Why did he stand me up?! Should I just dump him??
Q. i need some advice and your opinions on my relationship please... I have been with my boyfriend for over ten months now and we have been getting on really well, we arranged to meet tonight but he stood me up. I was waiting for an hour and a half in ...
A. 2 February 2012: it seems he is taking you for granted , that you will always be their for him if he is late, or not show up at all. you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel, that you are not happy by his lack of concern. ... (read in full...)
Is phone sex cheating?
Q. I cant stop thinking of cheating on my boyfriend .I had phone sex with another man and it turned me on ,totally!! . Is something wrong with me ? Is phone sex cheating ?I wanted to be in a open relationship and he said he will think about it ....Am I...
A. 31 January 2012: cheating starts with the mind, thoughts are the beginning, then progression starts to happen. is phone sex cheating , yes. if it involved someone besides your boyfriend yes its cheating. besides you would not be asking if ... (read in full...)
How do women do it all? Work, cook, clean.... I'm exhausted!
Q. How do you women do it all? I have highly stressful job. When I get home I am exhausted. I have no energy to do anything else but lay down on the coach and watch TV. My fiance lives with me and he is constantly pushing me to do more. He wants me ...
A. 31 January 2012: i agree with 12345, and confused , hire a maid service or divide the work. my wife and me we both work and we share , take turns , cooking, cleaning and so forth. days that we both work its order out , drive thru food. if you are working full ... (read in full...)
Is this my gut talking or my insecurities?
Q. I have been dating Mr. K for 7 months now and he is pretty great, however, I have some concerns. When I met him, he is was transitioning from California back to Chicago and he was being reinstated with his old job with the police department. ...
A. 29 January 2012: (i was embarrassed about my past& didn't want to scare you off ) from my point of view , no. like my wife & me when i dated her years ago , i made sure she knew my past . i made sure she was comfortable with me, and letting her know i had ... (read in full...)
I am almost certain my husband is using escort services!
Q. Hi Everyone, I also am pretty certain that my husband for the 25 years is using escort services. My husband is self employed ,he not a nine until 5 man. There are alot of unexplained afternoon mobile numbers on his bill, when he dails these nu...
A. 28 January 2012: i think you are over thinking , and hopefully worrying for nothing. you can go to his cell phone co. get a print out on his phone calls in and out. call some of the no. back. or hire a private investigator to do it, and to check on him. ... (read in full...)
Is this my gut talking or my insecurities?
Q. I have been dating Mr. K for 7 months now and he is pretty great, however, I have some concerns. When I met him, he is was transitioning from California back to Chicago and he was being reinstated with his old job with the police department. ...
A. 28 January 2012: i would say it is more intuition , and caution. once someone lies to you it is hard to know what is truth, and what is lie coming from them. and that is understandable. he is tight on his money, but likes to spend yours.that makes you ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 27 January 2012: is the ring more important than he is? is the ring more important than the marriage relationship together. (the whole married thing ) as you put it should be taken more serious or not at all, its not about a ring. you brought up your career, your ... (read in full...)
In a strange place with no way back so I gave him oral, and now he hasn't contacted me. How do I forget? How do I make sure this never happens again?
Q. I went through my childhood and most of my teen years being made fun of, and because of that I often feel ugly and fat and unworthy of being loved. I met a guy a few weeks ago who made me feel beautiful and he took me out for the day it was great ...
A. 26 January 2012: i am sorry this happened to you, it was not your fault. he was not a nice guy. he may have got what he wanted and now he will be off to the next girl. you did what you could to keep him from advancing further , but you ... (read in full...)
While we were broken up, we both hooked up with other people. Now that we're back together, I cant bear to think of her doing something with someone else!
Q. My girlfriend of 11 months and I broke up around Halloween of last year. We were having issues, I liked her more than she liked me, and I felt I was the only one putting forth effort in the relationship. We were both obviously upset by the ...
A. 26 January 2012: it hurts because you care for her, love her, value her. Does she regret that night with the other guy, that can be a starting place. you both made mistakes, you are both together now. your story sounds a lot like mine. while dating my wife year... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be loved, even though I am hot tempered and jealous!
Q. I am a type of person with a hot temper and jealousy. Can someone teach me how to love? What can i do? ...
A. 25 January 2012: yes nothing wrong with a little jealousy , and temper. we are but human, but you are limiting your selection by the hot temper if you through fits of rage. a guy will take it for so long. jealousy as long as you are not controlling, and ... (read in full...)
Please help me get past my trust issues
Q. I just can not get the thought of my boyfriend cheating out of my head. In May 2011 he started lying to me http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-suspect-my-bf-is-cheating-and-need.html It is now January and i still can not move on. I love him and i ...
