Do we all have a soul mate or soul mates? What signalled for you that a particular person was the ''one''?
Q. Questions for the men and women on this site. 1 ) how old were you when you found the " one "? 2) did u ever give up waiting? 3) were u ever jealous if someone find their special someone before you? 4) do you believe in waiting for that spec...
A. 11 July 2015: (1) i was 20
(2) we broke up for 18 months , got back together and got married 6 months later.
(3) no
(4) i don,t believe in rushing things, you can create more problems, and heart ache by ending up wit the wrong person by just want... (read in full...)
What are the reasons or justifications to share, or not share, one's sexual past with a significant other?
Q. Would you share your sexual past with someone who you're in a committed relationship with, or do you think it's best to leave the past in the past? Similarly, would you want to know about your significant other's past or would you prefer not to k...
A. 10 July 2015: i think it is important to be up front and honest with each other, no secrets, no skeletons in the closet to hide.
i have been married over 30 years now and my wife has never let me into those places. it creates a lot of guessing, mist... (read in full...)
Am I terrible for thinking about other men?
Q. Hi guys I am a happily married 31 year old woman, i have been with my husband for 10 years and feel like our relationship couldnt get any stronger. However, i spend more and more time fantastizing about other men, about the romance, about t...
A. 8 July 2015: fantasizing is one thing , but putting it into action is another. thinking about, and of asking your to have a open relationship would destroy the 10 years you two have built. it is human nature to sometimes think of and fantasiz... (read in full...)
It makes me sick that I keep visiting prostitutes but I can't stop. Please help!
Q. i:am lonely an can"t stop picking up prostitues. it makes me sick and I don't no what to do.please,please help me...
A. 3 June 2015: i do not have too much info on you to go by but: your between 51-59 either lonely, or if married you do not have the type relationship with her that you would like " no sex with wife or very little?
are you cheating on your wife or you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my lazy bf to clean up after him self?? Bitching hasn't helped.
Q. I've been dating my.boyfriend for over 2 years and we live together I'm 21 and he's 22. We used to have fun together, do stuff together, go everywhere together. But now all he does is sit at home stay in side and play his stupid video games. He don'...
A. 15 May 2015: you can't change someone and make them a different person, no more than you can change the spots on a cat. he has habit's, and side you may not like.
if he is lazy in this area he may be in other areas also including work? he may ... (read in full...)
He's told others that I'm ''easy''. But was what I did wrong to him, by blocking him and ostracizing him?
Q. Where do I even start? It all began when I started dating this guy for almost a year and then he dumped me. He started dating his ex girlfriend and I knew right there what a complete jerk he was. But, when he and his "new ex girlfriend thing" b...
A. 29 April 2015: " should i really be blamed for this?" he may be a manipulative jerk, but you did give in to him "was easy".
he got what he was wanting from you, and wants everyone to know it. so yes hes a jerk. using feelings getting in the way not ... (read in full...)
I think my friend is using me because I have money
Q. My best friends name is Beth and for awhile now she keeps on asking for stuff and money, and she called me fat and ugly and she just acted like she did nothing, she told someone that she thought I was Turing into a bitch, and she slapped me in the ...
A. 16 April 2015: "what do i do ?" dump her, she is a user. avoid her do not give her the time of day. ... (read in full...)
After me being madly in love with him for years, he wants FWB!
Q. Soooooooo after 5 five years being maddly "in love" with a friend who always blew me away, he finally decided to tell me about his feelings and, he want to be friends with benefits , and idk i like him IN THAT WAY but i also want him in other way ...
A. 1 April 2015: " he told me he wants to be the "first one" ,and basically he's asking for it. dunno what to do. " only a couple of things you can do, either give in to him, and feel used as his sex toy 'f*ck body" and expect to be dumped after he finds... (read in full...)
Should I stop having a FWB relationship? Or go with the flow?
Q. I've only been in two serious relationships... One ended because my ex forced me to give him head a few times and told me he was using me for sex. The other guy was recent, he was my everything, but I go to college out of state and it ruined us. He ...
A. 12 March 2015: Being a F#ck buddy for someone will not make your future better with guys , it will lead to guilt and limit the "quality guys' you could have a life time relationship with.
what will happen on down the road when you meet mister wrig... (read in full...)
Even sex on the fifth date doesn't seem long enough to wait
Q. I'm 24 and fed up of boys wanting one thing from me .. It isn't like I have sex 1st date .. I do make them wait till at least 4-5th date but it always ends up just sex. I was dating this guy which I went on 6 date with .. The 5th date we did...
A. 10 March 2015: i can suggest having "self respect" , that is something that seems to be gone out the window this day and time. what i mean by that is if you give it up easy you are going to draw that kind of guy to you. the type of guys that are out ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you date a 27-year-old virgin?
