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I had unprotected sex and now I'm freaked out!
Q. This weekend my bf and I were fooling around and I got real horny so I let him put it in me without a condom but just for a minute or so. Then he pulled out and I gave him oral until he came. I know nothing got in me and it was only for a short ...
A. 9 December 2008: There is such a thing as Pre-cum!
This is where sperm comes out of the penis before the guy actually orgasms... So how can you know for sure that nothing got in you?
I know you're freaking out and I don't want to scare you, but even if it was for ... (read in full...)
Do women like swallowing? My girl says I don't taste good!
Q. Was chatting to my fairly new partner today, and got onto the topic of oral sex. Our sex life is good, with lots of oral sex as part of it. Ive always assumed she enjoys giving almost as much as receiving, when we see each other (fri to sunday a...
A. 9 December 2008: It's different for all women, as going down on a girl is different for all men... I know guys who love it and I know guys who hate it. Just as I know girls who love giving blow jobs and girls who hate it.
Tell her that it's ok to alternat... (read in full...)
Do men really only want women with big breasts?
Q. Do men really only want women with big breasts - my breasts are no bigger than Kate Moss's - I'm naturally small, but worry men will be disappointed when I get undressed !...
A. 6 December 2008: Some men prefer big breats, some prefer small and some don't mind... It depends on the man.
Try and find a man that likes you for who you are and not what size your breats are.... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to be getting non-sexual affection from him if I WANT it?
Q. I am in a rather unconventional situation. I am at a comparatively young age [look upwards], and recently I have become kind of physical with a man who is around 50. Nothing sexual really, I have known him for a bit over a year, and a month ago ...
A. 6 December 2008: I don't think this is where it will end. I think that if this affection and touching continues then he will eventually want and try to get more from you.
I know you like the affection, but don't you think it would be better to recieve such aff... (read in full...)
Can she get pregnant if I ejaculate on her vulva?
Q. I've been having sex with my girlfriend just recently. 98% of the time i have wore a condom. but me and my girlfriend prefer to not use them. is there a chance she can get pregnant if i ejaculate on the outside of her virgina. (on her virgina, not ...
A. 6 December 2008: If you are having sex without a comdon then of coarse there is a chance she can get pregnant... Even if you pull out and cum on the outside?
Pre-cum can get her pregnant. This is where your penis lets out sperm before you actually cum.
Even ... (read in full...)
I have below average boobs....what can I do?
Q. i got this problem with my boobs. they are not like really small but they are below average. i have never taken my top off 4 any bloke and my boyfriend always asked me why. im so concious that if i do it might put him off. even though he knows what ...
A. 11 September 2008: There's nothing you can do. I have small boobs and my partner loves them the way they are. By the sounds of things yours are bigger than mine. Don't worry about it. Would you jugde your boyfriend if his penis was a little smaller than average. Try ... (read in full...)
She has only climaxed 3 times through actual intercourse...she is able to have multiple orgasms through manual and oral stimulation.
Q. right, this sounds ridiculous...I measured my penis- yes I'm an insecure arse...and I measured 6 inches (15.2 centimeters) and 1.6 inches wide, around-(4.1 centimeters in width )is this a pleasurable sized penis for a woman. I've been with my ...
A. 11 September 2008: 1st of all: Your penis size is average. There's nothing wrong with it and I'm sure pretty much all women would be happy with a man who had a panis of this size.
Ok I think that you need to relax more. You're too self-conscious and worried about wh... (read in full...)
What are the chances of deformity??
Q. well i am in love with my moms cousins youngest son.. is that wrong and can we be and what are the chances of deformity?? STORY i know what you guys think your too young to know what love is but one of my fa...
A. 11 September 2008: Having a child with your second cousin is actually more dangerous than having a child with yur 1st cousin.
Be in love with him, but you are only 13-15. Why are you thinking of children and marriage at your age?
Just relax, be yourself and... (read in full...)
What are my chances of being pregnant?
Q. I had sex 23 days after the first day of my last period, what are the chances of been pregnant?...
A. 5 September 2008: You're not giving us enough information.
Did you use any kind of contraception? Are your periods regular or not?
