I worry that men think I'm only good for sex
Q. Even though I have had relationships in the past, lately I think sometimes that I am only good for sex and I guess it's because of the guys I meet. I am attractive and whenever I talk to them they just see my body and not my personality so I...
A. 25 September 2013: "i think sometimes i am only good for sex, and i guess its because of the guys i meet." that is a starting point, where you are meeting the type of guys that you are ending up with. this may and will determine the type of guys you are ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one feeling this way? Does he miss me too?
Q. I was with this guy for only a little over a month. We were very close and bonded very well. But he felt I was insecure and kept pushing him away when he was trying to get to know me better, therefore he decided to cut off completely. It's been two ...
A. 24 September 2013: "will he also think of me and miss me too?" if you kept pushing him away he probably felt whats the use and backed off, he more than likely still thinks of you.
"we were close and bonded very well ". pushing him away made him fell... (read in full...)
Was he put off? How can I relax into this?
Q. I am still a virgin at the age of 20 which I want to change. The reason is because I was with a guy from the age of 16 until recently, and he had erection problems. In short we had a complex relationship which was not really normal. I have re...
A. 16 September 2013: "is he put off by the fact that I'm a virgin?" that should be a plus in any guys eyes, and heart.another plus is he is not pushing you . " would it be a turn off to most guys?" should be the opposite, and an honor to be with you. ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend feel less "broken" and regain confidence after a previously emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. A little over 5 months ago I met my "dream girl", and our relationship has been going really well so far. I'm 24 and she is 22. She doesn't seem to have a whole lot of confidence in herself though. I asked her about it in the nicest way possible and ...
A. 15 September 2013: You are not her EX , that put her down. you are doing the right things, you are showing her that you care for her as a person and more. she cried because you do care for her, tears from emotional feeling of being loved, and cared for. "how can... (read in full...)
Is it ever ok for a married man to take another women out to lunch?
Q. Is it ever ok for a married man to take another women out to lunch? My husband worked with this women but she recently got a different job. Well I just found out tonight that he talked to her online and ask her to have lunch with him sometime so ...
A. 12 September 2013: " is it ever ok for a married man to take another woman out for lunch?"
my answer is how i look at it. i will not go out to lunch with a woman if i am by my self. i believe the same should apply for a woman to not go out to lunch with... (read in full...)
Do I keep a good man even though he's terrible at sex?
Q. Hi:) I need some advice on what I should about my boyfriend because I'm really on the fence... I'm in my mid thirties, divorced( i was with my ex for 13 years)and no children and really want to find the one and settle down and have a family et...
A. 10 September 2013: "do i keep him because he is a good man and that's very rare or do i call it quits and chance losing a good man because he does not know how to satisfy me" well you said it best finding a good guy in this day and time is like fin... (read in full...)
I feel sort of pressured into having sex. Should I do it?
Q. So, I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now, and we've arranged to have sex, but I'm not too sure we should just yet since I am still a virgin, I've told him that I don't think I'm ready and he's fine with that, but I sorta feel pressured ...
A. 9 September 2013: " but i sorta feel pressured into it" that tells me a couple of things, you are posting on here because you feel pressured, you have doubts , your instincts are saying wait. if he is pressuring you, that is not love but lust. lust is... (read in full...)
Will working keep him off those websites looking for random sex? Should I leave or stay?
Q. Hi. Been with my fiancee for a lil more than nine years. We have a four year old son together and have been living together practically since we met. We have set wedding dates and changed them several times over the years. One of the reasons it ...
A. 8 September 2013: you have a mix of things for one you have a child together, what ever choices you make will effect your little one. he made you feel unloved at a point. you found someone during that time. he postponed a wedding date because he was not in love ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to become more masculine!
Q. I'm struggling with my masculinity. I don't feel like I will ever be a "real man". First of I'm short(5'3"/163cm). I've gotten over being unattractive due to my height but I'm struggling with not being considered a man. I don't have an aggressive ...
A. 6 September 2013: i think you said it best "my self esteem". that is the bottom line. you don't need to worry about your height because no one has control of how tall or how short we are. you can lift weights at a local gym, or do like i choose i... (read in full...)
Is there really sex after 50?
Q. I have such a dilemma, I can't figure it out what goes on with sex in the older age group. It is because, sadly me and my husband are not sexual anymore , due to his erectile dysfunction, and lack of libido. It has been investigated by doctors, ...
A. 4 September 2013: if this will help, i am 53 and sex is more important to my wife and myself more than ever. sex seems better than it did when we first married 30 years ago.
i never seem to get enough, i don't want to settle for less either. it takes both work... (read in full...)
I found a pair of women's sunglasses in his hotel room. Is my b/f cheating on me?
Q. My boyfriend of four years is staying at a hotel for work for a month and this is the second time I've come to visit him while I can't work (rain). Today I arrived at the hotel and found a pair of womens sunglasses under one of the bedside tables ...