Q. I'm 27 and still a virgin. I feel so old being one at this age and I'm wondering if guys will even want to give me a chance since there are plenty of experienced women for them to pick from. So, first things first. My virginity doesn't mean much to ...
A. 10 March 2015: in my book yes , i would have no problem dating a 27 year old virgin. to me its a plus, and should be. it says a lot about who you are, your character. a guy should feel honored to be with you ! ... (read in full...)
33 years of amazing mariage but the spark has gone. How can I deal with my wish to leave my wife?
Q. I'm thinking of leaving my wife after 33yrs of an amazing marriage. It all began three years ago. I was let down badly by people I trusted (including my wife)I needed to feel valued again. I met someone and we began a relationship. I ...
A. 21 February 2015: jumping the fence to the greener grass, may not be all that it looks like once you get there. so you are willing to through away 33 years you two built? you say she is and you have an amazing marriage? then you are willing to trash it. ... (read in full...)
Flirting with my best friend's wife...should I go further?
Q. My best friend started dating this girl years ago. My gf at the time and her were bffs. My friends gf and i had this chemistry that is so lustful and exciting. We would mess around a bit and eventually it came out in the open. We admitted guilt and ...
A. 16 January 2015: What a buddy you are !!! so you want to steal, take, cheat, whatever you want to call it from your "buddy".
with friends like that your buddy needs to do back ground checks on who he lets in his house.
so you want to steal hi... (read in full...)
I cant have sex with my g/f after knowing she had sex with another man
Q. What should I.Do I can't enjoy sex with girlfriend after finding out she had sex with another man while a one mouth split. I.Just keep seeing him with her while having sex....
A. 21 December 2014: you are in a tough place. i can understand how you feel, i have been in your place . you only have two choice's to forgive her, or not. you need to ask yourself do you love her and can't live without her ? has she shown sorrow ,ask forgiveness ... (read in full...)
Now that I have him, how do I keep him?
Q. I finally got my crush wrapped around my finger we make out, laugh,have fun and just have great sexual and emotional chemistry but my only concern is how can i keep him interested i finally got him now the problem is how do i keep him entertained so ...
A. 18 December 2014: just be your self, if he is worth keeping he will love you and be with you for who you are, not by trying to keep him.
life does not need to be exciting every minute of our lives. during the times that we are not entertained or ente... (read in full...)
I had an affair, he broke it off and now has sent me an email. Do I reply to it?
Q. I am married with 2 children. Last August, my relationship with my husband was not great at all and I met someone who totally swept me off my feet. I wasn't looking for the opportunity, it just happened. I wasn't proud of myself and, in hindsight, I ...
A. 3 December 2014: first off you have an investment with your husband " that i take has no idea of your cheating on him". do you have a lot to loose? how would all this effect your two children ?
he got what he wanted for 2 1/2 mont... (read in full...)
My wife won't have sex with me anymore and won't tell me why not
Q. I think the title says it all. We have been married for 7 years, together for 10 years, and the sex went from twice a night (which is normal in a honeymoon phase) to never over the course of 2 years. Over the last 5 years we have not had se...
A. 23 November 2014: you may need a third party to get her to talk, to open up. a marriage counselor may be needed.
something maybe suppressed in the back of her mind, causing guilt or harsh feelings. like you said it is poisoning other parts of your... (read in full...)
Why are siblings so resistant to giving any support to our mother?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am the second oldest child and I have four other siblings who just act as if they don't have a living parent.I can't get them to do a single thing for my for our mom everything has a price on it they won't go to the store without ...
A. 28 October 2014: it basic comes down to your siblings being self centered, and how will anything benefit them. they only are looking out for them self sad to say, with very little love for other people. seems we are plagued by people with this mind ... (read in full...)
Can soul mates find each other at such a young age?
Q. Hi there people, I was just wondering is it possible to meet your soul mate in school. I have been with my boyfriend 7 years (since we were 15). We have an amazing relationship i really couldnt complain. We both have good career paths hes a proje...
A. 22 October 2014: marry the one you can't live without, not some guy you think you can live with. you know what you have together with your boy friend don't let jealous friends ect... do damage to your relationship because they will. ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can be done to increase the friction when my wife and I have sex?
Q. I am a married male in my early 40s. When my wife and I have sex she gets so wet and slippery that after a while there is almost no friction. The other night I couldn't even feel anything to the extent that I lost my erection. I had to pull out ...
A. 18 October 2014: in a tube it is called "like a virgin" it increase's friction! should be able to order it online or intimate shop. my wife got it at a "slumber party" wear the host sold intimate sex items.... (read in full...)
I just lost my baby and her father is cheating on me, how do I move on?
Q. I just lost my daughter at 7 months pregnant. I had an emergency c section. I'm staying with family because the father cannot support or take care of me. I can locate his phone and he's been with another woman. He's introduced her to his coworkers. ...
