She wont commit to leaving her husband for me, should I keep trying or leave her once and for all?
Q. Hello. For past six months I have been in affair with colleague from work. We are both married, none of us has kids but her husband is often away for couple of months. Things between us developed pretty fast and we soon realised that this is more ...
A. 19 April 2012: well basically you two have a relationship built on mistrust. you are cheating on your wife,and she is cheating on her husband. relationships built on adultery, and hiding the truth from your spouses.
wh... (read in full...)
Guys, are women with big boobs more 'valuable' than the rest of us?
Q. I was talking to my BF and he said that he was more inclined to treat a woman with big boobs with more care, respect and spoil her than a woman with smaller boobs. Of course I have a small B cup, and I asked him why he was with me. He said that I ...
A. 14 April 2012: to me a woman is more than just her boobs. personally i like Bs through Ds. but i look at the total package. a woman is made of more than just boobs,its her smile, who she is on the inside, her character , her personality,her body, her hair, her ... (read in full...)
She's a virgin and I don't know if I can handle it
Q. This is a long one. I'm 22, she's 23, and she's amazing. We've been together for about 8 months and so far she's everything I want a woman. There are just 2 issues. 1st, she lives far away. She is currently going to school in Israel and will ...
A. 13 April 2012: LOVE is giving,sharing ,caring,looking out for what is best for the other person, putting the other person above yourself. LUST is taking , wanting, self centered, looking out for what is best for ... (read in full...)
Is thinking of cheating actually cheating?
Q. Is thinking cheating? I had this dream last night about sleeping with my fiancée's friend, it was so hot and heavy! And now today my mind has been wandering. My friend posted a pic of himself nothing new but all of a sudden my hormones are raging. ...
A. 8 April 2012: no its not cheating. your hot dream could be used as an advantage to keep your guard up when your around your fiancees friend, especially if you have a infatuation toward your fiancees friend. if you are bored with your fiancee (sex) with four ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity this way?
Q. I went out with this guy 3 years ago, the relationship ended pretty badly, but we perservered and stayed friends over the years, despite him going out with my best friend and the rest of my friends pretty much hating him. I'm don't have any real fee...
A. 6 April 2012: i am afraid you will only give yourself regrets to look back on. the one that will loose will be you. it will be meaningless , and you will be the one hurting looking back. you only have that gift once to give away, why throw it away. you can give ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits, what do you think?
Q. Me and a friend of mine have been speaking for a little while and we got onto the question of how fun it would be to have a friends with benefits and before we knew it we were discussing actually going through with it, but i have never done ...
A. 6 April 2012: there are better ways to have fun. you can have fun in ways that are not damaging to you latter on . friends with benefits , is one person using the other. usually it will be the girl that gets ... (read in full...)
I still love my ex but I'm married!
Q. Hi I have been divorced from my ex for about 9yrs now. We still talk on a regular basis. He now has 2 kids but indicated to me that he would never marry again unless it was me. I recently re-married almost a year ago. I love my husband, but I just ...
A. 6 April 2012: ok you are divorced from your ex and you are keeping a relationship with him. what does your husband think of you talking to your ex all the time, or does he even know? you made a choice you are divorced, and remarried. sounds ... (read in full...)
She has destroyed my life with her sexual past that I never knew about.. Just to marry her!!
Q. Ive been married 13 years, have 2 children. my wife has been very good to me all 13 years. but never thought in a 1,000,000 years this would happen to me.. I feel like my marriage was nothing but a fairytale. So this is what...
A. 5 April 2012: it is your business you are married to her. this subject has been turned around to race, prejudiced, and if you had others also. the subject is your wife deceived you , she lied and it hurts you. you ... (read in full...)
Do I follow my heart and chose one guy or stay with the other guy and always wonder "what if"?
Q. I have been in a relationship with Daryl for 2 years now. He has a child with another woman and we have definely had our ups and downs. I do not get along with his family at all. But I'm pregnant. I love daryl he's a good guy and he's been talking ...
A. 3 April 2012: like you say a baby is in the equation you have to consider. between the two you need to make sure it is love. a love that will be their when times are good, and when times are bad. like i always say (marry the one you cant live without, not the ... (read in full...)
I want my revenge!
Q. I am going crazy because of his sexual past. I think its because it happened while we were broken up. I feel as though, if he hadn't messed up the way he did, none of it would have happened. We wouldn't have broken up and it wouldnt have happened. ...
A. 25 March 2012: yes i have been , and am were you are at. it happened to me with my wife we have been married 29 years and it still bothers me. we dated , we broke up. she went out with guys and gave it away. yes it ... (read in full...)
