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I can't stop this flirting!

Q.   my problem is that i can't stop flirting with my colleagues, sometimes i get good response and sometimes bad. i keep falling in flirting thing, even though i'm not interested in sexual relation, i don't want and i didn't ask for any kind of rela...

A.   14 November 2010: Try to flirt less.And be yourself =)... (read in full...)

What does it mean when your boyfriend calls you sexy?

Q.   My boyfriend says that i am sexy and he love my eyes....i want him to call me beautiful,cute why doesn't he? my friends say that when a boyfriend calls you sexy its because he just want you to get in your pants and he don't love you?..is it true? ...

A.   26 October 2010: It is just another compliment from you boyfriend. Honestly it is only words... Action speaks louder than words. Since he is your boyfriend you are the best to judge his actions... (read in full...)

Why does he look at porn? Am I not good enough for him?

Q.   My husband looks at pictures of hot girls in Maxim. He used to look at porn and it made me sick to think he was doing this behind my back. It wouldn't have been as big of deal if he included me in on it. I was a very attractive girl, but now I'...

A.   28 September 2010: I guess it is normal for man to want to look at pornography as it is something fresh to them and it is just like reading magazines that excites them. It has nothing to do with your attractiveness, although I do understand that you will feel insecure ... (read in full...)

What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking?

Q.   Hi all. I'm an ugly bloke (I think so anyway) and I have never had a girlfriend before, and I want an honest answer on this question...What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking? Most guys who are not good-looking gro...

A.   28 September 2010: Woman goes for personality and personal hygiene. You just have to look neat and tidy, talk and behave appropriately to make girls looking at you =) ... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend only want sex?

Q.   My bf and I hangout out more now, bt the problem iss thatt he will only take me to his house, to have sex, and thats all. I know he is busy with school and stuff, bt come on,, only sex. Am i right or no???...

A.   15 September 2010: I don't think he is using you for only sex. I am sure he appreciates you as his girlfriend. Try to ask him out to accompany you sometimes and say what he says? Like ask him to accompany you to buy something test his sincerity again before you judge ... (read in full...)

Me and my girlfriend are both 15 years old and we BOTH want to have sex. But how do we know if we're both ready?

Q.   I need help on a desicion. Me and my girlfriend are both 15 years old and we have been together for about 3 months. But we've known each other for a little less then a year. I asked her just recently if she wanted to have sex with me over the...

A.   28 April 2010: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months too! Recently, things are progressing a little physical for us but we have yet to think about sex. As my boyfriend and I have decided to wait for sex. We are both virgins. Actually, there ar... (read in full...)

Is there any way to prevent myself from thinking I could lose her?

Q.   I need some help about this. It's been a pretty good couple months going out with my girlfriend. But it's like every minute i spend worrying i could lose her. I don't think it's normal to think this. I trust her 100% but i just live my life thinking ...

A.   22 April 2010: You are thinking about a question that may not happen at all. Just live at the moment and if things are going to happen it will happen be it good or bad. So don't worry too much, just enjoy your moments with her.... (read in full...)

I'm stuck on my ex and cannot move forward

Q.   My ex and I broke up almost a year ago and I still cry over him all the time. I don't know how to get over him and I keep trying to move but it isn't working. My relationship with my ex seemed perfect and I think the reason he left was because he ...

A.   5 April 2010: You must forget him! Since he went back to his ex shows that he loves her more than you. This is a cruel truth but I feel that all girls should learn to face such facts. Do not continue to wait for him leave your options open. There are many many ... (read in full...)

I've got a boyfriend now so how can I stop this urge?

Q.   I'm 18 and i have a problem and i need help. well in the past i had this one guy that i gave blow jobs to and now that im in a relationship i have nothing else to give because i love the person im with. so one day they asked me to come over but i ...

A.   18 November 2009: I don't really understand what you are saying either. Anyway, just learn to stand strong in yourself! If you don't want to do it just tell yourself you MUST NOT DO IT! Believe in what mental strength and verbal recitation can help you grab some ... (read in full...)

Sad I'm not his first love...

Q.   Hey. :( I'm in a relationship, and in love for the first time. However, I'm jealous of my partner. Who had been in relationships, and in love before. He's my first, but I'm not his. And it just bugs me, and I feel like I'll never be as impor...

A.   17 November 2009: I used to feel the same thing as you did but looking back I find that this is actually a pretty silly thought. Everyone has his past, and everyone is trying to move on from the past. Even though this is your first love, you can't deny that you don't ... (read in full...)

Why did my ex text me? What does he want from me?

Q.   I wish i didnt even care to ask this question but i cant help myself. ive been broken up with my ex since march and just two months ago we stopped talking completely. it was hard since the break up because we would still see each other and he even ...

A.   17 November 2009: I think this guy is just trying to be funny maybe he is just flirting around with you. There is a high chance that he is sending this sms to a few girls instead of only you, you see the point? Anyway, just ignore his sms if he is really sincere in ... (read in full...)

How long does it take to get over a 6 month relationship after he broke up with me?

Q.   What is the normal time to get over a six month relationship after a man breaks up with you. its been a week and i still want him back but he says its done. we agreed to start over as friends but i back out of that because i know i still love him ...

A.   16 November 2009: I will say usually it takes at least a year if you really love him very deeply, and until you find your mr right, you will then be totally freed from him.... (read in full...)

Should I just show up at his house?

Q.   ok i really want 2 go round this guys house, hes stopped talking 2 me for no reason, ive texted him and wont answer my texts, and i dont know what ive done, ive spoken 2 my guy mates and they say i should go round and just knock on the door, but im ...

