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She is not a virgin but wants me to wait 4 or 5 years for marriage

Q.   After dating my girlfriend for over a year, she mentions for the first time at random, that she's not a virgin. Before I heard this, I assumed she was, because of how she acts, how reserved she tends to be. Also, she seems to criticize others...

A.   5 February 2010: She might have been dating someone who promised to marry her and as a result she gave in to sex and the dude took her virginity. Probably the guy left her and she had to deal with this issue. Be happy that she told you about losing her virginity ... (read in full...)

Boy, revenge is sweet...

Q.   Hi, my wife recently cheated on me with a guy who lives in a small town about 10 miles away from me, anyway to cut a long story short I found everything out, confronted my wife and then I confronted the guy in question and gave him the mandotary ...

A.   5 February 2010: Look. You must be the happiest man in the world. If I were you, I would buy this dude a car. Simply because he has made you realize that you were staying with a woman who does not love you. Just LAUGH it off. Is she staying with you? Please let her ... (read in full...)

I am pregnant and my boyfriend can't marry me because it will break the other girl's heart

Q.   hi everybody,i think you gyzs for all those good idvices and ideas that may lead my relationship.therefore,i have a problem and i need some advices from anyone who cares about my situation.this is my problem:i have been with my boyfriend for two ...

A.   5 February 2010: Why get pregnant before marriage. That was unreasonable of you. ... (read in full...)

I broke his trust... how can I make this better?

Q.   Okay, so I am a senior in high school and so is my boyfriend and we are both almost 18. We have been together since we were freshmen and our three year anniversary is coming up. Our first time having sex wasn't planned at all and this happene...

A.   2 February 2010: I'm afraid this will not work out my dear. I'm sorry for that. Maybe it is gonna be a lesson for you. How I wish you should start telling your friends to be truthful about themselves to their boyfriends. Don't hate your boyfriend for the state he ... (read in full...)

I am very confused and not able to forget her past.

Q.   I recently found that the girl i am going to marry had sexual relationship with 8-9 people. I asked her before we got engaged about her past relationships but at that time she told me that she was a virgin. But somehow i got the password of her ...

A.   2 February 2010: My bro. You have a serious problem here. My advice to you and anyone else is clear about this. Why should she lie in the first place. LADIES! LADIES! LADIES! When will you start to learn? Tell the truth about your previous life beforehand. When we ... (read in full...)

What is a guy's fantasy about losing his V-card?

Q.   Ok for you guys out there...I am dating a guy who is a 27 year old virgin. I am 24 and im not a vigin. I know that he has been waiting for this to share with someone special and wants it to be special. he says that hes ready but im scared to ...

A.   29 January 2010: My dear. Did you talk to him about how you lost yours back then? If you haven't, BETTER do so now. I would not keep mine for someone special who was irresponsible. Please don't break his heart. If he has not asked, maybe he doesn't care but watch ... (read in full...)

What's the general opinion on virginity

Q.   Okay so here's a question for you guys. What do u feel about virgins? Does it turn u off or does the thought of having sex with a virgin excite guys?? I'm 19,5 still a virgin...so i'd like to know...

A.   29 January 2010: Most of us guys want to have sex with any girl that is appealing in our eyes. It would be better if you are not a virgin coz I wont feel guilt for your regret if you were one. But if you are, we quickly notice that you have great respect for your ... (read in full...)

How can I deal with the frustrations of being an older virgin?

Q.   I need some help here, as I am beginning to drive myself nuts with self doubt and insecurities. I am 26, and a virgin, and I feel so lonley, miserable, deprressed and frustrated, I cannot describe how horrible it feels. Everywhere I look, t...

A.   29 January 2010: Gal you're just but 26. If I were a you, I would thank God for carrying me this far. 75% of women who get married after losing their virginity to someone else tend to lose some sense of happiness in their relationships.You may think otherwise but I ... (read in full...)

How do I cope with my husband leaving me?

Q.   my husband and me where in phase of separation to live with my inlaws as i never wanted to live but we were living ith them since 6 months, so no tuning with them and so even me and my husband's life also started getting miserable. initia...

A.   29 January 2010: It's hard to be in a period of separation. It often coupled with a ripping sensation but at the end of the day you might find that it was the best thing for both of you. I can see you are still young and can make a new start. I would suggest to move ... (read in full...)

I'm considering losing my virginity to a one night stand.

Q.   Im going to Ibiza with some friends for 2 wks this summer. Im 21, single and still a virgin and was thinking of having a (protected)'one night stand' while i am over there. Ive never tried anything like this before! Has anyone else ever lost th...

A.   29 January 2010: If you have hopes to be married one day, this would be a precious gift to your man during your honeymoon. If you think otherwise, go for it but don,t beat yourself later. You were able to take good care of yourself for 21 good years only to let it ... (read in full...)

My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.

Q.   Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...

A.   20 January 2010: I don't know abt you, but I am on seperation with my wife. Each time, I feel it is the best thing for all of us including our child. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It is not a six month contract. You need to trust your partner with your life. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend keeps lying about her past and I cant handle it anymore!

Q.   I dont know if I want to stay with my girlfrend and I really need some help here. I know it should be my own decision but I really dont know what to do anymore. She had told me everything about her past. Well I had though everything. She had tol...

A.   20 January 2010: My friend.Leave her now. This will continue to haunt you even after marriage. It doesn't matter you stay together for the rest of your life but if everyone who has been through this can be honest enough, there is no joy for the rest of your life. ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to date a woman 7 years older?

Q.   Anything wrong in dating older women (like seven years older than you)?...

A.   20 January 2010: My bro. As long as you don't leave her for the young ones when she starts wrinkling on her face well before you. I would not do that if I were you. Love blinds.... (read in full...)

Would it be wrong to leave my husband in the state he's in now?

Q.   I am a married woman of 11 years with 2 boys and i have been having problems with my marriage from day one. Things have been rocky because my husband has trust issues with me for something i did before we gotten married.... he said he forgave me but ...

A.   18 December 2009: Madam, I am a man. I know what it is to be hurt by a loved one especially if it is a matter of trust.11 years of bitterness from your man. He thought time would heal him but that will never happen. I am in the same situation and actually divorcing ... (read in full...)

Is this a sexual addiction?

Q.   I think I have a serious problem. I want to have sex with every woman that I get close to. Each time I am alone with a woman, however older than me, I will find a way of having sex with them. Especially if they are welcoming. Is this normal? Ple...

A.   17 December 2009: Most of them are welcoming. So it is not a big task. I just feel it is somehow not good. They will also tell me that they were dying for me within themselves. If it is normal, I think the world is crazy!... (read in full...)

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