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Ciao! I'm from Europe and my mother-tongue is not English – so please my spelling errors!

I'm in my twentys and in best hands. Also we have our ups and downs, so I found this page asking questions myselfe.

I'm Christian and so I may seem to be quite conservative. In my free time I read a lot of books about relationship and marriage. I believe that in christianity – also it may seems to be a very old-fashioned perspective – this is a very honest perspective and it really helps for a good relationship. For me what is normal for most people today seems to be very selfish. One should try to look away from oneself and try to do best for the others. On the other hand I very much like to talk to other people, friends, singles and married couple and especially to my grandmother, which was very happy married for 60 years (my grandfather just died a month after their diamond wedding).

Therefore not everything I write is my own experience, but I'm sure it is honest. I write what I think and what I learned. I can't say if the advice I give is always helpful. It also could be because of my language that I don't always find the right words for my sentence and so it could be that you don't understand what I meant to say. And it is probable not always what you want to hear, but it is one point of view and I hope it will at least be thought-provoking. You can always write a message to ask!

I can learn from other peoples answers and would like to learn from your comments as well. So I would love to hear your comments on some of the advice i have given.

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Im having an affair, 2 kids one on the way, but I love this other woman!! What can I do ?

Q. im 30 yrs old with 2 kids and 1 on the way but for the past three months i have been having an affiar with a women who is so great and fun to be with and i just cant bring myself to leaving my wife for the kids sake but i love this other women to ...

A. 19 April 2007: Dear anonymous writer! I'm moved to tears reading your answers! Thank you for leting us know what you decided and what happend! You are very courageous! So it musst be so much better now than hiding your guilt. You muss feel freed of your unea... (read in full...)

How long do you think you should be in a relationship for before proposing?

Q. How long do you think you should be in a relationship for before proposing? I've been with my girlfriend for five years and it's been fantastic apart from the occasional row over nothing and her having a one night stand near the beginning of the ...

A. 17 April 2007: I think a year or two can be not enough. You really should to get to know each other before you promise to spend the rest of the life together. And you should not get married as long as you are enamoured. Because as long as you are enamoured, you ... (read in full...)

Im having an affair, 2 kids one on the way, but I love this other woman!! What can I do ?

A. 17 April 2007: I just want to correct what I wrote: I wanted to say, because we only know what you told us, we can NOT help you in the best way. We can only tell you what we think an what we would do theoretical if we would be in your position and what we think ... (read in full...)

Im having an affair, 2 kids one on the way, but I love this other woman!! What can I do ?

A. 17 April 2007: So what is that you want to hear? Yes, we have no idea about your life nor what you are goin through. We only know what you told us and can try to put ourself in your position and your wife's position. Because of this we can help you in the best way ... (read in full...)

How long do you think you should be in a relationship for before proposing?

A. 16 April 2007: There is now rule for how long you should wait. Some know it ver quick others want to really sure. For my opinion a couple should wait at least for a year or two, but better three or four years. So I would say five years are more than enough and you ... (read in full...)

She agreed to date me provided we kep it quiet. Now the cat is out of the bag and she just wants to be friends now! What's going on?

Q. Theres a girl in my class that I really like. We have always had passing conversations and last week I asked her out by writing a letter. In the letter I put some really soppy things. A while after she sat a few meters away from me at dinner with ...

A. 16 April 2007: Probably she doesn't know what she feels and wants. She seems to be unsure and doubtful on what she should do. For her it was very interessting going out with you in secred and she probably had lots of butterflies in her stomach. But then her ... (read in full...)

I want to get married and have a family, but not sure it's what my current bf wants also!

Q. I have a dilemma at the moment. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. I do love him VERY much. He was my dream guy before I got with him. But I have a problem, I'm 24 and am wanting to start a family soon and get married. ...

A. 16 April 2007: There are alway two for getting married and having kids. It doesn't work if only one part of it want to have it as soon as posible when the other part is not ready for it. There is not right for you to browbeat him to marry you and have kids with ... (read in full...)

Any advice on how to stop constantly fighting with my Mum!?

Q. Does anyone have any advice for someone who is constantly fighting with her mother? It's like everytime i wake up in a good mood she has to barge in with some rude comment or get on my case about something stupid. What should i do?...

A. 16 April 2007: Have you ever talked to her about this and told her how much that hurts you? Maybe she doesn't realise what she is doing. But when you talk to her, both of you should be in a good conditions. It should not end in fighting. But that's maybe easier to ... (read in full...)

Why does my Fiancee blame me for everything when we row, infact even when we dont things are my fault!?

Q. Why is it easier to blame things on someone else when things don't go as one has planned? When there is an arguement betweem my fiancee and myself, no matter who has started he blames always it on me. He brings up the past of me and tells me how it ...

A. 16 April 2007: For me it seems that you two have some conversation difficults. He is not able to listen to you and he is probably not able to speak about his feelings. It can not go on like this forever. You two should sit together and talk. Make an appointment ... (read in full...)

Im having an affair, 2 kids one on the way, but I love this other woman!! What can I do ?

A. 16 April 2007: I agree with xcharlottex: you should talk to your wife. Tell her what it's going on with. Tell her about your feelings and tell her that you mess doing things with her and that you also miss sex a lot! You actually don't want to be in this situ... (read in full...)

Is this all my fault because I wouldnt have sex with him ?

Q. Hi plse help, ive wrote before im in my 30s and a virgin, been with my now ex bf for over 1 yr. He said he needed time to think 3 weeks ago and kicked me out then on saturday just gone i got a phonecall from his mum... his 8 y/o daughter passed on ...

A. 16 April 2007: No, it's NOT your fault because you didn't sleep with him. Sex is something that should be with someone you really trust and love. Sex is not an instrument to hold together a releationship that would break otherwise. If he was cheating you, used to ... (read in full...)

Im having an affair, 2 kids one on the way, but I love this other woman!! What can I do ?

A. 16 April 2007: What about your wife? Do you still love her? Could it not be that you just feel left out because of her pregnancy and the two children? Lot's of women are not interessted in sex, when they are pregnant. That's also due to the hormone change. So is ... (read in full...)