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Hey everyone, im 21 and currently a nursery nurse at a private nursery. i love helping people and i always give honest advice and do my best to help all those that ask me to help them. alot of my friends come to me for advice and so far no negative comebacks at all :)

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What do men think if a woman asks them out?

Q.   Question for the guys; what do you think of girls asking guys out first? It's just that there's this guy in the year above me at 6th form (he's 18, going to university soon, I'm 17). He's most definitely the cocky confident type but I think he's sli...

A.   23 June 2011: im sorry celtic tiger i have to say your wrong... i asked my partner out and he is in university and has been for over a year, we've been together almost half that time and were still going strong and yes im younger then him aswell so i have to say ... (read in full...)

Is serenading her a good idea?

Q.   I Decided to tell a girl I'm in love with the way i feel about her. We dated for about 6 months and then broke up. But i still love her. I decided to let her know. And I'm thinking about singing her a song. I've never sung in front of anyone ...

A.   12 June 2011: to be honest with you, serenading is very romantic but are you willing to become the laughing stock of your town or school if she turns you down? i know that sounds harsh but ive been there sending the guys i like love notes in class and trying ... (read in full...)

After I started getting sexually invovled with my bf, masturabation does not stimulate me. Why?

Q.   Since taking things further with my boyfriend (second and third base) I don't feel anything at all when I touch myself. I put my hands on my body and the only thing I can think about is how desperately I wish they were his instead; there's no point ...

A.   10 June 2011: im in the same boat here, masturbation does nothing for me anymore, its just your body bassically saying ive had better then this!!! its like getting used to a certain type of pain killer, it has no effect after a while. all i can suggest is maybe ... (read in full...)

Torn between guys!

Q.   Im torn between 2 guys the first guy i have known since secondgrade and we have been a off and on again couple since 5th grade. I still have strong fellings for him and we have been broke up since september. The second guy i met this year and we ...

A.   8 June 2011: woah woah woah! hold on sweetheart ok you havent specified your age but your only young, there should be no reason to worry about boys at your age! but if your in a good relationship with guy 2 then id stay with him, there is no point dumping a good ... (read in full...)

How do I help my adult daughter?

Q.   I feel very confused about how to help a grown up daughter. She is quiet responsible, but she had some tough family times behind her. She lost her sibling to suicide, and it created many problems later on for the whole family. I was always w...

A.   6 June 2011: mmy mum is in a simmalar situation with me. although i havent lost a sibling i have lost many friends and consequently ended up alone and in alot of issues i couldnt handle alone. my mum helped me by sitting me down one day and making it perfectly ... (read in full...)

Why can't I get over myself?

Q.   Hi :) I think i'm frigid. I'm 16 years old, never kissed anyone, never tried to kiss anyone or go further. I have had opputunities, and i just dont feel confident enough when it comes down to making move. I'm not ugly, and i've had boys come u...

A.   6 June 2011: i agree you are young and have plenty of time to experience these things. if your not ready your not ready. your only human at the end of the day, and every human has sexual urges. your not fridgid at all. i used to think the same. i didnt have a ... (read in full...)

What is an orgasm? And how do I achieve one?

Q.   what do i do to experience an orgasm, i would like a clear defination of what orgasm really is. pls help me...

A.   6 June 2011: An orgasm is the pinicle point of sexual pleasure, it can be acheived through a variety of sexual acts both sex and masturbation. the orgasm is the point in which you feel extreme pleasure. if you feel that you have not yet experienced this i would ... (read in full...)

What if I've ruined my life?

Q.   I can accept an honest answer, but it takes a lot of courage to write this question because I realize how painful an answer I don't want to hear could be and how painful the truth could be. I am a teacher and I absolutely love it, but there are ti...

A.   6 June 2011: it is never too late to follow your dreams, if you have a goal or a target in mind i say go for it. its your life and its about time you lived it your way. there are plenty of jobs out there that involve travel. if you want to carry on what your ... (read in full...)

What if I've ruined my life?

Q.   I can accept an honest answer, but it takes a lot of courage to write this question because I realize how painful an answer I don't want to hear could be and how painful the truth could be. I am a teacher and I absolutely love it, but there are ti...

A.   6 June 2011: have you considered looking in to cruise ship work? im looking in to it myself as i am a nursery nurse teaching children aged 3months to 5 years. this job sounds perfect for you, you could teach ESL in childrens clubs and still see the world. its ... (read in full...)

Was I wrong to tell him not to expect sex right away? We met online.

Q.   I met a guy online three months ago. We hit it off right from the start with tremendous passion and chemistry and have butted heads a few times too. We were supposed to meet next week and he was going to come out here and I requested he stay in a ...

A.   18 March 2010: No you did nothing wrong hun. You have every right to know who it is your talking to before you make any kind of commitment. i personally wouldnt have put it so bluntly but i can understand your predicament. dont feel down its better to be safe then ... (read in full...)