A. 25 January 2012: it sounds like a relationship built on mistrust. you may need to trust your gut feeling and not your heart. if he deleted text it was for a reason, if the other girl want reply back to you it is for a reason. look at his character, he ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with her past that is the opposite of my views? I know she's changed but the images are out there!
Q. [Mod note: please note that the poster is 22 years of age, not 32. The poster should consider starting a new account so this doesn't create confusion later.]] So, I'm a 22 year old guy beginning a new relationship with a girl. I'm not one to jump...
A. 25 January 2012: i have gone through years of hurt over my wife's sexual past. if you are interested ,and serious about her i suggest you talk to her now and get the hurt, feelings, and thoughts out of your mind, heart. i have... (read in full...)
Adam or Eve, am I being played?
Q. am i jealous, stupid, controlling, or just kidding myself loving this person? what would you do? I have dated this 30 year old Micronesian for 3 months before we decided to be official. It was nice, I planned a whole day for the to of us and the...
A. 25 January 2012: i think you have answered your own questions , she sounds, and seems like the type of woman that you can not bank your future on. back in the first 3 red flags was enough for me. its a relationship built on no trust , she is playing, ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or am I just a random hookup?
Q. Hi everyone I'm feeling kind of vexed over this guy. We've known each other for about 3 years now and we've been friends the whole time. In the past he'd just text me for a few days and meet up once in awhile to catch up on stuff and we'd stop ...
A. 24 January 2012: is he into you, or a random hookup. the only way to find out is don't give in to sex with him. if he still comes around and does not treat you different, he does not push you for sex he will more than likely into you . don't rush things ... (read in full...)
Going to his house to do oral...does he like me?
Q. Hi um recently I've been talking with this guy and he is in my science class. I've known him for two years now and were friends. Not close but were friends. And recently we've gotten much closer than ever. It started over Christmas break. He texted ...
A. 24 January 2012: he is telling you what you want to hear. after he gets what he wants ,and gets tired of you he will be off to the next girl. he is telling you everything you would like to hear because he wants sex. i am afraid you will be the one ending up ... (read in full...)
Extended one-night stands?
Q. If you decided to have sex a few times with a guy and then each move on with your lives (basically an extended one night stand), did you have sexual satisfaction from the first time or you had to give it some (more) time(s)? What to do in order not ...
A. 23 January 2012: sex for the heck of just having sex with different people will at some point leave a person feeling empty ,guilty, used,ect. we as people need emotional attachment through love in a long term relationship, it makes sex into lovemaking ... (read in full...)
How do I win her back?
Q. Recently me and my girlfriend broke up (both 20 years old). The past 2 months were stressful and pressuring on us, as we moved house twice over Christmas and new year. Since september, we've seen each other 24/7 (after being rendered jobless) and ...
A. 20 January 2012: i am not a lady , but i have been in your shoes before. at first i would let her know how you feel about her, not with just words but from deep down from your heart. tell her what she means to you, and what you have with each other. ... (read in full...)
Why would someone cheat and then come up with excuses?
Q. Just out of curiosity I would like to hear other opinions on why someone would cheat on either a wife/husband or a live in BF/GF? and then come up with all kinds of excuses as to why they can't give the other person what it is they want IE; "i have ...
A. 20 January 2012: someone that cheats is being dishonest to them self, other people and( most likely the person they are cheating with.) they may need a lie to cover another lie. they don't want to look in the mirror they are wrong for what they are ... (read in full...)
I'm a wall flower and everyone makes me feel weird about it!
Q. I'm not very sociable, and I find it very hard to connect with new people, I often feel very uncomfortable around strangers (and even acquaintances) because I just don't know how to make or follow conversation. I usually feel very comfortable about ...
A. 20 January 2012: i would say you are not weird, as you put it. everyone is different to each persons on extent. i am more like you from the way it sounds, introverted . quit , feel more comfortable in small groups than a crowed group of ... (read in full...)
Am I just his "booty call"?
Q. I met this young guy (25y) I am 33y female....We had chemistry..started whith just kisses..with the time we ended up in sex.... I like him a lot. Is very mature and has a brillant career, is very smart and corteous. Very succesful for his age. La...
A. 14 January 2012: yes he is getting what he wants. my guess would be after he is tired of you he will move on to another woman. yes to be honest ( you are his booty call) sorry ... (read in full...)
Have sex with ex while she with another man what does that mean
Q. Hey guys, need some help, Me and my gf of 3 years recently split up and we stil talk and act like we r stil an item, we chat every day and nite, problem is she has got a bf. But she stops at myn and we have sex, (while she is in a relation...
