in agony with it [in the last two days] I can't even bend over with it and i struggle to sit down. I don't wanna see a doctor ...
A. 20 October 2007: Your body may well be rejecting the piercing, i know when i had mine done it went exactly the same, i did keep on cleaning it and then took it out after a few months to give it a clean it closed up totally within ten mins, just was not supposed to ... (read in full...)
My gut says he's cheating but I don't want to believe it
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years is also the father to our 1 year old daughter. Ive always been scared that he would cheat on me. A couple of months back I checked his email and a girl wrote scandoulous things to him saying how she missed sleeping with him ...
A. 19 October 2007: You have to go with your gut instinct, if everything was all so innocent he should have no reason to keep it from you and have no problem with you meeting the girl.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to let him know I'm attracted even though he's unavailable?
Q. Is it wrong that I always stare at this guy I have a huge crush on when he has a girlfriend? I'm not 'talk-flirting' with him or anything I just always stare at him when I see him and he usually looks back. Is it wrong that I do this when he is ...
A. 19 October 2007: Absolutley harmless as long as you know nothing can happen and of course it does not make him feel uncomfortable.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She hurt me so much. Why do I still want her back?
Q. My ex hurt me a lot, cheated on me, lied to me, deceived me, and yet part of me still wants her back. When she's hurt me, why does some of me still want to hold on?...
A. 19 October 2007: Because when you really love someone babe you can get past that.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I regret letting her go but it might be too late anyway
Q. Well, here it is. I've been such an idiot. I have been in a relationship for 8 years and my girlfriend broke up with me a few months back. She was always head over heels about me and I took this for granted. We have spoken several times but it ...
A. 18 October 2007: Don't give up yet, all the signs are good i think and she has been honest with you and told you how she feels at the moment, so i think you would be making a mistake giving up.
Give her her space and don't blow it by getting too heavy she knows how ... (read in full...)
Friendship is nice, but should I take ONE LAST CHANCE to try and make her mine again?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry if this has come up before, but I'm faced with a bit of a crisis. Most of you on this site know me and my situation by now, but for those of you who don't; I was in a long distance relationship for two years, and this ...
A. 18 October 2007: Just be careful and i'm always here to chat.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I'm actually ready.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i'm not sure i'm ready yet, we've been together for 3 months now, what should i do?...
A. 18 October 2007: Three months is not very long especially at such a young age, and if you are not sure you are definatly not ready, you know when it's right for you and when that time comes you will not have to ask for advice on it, enjoy being young and dont worry ... (read in full...)
Friendship is nice, but should I take ONE LAST CHANCE to try and make her mine again?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry if this has come up before, but I'm faced with a bit of a crisis. Most of you on this site know me and my situation by now, but for those of you who don't; I was in a long distance relationship for two years, and this ...
A. 18 October 2007: It most definatly is not weak, for you to cut all ties completely is a very strong thing to do, like i said you don't forget but you get past it all and babe you are so young and have so much fun to have, but that is honestly the only way to move ... (read in full...)
Friendship is nice, but should I take ONE LAST CHANCE to try and make her mine again?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry if this has come up before, but I'm faced with a bit of a crisis. Most of you on this site know me and my situation by now, but for those of you who don't; I was in a long distance relationship for two years, and this ...
A. 18 October 2007: You are putting far too much pressure on yourself babe, she is your first love and believe me that feeling never completely fades, i was exactly your age when i met my true love and i knew then i wanted to settle down and be with him for the rest of ... (read in full...)
How do I break down the wall that I have subconciously built around my heart?
Q. After a disasterous marriage; mental and violent abuse and post marriage finding out that he also abused my kids I thought my heart would break 14 years ago. Immeadiately after I threw myself into work, but then 5 years later developed a debilita...
A. 18 October 2007: Don't put too much pressure on yourself, after everything that you have been through you just have to take each day as it comes, if this person is the right person for you it will come.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How do you win back a lost love?
Q. I would like to open a topic of conversation for anyone with knowledge about what it takes to win back a lost love. Especially one who seems to still be interested but trying to act cool so it isn't showing or at least he doens't think it is. Cause ...
A. 18 October 2007: Let them know how much you love them and then leave them to it, my husband left me sept 06 and i fought for him all i could never leaving him alone and constantly phoning him trying to find out what had gone wrong because even though he was seeing ... (read in full...)
Friendship is nice, but should I take ONE LAST CHANCE to try and make her mine again?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry if this has come up before, but I'm faced with a bit of a crisis. Most of you on this site know me and my situation by now, but for those of you who don't; I was in a long distance relationship for two years, and this ...
A. 18 October 2007: Hi babe,
You could do that, go all out visit her and tell her exactly how you feel, all that concerns me is how you will handle it (or not) if she rejects you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Why do I stay with an abuser?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years. I thought we had a great relationship. He asked me to marry him, told me how many kids he wanted, where he could see us in 10 years time. For the past year, it has been bad, he has cheated on me, hit me, last ...