A. 27 August 2013: if they were under the table maid service may have missed them also. if it took you having to get down to search for your phone, maid service may have well over looked the sun glasses as well.
the best advise i can give you is to get ... (read in full...)
Nothing has been said since I reminded her of her sexual past, should I bring it back up?
Q. I am upset over something but don’t have the right to be. I posted last hear on Dear cupid and got some good feed back. Let me explain and get your reaction. I have suffered from retroactive jealousy for a number of years. I realize the p...
A. 26 August 2013: "so does she now think what i said about her promiscuity in the past is true"? ....." should i bring it back up"? i would say yes that she knows her past has hurt you and that she wants to put it behind her, even trying to ... (read in full...)
Does my wife's behavior mean she is cheating?
Q. In the last year,my wife has talked sexier and much more than in the pastwhile having sex,started to exercise,swallowed several times giving me oral sex a couple times in one week when she. Has only did that twice before in 20yrs and became ...
A. 22 August 2013: going by what you wrote , sounds like my wife at that age area when she was around mid 40s. she is now 49. at that age my wife started giving more oral "swallowing" which i enjoy, sex toys, and more.
unless she is going out staying gone... (read in full...)
Why do conversations with my friend always wind up being steered towards sex?
Q. I really don't know what's going on with my friend. We're pretty close and I guess he's kind of like a brother to me. He might not see it that way, but I see it. I met him almost a year ago. We've exchanged crushes and personal secrets, and the...
A. 21 August 2013: "why would he be after me? he can get lots of booty other than mine." the conquest , the challenge, get what he wants and then off to another girl. that would be my answer from your description. i hope this helps and you take the advice you have ... (read in full...)
Why do conversations with my friend always wind up being steered towards sex?
Q. I really don't know what's going on with my friend. We're pretty close and I guess he's kind of like a brother to me. He might not see it that way, but I see it. I met him almost a year ago. We've exchanged crushes and personal secrets, and the...
A. 20 August 2013: you had better put the fire out with him,i mean with him talking sex and seducing you. he is being forward, and may get pushy. you better stop him in his tracks tell him to back off, slow down, cool it, stop the sexual talk.
he is lead... (read in full...)
Can a man who is willing to cheat on his wife ever be faithful?
Q. Please help me. I have been married for 12 years. I love my husband like a dear friend, but I have never been in love with him. We have been to counseling and I have even told him that when we married I was in a bad place and I am not sure I ...
A. 17 August 2013: first of all you are cheating on your husband with a emotional affair already. your heart is drawn toward another man. i feel sorry for your husband, i would hate to be in his place knowing or not knowing that my wife was not in love with ... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with my girl, now I want to make up with her
Q. I think I made a mistake in ending my relationship with a girl who was deeply in love with me. I had reasons but did not make it known to her. She was quiet confused, but just agreed for our separation. I'd love to make up with her but will she be ...
A. 16 August 2013: you want her back , what is stopping you. if you don't go and make an attempt you will always wonder what might have been. " i had reason but did not make it known to her". what ever reason you had tell her you messed up, tell her from your ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend last night and feel so guilty! Should I tell him?
Q. I went out last night and got really drunk. A guy grabbed me and started kissing me and feeling me up and without thinking I started kissing him back. Then he said he would help to get me home safely but he got out the taxi too and we ended up ...
A. 7 August 2013: a relationship is built on trust. will he be able to trust you in the future?
a relationship is built on honesty. you need to be honest with him , and tell him the truth.
you feel guilty, because you are. you realize you may have thr... (read in full...)
What do you (men) feel for a woman after you've masturbated to her?
Q. I'm a female, in a 3 year relationship, and masturbate on the regular. 90% of the time I fantasize about my boyfriend, the other 10 I'm watching porn or thinking of something I saw in one. I feel nothing afterwards, there's no emotional bond to ...
A. 7 August 2013: about like the anonymous female replied. i don't know her, or if i did know her i just like what i see, like her body looks sexy dress ect... no emotional attachment. but on the other hand if i masturbate to my wife's pictures of her nude... (read in full...)
I stole something from work and I don't know how to cope with the guilt
Q. Why did I steal I feel awful!! I can't stop crying:(? OMG!! I feel awful.. Words can't even describe how I feel:( Yesterday I was tidying up the stock room at work and there were these pair of sunglasses that I liked and I took them. I ...
A. 5 August 2013: i would put them back in the store room soon as you get a chance.
why you feel bad is because your conscience is tell you it was wrong to take them. that is a good thing , it lets you know your heart is tender enou... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin and I don't know how to tell this guy
Q. I'm about to get into a relationship with a guy i have liked for about 8-9 months. We've known each other for a few years but only started talking properly last year. Things started getting more serious and we both admitted to liking one another in ...