How long is your cycle normally?
There's no way we could tell you the chances of you having actually conceived... Only that it was ... (read in full...)
When did you first have a boyfriend/girlfriend - that actually lasted a few months?
Q. Poll: When was the first time you had a relationship, and what age did you have your first kiss? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek or peck on the lips type of kiss, I mean a toungue kiss? And when did you first have a boyfrien...
A. 4 September 2008: I had my first proper kiss when I was nearly sixteen.
And I had my first boyfriend (he lasted one month and maybe a bit) when I was nearly seventeen.
I've only had one proper serious relationship. It lasted two years and I met him and started ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not get orgasms during sex?
Q. Hi! I am 19 years old and since i was 16 i am having sex. I have experienced a lot of sex and generally i think i am good at it. My only problem is that i cant come. The only way i come in sex and i really mean the ONLY way is when me or the other ...
A. 4 September 2008: You are not alone. There is nothing wrong with you and many, MANY women find it hard to come in different ways. And there are a lot of women who don't orgasm from penetration. I'm one of them. You are perfectly normal. Don't feel as though you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell people my step-dad touches me inappropriately?
Q. when i was about eight years old my step father began touching me in rude ways. i was to young to understand so i didn't tell anyone he is still doing it should i tell people and do you think they will believe me?...
A. 2 September 2008: What your stepfather is doing to you is terrible. Tell your mum. Don't let him abuse you anymore. Try and get her alone and talk to her in private or write her a letter like some of the other aunts suggested. Your mum should believe you. If you don'... (read in full...)
Caught my bf in public, laughing and kissing with another woman! Help!
Q. My new boyfriend of 6 weeks became divorced 3 months ago. My sister asked me if i would go shopping with her to help her choose a dress for her works outing. While i was with her, I saw my boyfriend with another woman, laughing, kissing, holding ...
A. 1 September 2008: If Ask older sister is right and you guys are only dating then I agree with her.
How ever IF this guy is actually your boyfriend and he has agreed to be with you and only you then:
You know what you have to do.
You know you can't trust him,... (read in full...)
Dealing with my bf's beautiful, bitchy ex gf! How do I get over this?
Q. For seven years i went to dancing school with this girl (who we'll call Angela) who was really bitchy, mean and made my early teenage life a misery. she made me feel really insecure about my dancing and was just a bully in general. seven years la...
A. 1 September 2008: You are young, so I presumme your man is too.
Here's my guess:
Your boyfriend may have just been fasinated with the female body when he was in his younger and so was with Angela, he may not have cared about what she was like as a person and was ... (read in full...)
We want to have sex but I am on the pill and REALLY don't trust it! I dislike condoms, too, thus?
Q. Okay, this is so stupid.. But I've got a new boyfriend, and soon we're going to be having sex soon for the first time, and although I'm on the pill I REALLY don't trust it. (The morning after pill failed on me) I'm assuming they've got different ...
A. 1 September 2008: The morning after pill is not as full proof as the pill. Especially when taken after a day or two.
I can see why you'd be scared now.
The pill is the safest contraception... Appart from of coarse having no sex.
If you do not want to use a co... (read in full...)
Can I fit in at university even if I don't "party hearty"?
Q. Hi. Im due to start university next month and am getting a bit worried. I took a year out before going to university to basically do some work. During that year I feel I have grown up a lot, met a new group of friends, my interests have changed ...
A. 30 August 2008: Hey I started college two years ago... And I've always been the way you are now.
DOn't worry, everyone is different and people starting college tend to be open minded about metting people with different interests. I fit in well at my college and ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend was not a virgin when I had sex with her and I don't know what to do!
Q. my girlfriend was having two boy friends at her past . i think she must have sex wih them because when i had sex with her there was no bleeding and my penis got easily entered her vagina and i hav heared that for the first time sex its just ...
A. 29 August 2008: Why did you pressume she was a virgin? Has she ever said she was?
Some girls bleed when they have sex for the first time and some are really tight, but this is most likely because they are nervous and are not comfortable with either having sex or t... (read in full...)