A. 12 January 2012: if she would cheat on the other guy , and have sex with you. what makes you think she would not cheat on you with some other guy on down the road! even if she would come back to you would it not be in the back of your mind ... (read in full...)
He lied about not having had past relationships. Should this affect our relationship??
Q. Recently, i got hurt and was feeling cheated about an issue with my bf of 2.5 years. I used to think him as a nice character who respected girls a lot, unfortunately, now i feel i was having wrong impression of him. :( I am really really co...
A. 12 January 2012: yes you can get them both together and get the truth out in the open, that is better than just getting one side. with both the other girl present , and your boy friend if you remain calm you can set back and look at the situation as a ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex so much it hurts and I can't stop crying!
Q. My story is a little complicated so I will try to make it short as possible. I was enganged to a guy. We were together for 4 years. I found out that he cheated on me... (several times) so I left him. I left him without a fight... I just packed my ...
A. 11 January 2012: look its over, he is married shortly after you left him. he is over you,and married. if anything you helped him wake up and see things clearly. i am sure he has a place in his ... (read in full...)
Getting frustrated with his lack of proposal.....how long were you together before you got engaged? What is the average?
Q. I am rather depressed of late. I am 28, and I've been with my partner for three years, he's 26. It seems that everyone around me is getting either married, or engaged... But me. I am starting to feel left behind and frustrated with my partner's lack ...
A. 10 January 2012: if you are not comfortable proposing to him ,ask him what his intentions are for you both in the future, for the long run for the both of you. ask him were do we stand as a couple? whats in our future ... (read in full...)
Is romance really dead?
Q. I never know how to start these. Bear with me. I am pretty sure I am in love with romance. Never a good sign, I know. Problem is, this has been a life long love. I have been working on everything about me: my weight, my confidence, my a...
A. 9 January 2012: is romance dead? i say no, it is not dead. you may be looking for it in the wrong type of guys, that are only out for them self. first off you don't need to get discouraged, you haven't met the right ... (read in full...)
Any ideas why he is suddenly losing erection during sex?
Q. Hey! my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now, but I've known him forever since we've been friends since high school. Everything is great, we get along great and we both work to make things work. We're both very much in love. The ...
A. 5 January 2012: he could be tired , fatigue , sex several times in a day, stress, mind on problems , worry . i doubt it,s weight you gained during the holidays. the thing is he is not a machine that will keep on running, he may ... (read in full...)
Does he want more than a FWB relationship with me?
Q. Hi everyone me and this guy have been seeing one another since march last year well I think were more fwbs than a proper couple even though I do want to be with him properly the last week he came round mine drunk n I heard him whisper he loved me ...
A. 3 January 2012: (he will not buy the cow as long as he is getting free milk) the ( FWB ) someone always comes out a loser. a man can tell a woman anything she wants to hear ,especially if he is getting what he wants . friends with benefits another word for : using ... (read in full...)
My friend is becoming a slut and its worrying me!
Q. Recently, my best friend who I have been friends with for 10 years is becoming a real slut, she's 14 and doing things with 20 year olds and turning to drink more and more frequently. I myself have never drunk or done any of these things, but I'm ...
A. 2 January 2012: if she is a friend ,sounds like she needs to be warned that she is on the wrong track in life . she may have other things going on in her life, maybe a bad home life , or something she can't deal with at home. it seems she has a (low view of her ... (read in full...)
What do people think of an 18 year old guy dating a 16 year old?
Q. ok i have been talking to a girl who is 16 and i'm 18 we have basically got straight on and i feel like i have known her for years and we both have basically shown we like each others personallity and like each other. id like to ask her out and ...
A. 1 January 2012: i met my wife when she was 16, and i was 20. we have been married for right at 29 years.there is nothing wrong with dating a 16 year old girl as long as you respect her , and not pushing yourself on her . i would not worry about what people think.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to love one child more than your other?
Q. This might be a very "rough" question.. But, let's say you have 2 children. Would it be normal to love one more then the other? Or, let's say you were put in a situation where only one of your children would live, and you had to choose which one ...
A. 31 December 2011: as far as having to decide in the choosing of which child to pick to live and which child to pick to let die. NO , that could not happen with me and i cannot picture any parent in their right mind picking one child over the other to live or die n... (read in full...)
No present for Christmas and not being enthusiastic about New Year's Eve. Is this a reason to dump the guy I've been with for 3 months?
Q. No present for Christmas and not being enthusiastic about New Year's Eve. Is this a reason to dump the guy I've been with for 3 months? We were casual for the first month and a half. Then we agreed to date exclusively. He swears he wants to be w...
A. 30 December 2011: i am not going to tell you to break up or stay together. a guy that is dating you and not giving a christmas gift he is suppose to care for is being selfish, uncaring , and i could see that it would leave you hurting and feeling hurt. ... (read in full...)