A. 15 October 2014: if he is cheating on you that is in his heart. you can't change him.
"how do I become strong". you need some out side help from family, place to stay, support. look for a church for support also, deeper support. they may ... (read in full...)
They all lose interest after I sleep with them
Q. I have been trying to meet someone to have a relationship with for quite a while now. I don't have any problems meeting men both online and in real time; however when ever I do start seeing someone I find attractive and seem to get on well with it ...
A. 14 October 2014: "so why is this happening?"
In short they are getting what they want, you are giving it out easy, and they will take it.
Iam sorry for my late reply.
any thing of value a person will not place it were it can be touched o... (read in full...)
Seven years?? Am I wasting my time waiting for my married lover to leave his wife and children?
Q. I have left my husband but I have been involved with a married man for 7 years.I said I wanted a proper relationship but he said he can't leave his kids who are 15 and 17. We haven't really talked about our future it's like he lives for today yet ...
A. 12 October 2014: He is still with his wife , plus his kids are before you also. this has been going own for 7 years and he is still with his wife. it would be safe to say his commitment is at home , and you are the desert on the side.
... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin. Is that a turn-off?
Q. Hello my question is pretty simple...is being a virgin at an older age weird or a turn-off? The reason why I ask is because I read online that a some men are turned-off because of the awkwardness during intercourse due to not having any experience. ...
A. 4 October 2014: a decent guy should feel honored to be with an "virgin of older age 23" your not old by no means. to me it means you was not just giving it out to any body, you have self respect.
"I ask because i have read online some... (read in full...)
I'm truly in love with my boyfriend, but he wants to join the RAF
Q. I'm truly in love with my boyfriend, but he wants to join the RAF. This means we won't be able to live together, or spend time together for long periods and I hate feeling worried and upset about it, when it's his dream. I know it worries him too....
A. 16 September 2014: look at it this way. he is willing to sacrifice to build a future for you both. he is willing to better him self not only for himself, but for the both of you. any thing worth having is worth the wait, and the sacrifice that goes wit... (read in full...)
My husband loves me but I no longer feel the same for him
Q. Dear Cupid. I told my husband I'm no longer in love with him. We have been married for 11 years. I have lost total interest in him. He is so hurt by this that I am willing to work things out. I care for his well being tremendously. He is ...
A. 11 September 2014: feelings come and go, our feelings are no gauge to commit on. you can fall in love, you can fall out of love. saying that is basing on feelings.
love is so much deeper. love is a commitment, even when we do not feel like we a... (read in full...)
I enjoy sex but hate to think I have a bad reputation
Q. I am a single 22 year old woman and enjoy sex. I have had sex with a total of ten guys since i was 17 and can go a few months without any sexual interaction. Yet i am worried i come across slutty when i do go home with someone. I am always safe but ...
A. 9 September 2014: My insight is these guys you are going home with are out just for one thing. to get what they want and think of you as a few minutes pleasure. " i enjoy sex but would hate to think i would have a reputation." i... (read in full...)
Can't get past the hurt from his cheating
Q. I found out 4 years ago my husband had a 6 year affair with a ex-girlfiend,we have been married for 29 years,i found out he sent money,gifts,she live in another state,when I confronted him about the imformation I had before me,he begin to cry and ...
A. 5 September 2014: 6 years is a long time for it to be going on behind your back, that i am sure is part of what hurts also the amount of time he invested in the other woman. i would suggest have him get a STD test. if he is welling to do what eve... (read in full...)
My Bf calls me insulting nasty names. I want to leave him. What can I do to ensure my future is happier?
Q. My fiancé accuses me of cheating every single day. He heard me get raped. Ever since then he has accused me of cheating. He constantly calls me a "c**t, a stupid worthless piece of s**t" and all these other fowl things. He expects me to tell him...
A. 1 September 2014: your boy friend is holding you hostage sort of speaking. he is using to his advantage control over you, calling you names ect...
that can not make you feel loved, respected, and valued in his eyes. he is putting you down... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant! Should I tell my boyfriend?
Q. I think I might be pregnant but I don't want to say anything to my boyfriend before I know it's true. My boyfriend is 21 and im 17 and I'm on birth control but I accidentally missed 3 pills in a row. My boyfriends cums inside me but I thought that ...
A. 28 August 2014: wait for two weeks to see if you start, if not by then you need to tell him. he is an adult and needs to man up and take responsibility.
why wait two weeks because you are still early, you may just be sick, have a bug ect.. plus... (read in full...)
How can I help him to open up sexually?
Q. OK well my boyfriend is more of an asexual type. But I'm more of open to sexual things. We are both still virgins . and I'm not asking for help on how to have sex with him. I'm asking more in the way to make him open up more sexually. I really ...