I stopped taking the pill... is sex without a condom ok?
Q. hi all im on the pill and when i was taking the pill i was having sex with my bf then when i stop taking it , cause i start taking the packet on a monday and continue the course till the packet runs out which is a sunday , then the following we...
A. 26 August 2008: Alot of pills require a five day break after a month, in which your period will start. But no form of contraception is full proof.
It is ok to have sex without a condom during these days, but there's no harm in wearing a condom just for your own ... (read in full...)
I couldn't stop shaking the first time I made out with a guy. Is that normal?
Q. okay, this is totally embarassing, but well...a few days ago a boy that i really like and he [supposedly] likes me back came over at like 1:00 in the morning. he came with my sisters boyfriend and he spent the night. well my sister, my sister's ...
A. 25 August 2008: Yes, it is perfectly normal. I agree with ChiRaven. I had my first kiss when I was 15 and I was shaking like MAD for the rest of the week. The next time you get a kiss you won't be as nervous and you shouldn't shake at least not as much. Good L... (read in full...)
Should I let my boyfriend do oral on me if I'm uncomfortable about it?
Q. I Have This Problem. My Boyfriend Wants To Lick Me Out. But It Was Hard Enough to let him finger me. I'm not scared of Anything but i don't know if to let him do this? or not. i told him my opinion that i think its horrible and harsh on anyone ...
A. 24 August 2008: Everyone is different.
Don't do anything that you are uncomfortable with. Wait until you are ready. It may be that you will hate the idea forever and that is perfectly ok.
Only do what you are completely comfortable with.
Tell him that you wou... (read in full...)
We disagree over our tastes in music, how do I get him to understand?
Q. There's this guy I talk to online. I met him 2 years ago. He's pretty cool. He's 20 now and I'm 17. I used to have a crush on him. We've gotten pretty close...on MSN, I mean. He has a girlfriend that he's met on there, and I know her as well. B...
A. 24 August 2008: Why don't you just agree to disagree and tell him that there is more to life than trying to convince people that their tastes and opinions are wrong.
Simply talk about a different topic. He he brings it up telling him you don't want to talk abo... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he will think I don't like him because he has no legs!
Q. I met a very nice guy. he is so handsome and successful. his is an amputee. he lost his two legs in the age of 10. now, he likes me and i'm still not sure of my feelings towards him. he told my friend that he really likes me and wants to propose to ...
A. 24 August 2008: Why don't you give him approval, but tell him that you'd like to date him for a while before you agree to get married. This will let you establish if you really like him as a partner or not.... (read in full...)
Should I masurbate or will it affect my health?
Q. HI all, i want ask that can i masturbate ? i'm 22. i masturbate every week after watching some porn. i never had sex with any girl. will this effect my health or not. some time i'm curious. i'm 22 170cm and my weight is 65 KG ? please guide m...
A. 24 August 2008: Masterbation is healthy. It helps keep you healthy and can kill off any fustration that has been building up during the week.
Masterbate as much as you want and as much as you feel like.... (read in full...)
The only way my wife can climax is by "woman on top" or by touching herself, a problem she had in her previous marriage. What can I do?
Q. My wife and i have a great sex life and we realy enjoy trying new positions. The one thing is that i am unable to make my wife cum whether it be lying on top / using my fingers or oraly. The only way she can cum is if she is on top of me and ...
A. 24 August 2008: Maybe your wife likes being in control.
All women are different and sometimes it's just hard to cum in new of different ways.
Try and establish with it is that is making her cum... Is it clitoral stimulation or G-spot...
Once you've found that o... (read in full...)
I just got my period, and for three nights prior to that, I had intense sexual dreams, I get turned on during the day by anything, is this a part of PMS, and will this continue, it is embarrassing?
Q. Okay kind of an embarrassing question but... I just got my first-ever period yesterday and for three nights beforehand, I was having intense sex dreams and I'd get turned on during the day by just about anything. Lol is that like part of PMS? Is ...
