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Feel down, was angry, and I called the other girl. Was I wrong???
Q. My boyfriend had seen two other girls while we were together, i lost trust in him, and i noticed he started calling me less, and i always made all the plans, so we were on and off. just recently a new girl that i knew showed up and i found out they ...
A. 20 August 2009: I think you have been treated very badly in this relationship.
He has never been there for you, as you said. And expected not to have to work for yout trust back after he cheated on you... TWICE.
Of coarse you were going to loose trust when he ... (read in full...)
Would she accept being my girlfriend?
Q. Theres this girl I like but on facebook it says she single and only looking for 'random play'. But I want to ask her out to be my gf! Does this mean she will say no?...
A. 19 August 2009: Only she knows the answer to that.
I agree with Purple butterfly... Facebook statuses may not be accurate.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Masturbating and it seems my period started early! Should I be concerned?
Q. Lets cut to the chase. Basically I was masturbating because I was horny - I'm 14 - and basically I took my hand out and I was bleeding, (I started my period 2 years ago so its not my first time) but my problem is - i dont normally start until ar...
A. 19 August 2009: I'm glad that "A female reader, anonymous" has made you feel better, but I thought I would just back it up and tell you she was right. Nothing to worry about.
Luck sweet heart.... (read in full...)
I love my wife's sister!
Q. Hi, I am a 40 years old man and have been married for about 15 years. My problem is, I am mad about my wife's sister. She is sooo gorgeous and entirely sexy. I cant stop thinking about her. She is also married and has 3 kids. But she is a wonderfu...
A. 17 August 2009: It sounds to me like this is just a sexual thing.... Lust... Not love, is my opinin. Enthatuation even!
I feel very sorry for your wife. It is a very sad possition for her, even though she does not know.
You should think about your wife and ho... (read in full...)
Could my friend be gay?
Q. I have a friend whos is 40 never been attracted to girls but has feelings for a girl now is it possible that she is gay or could she just be feeling like that because they are such close friends. the girl also has feelings for her....
A. 17 August 2009: She could be straight, bi or lesbian. Only she knows.... If that.
If you really want to know then ask her.
But does it really matter? She's attracted to this woman and she returns the feeling. Be happy for them.... (read in full...)
I can't get my girlfriend to climax!! What can I do?
Q. hi. no matter how hard i try i cannot get my girlfriend to orgasm!! It doesnt matter what position we do, how hard, how fast i go, or how long we do it, she never comes. she also never comes through oral sex, however long i do it for or anything....
A. 17 August 2009: Hello.
I too had this problem.
Sometimes it's hard for women to start orgasming, and no matter how hard you try, it just doesn't get there.
I gave it time... And eventually I did orgasm.
Maybe she feels a lot of presure to orgasm and doesn't like... (read in full...)
How do I handle swimming, without tampons or pads? How does that work?
Q. I am going on holiday in 2weeks and my period is due for the last 5 days of my holiday, and I don't really have a problem with that, but I don't use tampons so I wont be able to swim. Some people have said to me they still go swimming on their ...
A. 30 July 2009: I've never heard of anyone doing that before... And I really wouldn't want to risk that myself.
I really can't imaging it working.
If you really want to go swimming whilst on your period, then I suggest either trying out tampons, (if you're w... (read in full...)
He cheated, how do I regain the trust needed to get over the betrayal?
Q. i neeeed soo much help... ive never asked for help but i need help... he recently cheated on me but realised he made the biggest mistake in his life and we have been tryna work things out ever since... the thing is i dont trust him and though i know ...
A. 30 July 2009: I'm so sorry. I know how hard that kind of thing can be. I like Charlopp's answer.
And I'm really sorry if you don't like my story, but I would like you to hear it, as it takes a different approach to the other answers. It might help you.
A ... (read in full...)
Question: do women tell their friends everything about their sex lives?
Q. Exactly how much do women talk about their sex lives with their girlfriends? I know that everyone has a different personality and of course that would dictate what they would tell their friends about their privage moments with their significant ...
A. 30 July 2009: Somethings I would talk about with certain people and other things get kept sticktly between myself and who I'm with.
I know some women who have no problems talking about what they've done and with who'm, where and when,
And others who would... (read in full...)
My boyfriend first had sex at 8, is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and i were having a conversation on our sexual past, what age we lost our virginity at etc. He told me that he started putting his penis in girls as young as 7 or 8 and actually took a girl into his room at 8 and tried full blown sex ...
