Is it normal to obsess about the person I gave up my virginity with?
Q. up until last week i was a virgin. Im 18 and wanted it to be with someone special and it wasn't, i lost my virginty on a 1 night stand. I regret it so much but i know theirs nothing i can do. But now i am obsessed with the guy i lost it to, i ca...
A. 21 May 2013: you cant stop thinking about him, and wishing you were with him. i would say that is normal because you gave the most intimate part of yourself to him, and you gave your heart to him. the thing is you made a mistake giving yourself to him, and ... (read in full...)
Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?
Q. Just feeling a bit naughty I suppose. Soon I will be going out of town to San Diego for a 4 day class and conference. My husband has declined to join me so I am thinking of sharing a hotel room and bed with a very nice attractive young gentleman in ...
A. 20 May 2013: o.k. so you are wanting to cheat on your husband,and have blessings from other people to not fell any guilt? what about when the trip is over and you come back home to hubby? will you fell guilt then? will you be able to look him in the ... (read in full...)
What are your views on no sex before marriage?
Q. I am Christian but nondenominational and I honestly can't decide whether I should wait till marriage and the most committed relationship possible to have sex or have fun, play the field and get experienced with boyfriends at college. I would love to ...
A. 15 May 2013: you are a christian , the Bible teaches to wait until marriage to have sex. you have a choice to make either obey what the Bible says, or do your on thing. its that plain and simple.
if you wait until marriage you want have any skeletons in y... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 25 April 2013: Don't be ashamed that you're a virgin. keep your standards. There are virgin girls out there, but you may have to broaden the places to look " maybe visit a church or two". there is nothing wrong with wanting a virgin girlfriend. you have standar... (read in full...)
Dealing with my wife's past...need help
Q. I’ve been married for 6 months now and I have been with my wife for 1 ½ years. We are both Christians, but we met while we were in our previous marriages. I found out early in the relationship that she had an affair about 9 years earlier with a ...
A. 28 March 2013: ok you both have a past cheating in marriage, adultry, affair, one night stands ect.... the problem you have is with thought of your wife even though she was married at time , she was cheating with a man "state trooper". she gave you detail e... (read in full...)
How can I make him realize the amount of distance his lying is putting between us?
Q. I have been with my husband for 19yrs. We have had our plights and problems. I left him about 5 yrs ago, for about 2 years, over a problem he covered up with a mountain of lies and betrayals. I continue to work with forgive and forget issues. He ...
A. 28 March 2013: it is good to love your husband , even though he lies to you. his lying is doing harm to your trust, your relationship with him, and your future together. some people are just plain liar's, they have done it for so long they even bel... (read in full...)
Do I tell my girlfriend about my past?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and it has been going great. I work in a different state but travel often to see her and will be seeing her in a month. In one of our recent conversations a topic i am not comfortable with ...
A. 15 March 2013: i think you need to be honest with her. a relationship built on mistrust, or hiding things from each other is no way to build your relationship.
i think you need to be honest and tell her the truth it is the place to build a future on. ... (read in full...)
Should leave my boyfriend for this guy I like? Trouble is that the guy I like only wants sex, and I'm a virgin.
Q. I’ve been in a relationship for about 2 and a half months with an amazing guy but the problem/ question I have is: if I should leave my boyfriend for this guy I like? This same guy that I texted almost every day and he said he liked me and I met ...
A. 16 February 2013: well your with an amazing guy for two and half months . "but" he must not be that amazing if you are willing to dump him for a guy you are infatuated with. you are willing to give up the relationship for a guy that you know all he wants is sex? ... (read in full...)
Can I be lustful towards a man I've met and be happy in my relationship at the same time? Is this normal?
Q. I have lustful feelings (none other than that) for a male I've recently met. However I'm in a happy long term relationship. Well, I thought it was happy, do these feelings mean in unhappy or is it normal? I wouldn't do anything about it ever, but ...
A. 8 February 2013: can i have my cake and eat it too. you have these thoughts because of infatuation. someone new, exciting, different. before you know it they will be same oh ,same oh.
be careful you don't mess up and ruin a good thing with the one you have. your... (read in full...)
Guys, do you prefer shaved or natural/trimmed pubic hair?
Q. Dear guys, This is just a question for you: Do you prefer women to be all hairless/shaved/waxed in the pubic area or is it also okay for you if a woman is just a little trimmed or even completely natural? Would it be a turn off for you if you ...
A. 8 February 2013: i prefer either way on my wife. like her natural , and every once in a while i shave her with up close and personal attention. when i do trim her i leave just an small island up front. so i enjoy her trimmed and natural. the trimming i only do ... (read in full...)
Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?
Q. How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...
A. 30 January 2013: you cant keep a girl from cheating on you if she is that type of girl. what i mean by that type of girl is: example "she may date you , & cheat see someone else. dates someone else for a while & gets bored of them & see's someone else."
a girl... (read in full...)
Why do people have to make comments that are hurtful?
Q. Dear Cupid, The other night I was talking to this guy that I know fairly well but is still considered an acquaintance. We were texting and he asked "why do you wear so much makeup? Not to say you look bad but i'm sure you're pretty naturally...
A. 30 January 2013: some people speak and don't use their brains. they just talk off of the top of their head. it would pay people like that to speak less and listen more. some times they are self absorbed "think of them self".
i would not let it bother me, if i wa... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to be worried and should I worry a bit more about my crush on this 49 year old salesman?
Q. I am a 19 year old apprentice hairdresser, I have fallen for a 49 year old salesman who delivers product to our salon. I have always fancied older men and have had a few affairs and slept with them. My parents are worried that he his using me and...
A. 27 January 2013: Well your parents are concerned because of him being 30 years older than you. At his age he's been around the block a few times. Makes them wonder what his long term motives are, he's around your parents age. And something for you to think about, y... (read in full...)
How importants are breasts to a man
Q. Hi, I was wondering what the general male opinion on boobs is- how big is too big? is there a limit? are small boobs really that bad? how important are they to a mans sexual arousal? Thanks...
A. 26 January 2013: i like natural myself , no certain size, no one size fits all.they all are beautiful.... (read in full...)
What does friends with benefits mean to you?
Q. I have a question for you lovely people.. Me and my ex stopped talking for a long time all of a sudden he missed me ( so he says) he asked me did I wanna be friends with benefits and told me I can't sleep with nobody but him... What is friends with ...
A. 26 January 2013: one person uses the other, or both people use each other till they get tired of them. one person getting hurt, left with the baggage. no commitment for life, or long term.fun and games for now, skeletons left in the closet for later. most of the ... (read in full...)
A virgin dating a player. I'm scared about having sex with him!
Q. Hey everyone, I'm dating a well known business man of my city,and even before I knew him I'd read about how he's a player and is not really looking for a relationship,I never ever thought for the life of me I'd date him some day!so when I got into...
A. 24 January 2013: Well you know he is a player, and that he has told other girls what they wanted to hear to get what he wanted from them. You are doing right to not give in to him, to not be another notch on his belt. You're a virgin, he should look at that with hon... (read in full...)
Do relationships develop from sleeping with someone you have just met?
Q. Do relationships develop from sex? I’ve always been the type of person who hasn't slept around and would never let myself be used by a fella for sex. By doing this I think I have kept men at arm’s length and therefore have never developed any long...
A. 23 January 2013: "do relationships develop from sex "(sleeping with someone you just met. Sure most will be very short relationships. As soon as the guy gets what he wants or gets tired of you he will be off looking for another girl like you that he does not hav... (read in full...)
He had sex with me and now that I havent heard from him, my fear is coming true
Q. This guy i've been seeing for a while now, i felt really comfortable with him and i've known for ages i wanted to sleep with him, just i wanted to be sure that he was interested in me and not wanting me for sex. So it's been over 3 months, which ...
A. 20 January 2013: the thing is learn from your mistake, and not repeat it over and over. once is a mistake to learn from (the hard and painful way) the second time is self inflected.
if a guy is not committed to you for life your taking a chance, and more than... (read in full...)
My GF doesn't want to lose her virginity until we're married, but that won't be for 10 years! What can we do?
Q. I have been together with my girlfriend for nearly a year. We both never had sex, we only experimented with foreplay etc.(Basically everything but just the most vital part, sex) She told me she will only be willing to do that once we get m...
A. 15 January 2013: Why waiting for 10 years, why are you forcing your lives to wait ten years. Yes to get a degree, To get settled in a career. What is more important your lives together, and still living enjoy each other and making ends meet is being settled with ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and it's embarrassing. Should I get a male prostitute so I can get the first time out of the way?
Q. Probably the most humiliating thread to post. So anon for obvious reasons. Well, basically I'm a virgin girl 21, and for the past year or so I have been teased by literally everyone who found out I was a virgin. It hasn't at all been for lack of ...
A. 2 December 2012: don't throwaway your virginity, you will look back with regret in a few years. save your virginity for someone special that comes into your life at the right time. You can lose it any time, but you cant get it back if a special guy walks into you... (read in full...)
I want to be her last love, what should I do?