Would I be imposing if I went to the funeral?

Q.   I've been with my BF for about 7 months. I've met his family and we're quite serious. I met his grandmother last week and I've just found out that she died yesterday. My BF told me about her funeral and then said 'you're welcome to come.' Was...

A.   18 March 2010: To be honest i think he was being nice aswell as it being an invite, if you want to go for support by all means go. He has said your welcome to so he obviously wants you there for support or at least that what it seems like to me. i hope that hel... (read in full...)

Underappreciated and sexually frustrated

Q.   I'm 19 and gay, and have been dating my boyfriend for the last 2 years. He's 33 so a bit older, but that's not why i am here today. I'm a very sexually active person, that's just the way i am. I don't sleep around or anything like that - complete...

A.   14 March 2009: to be honest with you i think you need to sit down and talk to him about this. he needs to understand how your feeling and that the relationship you share is a two way thing not just for him. just calmy talk things over and explain your feelings and ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin, we attempted sex but he is too big for me?

Q.   hi im 18 and ima virgin,me and my fiance have tried to have sex,but hes too big for me,i have relaxed as much as i can,but he is still too big for me! what can i do? i really want to have sex with him but its not possible at the moment! any t...

A.   23 November 2008: You really need to make sure that your relaxed and comfortable with it before it starts. a good idea is engage in foreplay first, just passionate kissing and caressing can do the trick. this can allow your vagina to make its own lubricant although ... (read in full...)

It hurts so much when being fingered, what's wrong??

Q.   I've been fingered a few times and each time it hurts and thats only with one finger! Trying two fingers hurt too much and one doesn't even feel good, i can't tell that its in or not. is something wrong?...

A.   23 November 2008: there could be a few reasons for this. are you in the right mood for being fingered? because if not then your body may not be making enough lubricant for you, therefore making it painfull. Also if the person fingering you is being too forcefull it... (read in full...)

People are making fun of me because my dad died

Q.   hi my dad has died 5 years ago every one makes fun off me because of this what should i do ????????????????????????????...

A.   13 June 2008: Awww sweetheart... thats is really sad to hear that people can make fun out of such severe pain. all you can do is ignore them sweetie, im sure your dad would not have wanted you to start fighting with them. talk to your mum and the head teacher at ... (read in full...)

How can we get privacy?

Q.   I've only been with my boyfriend for almost 3months, but we've kind of been on/off before that as i've known him sinse i was about 6 even though he's in the year above. I know you young people arn't supposed to know what "love" actually is, but i ...

A.   7 June 2008: well i cant blame yours and his parents for being in whilst you two are. me and my fiancce have been together a year and were both 18 and we only just get left in the house alone. your parents are just worried that you may get pressured in to doing ... (read in full...)

I'm having wierd periods after getting a contraceptive implant. Anyone heard of this?

Q.   Okay In the beginning of March I had the contraceptive implant. My doctor said that my periods would be different like longer or heavier and that it's all normal. Before I had the implant my periods were pretty off anyway, like I would come on...

A.   21 April 2008: i have very strange periods too and im on the pill i come on very heavy and then maybe stop for a day then come on light then heavy again. this is more then likley the pill working with my body. but dont worry about wasting the doctors time if you ... (read in full...)

What can you tell me about the loss of libido as a possible side effect of the contraceptive pills?

Q.   Quick question for fellow females (and men but cant imagine they would be much help on this one) i have read that a common side effect of the contraceptive pill is loss of libido! I am suffering from this I am on the microgynon pill to protect ...

A.   21 April 2008: hey ya im on the microgynon 30 pill myself and if anything it strenghens my labido, but stress or a busy life style can lower your libido. i have heard that loss or weakness of the libido can be a common yet mild side affect. but i think it could be ... (read in full...)

19 years old...is sex with my 16 yo gf wrong??

Q.   I am an 19 year old and im currently in a relationship with a 16 year old girl. I am in madly in love with her and i have never felt this way about anyone else. I've been with her for over 6 months now and we are ready for sex, but im not sure whe...

A.   20 January 2008: there is nothing wrong with it if you are both in love. just make sure you do use protection and that it is somewhere special as uncle phil said. first time sex is a magical moment and i hope you both enjoy it... (read in full...)

He rubs his body on me and is generally very gross. What should I do?

Q.   I'm a 13 year old girl. This boy has been flirting with me ever since school started. Hes confusing because he is flirty and then he gets gross. One time I was talking to my friend by my locker and he rubs my shoulder and says '' hey, check this ...

A.   18 January 2008: you have to report this, that is sexual harrasment, he should not touch you like that unless you approve of it first. you have to tell him back off and tell a trusted adult. your only 13 ans its totaly innapropriate, if you do tell someone and ... (read in full...)