A. 5 August 2013: you have a great honor of being a virgin. should be no embarrassment. if i was a guy dating you i would be honored that you were. "you didn't trust him ", take things slow. don't let him push you into sex, to be another notch on his belt. th... (read in full...)
I would take my ex back if he'd give me an apology!
Q. I broke up with him about 5 weeks ago. After about 2 weeks of no contact he started talking to me last week. It was so nice, like when we first met. We spoke twice and sent a few txts. A few times he suggested we should catch up and asked when I'd ...
A. 1 August 2013: let me ask what will it hurt to swallow your pride and give a call. if you don't you may always wonder "what if"? you will never know unless you contact him. in a phone call you could bring up the temper is what is keeping us apart... (read in full...)
Would it be an insult to get my wife an anniversary card after I cheated on her with a prostitute?
Q. I admitted to my wife just after Christmas that I'd cheated on her with a prostitute. I regret my behaviour very much and have no intention of ever repeating it. My wife is trying to forgive me and we're still together, but she doesn't wear her ...
A. 30 July 2013: if it were me i believe i would get a card with the words or some like " how that i am sorry for hurting you, you mean the world to me. ect.. ect..." a card of love maybe not an anniversary card, but a card from my heart. i believe i ... (read in full...)
My husband and I are trying to rebuild the trust in our relationship but we have totally conflicting work schedules
Q. My husband and I are working through some trust issues. With that said, we basically are trying to rebuild the foundation that our relationship is made on, because we both love each other very much and are not willing to walk away from something ...
A. 29 July 2013: if you have any over lapping time off together before you both work, and off work, you could and should put that time into each other. look for any spare time to invest in each other, without that things that matter will suffer. i wor... (read in full...)
Is a threesome a good idea? Should I delay decision making, until I return in a month?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles :) I'll start with a bit of back story first. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 5 years now and we believe we are in a strong relationship. We've been through a lot what with family death and serious fall outs be...
A. 21 July 2013: " my boyfriend and i have been together for over five years now and we believe we have a strong relationship". if you want to keep it a strong relationship you will not do it. here to help has posted several examples of threesome ... (read in full...)
Can a married man love his wife and mistress at the same time?
Q. Can a married man love his wife and mistress at the same time?...
A. 12 July 2013: you will get different view points from people you ask. the same as the question is ask about " can a man love his wife and mistress at the same time?" my answer will be more directed to the heart of the man you are asking about.
i... (read in full...)
He has funny marks on his face that he says came from playing basketball. Is he cheating?
Q. So here is my story; In the beginning of June my boyfriend broke his phone, he has been jobless and his parents have kicked him out quite a few times, and also his car broke down. So basically we haven't really talked, and when we do its every other ...
A. 8 July 2013: well its one thing to be down on your luck, and its another when the parents have to kick him out more than once.if he is cheating you may not get honest answers from him, even if you want to believe him. have you caught him in lies bef... (read in full...)
I want to see improvement in every area in my life but don't know where to start.
Q. lately im so depressed, i dont know what to do i have a job but only week two days a week, i have tryed getting more hours but there they dont have any, due to this im waking up and just doing nothing all day. i do drive but my car is broke...
A. 4 July 2013: you are still young, and have a life ahead of you. you feel overloaded with burdens. the thing is you are not alone. there are lots of other young people in the same, if not worse shape. what i am saying there is always someone that has it ... (read in full...)
No longer sexually attracted to my husband! Should I leave him?
Q. I'm 24, and married to a 25 year old. When I first met him, I couldn't take my eyes off him, and same with him to me. We dated for a year, then got married when I was 21 and he was 22. He still feels just as attracted to me as when we met, eve...
A. 28 June 2013: "i no longer feel the same for him. i find myself lusting over other guys all the time." feelings come and go,feelings can be weak, or strong. you can't depend upon feelings to carry you through your ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose him, but either way I surely will once my B/f finds out about my wild, reckless past. What do I do now?
Q. When I was at university, I was a little wild. I had quite a few one night stands and had a fling with another girl. I even had a few threesomes, and swapped my boyfriend with a another girl ,who knew what I was like and was open sexual too, for a ...
A. 22 June 2013: "what is the best thing to do ? " the best thing to do is be honest with him not cover it up. like you say he can find out now, or somewhere down the road. you don't have to go into detail, and don't need to go into detail. that would more than ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I've never had a kiss or relationship at 16?
Q. is it bad that im 16 and still haven't my first kiss, or better yet a realationship at all? I feel like im the only one at school that hasn't even had a guy that has said anything nice to me yet. :(...
A. 21 June 2013: you are young. at your age everything seems to take forever to happen, but that is not true.
"i feel like i am the only one at school that hasn't even had a guy that has said anything nice to me yet." that is more than likely not true you ... (read in full...)