A. 22 June 2009: It is deifinatly early... But it can happen. A lot of the time children don't really understand it, but if they hear about it they're going to be curious.
My ex had the same kind of experience when he was six. I thought it was vey disturbing.
I thi... (read in full...)
Help with getting an abortion?
Q. please help me to abort dz baby im not yet ready for this ...
A. 16 June 2009: I liked Meg 2989's answer.
I can't help you, but I just thought I'd put it that if you have an abortion there is also a chance that you will become infertile and never be able to concieve again.
Make sure you get councilling before and after yo... (read in full...)
I have a burning when I pee, boyfriend slagging me off via text and hes locked his phone. Is he cheating?
Q. Hi guys! Was wondering if could get your opinions please? Sorry about the length of this post! Been dating my boyfriend for 4 months and on the whole things are going really great, he's a very sweet, understanding and caring guy... BUT there's been ...
A. 16 June 2009: Sounds like he is genuinly sorry for his drunken behaviour... No it wasn't right, but I think you should forgive and forget, so long as it doesn't happen again.
After all everyone has their off days.
I think you could be scared of being so com... (read in full...)
I have a burning when I pee, boyfriend slagging me off via text and hes locked his phone. Is he cheating?
Q. Hi guys! Was wondering if could get your opinions please? Sorry about the length of this post! Been dating my boyfriend for 4 months and on the whole things are going really great, he's a very sweet, understanding and caring guy... BUT there's been ...
A. 16 June 2009: You could have a bladder infection or an infection in your urethra. I had a bladder infection once... Appeared out of nowhere and burned when I went to the toilet, especially so after sex. I also needed to go a lot more often.
Go to a doctor a... (read in full...)
What does sex feel like? I was born with no clitorus!
Q. okay, so the last thread totally didn't work because i did it wrong so here I’ll explain everything. i have NEVER had ANY feeling at all down there, ever, like since birth, basically, i don't have a clit. got no gspot, nothing. I’m gonna go to...
A. 23 May 2009: Were you diagnosed by a doctor? Or do you just think you don't have them because you can't feel anything down there?
If the latter, there may be still a chance that you do have them. I went through the same thing... I felt NOTHING down there unti... (read in full...)
Can pre-ejaculation cause pregnancy??
Q. if one has sex,but ejaculation is not done ,then does a women has chances to be pregnant without ejaculation.or is it natural that even if ejaculation is not done,then too sperms are released into a females body.plz help..!!...
A. 23 May 2009: Yes,
there is a chance a girl can get pregnant if you have sex without contraceptives, even if you have not cum yet.
... (read in full...)
Fiancee says we are never going to have sex!
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for about 7 months, and we love either other very much, but she told me that we are never going to have sex. I love her and i would never cheat on her. but it is getting to me. We used to fool around but lately ...
A. 18 May 2009: Good points from the other aunts. Another reason might be that she is A-Sexual.
Would you be willing to give up any sex life, for the rest of your life to be with her?... (read in full...)
Need sex education about the difference between a clitoris and a vagina.
Q. hey. I just learned that there is a difference between vaginal and clitoral contact (during sex). could you please enlighten me as to what this difference entails? Thanks!...
A. 14 May 2009: I'm not sure if you're aksing:
1. Where the different organs are?
2. What the different organs are?
3. How you stimulate them?
or
4. The difference in the feeling you get from the stimulation of the different places?
So.. I will answer them a... (read in full...)
He's amazing but I don't love him. Should I settle or hurt him and risk being alone?
Q. Please help me! I am 22, and have been in a relationship with a lovely guy for 6 months - but I don't know if I should continue. I've recently come to thinking that he may not be 'the one' - he just isn't the ideal guy for me, not that he isnt a l...
A. 14 May 2009: I agree with Gina.
You are so young... And I'm presuming you boyfriend isn't on his last legs either.
Why remain so unhappy for the rest of your life with all these "He's not the one for me" thoughts? You'll just waist your time and end up hurting ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered rape?
Q. Hi everyone, ok I feel kind of stupid asking this. Ok last week I ended things with my BF of 2 1/2 years. He had become verbally abusive, but always saying the comments were "just joking and you know I don't really mean that". It took me about 6m...
A. 12 May 2009: Don't be embarressed or ashamed about what happened or asking if it was rape or not.
The same kind of thing happened to me last year and I was very confused as to whether it was rape or not... As to whether I did all I could to stop it or not.... (read in full...)
Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he lived 2 hours drive from me and made every opportunity to come and see me (every weekend and somtimes a surprise visit during the week), occasionally i went to stay at his (but i only went when invited ...