What do you do when your life is going all wrong but you cover it up and act like everything is okay?

Q.   what do you do when your life is going all wrong but to cover it up you fake a smile and act like its all, all right? see i have this boyfriend named Dylan hes suppost to be my love and everything but hes always agreeing with Joe. see Joe always ...

A.   18 January 2008: it sounds to me like your boyfriend needs to grow up, if he really cares he would back you up and say " no she's not like that" in sted of agreeing with joe. you really have to think about whether you want to be with someone who bad mouths you with ... (read in full...)

Can men and women really just be friends even though they've been together in the past?

Q.   can men and women really just be friends even though they've been together in the past, my boyfriend of 10 years has quite a few girly friends who he keeps in touch with and my point is that the majority of these women have been his girlfriends and ...

A.   18 January 2008: well if he is mature enough to stay in a relationship for 10 years then there is a good chance that he is mature enoigh to just say no if these other girls make advances. i know im only 17 but i belive that if he has been with you for this long and ... (read in full...)

What can I do about my stretch marks??

Q.   I am 15. I have very pale white skin, am only 5ft2 and am a size 8 but very fat and chunky. My boobs are 30G and they wont stop growing so that now they've got these hideous stretch marks. these are the questions: 1. are stretch marks very very ...

A.   12 January 2008: you can get a cream that pregnant women use for their strech marks on their stomachs and use that on your breasts. but i agree keep them out of the sun and keep them moiusterised ( cnt spell)... (read in full...)

Should I try this during masturbation?

Q.   I'm only fourteen and have experimented with my fingers rubbing my clit. But I'm scared it will hurt if I put my fingers in my vagina. Any suggestions?...

A.   3 January 2008: the chance is that it will feel uncomfortable when you first put your finger(s) in your vagina as your body is not used to this level of intamicy (im assuming your a virgin) but just take it slow, put 1 in a little bit and only you will know your ... (read in full...)

I feel I am too old for Christmas and the traditional celebration!...

Q.   i am 14 years old and in year 10 (in america 9 grade) for some reason i feel like i am too old for christmas e.g getting up early playing with presents and all the great things about christmas i love this time of year usally why do i feel too ...

A.   1 December 2007: hey howdy hey!!!!! im 17 and i still get up early and rush down stairs for my prezzies because i know my mum's braught me some random gift that will amuse me for hours... i do agree maybe toys are to old for you but christmas...nah! lol. just enjoy ... (read in full...)

My friend and I kiss and everytime he gets an erection! What does this mean?!

Q.   Dear cupid, i see a good friend of mine quite regularly and its more like friends with benifits really coz we kiss and stuff like that, but every time we kiss or even hug he gets a full on erection! what does this mean? is it normal for guys to ...

A.   18 February 2007: i'd just like to point out that we dnt acctually have sex im still a virgin but he's not... (read in full...)

I can easily spend the day talking to people who aren't there...am I going crazy? What's wrong with me?

Q.   Ok this is going to sound completely insane and i'm embarrassed writing this but I'm 22 and I talk to myself! Its like you know when your a kid and you just play little games and you have imaginary friends? Its kinda like that. I dont know if its ...

A.   29 January 2007: Hey... i talk to my self all the time, at school at work, its just the wya the mind works, its a very good way for your mind to varify what its being told or just for a convo if ur feeling alone!!! ur deffinatly not going crazy, sure its going to ... (read in full...)

We're now known as the "6-sluts-of-scool" even though only one was really slutty!

Q.   omg help please i was at my friends sleep over (im 13) and her parents left to go to the store which was 60 mins away. aways we were watch this funnny movie and doing nails and hair. when this really popular girl who happens to be my neighbor says ...

A.   20 January 2007: you were right to say no to them, you would have eneded up doing something you would have regreted and you would have run the risk of getting pregnant if the condom split. i think you should stay were you are although if things are still bad after a ... (read in full...)

My friend thinks I've been saying nasty things about her and I haven't! But no one believes me. What should I do?

Q.   hey im 16 and need advice, a girl i have been mates with for 5 years has started tellin people about my private life and telling people that i've been saying bad things about her ( which i haven't) now i'm losing all my friends and i have no one to ...

A.   18 January 2007: i have tryed talking to her and she just turned around and started taking the mick out of my mate saying that he's on my side and that he's a backstabber. im in a lose lose situation i really need some help.... (read in full...)

I haven't had a bf in ages and my friends are hurtful towards me - I'm so upset. Please help!

Q.   Dear all those willing to listen to me... atm i feel very depressed i havent had a bf in ages and all the guys in my area and surrounding towns hate me and everywhere i go im known as the midge or the lezbo im sick of this reputation i mean im only ...