Q. I love a girl for two years.we used to sms daily.i didn't say to her,since i respect her family and they respect me.i though time has come and then i told her my love before 6 months.she told she and other love in class.we are just in age of 20.she ...
A. 1 December 2012: you cant force someone to be in love with you, but her love for you could grow. you need to be the right person for her.you need to show her you care, do acts of kindness, give gifts...ect....
you must be willing to pursue her with best inte... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with my best friend's husband and I don't want it to end
Q. Last few months my best friend's husband and I have been sleeping together, last night he tells me he loves her and wants to break it off with me, I got mad and told him I don't want to end our relationship. What do I do? how do I keep him from ...
A. 8 November 2012: First of all he is your best friends husband, he belongs to your best friend. You are stealing, taking from your best friend. Your friendship with your best friend i am sure is at a bad place: hiding,deceiving... (read in full...)
I'm so embarrassed of my past and am afraid it will ruin my relationship...
Q. So, i have been with my boyfriend for several years and we are so in love, thinking of getting married in the near future. The problem is, the past few months i've been thinking about my past constantly and feel so embarrased. The thing is, ...
A. 6 November 2012: mistakes are made when we are young, and don't bother us till life hits us later. o.k. you made mistakes in life that cant be changed, that you have to live with. how much does your boyfriend know? he knows of three but not ... (read in full...)
She used to be promiscuous so I want access to her online activities!
Q. Is it okay for me to ask my fiancee to look at her emails, texts, and facebook one time? I will gladly let her look at mine. I am engaged to woman w/ a very promiscuous past and want to confirm that she will be faithful by asking to read h...
A. 4 November 2012: seems like you are in over your head with her already. she still desires lots of male attention , other words there is a vacuum to be filled with her, you could give her all the attention that is possible and still not be enough for her to be ... (read in full...)
After sex I feel like I have used my girlfriend
Q. everytime i make love to my girlfriend after i climax i feel really bad like i have used her a sense of failure and disgust, does every guy feel that ??...
A. 31 October 2012: you feel like this more than likely because you do care for her, and have a feeling of guilt maybe because of putting sex instead of building the relationship ahead of self interest. sex always changes the dynamics of a relationship, and not ... (read in full...)
My wife actively discourages me forming any friendships of my own. How do I find the courage to stand up to her?
Q. My wife won't let me have any friends of my own. We've been married for about two years now, and I've always accepted that. I messed up and cheated on her early in our relationship, but she decided to keep me around, and we got married and moved on. ...
A. 18 October 2012: she is holding your cheating before you was married over your head now, it appears more so now that you are married. you need to set down with her and tell her how you feel" depressed , and i am sure you are feeling hurt by her bringing... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had sex with 100 girls. Am I just the next one in line?
Q. My boyfriend confessed to having nearly 100 past sexual partners. I'm still a virgin, which makes it a shocker for me. He told me that before he turned 21 (his bday is next month) he wanted to go above 100, but said he would stop at me. He wanted me ...
A. 9 October 2012: he would be a good one to dump. he wants to add you to his self centered list of girls, and virgin girls he has used. o.k. he said he never had feelings for 80% of the girls he scr#wed , so that means he had some feelings for 20 out of 100 ... (read in full...)
My cousin has a Gf. And he and I flirt a lot. I am still a virgin. Should I agree to sex with him?
Q. Hi guys! Hope you can help me. I am a shy type of girl but i do flirted with my first cousin. Its my 3rd time to meet him last january. He's from jersey,he lives there, he's d same guy i wrote here last 2010 http://www.dearcup...
A. 3 October 2012: no , don't give yourself regrets to look back on in life.
he is playing you. save your self for that special someone that will be in your life in the future. he is your cousin, a close relative, incest. don't let him take advantage of you.... (read in full...)
Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.
Q. Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...
A. 20 September 2012: as the saying goes " curiosity killed the cat". why take a chance and destroy what you two have. if you taint the relationship between you two, by bringing in other sex partners into the marriage bed do you think it may have negative effects ... (read in full...)
What can I do so that he wont know I am not a virgin?
Q. Hi, m 21yr old indian girl..had been in a relationship wid a guy approx for 1yr,bt he ditched nd left me,as i trusted on him...i was in physical relationship wid him...but before 1 nd a half year... Nd now m going to marry wid anothr guy......
A. 16 September 2012: why not be honest with him?. why start out the marriage with lies and deception, why not be honest to him. does he not deserve the truth?... (read in full...)
Men: Why can't you just say "I'm not that into you?"
Q. Hello, I'm 48 and feel like I should have this relationship stuff all figured out, not the case at all. Also, it does not matter your age when you feel strongly about that special person-your heart still feels like a 16 y/o girl. I met this m...