What do you think about death?
Q. I had many death lately in my family. Very close family members died, from different causes. So it is very difficult time for me, and I have hard time dealing with it. That got me thinking of death a lot generally. And its funny , but I can't find ...
A. 23 March 2012: only two choices , only two places to spend eternity . heaven or hell. a person can't get to heaven by being good , only from being saved ( accepting Christ in their life). aside from that a persons choice is made. every ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is upset that I lost my virginity to another during our break up
Q. I am in a long distance relationship because he is goes to college in washington and i live in florida. So we live on oppsite sides of the country. He is turning 20 this year and im 18. We were together for over a year when we broke up. He just sto...
A. 18 March 2012: he is upset because he cares for you, and cant stand the thought of some other guy entering , and touching you . he doe's not look at you as being tainted , but he feels hurt he is not your first and only. he feels lose that he can never get ... (read in full...)
Men, would you cheat on your partner if you knew you wouldn't get caught?
Q. This is a question for the men that have been married for quite some time or are in a long term relationship. Are you truely happy/satisfied with your wife sexually? I was reading an article the other day about "spicing" your relationship up....
A. 18 March 2012: no i would not . i have to live with my self, the factor of guilt plays into the it. i have respect for my ( partner), i would not want to hurt my wife. even if she would never find out , i would still know the truth and would not want to have ... (read in full...)
Why do men want oral sex?
Q. why do men want oral sex ...
A. 16 March 2012: to me a woman is saying she enjoys all of me , she wants to please me by giving her all. she is saying she wants to give not just receive . when she swallows my cum and i can see she enjoys ,it makes me feel that she wants all of me. she ... (read in full...)
My best friend has started dating and is using the girl to avoid me
Q. I don't know what to do about my best friend. He started dating this new girl and for some reason is avoiding me. Anytime I ask him to come over he makes up a lame excuse like, "he has to take his niece to the mall." Yesterday, i had finally got him ...
A. 11 March 2012: the love bug has bitten him, your still his friend but he is devoting his energy into her. he will eventually come around to ya.... (read in full...)
Scared of having sex, any advice for my first time?
Q. my husband and i have been married for 8 months and he wants 2 have sex, he tells me hes not forcing me, but i feel like it,i really want to. im a virgin and i wanna have sex so bad,im scared, i've told him this, he asks me why. i tell him we're ...
A. 6 March 2012: you both are married , your body belongs to each other. you gave yourself to him in marriage but you are holding back on him from the part of you that should be the closest , most intimate part between husband and wife. you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't get upset when I don't want sex, is this normal?
Q. I have been dating this man for four years but we have never had sex,each time we try to do it i always back down i feel am not ready and he understands me,I am worried because he dosent get upset everytime i back down is it normal?...
A. 1 March 2012: that should be looked at as a good thing. at least he is not a guy that is pushing you for sex. guys that are pushy for sex are interested in one thing , and after they get it they are gone to the next victim. when ... (read in full...)
Still grieving over a failed relationship, how do I move on?
Q. Hi! Any words of wisdom appreciated. I broke up with someone about 3 months ago. He was a friend and former housemate. We always seemed to be more than 'friends' but things were awkward as we lived with another guy who was his friend and who liked ...
A. 28 February 2012: your story has a ring to it , a lot like my story many years back. my wife and i was dating we broke up for a year and a half. the first three months after we broke up she tried to get back with me. she was ... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy seeing my wife kiss another woman. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I'm a guy. I've been married for 2 years. Tonight my wife was out at a friends. I know she's dabbled in lesbian sex, and I'm ok with the idea, or thought I was. Tonight her friend was with kissed her while I watched. (I was at home we were on cam) ...
A. 26 February 2012: you felt that way because it is a third party . you are married and it does not matter if it is a man , or a woman coming in between your marriage. your marriage is a covenant between your wife and you only. when a ... (read in full...)
Should I jump ship for my old high school crush?
Q. Ive been in a relationship for the past 8yrs and we have been through a lot. He is also 7 years older. i know im not the pretty young thing like i used to be but things feel like their going nowhere. No more spark. not much conversation. not too ...
A. 25 February 2012: this is a true story just food for thought. it happened to a guy a work with his wife left him for an old boyfriend that contacted her out of the blue. he was wealthy , she took off with him they flew for a romantic getaway. she ... (read in full...)
Should I jump ship for my old high school crush?
Q. Ive been in a relationship for the past 8yrs and we have been through a lot. He is also 7 years older. i know im not the pretty young thing like i used to be but things feel like their going nowhere. No more spark. not much conversation. not too ...