Help!! Who do I choose? The one who makes me his world or the one who gives me goosebumps?
Q. I have to choose between two men. #1 is kind, loving, considerate, caring, sweet, faithful, would do anything for me and makes me the centre of his universe. BUT he is boring, predictable there is no chemistry or spark between us and the sex is d...
A. 20 June 2013: so you need to choose mr. predictable or mr. goosebumps let me ask what happens with mr. goosebumps after the goosebumps stop?, after the new has worn off? what are you looking for a short term relationship, or... (read in full...)
Can skinny men protect their women?
Q. I am dating a guy who is 6ft 4 and thin.I have not been dating lanky men since i was in sixth form.but he is just so different. However. my mum who I am very close with has mentioned I might get bored or feel unprotected as he is not muscly in bu...
A. 13 June 2013: "can skinny men protect their women " my answer is yes. it comes down to what is in the person. because he is tall and skinny does not make him a coward. any guy that is worth being with would, and should be willing to fight for his woman to ... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to believe in romantic love nowadays?
Q. I'm only at university, but I don't see the point of short-term flings or spending time with guys who don't obviously respect you, and I want an old-fashioned romance. Maybe not a movie, picture-perfect relationship, but one that actually means ...
A. 12 June 2013: you have a good head own your shoulders, you know were you are at in life, and you know where you want to be. you have good values, don't settle for less. yes God has made the person out there for You. just don't look for a perfect ... (read in full...)
When is it time to tell him I don't want sex before marriage?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been dating this guy for a month and a half now..we really like each other but may be things with us just happened too soon cuz there was soo much chemistry and sparks! There is one thing about me that I need him to know 'I ...
A. 4 June 2013: yes you should tell him, and let him know were you stand. by doing that also you will know shortly after if he is really into you, or if he all of a sudden decides to dump you. if a guy dumps you after you tell them you want to wait tell marriage ... (read in full...)
I had sex with one person, but I think I want to wait until I'm married now.
Q. My original plan that I had for myself my whole life was to wait until I was married to have sex (not for religious reasons, I'm just traditional). I'll try to make a long story short: last year I met a guy and fell in love quick. I thought we had ...
A. 4 June 2013: you are not a virgin that is true. you gave in to a jerk putting another notch on his belt. your not the first girl that has happened too. the dynamics of a dating relationship changes after sex has started. "i am just wondering how a fu... (read in full...)
I'm not having sex till I get married. Why do so many friends criticise me for this?
Q. I'm a girl, at university and I've decided I'm not having sex till I get married. I'm Christian, but that's actually not the reason why - I'm really liberal and fully in support of gay marriage/pro-choice etc. It's because sex means a lot to me ...
A. 2 June 2013: " why do other people think who i do or don't sleep with or go out with is anyone's business but my own? why are these trying to argue with me that my beliefs are out dated?" simply because you may have standards they have let down and... (read in full...)
Has anyone with retrograde jealousy ever come to terms with it and found peace?
Q. About 2 years ago I posted an issue in this forum about how my wife cheated on me while we were dating and how lost her virginity to another man. This was despite her telling me she would not have premarital sex with anyone until married and I ...
A. 31 May 2013: what you are feeling is not jealousy or retrograde , it is more of hurt, and loss. "are my feelings normal?" I will have to say yes. I can not picture no guy that loves his wife enjoying the thought of another guy with his woman ... (read in full...)
I don't know which guy I like more!
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about 5 months now and i'm beginning to really like him, we flirt every time we see each other, he has a great personality and he's been coming round every other weekend, and we would end up kissing and cuddling. ...
A. 28 May 2013: " how do i tell if someone makes a good boyfriend or not? who do i choose?" it takes more than just kissing, flirting,texting,and looking cute together. it takes not being selfish, thinking of the the other more than self. it takes a good cha... (read in full...)
My wife got pregnant by her lover and had a secret abortion!
Q. This is difficult but I will just say it. My wife had an affair with a person I considered my friend and got pregnant. She made arrangements with her lover (also married) and had a secret abortion one year ago. We have been married for 6 years and ...
A. 24 May 2013: if you decide to leave her or stay it will have to be your own decision . for me it would be very hard to accept, and forgive her. i am sorry you are going through this. its one thing for her to cheat on you, but its all down too total dece... (read in full...)
Is it normal to obsess about the person I gave up my virginity with?
Q. up until last week i was a virgin. Im 18 and wanted it to be with someone special and it wasn't, i lost my virginty on a 1 night stand. I regret it so much but i know theirs nothing i can do. But now i am obsessed with the guy i lost it to, i ca...
A. 21 May 2013: you cant stop thinking about him, and wishing you were with him. i would say that is normal because you gave the most intimate part of yourself to him, and you gave your heart to him. the thing is you made a mistake giving yourself to him, and ... (read in full...)
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