A. 24 August 2008: Yup. Your hormones go CRAZY around that time of the month.
I know you're worried about it... But it's completely noraml and quite common as far as I know.
You are not alone I can promise you that. I'm the same.
Don't be embarrassed. Nobody will ... (read in full...)
My friend thinks it's OK to cheat unless you're ready to get married. Is this acceptable?
Q. I have a work partner that love to talk about sex, and relationships,. One day we were talking about relationships and she said that if you are with a guy that you like and enjoy being around, you still should go out with other guys until you meet ...
A. 24 August 2008: Well in my opinion you are right. And she'll never find anyone to marry her if she is unfaithful all the time. She obviously has not been in love before.
Just try to accept her view whilst knowing that it is something you dissagree with.
You l... (read in full...)
Does every girl masturbate? Any tips without including sex toys?
Q. i am 16 years old and ive recently been getting sexual desires, the only way to kind of calm it down is to masturbate... but i really dont know how to.. i dont want to use a vibrator or anything like that, i want to use my fingers. how do you do ...
A. 24 August 2008: Hey,
I think pretty much all girls masterbate... It's just talked about less than males masterbating.
Everyone gets sexual desires... It's perfectly normal.
There is no specific way of masterbating... You just have to go down there and explore.... (read in full...)
Can my girl get pregnant even though I can't ejaculate?
Q. Hi people, well I am a 13 year old male, and well, I had sex with my girlfriiend, three times to be exact, but in thise three times, I did not where a condom, but I know my body, since I masterbate, I know that I still can't ejaculate, could she ...
A. 24 August 2008: "baby roulette". ChiRaven, that is BRILLIANT.... (read in full...)
Fainting attacks and dizzy spells: can anyone tell me what this is?
Q. Hello, for the last 8 years, i have had fainting and collapsing attacks or similar. I start to feel dizzy, i start to shake, my heartbeat is really fast and i either end up fainting or i am close to it. This has happened every 3-6 months since i ...
A. 24 August 2008: Hi, my little sister is going through the same thing as you. She is 17. I put up a question about it a while ago and felt as though I got some really helpful answers.
Here's the link:
http:... (read in full...)
Can my girl get pregnant even though I can't ejaculate?
Q. Hi people, well I am a 13 year old male, and well, I had sex with my girlfriiend, three times to be exact, but in thise three times, I did not where a condom, but I know my body, since I masterbate, I know that I still can't ejaculate, could she ...
A. 24 August 2008: WEAR A CONDOM. ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM.
You may know that you can not "ejaculate" yet, but that does not mean you are not producing sperm and that there is none leaving your penis whilst you are having sex.
There's such a thing as pre-cum, thi... (read in full...)
My friend thinks it's OK to cheat unless you're ready to get married. Is this acceptable?
Q. I have a work partner that love to talk about sex, and relationships,. One day we were talking about relationships and she said that if you are with a guy that you like and enjoy being around, you still should go out with other guys until you meet ...
A. 24 August 2008: Personally I am not a religious, but I feel as though cheating is terrible. Even if it does not mention it in the bible it should still not be done. Back in those days they wouldn't have dated much, would they? They would have gotten engaged and ... (read in full...)
Do you think worrying about your period coming on late actually makes it late?
Q. well here goes.. ive had my period for 5 years now, i was quite average i think, started at 12 and im now 16 well anyway. at first they were a little out of place as they are.. but over the past 2 years or so, id say they have being pretty much in a ...
A. 23 August 2008: Yes, worrying or stress can make your period late.
Even a change of diet or being on certain medications can make it late.
Don't worry it's early days yet. Just realx and it should come soon.... (read in full...)
I am getting very paranoid about my height, I used to shrug off comments, now they are getting to me!
Q. I'm being very paranoid about my height i'm 5ft soo very small and alot of people i know call me "umpalumpa" or they make jokes using lord of the rings calling me a "hobbit" i never used to take offence to this but now i am and i feel that whenever ...