A. 22 August 2012: if a man is getting sex when a relationship is starting or just met a woman he may be getting what he wants, or it may turn him away. what do i mean by turn him away, if he is looking for a relationship with a woman and she puts out early in ... (read in full...)
Men: When you have sex, how often are you thinking of someone that you're not with?
Q. These questions are mostly for men but women can feel free to answer as well: 1. When you have sex with your gf or wife, how often do you picture another woman in your head while doing it? 2. Who are they? (friends, women you saw on the s...
A. 22 August 2012: to be honest i just think of my wife. i don't want anyone else to be making love too. i wrap my thoughts, and emotions into her. i put all of my energy into her.... (read in full...)
Does this mean he likes me now if he will wait for sex?
Q. This guy and I have known each other for awhile and our relationship/friendship is always bumpy. For the longest time he would Chase me and not give up and he is a very horny guy. He would always tell me how hot I was etc. I refused to have sex for ...
A. 22 August 2012: it could be looked at as a good thing. you were not ready he did not pressure you. he respected you enough to put his wants aside. other words he is willing to wait on you and not be so self centered of what he wants. he was not rejecting you but ... (read in full...)
Sweet sixteen. Does he like me, or does he just want to get into my pants?
Q. OK, so i have been hanging out with this guy for the last 4 weekends, going to parties and such. his mate kept telling me to hook up with him, and that he hasn't been flirting with any girls since i've been hanging with him. the thing is though,...
A. 13 August 2012: " i like him, but he seems like trouble" go by your instinct. you already sense something is not right by his behavior, trust your instincts . he may very well want to get into your pants and then be off to the next adventure. you don't re... (read in full...)
What is your personal definition of love?
Q. Recently, a few of my classmates and I have a talk with this male teacher. He is 33 this year and neither married nor dating anyone. So we asked why isnt he getting married. And he suddenly got really quiet and just said softly "what is your ...
A. 9 August 2012: love is a decision you make, and a place you have in your heart for another person. a place that sometimes causes hurt,pain, and sometimes causes joy.
love is giving of yourself, even if it leaves you feeling vulnerable to woun... (read in full...)
Was he just after sex? Should I call or wait for him?
Q. Hi. I met a Brazilian guy last wed .we met online and I knew before we met we would have a great time and great chemistry .well I was right .we had a great time chatting about all sorts of things .I am aware that Brazilian men are very forward but ...
A. 5 August 2012: he was more than likely after sex, and he moved on to his next target. you did well not giving in to him. he did not get what he is after so he will move on to another woman that will give in.
i would suggest you to move on , if he woul... (read in full...)
Can cheating be justified?
Q. if someones love interest doesnt give enough time,love, emotional and mental support the care and need and also doesnt take part in sorting such differences by mutual talk then does it give the other partner to cheat on him/her, is it justified ...
A. 27 July 2012: "is cheating fair or justified in a committed relationship if?" cheating on a partner , husband, or wife is never justified even if the other person is cheating. two wrongs does not make things right. if a per... (read in full...)
Should we get engaged when we are this young?
Q. Hey Cupids, me and my bf have currently been discussing getting engaged to a point where i even heard him talking to his mom about rings. Im in my sophmore year of college and he is a freshman in college as well. We have been living together...
A. 26 July 2012: your boyfriend and you need to decide together what the future holds for the both of you, and no one else.
like aunt honesty said follow your heart and not to listen to anybody else.... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years?
Q. Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years? I'm starting to lose hope! It seems like loads of people are finding their partners cheating on them on line, sexting, etc :( Can anyone be satisfied just by ...
A. 19 July 2012: it all comes down to character of both people. the main thing is to know , really know the person you are marrying, their good, and bad traits.
marry the one you cant live without , not the one you think you can maybe live with... (read in full...)
Married 27 years, love each other like brother/sister. Do I stay here miserable or move on?
Q. I'm 45 years old. I married my wife when I was 17, and we've been married for 27 years. We've raised 4 kids together and we have 3 grandkids. Our relationship has been very tough almost from the beginning. We have separated a few times, but I always ...
A. 18 July 2012: you say you love your wife you both have made it 27 years , are you really wiling to flush it down the toilet ???
you are depressed , you say there are other reasons for your depression, and your relationship makes it rough to reco... (read in full...)
What does true love feel like?
Q. I dont think i have ever known true love. from your point of view what does it feel like?...
A. 17 July 2012: to me what does true love feels like. it feels like when i dated my wife 30 years ago , yes i have been married 29 years to her. this is what it felt like while dating her. i never wanted to leave her when it was time to drop her off back hom... (read in full...)
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