A. 18 October 2007: He tried to pour rat poison down your throat????
Babe you need to get out and get out now, of course he is going to apologise afterwards and tell you that he will get help, because you have forgiven him before and accepted what he has said, so he k... (read in full...)
Am confused and feel used
Q. I have just been dating a guy that i like a lot we have been together for 2 months,he has a girlfriend. But lately things have turned sour he lied to me saying he is sick he can't come to see me then i called him only to find out he is with his ...
A. 18 October 2007: It's very possible he is not interested in you anymore, but hey thats the risk you take when you start seeing someone thats already involed.
I think it's best that you just try and move on from this.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He's "miserably" with his wife, I just separated from my spouse. He wanted to date me in high sch. We met recently and there was an undenyable chemistry. How do I approach this?
Q. I try not to read into dreams to much as I know sometimes they are meaningless and/or fantasy, blahblahblah...... But I had a dream lastnight that I can't get out of my head. About 1 year ago I ran into an old highschool friend of mine. We are ...
A. 17 October 2007: Yeah it could be a sign, but it should not be reality until he has left his wife and if he likes you that much he will leave her.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He's stressed and I feel neglected
Q. I could really use some advice. I have been seeing a really top guy for 8months now. Everything had been going great. At the beginning it was me who had all the reservations but now im so confused and it hurts so much. We have very similar interests ...
A. 17 October 2007: Personally if you are prepared to wait i would say ride it out for a bit, with that much going on in his life it's understandable that he is being a bit distant at the moment.
See how things go while you are away and look at the situation again when... (read in full...)
Health concerns for sensitive area
Q. I hope you can help me. I have been having problems with my clitoris - it has inflamed and increased in size for a few days to the size of a peanut and then it collapses released some discharge and is sore for a few days going back to its normal ...
A. 17 October 2007: Babe you definatly need to talk to a doctor about this, speak to your doctors and ask if you can see one of the female doctors at the surgery as you do not have to stick to seeing your doctor for everything.
Talk to an adult that you are close with... (read in full...)
Am I losing the baby?
Q. i found out i was pregnant about a week ago. i started spotting very lightly yesterday. could this mean im having a miscarriage? i have not had any alcoholic beverages since i have found out but i have had a couple cigarettes (i know, im horrible! ...
A. 17 October 2007: Babe it is very hard for any of us to tell you what is happening, ok having the cigarettes is not good and you know that and there are a hell of alot of women that do do that but don't beat yourself up about it.
If you are that concerned you go to y... (read in full...)
Does sex affect nursing?
Q. I had a normal delivery and my baby girl is now three months old. I'm breastfeeding her and have been advised to do for a year at least. Now my husband wants to have intercourse with me. He has the habit of squeezing and sucking my breasts and ...
A. 17 October 2007: The condom will be as safe as any other time of wearing it, if you feel comfortable with him doing that to your breasts then thats fine it will not effect you breast feeding in any bad way at all, there should be plenty of milk to go round as the ... (read in full...)
Something's wrong with me cuz I dumped a loser?
Q. What do you guys think of a 29 year old guy thta lives with his mom and dad, doesn't lift a finger to help his mom around the house who works midnights in a nursing home and is in her 60's, does not work and has not worked in 1.5 years, says ...
A. 17 October 2007: Maybe you want to point out to him that he is the one with the problem and thats why you left him.
Actually forget that you owe him nothing, hopefully you know what you did was right so don't waste anymore time worrying about whats going thro... (read in full...)
I don't want to choose between the important men in my life.
Q. I am in a relationship, which is going really well, I've never felt so valued or loved. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man. We have been seeing each other for 18 months, the thing is that he wants to make it more permanent, and move in ...
A. 17 October 2007: I understand about you not wanting to hurt your son, but surely at the age of 21 he is being a little bit selfish.
He is just starting out in life and you have been there for him for 21 years, it's your time for happiness now and i don't think you ... (read in full...)
Why does my daughter accept his behaviour?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter who has an very controlling, jealous boyfriend. He left for college and is still controlling her. He tells her where she can work, go, who she can hang out with and even what she can/can't wear sometimes. No one in ...
A. 17 October 2007: Unfortunately you can't get rid of him because if you try with your daughter being the age she is it would more than likely push her to him even more, you just have to voice your concerns to her as a worried mother and just hope that she will see ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to speed up labour??
Q. I'm just over nine months pregant. 2 days ago i had a small amount of clear fluid run down my leg, it's the 3rd time it's happened. I was wondering if theres anyway to speed up labour? People have suggested driving fast over a hill, and one lady ...
A. 17 October 2007: I got myself booked in with the midwife and she agreed to give me a sweep (basically they give you an internal and have a prod around) the weirdest thing was when they went to do it they said i was already in labour and i did not even know and that ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to get rid of the dog, we fight about it, but I can't do it!
Q. I am 26, my husband is 32. We've been married a short time and have a 6 mo. old and another on the way. I stay home, he works. We rescued a puppy last feb. he was 10 weeks old. My husband has grown increasingly annoyed with the dog, and now is ...