A. 24 February 2012: the grass is greener on the other side, at least from the view you are looking at it. all you mentioned was his wealth,trips he could take you on, cars he drives, food he eats. so it ... (read in full...)
An argument over opening doors has led me to question my feelings for him, am I being crazy or over-sensitive?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year. He's 46, I'm 43. I will admit, I have ignored some small "yellow flags", but there are many, many good qualities about him and I also know that there is no "perfect", that I, myself, am not ...
A. 23 February 2012: in a relationship it is about giving of yourself 100 percent to the other person. not a small portion but giving your all. when a person feel like they are on a one sided relationship it causes hurt, frustration,and whats the use. it also ... (read in full...)
I'm so hurt my husband told me that I suck in bed!
Q. Im so hurt my husband has told me i suck in bed and he would rather masterbate to porn. he does it often and locks himself in the room for 2 plus hours but im lucky if we spend 30 mins having sex. im so hurt and dont know what to do. He doesnt think ...
A. 22 February 2012: he is being cruel and hurtful to you. it seems like he may have two problems . one it sounds like he is addicted to porn, he is getting his fix from porn, and then he does not want you. two he is ... (read in full...)
If cheated on will the man suddenly find the woman sexually unattractive?
Q. If you made a mistake and was found out for cheating, can it make a man go from finding you very sexually attractive, into not finding you attractive any more? Can men change just like that? How do you pull them back? Any one ever been through this?...
A. 21 February 2012: cheating it would cause a lack of trust in the individual . without trust a relationship, it has no foundation to grow on. once trust is broken it is hard to gain back, and trust will take time to gain back if ever. ... (read in full...)
Why am I still sleeping with this married woman despite knowing that out "relationship" is headed nowhere?
Q. I can't believe that it is still going on after four years! I posted a question regarding this affair a while back when I thought this whole ordeal was finally coming to an end, but it isn't. We stared flirting, going to lunch. etc., back in th...
A. 21 February 2012: the woman has no plans of leaving her husband, you have been cheating with her since 2008, 2009. you are a play thing for her. in the end a divorce will be some of the damage. your stealing candy ... (read in full...)
Lies stacked upon lies and now my ex doesn't trust me
Q. I have been with this girl for 2 years and we have been very much in love. The problem is, when we first met I told her some lies about my past and as time went on I didn't know how to take them back. so I told more lies and things are in a very bad ...
A. 19 February 2012: you told her lies . you cant build a relationship of trust built on lies. and the bad part is you know that now. with lies just as you did you have to cover lies with more lies . this brakes down trust, and a person never knows when you ... (read in full...)
I don't understand how he could like me so much one minute, then go cold the next!
Q. I am very, very frustrated. I met a guy last year from uni, and we hit it off. It blew over before Christmas, but just recently we've started speaking again. We went on a kind of date last Thursday which was lovely, and he said he wanted to see me...
A. 19 February 2012: he may be playing games with your emotions, and then again he may be interested . don't chase him but let him come to you. keep your self respect, and don't let him get you in a place were you feel dependent on him to chase after him. ... (read in full...)
My husband would rather watch porn and get an erection and masturbate than have sex with me! Where did I go wrong?
Q. I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years and over the last 6 months to a year I have noticed he is into his porn more than he is into me. He came home early one afternoon and asked me if I wanted to have sex with him... I jumped at the ...
A. 18 February 2012: you didn't go wrong he did. he is more than likely addicted to porn. if he would stay away from it , you would see his interest in you return. you have done nothing wrong , it is him . he is in bondage to the porn he cant stay away from. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had several threesomes and hook ups in her past: liberal open-minded girl or just a slut?
Q. Well, I know this topic comes up a lot but here I go anyways: I'm dating this girl for the last 5 months. She has been always open about her attitude about sex, and admitted to me that she has had a lot of threesomes, hook ups and ongoing on and o...
A. 17 February 2012: more than likely you feel this way because the longer your relationship grows in love between each other the more you care for her and cant stand the thoughts of other guys touching her in a sexual way. "how can ... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 17 February 2012: i found it while looking for help,looking for answers, looking for insight to things in my relationship that was bothering me. i looked at other people with problems in their relationships that could use a kind word, help, advice, ect. ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really pressured to lose my virginity!
Q. so here's the deal.. literally everyone my age is having sex but me.. (I'am 16) I haven't done anything with a guy, all I've done is kiss, all the guys I've went out with, all want one thing! and when I don't give it to them they break it off. I ...
A. 17 February 2012: not everyone your age is having sex, they are either lying , or the crowd you are hanging out with. don't be pressured into having sex, don't give yourself any regrets to look back on. ... (read in full...)