What exactly goes through a women's head when they allow me to keep treating them like trash?
Q. I am in awe at the way women let me treat them and I just don't get it. Ill see a girl I like and treat her like complete garabage but she still chases after me so I continue to do it because it works every time but I've had enough, I just don'...
A. 30 December 2011: it is my view many of the women you are meeting have very little self worth. these women are so use to meeting guy's that are only after sex with them, and to be dumped after the guy is tired of them. they may be at ... (read in full...)
How do I hide that I'm no longer a virgin?
Q. I am deeply in love with a boy.one day i mate((sex) with a condam) with his at that time my hyman was broken and bleeded. now he doesn't have any interest in me so can i get marry another person? if so can that person know about my virginity? what i ...
A. 26 December 2011: when you meet a guy in the future the worst thing you can do is not be honest to him. you can't build a relationship of trust by covering up truth with a lie, or trying to hide the truth from him. when you meet the right man being hone... (read in full...)
Do I pick the good guy or the bad guy?
Q. help me!!!! I love two men and have no idea what to do.... one is a good guy ones a bad guy but I just dont know who to choose!...
A. 17 December 2011: with what little details we have between the two , the bad boy is exactly that bad, trouble, undependable, out to have fun and self centered at it. the type to use a girl and leave when he's finished with her, then he's off to the next girl ( ... (read in full...)
(( Guys )) What is your definition of a "hot" girl or woman??
Q. Hi! My boyfriend uses this term quite often (when talking about women.) He even said he thought I was "hot" when we met. Honestly, I was shocked because I never considered myself being that and was never called that by anyone in the past. I am an ...
A. 15 December 2011: any woman that has confidence in the way she walks, and carries herself. has curves ( not a straight stick) , has a look about her that makes me look twice. a lot depends on the woman it would be hard to pinpoint any certain type. i ... (read in full...)
Why do all the men I meet mess me around?
Q. Hi eveyone this is my problem I can never meet a man who won't mess me about! eveyone I have dated have cheated on me or used me for money even though I'm skint. my last relationship was we met he wanted sex nothing more that was it, kept making ...
A. 13 December 2011: short and simple. don't make yourself easy ( don't give in to sex), have self respect (dignity, self worth, modesty ). any thing worth having is not cheap, any thing worth having has value. it is hard to value anything or anyone that we can get ... (read in full...)
Am I just emotional or is this true love?
Q. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time together. We haven't gone without seeing each other more than a couple of days in the entire 17 months we've known each other. Over the last few months I've felt more and more lonely when we're apart. I get ...
A. 13 December 2011: to me from what i read you sound like you are in love, and this guy is the one you don't want to live without . he is not just someone you might be able to get along with but someone special , someone that has a special place in ... (read in full...)
What's is going on with my girlfriend??
Q. Ok, I am BEGGING you guys for help here. I've been with my gf for 4 years. We got together when she was 14 and I was 17. I was her first, but she wasn't mine. We had good and bad times like every teenage couple etc etc She came to my college ...
A. 8 December 2011: it sounds like she has or is seeing another guy. the reason she is avoiding you may be due to her feeling guilt. while you have the chance you need to take her out , maybe to eat or some place that you two can be alone or at least away from the ... (read in full...)
How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner?
Q. If you were, let's say, making 60k a year, would you date someone who is making 15k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and ...
A. 7 December 2011: as the beatles sang (money cant buy me love ) . if you put the cash flow above a person that might be the one for you, you may look back with regrets. if you are working and would like to better your self & (not a dead beat)what is wrong with ... (read in full...)
Guys: When you want oral sex, what do you want exactly?
Q. A question for the guys.... When you want oral sex, what exactly does that mean? Until you ejaculate? Instead of intercourse? To get you hard and then intercourse? Does it help to get hard again if you are in the middle of intercourse and you ...
A. 7 December 2011: my wife likes to perform it on me at different times and not all of the time, just when we both are in the mood for her to give me oral sex. sometimes i ejaculate in her mouth and she swallows , sometimes she performs on me before we have ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for the right one to lose my virginity or find a complete stranger on Craigslist?
Q. I am a 21 yr old male and I am a virgin. I am thinking about using Craigslist and having sex with a complete stranger to lose it. I know craigslist isn't the best place to go. . . My question is should I have sex with a stranger or wait until I ...
A. 3 December 2011: i will agree with starlights, and chickpea. i threw away my virginity at age 18 30 + years ago to a prostitute , and all it was sex. there was no emotional connection, i don't know anything about her. it was just sex,empty, and nothing special. i ... (read in full...)
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