A.   15 November 2009: He is clearly avoiding you. It is not easy for a guy to reject a girl so I guess this sounds like an unspoken rejection to you. So girl do not go and look for him and save some dignity for yourself. ... (read in full...)

He doesn't respect me. Should I dump him?

Q.   I am in desperate need of opinions! What should I do with my boyfriend? I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend now for almost 3 months. On one hand, he is a really sweet guy who calls me in the middle of the day to say he's thinking of...

A.   15 November 2009: I don't think you should just dump him like that? It is not easy to maintain a relationship afterall and it is not easy to have mutual likings issn't it? From what I see I feel that there is some misunderstandings perhaps you two should talk things ... (read in full...)

I've let him know I like him but feel I've been too direct...

Q.   I like this guy, problem! i've let him know that i like him and everything and i've asked a question that he just didn't want to answer. i think that i was just too direct or it was just a stupid thing to say so i left it for a while haven't ...

A.   12 November 2009: The only way for you to find out how he feels is to ask him whether does he feels the same way for you. SInce you have the courage to confess to him why not ask him this question instead to fret about it?... (read in full...)

Can he really ever love me again?

Q.   My bf of nine years had "more than a friendship" with a girl at work. He claims they never slept together and after a lot of revelations and tears, he is trying to make our relationship work again. He says he has cut off all contact with *her* and ...

A.   12 November 2009: It depends on whether are you willing to give him a chance to try anot? Apparantly, he is very honest with you that he isn't sure he still loves me but he says that he is willing to try to love you which means that in his heart you are still ... (read in full...)

How can I persuade her to have sex with me?

Q.   hi. i am 15 year old male from india. we have a maid servant in our house, about 25 years of age. she is very plump and has well developed breasts and hips.she lives in our house itself in a separate room. i have had sexual feelings for near...

A.   12 November 2009: I don't think it is a good idea to mess with your maid as what happens if she sue you for rape since your parents aren't at home now? Have you ever thought of the consequences in doing so?... (read in full...)

I feel so much guilt... what should I do?

Q.   I would really appreciate some help . I am going through a divorce. My husband left me after 18 years of marriage. We married young as students . Six months ago I started a friendship with a married man I have known for years. We slept together...

A.   12 November 2009: All I can say is any breakup is due to a change of heart. Do you think its worth it to give up your husband's 18 years of faith to you to a married man whom you have gotten to know for 6 months? There is no right or wrong in doing so just follow ... (read in full...)

I no longer have any feelings for my husband any more... what do I do now?

Q.   I am 18 and i have a 14 month old baby and I am married... but I do not having feelings for my husband any more. He does not attract me in any way. How do I fix this problem?...

A.   12 November 2009: It is normal for a couple's feelings to fade away gradually especially when you get married at a young age. Nevertheless, I feel that you still try to recall those happy days that you shared with your husband. If things just do not get better maybe ... (read in full...)

One on one dinner with a friend of the opposite sex - yay or nay?

Q.   I'm in a great relationship where there is a lot of trust between my partner and I. I have many male friends that I hang out with or communicate with on a regular basis and he has female friends too. This is of course fine. But the other night, a...

A.   23 August 2009: I think she has hidden agendas be careful she is a potential enemy of yours... (read in full...)

If he hugs you when he normally wouldn't, does he like you?

Q.   How likely is it that a guy likes you if he gives you a hug goodbye at the end of a night out and he doesn't normally hug people? I've only met him 3 or 4 times as part of a small group, though we've had some one on one conversations....

A.   17 August 2009: You got to just sit and watch and don't every assume a guy likes you until he tells u he did. =) It is better this way... (read in full...)

I want to know how to stop thinking about this!

Q.   2 years ago I met a foreign guy who was on a short holiday in my country. We stayed in touch by email (always as friends only) and he invited me to visit him in his country. I visited him and during my short stay he was very friendly with me. I ...

A.   17 August 2009: He has moved on. You should delete all his facebook, msges or even photos throw all the presents and memories away. Never look back. YOU MUST THROW THEM AWAY!... (read in full...)

Should I go to the police about my uncle's inappropriate behaviour?

Q.   From an early age I was very fond of my uncle . However he used to do things that worried me , he was extremely fond of me is well and kept showering me with gifts . Anyways I thought it was only me and that I must be wrong . I mean he appears to ...

A.   17 August 2009: Do you mean that your uncle actually molested you without getting your approval? And that he went too far in his "massage"? I think you should avoid that uncle but not that you should be afraid of him. IF he approached you again I think you should ... (read in full...)

I can't seem to bring myself out of my shell. Please help!

Q.   Hi all, I've never dated before. I have asked out girls in the past (and got rejected obviously), and I've tried to work out what is wrong with me - the things that are making me undesirable - and I've pretty much got the jist of it. And what a l...

A.   17 August 2009: Focus in building a strong friendship with the girls in your school instead of selectively grouping them into potentials or just buddies kind of thing. As by doing so you can get to know each another better and be there for each another like ... (read in full...)

My long-distance girlfriend is sending love messages to other guys.

Q.   am in a long dist relationship for a year n half.i love this girl and recently we had sex after waitin for a year. after she slept i went through her cellphone and i saw some luv text she has sent to some guys.she didnt deny but she didnt ...

A.   16 August 2009: If I am your girlfriend, I will make an explanation to you because I care and love you and will be very sensitive to how you feel. I am very sure girls will know that such things will make their love ones feels uncomfortable and I think you should ... (read in full...)

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