A. 12 May 2009: It sounds like you care a lot more than he does about LD situation.
Is there REALLY nothing he can do about it... Or is it just that it would put him out of his way a little?
I don't see why he used to be able to see you every week and now, ev... (read in full...)
Best place to lose your virginity?
Q. I'm ready, and I'm gonna lose it. The question is where? Ideas anyone? The beach? The woods? Not some sleazy hotel room or my bed. This is the first time you'll always remember. I want to make it memorable in so many different ways, and...
A. 12 May 2009: Only go to a beach or the woods if you want to get nasty messy sand/twigs stuck in places that will be VERY uncomfortable.
Make it somewhere as comfortable as possible.... (read in full...)
Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he lived 2 hours drive from me and made every opportunity to come and see me (every weekend and somtimes a surprise visit during the week), occasionally i went to stay at his (but i only went when invited ...
A. 11 May 2009: Have you tried talking to him about how seeing him less and less is making you feel?
I would find it quite stressful if I only got to see my boyfriend once every three weeks and it was getting further apart as time went on. So I don't think yo... (read in full...)
What goes through your head 1st when you're approached by thai guy in Thailand ?
Q. Well I always go hanging in many places[Kao san street for example ] in Thailand. I see a lot of cute girls and they're mostly tourists. But I'm always afraid that when I go to them and start the conversation, it is possible that they will think I ...
A. 10 May 2009: Go to where ever the clubs are being organised (I'm not talking about night clubs) and ask how to join. You'll be helped I'm sure.
There are lots of brunettes in this world my dear. And plenty in Thailand... Is it always tourists you are approach... (read in full...)
What goes through your head 1st when you're approached by thai guy in Thailand ?
Q. Well I always go hanging in many places[Kao san street for example ] in Thailand. I see a lot of cute girls and they're mostly tourists. But I'm always afraid that when I go to them and start the conversation, it is possible that they will think I ...
A. 7 May 2009: ok sweety, here's my theory:
You are approaching girls in Kao San street... And as you know most of them are tourists. So my guess is that they will be only be staying there for a few days and don't want to get a friendship or relationship goin... (read in full...)
What goes through your head 1st when you're approached by thai guy in Thailand ?
Q. Well I always go hanging in many places[Kao san street for example ] in Thailand. I see a lot of cute girls and they're mostly tourists. But I'm always afraid that when I go to them and start the conversation, it is possible that they will think I ...
A. 7 May 2009: Have you tried looking anywhere else than streets of Kao San?... (read in full...)
What goes through your head 1st when you're approached by thai guy in Thailand ?
Q. Well I always go hanging in many places[Kao san street for example ] in Thailand. I see a lot of cute girls and they're mostly tourists. But I'm always afraid that when I go to them and start the conversation, it is possible that they will think I ...
A. 4 May 2009: Hey,
I went to Thailand last summer. I was in Kao san. Loved it there.
I agree with the other two answers.
If I were you I wouldn't just walk up to people and try to talk to them out of the blue, becuase they are going to think you are selling ... (read in full...)
How often is there help on here?
Q. How often is there help on here?...
A. 27 April 2009: That's easy:
Always.
Many different people offer help on this site, from many different places around the world. So all times of the day are countries, so all times of the day are covered by different people in different places.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 27 April 2009: Satindesire.... That was an incredible answer... I am sorry to hear about your sister.
I hope you take the time to read it Joe... For it will teach you many valuable things.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 26 April 2009: Don't you want to loose your virginity to someone you really care about? And not just use them as a way of loosing your virginity to be like your friends and stop waisting time?
Think about it!
Doesn't it make sence to loose it to someone who feel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's penis is too small so I never orgasm help!?
Q. Okay here's the deal, me and my boyfriend have recently decided to take our relationship further and sleep together. At first I thought it was normal that it would be uncomfortable and unenjoyable, but after many tries it just gets tiring to have to ...
A. 26 April 2009: I had this problem when I first became sexually active. I felt nothing at all whilst I was having sex.
Bobbles and satindesire are right, try to stimulate your clitorus.
Also in my case, I just needed a little time.
After about four months of fe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems deceitful
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a 4 month old daughter together. In the past 2 months I have found flirtatious emails exchanged between a couple of girls. My friends then told me they heard he had been cheating. When I ...
A. 24 April 2009: You sound like an intelligent lady :D and I'm sure you are doing what is right for you and your baby. I am so glad to hear that you have so much support and that you are keeping a head on your shoulders despite going through such a hard time and ... (read in full...)