A. 20 August 2008: I'm 20, and I am the same height as you.
People used to call me smurf and "The perfect arm rest", whilst they had their elbows placed on my head. I would just laught at it and come up with my own little comments such as: "At least it rains on you ... (read in full...)
I really like this boy and I think he likes me back too, but he has a girlfriend!
Q. right here goes im rele confussed :S I rele like this boy and i think he likes me back hes gotta girlfriend thou and hes been with her a reallly long time. I rele dunno wot to do cos i dnt wanna like come between them. I am really confussed can an...
A. 20 August 2008: Just be patient. If it was meant to be it will be. But you should try not to come between him and his girlfriend.
Just wait your turn. Eventually he may become single again and you will be able to make your move guilt free.... (read in full...)
I've lost confidence after my experience with losing my virginity!
Q. when i lost my virginity i bled alot during the sex the guy i did it with carried on and he didnt use a condom he had blood all over him but he didnt seem phased or bothered at all but i was quite embarassed me and him havent had sex since c...
A. 20 August 2008: Quite a few women bleed their first time. Because the vaginal opening is being stretched and torn. Try not to be embarressed about it seeing as he didn't seem phased at all I doubt he was put off by it.
Did this guy know that you were a virg... (read in full...)
Why don't I get any joy out of sex?
Q. I find sex boring and very rarely enjoy it atall, i never feel like i'm building up to anything and often find it more painful than enjoyable. Is something wrong with me? I feel very pressured to enjoy sex as it means so much to my boyfrien...
A. 18 August 2008: There's nothing wrong with you. You're just not relaxed.
Have you been sexually active for long?
A lot more women then you think have this problem.
I used to too a few years ago when I first became sexually active.
I just didn't feel any buil... (read in full...)
Can some one give me a clear description of what the "first time" pain is like?
Q. hi i'm 19, and frickin scared of my first time. Could someone please try to explain the pain, relate it to something? and this is for the people that it really did hurt for?...
A. 17 August 2008: It hurt a little for me.
Luckily the guy I was with understood and took it easy... He kissed me all the way through to take away from the pain.
I don't think there's anything I can really compare it with. It wasn't a sore as getting my tattoo, ... (read in full...)
Ex has not mentioned new Guy?
Q. Hi My ex of four months has stayed in touch and we are now friends. We catch up every few weeks. However, she has a new guy but I only know this because a mutual friend told me. She hasn't mentioned it. Likewise, she hasn't asked if I have met an...
A. 17 August 2008: Maybe she just feels uncomfortable talking to you about her dating life. After all before this guy you were the last guy she was with, and she probably didn't want to make you jealous or hurt you, even though you are just friends now.
Did y... (read in full...)
I would like to ask her out, is it too soon after her recent split?
Q. I am 18, and never had a real girlfriend, however, Ive have secretly fancied my step couson.(no blood relation) When we first met we were like two peas in a pod but me being me i was too shy to take it any further. quite a while after she got a ...
A. 17 August 2008: I have just been through a very bad break-up myself.
Do you know if it was a bad break? Is the reason they broke up because they really didn't want to be with eachother anymore? Or because they couldn't, but they still want to be?
My breakup star... (read in full...)
Forgiven him too many times for sending flirty texts?
Q. Hey everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 months now. There have been about 6 incidents where I've been looking at his phone and finding he has been texting a number of girls, sending flirty texts lik "would you be up for fun?" (h...
A. 17 August 2008: Well my dear, I would tell you to give him an ultimatum and tell him that if he does it once more it's over... AND STICK TO IT. But you've already done that.
I sorry to say this, but I think you're either going to have to put up with it and acce... (read in full...)
Forgiven him too many times for sending flirty texts?
Q. Hey everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 months now. There have been about 6 incidents where I've been looking at his phone and finding he has been texting a number of girls, sending flirty texts lik "would you be up for fun?" (h...
A. 16 August 2008: Do you think that he would follow up on these texts?
I don't think him calling another girl "Huni" is that bad, they could just be close.. Which is fine.
But saying "Are you up for some fun?" If it really was meant in a sexual way wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
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