A.   16 December 2006: Thank you all for retuning to me so quickly and actually giving em helpful advice insted of ignoring me, i have started in the army cadets and im a volunteer at the local nursing home and next week im singing christmas carols for all the eldery at ... (read in full...)

How can I let this girl know I like her without making it obvious?

Q.   hi, i have a problem i realy realy realy like this girl, she is 16 and im 19. How can i get this girl to notice that i like her without making it obvious(im not one of these guys that can just go up to a girl and ask them out) ? She is a cadet an...

A.   7 December 2006: well... first of all just start talking to her get to know her as friends first, go out and about down the town or where ever u hang... and say little compliments to her like " thats a great outfit you have on today ( insert name here)" and flirt a ... (read in full...)

I am 13. Is it ok to date a 16 yo?

Q.   is going out with a 16 year old guy weird.if im only 13?...

A.   5 December 2006: yes is perfectly fine :) i dated a 13 yo and im 16.... so i cant really say theres anything wrong with it. just as anonymous said dont let him get you in to bed.... (read in full...)

I'm very self conscious about dancing... help!

Q.   Hi- I have an important question that could really change where my life is going, but it is pretty embarassing and I don't think most people will understand. I am super self-conscious about dancing, and every time I go to a school dance (only a few ...

A.   4 December 2006: Right.... i think my best advice is to listen to the music that is most likley to be played at these events and practice dancing to them in front of a mirror or if that fails then ask a close female friend to help you out. if u ask a male friend ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and can't get a girlfriend!

Q.   i'm 16 and have never had a girlfriend! what's wrong with me? i have many female friends and go out with them but never ever had a girlfriend! i'm not annoyin, i'm caring, good listener, and girls only keep me as a friend, but i'm not very good ...

A.   29 November 2006: im in the same boat except wanting a guy... the best tactic is being yourself and go out to clubs and partys, chat to girls and get some more female friends i know it sounds hard belive me it is... im having just as much trouble as you are... but ... (read in full...)

I want to have a bf, but being a goth doesn't help as the guys I know , all dislike me! What should I do -any tips?

Q.   Hey need a lil advice from the guys really.... Um.. how can i start.... ive been single for a while now and i would really like a boyfriend but all the guys in my area/town hate/dislike me because i have a bad reputation (a castrator of all thin...

A.   29 November 2006: thank you all for the advice its going well so far and ive already met a few great guys :D thankies again!!!!!... (read in full...)

My bf's mate told me that my bf wanted to break up! My heart is broken so what should I do now?

Q.   Hey guys... i need a little bit of advice... Me and my boyfriend split up last night after being together for about 2months. I really really loved him and when i was told by a mate ( because he was too scared to tell me himself) that it was over i l...

A.   21 November 2006: Yeh thanks for pointing out the obvious... i know i have to move on i stated that in the question. i was asking for a lil advice on how to move on.... (read in full...)

I like my friend, but the thing is she is a girl! am I bisexual?

Q.   i have a boyfriend right now and i'm really happy with him. but i have this new friend and i'm attracted to them. but the thing is, is that my friends a girl. i'm still attracted to my boyfriend and other guys but i'm starting to find my friend ...

A.   17 November 2006: It sounds like you may be Bi - sexuall, and belive me its nothing to be ashamed of, im Bi and lovin it.. t can be a lil confuseing at first and it could just be a phase. but from what you have said then i would think you are bi sexuall... (read in full...)

I'm 17 - she's 15. Illegal?

Q.   Hi, I was wondering what is classed as ilegal in the UK with an under 16 year old??? I'm 17 and she is 15! we are really love each other and want to get more physical but don't want to break the law! Please can you tell us what is ok? THANKS....

A.   20 August 2006: Dr.Pete is wrong 16 is the leagal age in the UK. ... (read in full...)

I dont want to have to tell the new guy about "my situation" until im settled, how should I handle this ?

Q.   I have a conundrum. My long term boyfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago. We lived together, and I am staying elsewhere until our lease is up at the end of Sept. After that I will get my own place, etc. It was coming for a while, not a ...

A.   16 August 2006: there really isnt much to worry about if he does ask you out then just tell him " at the moment i'm fully booked because im moving house and my social life needs to go on hold untill im settled in so... its a yes but a late yes" and if he does like ... (read in full...)

Now normal is it for dad to perve at his daughters?

Q.   hi, i'm 15. almost fully grown. is it normal for your own dad to look at their daughters bums or legs or boobs? cos i go and get a drink and i turn round to where my dad is, on the sofa and hes looking at my bum. i saw my mates dad look at her bum ...

A.   16 August 2006: Well to put it bluntly no. dads should not look at their daughters this way although many do. it is a pervey thing to do and is wrong on so many levels. your dad may find you attractive...( a sickining thaught i know) but as long as he doesnt ... (read in full...)

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