My horrific past is haunting me
Q. For a year I went out with my bf who abused me really badly, not only physically but emotionally and sexually (in which he raped me). I broke it off with him, so I guess hes always had anger towards me for that. For atleast a year after the b...
A. 23 April 2009: That's horrible. That's so terrible.
I'm so sorry about what's happened to you.
What age are you if you don't mind me asking? If you go to college there should be a councillor there you can talk to.
I really think you see someone profesional ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems deceitful
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a 4 month old daughter together. In the past 2 months I have found flirtatious emails exchanged between a couple of girls. My friends then told me they heard he had been cheating. When I ...
A. 23 April 2009: That is so horrible. I'm so sorry.
He doesn't sound tust worthy at all. Why would is aunt lie? Why is he being so agressivly defensive?
I think you have done the right thing. Just try and stay strong for your little girl. Focus on her.
Do you ha... (read in full...)
What should I do with my dad's cheating?
Q. My family is pretty normal, my parents are still together and I have a brother. We get on fine. But a few days ago, my mum goes away on business trips over night alot. My mum left for 5 days a few days ago. That night my brother went to a sleepover ...
A. 23 April 2009: That's so horrible. What a terrible burnden for you to bare. I don't think it is fair or right (on yourself or your mother)that you keep this a secret.
This must be really hard for you.
You can write me an email if you want to talk about it more.... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and received a phone call saying my husband is cheating on me... with my NEPHEW!
Q. I've been with my husband for 7 years now and am pregnant; a few weeks ago I got a phone call saying that he was having an affair with my nephew. My nephew's 18 years old, my husband's 35. I also found out that my husband was spending way too...
A. 20 April 2009: Wow.
That's really horrible.
I hope you're ok... It's not good to be so stressed when you're close to having a baby.
I can't believe your husband is just shrugging it off the way he is. It doesn't sound like he regrets his actions... And he is be... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really stressed out at the moment...
Q. Hi, I'm looking for any advice from anyone out there. I don't have a huge problem but I am really really really stressed out at the moment and I feel completely lost. I am almost finished my degree in college and I have exams in the next few weeks, ...
A. 19 April 2009: Hey,
I'm in the same possition in college myself. I know how stressful it feels and how lonely and depressing it can be.
It sounds like everything is just to much for you at the moment and depression has set in.
There should be a college coun... (read in full...)
Should I call the guy she is engaged to and tell him what is going on?
Q. I have concerns for my friend. She became engaged to be married to a guy on January 1. The issue is she has continued a relationship with an old boyfriend up until recently in which I know that they have been having sex. How can she have sex with an ...
A. 18 April 2009: Don't tell your friend she is a slut :P.
This is obviously distressing you. I hate it when people cheat too and can see why it would upset you.
I suggest you you tell your friend you know and that it really upsets you. Tell her that if she is c... (read in full...)
I found a pair of my panties hidden in my stepson's room! How do I approach this?
Q. I am a stepmother to a 16 year old boy. I recently discovered a pair of my panties hidden in his room between the wall and the bed. It was apparent that he was using them to ejaculate into. It was also apparent that he had used them on multiple ...
A. 18 April 2009: At that age his hormones are all over the place. He probably doesn't even know what he is thinking. This is probably going to be extremely embarressing for him so try to keep calm and handle this delicatly. I can see why you'd be distressed, but ... (read in full...)
Questions about first time sex, with emphasis on the penetration
Q. Hello, I'm a virgin and I never had sex before. I've heard a lot of great tips about foreplay and about the importance of listening to your partner etc. But I've not heard much about the actual penetration itself, surely it's not just sticking it in ...
A. 18 April 2009: All women are different... Different women like different angles... possitions... paces.
Being rough can be throughrally enjoyed by some... Certainly not looked down upon... If it is the lady's first time I'd say be gental and slow, because if your... (read in full...)
Has something similar to this ever happened to anyone you know?
Q. I've just moved house a few days ago to a town twenty odd miles away from my boyfriend and I hadn't yet told him where I'm living, as we had a physical fight a couple of weeks ago and I'm thinking of leaving him. Anyway, last night he rang me and ...
A. 18 April 2009: This is a very scary situation for anyone to be in.
It is immportant that you tell the police. You don't know what this man is capable of... He obviously does not think normally. Stalking someone is not right. BEATING you IS NOT RIGHT. Don't let ... (read in full...)
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