A. 17 October 2007: Lots of different arguments here and i can see both sides, i my self have a dog that we rescued as a pup and she also has been spoilt, she is a staffy so another one of those dogs that people associate with fighting.
Now i have and always will beli... (read in full...)
How can I accept that one of these days the only girl I've ever loved will find herself another sweetheart? Especially whenever I believe nobody will love her as much I do.
Q. My ex really wants us to have a friendship after we finished 3 1/2 months ago after she became tired of the long distance aspect of our relationship. We were together for 2 years. I accept that I'm probably thinking irationally when I believe that ...
A. 16 October 2007: Yes i can see that point about making new friends, i just hope you would go for you and not just in case there is a chance with you two.
There may may not be a chance for you two in the future, who knows what will happen, all i do know is that you ... (read in full...)
How can I accept that one of these days the only girl I've ever loved will find herself another sweetheart? Especially whenever I believe nobody will love her as much I do.
Q. My ex really wants us to have a friendship after we finished 3 1/2 months ago after she became tired of the long distance aspect of our relationship. We were together for 2 years. I accept that I'm probably thinking irationally when I believe that ...
A. 16 October 2007: Hey you
Going over and over this really is not going to make it any easier to deal with babe.
You are in college at the moment, so where are you not getting out there with some of those college friends and getting pi@#ed up like most students... (read in full...)
We keep fighting and breaking up. What should I do now?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going out for about 6 months but everytime we fight we break up and then 2 or 3 days later we make up again but the last time he left me for another girl and we were out for about a month and then he came back to me and asked ...
A. 16 October 2007: To be perfectly honest, this might seem a bit harsh but you are obviously just not suited to each other, no one's fault it just happens.
If i were you i would just move on now, how much fun can a relationship be if it's all about arguing and spli... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? I'm blonde but I'm not stupid!
Q. My partner and I have been together for six months. We're both late forties and although we don't yet live together, consider ourselves a committed couple. Whilst using his computer I discovered he's been indulging in sexual activities on-line with ...
A. 16 October 2007: I have to agree with the others, he is so cheating even though it is not pyhsical, all of us have needs and i don't currently live with my husband but i certainly do not spend my time on the internet trying to get cheap thrills.
If you continue to p... (read in full...)
How do you give a woman oral sex?
Q. How do u give a women oral sex? my girlfriend really wants me to give it to her but i have no idea how!...
A. 16 October 2007: My best advice to you is to ask your girlfriend, i'm sure she will love the fact you have not done it before and to be honest different women like it different ways so she will be able to tell you exactly what she wants and how she wants it.
T... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance? I will not be abused by him.
Q. we've been very close friends for 6 years and since living 280km apart and studying we couldn't see each other as often as we wished. i knew his girlfriend of four years. then we started dating about 6 months ago(after their breakup because she ...
A. 16 October 2007: I am usually all up for giving people a second chance but i would say to you he has already been unfaithful to you and he cheated on his previous girlfriend so he clearly will not stop.
Obviously i can see that it would be hard for you being on your... (read in full...)
I shared an illicit kiss, now I'm bothered about it. What do I do now?
Q. How do I move on after kissing my old boss who's married? I worked closely with a man, who was my boss on a project, at my last job who’s married. Through old co-workers I’d heard he talks about me non-stop and is “in love” with me. I moved fo...
A. 16 October 2007: We all make mistakes babe and at least you realise that was all it was, unfortunatly there is no control over him and what he may say, he is obviously a liar and a sneak how can he really love he wife like he says he does if he is willing to kiss ... (read in full...)
Will my friend of 11 years ever make peace with my wife?
Q. i have a friend of 11 years and he hates my wife. I've stayed with her by my side through a recent argument we are having which has ended up with me not seeing my buddy for a few weeks, maybe even a month already. he's written back to me online ...
A. 16 October 2007: Have you considered the possibility that he does not actually hate your wife, he could just be jealous of her for many different reasons that spring to mind, like he has not got anyone himself and he is jealous of the fact you do, or maybe he ... (read in full...)
I regret letting her go but it might be too late anyway
Q. Well, here it is. I've been such an idiot. I have been in a relationship for 8 years and my girlfriend broke up with me a few months back. She was always head over heels about me and I took this for granted. We have spoken several times but it ...
A. 13 October 2007: Eight years she has waited for you to say that you want to marry her, up until you told her that when it was possibly too late, i'm sure in her eyes she has had nothing but knock backs from the man she thought loved her, maybe she distanced herself ... (read in full...)
I regret letting her go but it might be too late anyway
Q. Well, here it is. I've been such an idiot. I have been in a relationship for 8 years and my girlfriend broke up with me a few months back. She was always head over heels about me and I took this for granted. We have spoken several times but it ...
A. 13 October 2007: She has told you she needs time and until you give it to her her head will be all over the place, so tell her once more exactly how you feel and give her that space that she needs.
You can set yourself a time limit if you want, what you think woul... (read in full...)
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