A. 23 August 2014: you are only 16 or 17, you don't need him to open up to you about sex. you are both virgins, and your mind has traveled way beyond what it needs to. you don't need him to open up sexually, if you have a good relationship with him... (read in full...)
Experiences with losing your virginity in a one night stand or to a FWB??
Q. So recently I was asked by a friend I have know since I was five if I wanted to have sex with him in a fwb kinda thing. My problem with this is that I am virgin. I'm just wondering what are some experiences anybody has had with losing their ...
A. 19 August 2014: My advice don't give yourself heart aches, & regrets to look back on. you are selling yourself out cheap by ONs, OR FWB.
Don't give your virginity away like its a phone no.you can get any guy cheaply, make a guy respect you.... (read in full...)
What's the point of my existence?
Q. Hi all, I've been very down in myself lately. I've been wondering wat was the point in putting me on this earth? I live alone and I've no kids. I'm not in a relationship. The world could do without me. I really dont make a difference to anyone's ...
A. 14 August 2014: we are placed on this earth by God who created us. life is a gift, and what we do with it can impact people around us for the positive or negative. look in the Bible the new testament, you may find what you are looking for of how l... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? My husband bought his female colleague perfume!
Q. My husband told me that he really appreciates his female colleague and bought her perfume for her birthday gift. Should I be worried? ...
A. 31 July 2014: let me say it is a very personal gift to be giving another woman. something like that should be reserved as a gift to you from him only. that is a very personal item to give to another woman.... (read in full...)
What do I do ? Go back to a safe comfortable marriage with a kind man and be unhappy? Or try again with a new man?
Q. I have been married for twenty years and although I love my husband there has never been the chemistry that I had before him in another relationships. Even at the beginning with my husband it wasn't there , yet I had been in previous relation...
A. 24 July 2014: you say you love your husband , but are thinking of walking out on him? you know you have two choice's stay or leave it is totally up to you.
you are enticed to see what is out there. to see if the grass is greener on the ... (read in full...)
Is love possible between a 20 year old male and a 16 year old girl?
Q. Is love possible with a 20year male and 16year girl? Will girls tend to change after they attain 18years/maturity? Does she still have love with a person whom after falling in love didnt talk to her for a month?...
A. 18 June 2014: "is love possible between a 20 year old male and a 16 year old girl?" my answer is simple and YES. my wife and me have been married for 31 years. we met when I was 20 years old and she was 16 years old. sure as you both mature you ... (read in full...)
Men, how much do you notice and/or care about saggy breasts?
Q. I'm very close to moving to the next stage of a relationships and getting physical with a man who I have been seeing. I am quite worried though about my breasts which are quite saggy after having fed four children. So honestly men, how much do ...
A. 16 June 2014: i am more concerned with a woman,s character, honesty, loyalty, and love for me.
i think a woman with breast that may be sagging is just fine. i have more trouble wit a woman that is worrying about having a perfect body, or e... (read in full...)
After 7 years together how much does the average couple have sex?
Q. Hi there I am just about to move in with my boyfriend of 7 years. I just wonder really how often on average couples who have been together this long have sex? We hardly do anymore. Maybe once or twice a month at the moment. Half the time I ca...
A. 6 June 2014: every relationship is different, all i can do is give an example of my marriage. the early years of marriage was not the amount of love making i desired. i was lucky if we did it once a month by our 4th year. as time went on thing... (read in full...)
No strings attached sex with coworker - could this progress into more?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I need to understand how men's mind work... There's this guy at work I go out with sometimes. We both made it clear that we don't want to be in a relationship and that "it's just sex, no strings attached". I know mys...
A. 25 May 2014: " i need to know is there a chance that in time, he'll fall for me ?" you have already fallen for him or you would not be asking.
"i need to understand how mans mind works " "its just sex no strings attached" he will be after no s... (read in full...)
Did I get played? Should I tell my husband?
Q. i am a married 37 year old woman. my story is complicated. first of all i married my high school sweetheart 12 years after we graduated. we had two different life styles. he was a drug user. i only drank. he got off drugs with my help. we married ...
A. 21 May 2014: "did i get played ?" yes he got what he was wanting , used you . now you are left with guilt wondering what to do, tell your husband you cheated on him or cover it up. "should i ever tell my hubby?" a relationship is built on trust, n... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fall in love with someone else while you're in a relationship?
Q. This is going to sound depressing but... Is it normal to fall in love with someone else when you're in a relationship? I see it happen ALL the time...Where one partner stops loving their partner and falls in love with another person. In fact,...
A. 17 May 2014: the grass is greener on the other side. infatuation indeed , the excitement of the new exciting, mystery of the new, the enticement of the new. why not get rid of the old.
love is more than a feeling. love is more than falling in love... (read in full...)
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