Why are so many people ashamed of their virginity status?
Q. I know some girls who tell me in hushed tones that they are virgins and not to tell anyone, its too embarassing. I know girls who look down upon girls that claim to have sex as sluts. I know girls who wish they hadn't given it up that early. Why? ...
A. 16 February 2012: you should not be ashamed of virginity . you have a gift that you can only give , and have once , don't waste it. your friends that will be throwing away their virginity in the next few years will probably tease you, and try and make you think ... (read in full...)
Do men find it more attractive when their partner swallows ??
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for ten month and a half :) we are really happy together...we have been sexuallt active together for almost five months now and i went down on him last satyrdsy for the first time. He said he really enjoyed it ...
A. 14 February 2012: i just know i love it when my wife swallows, just something about her being welling to swallow , really excites me. to me it is showing she wants all of me. ... (read in full...)
Guys if you found out your girl was an older virgin would it be a deal-breaker?
Q. Guys, if you found out that the girl you liked was still a virgin would this make you more interested in her, or would it be a deal breaker? If she's an older virgin at that....
A. 13 February 2012: deal breaker, no! it would be a plus. no history to worry about . but love is the key , virgin or not a virgin.... (read in full...)
Can you forgive a person after destroying your trust and crushing your heart?
Q. so my gf had been acting weirdly for months and i found out she had an affair with a man howeever she only saw him 3 times and only had sex once. she was on medications and depressed with an eating disorder and huge self esteem issues and at the ...
A. 10 February 2012: yes you can forgive a person if you have experienced great hurt, or you can struggle with the hurt for years. i have struggled with hurt that has crushed my heart. i have been there and it is no fun. you will have a load off if you ... (read in full...)
Is making love different from other sex?
Q. Tonight I met my lover, who is a married woman. We have been together 2.5 years. I am not married and she has told me in the past that she does not plan to leave her husband. She seemed very eager to see me. She gave me a very thorough and nau...
A. 10 February 2012: has the dynamics in the relationship changed: even if so you have a relationship built on mistrust. she is cheating on her husband now for 2.5 years , she is married. she is cheating with you . if she even left her husband for you ... (read in full...)
B/f used to take me to Las Vegas with him for work but now he goes alone. Is he cheating?
Q. IS HE CHEATING? My boyfriend used to take me to Las vegas everytime he travels for work.. wERE supposed to stay again last month but then he cancelled and just dicided to come home every weekend.(we live together) Its been going on like th...
A. 7 February 2012: (is he cheating on me with a woman in vegas .) maybe. something has changed if he use to take you with him, and all of a sudden no trips. have you ask him why he does not want you to go? it sounds like he gets on the defensive side when ... (read in full...)
I screwed up, lost my family. I've changed and I want them back!
Q. my wife left me in november and to be fair at first i was glad of the peace and quiet, the background is iv two boys from a previous relationship and my wife has one, we also have a daughter who is now three, we had a whirlwind romance and probably ...
A. 7 February 2012: i agree with honesty , you need to set down someplace and talk . tell her how you feel, how lonely you are without her . pour out your heart to her and let her know you are being real, that what you are saying is from deep within you. tell ... (read in full...)
My husband of 29 years is suffocating me and I want a way out
Q. my husband of 29 yrs. is sufficating me. everything he does and says annoys me.he calls me 5 times a day.hes at work and he knows im at work.hes 9 yrs older than me and wants to veg out and i want to go.he dont want to spend time with anyone but me ...
A. 7 February 2012: it may come down to communication between you both. he may be depressed and feeling insecure, could be the reason he is calling you a lot at work. he may be worried about loosing you, maybe jealous of attention to other people and not ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a neighbour. Should I tell my husband?
Q. Very Sad Hello, this is long so bear with me, I have been married for 12 years with my husband for 13 years, we have two small kids, I have been happy for most of my marriage and my husband is basicaly a good man, however in our marriage he gamb...
A. 2 February 2012: well you feel guilt because you know it was wrong. can you picture yourself going years with that feeling deep within you. if you do wait years from now till you can't stand it no more , how do you thank your husband would feel then ? would it ... (read in full...)
Why did he stand me up?! Should I just dump him??
Q. i need some advice and your opinions on my relationship please... I have been with my boyfriend for over ten months now and we have been getting on really well, we arranged to meet tonight but he stood me up. I was waiting for an hour and a half in ...
A. 2 February 2012: it seems he is taking you for granted , that you will always be their for him if he is late, or not show up at all. you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel, that you are not happy by his lack of concern. ... (read in full...)
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