I like him but he's not very nice to me
Q. The guy I play or knows I like him, but he always says he "hates" me. But although he's like that on the outside, with other people, when we text and stuff, he says he only says that because it's "funny". He acts like a complete a-hole but I still ...
A. 3 December 2015: "i don't know what to do anymore. i like him a lot though." well it appears you like the "bad boys" type of guy, the type that uses girls, treats them bad, not very nice to them.... why don't you dump this loser from you... (read in full...)
How can I forgive and forget?
Q. Ok, so I need help from some people that have gone through this before. Me and my girlfriend of 5 years broke up, and pretty much right away she slept with some guy. About 3 months later she wants to get back together but I'm not sure if I can ...
A. 2 December 2015: "so my question is what would you do?" well this thing happened to me years ago with my girl friend then, which is now my wife of over 30 years. we was broke up but it still hurt to the core of my soul. she was a virgin while i dated he... (read in full...)
How can I move on when I still love her?
Q. Hi, I need some advice I dated this girl about 3 years ago. I realy loved her with all my heart then after about 7 months she cheated on me. We never broke up but we never have sex. Since that day I've seen her about 5 times thought we work in the ...
A. 27 November 2015: your heart says yes to her, but your mind says hey wait a minute, caution , caution !!! right. part of you still loves her, but part of you don't have trust in her.
you will have to make your mind up, my advise is take it slow. trus... (read in full...)
She revealed the truth and then we broke up. How can I start living again despite my trust issues?
Q. Before I say anything else I must mention that I come from a part of the world where sex before marriage is considered taboo. I have had only 1 gf my entire life and I was a virgin when we met. We were together for 9 months and we had never eng...
A. 22 November 2015: you have your standards you should not have to lower . you know what you can and can not accept.
as far as the girl that was in your life i take it that she may be still in your heart and mind all the time? right.
she can'... (read in full...)
My man is 22 yrs old and very fit. So why can he only last one round? what needs to be done?
Q. 2 issues: One that I stopped moaning during sex and the second that my healthy man only lasts one round at a time. When we first met and had sex, this was exciting and new and sensuous for me. I would moan and thrash around and be involved m...
A. 22 November 2015: " when we first met and had sex , this was exciting and new and sensuous for me."
the newness, excitement wears off anything in life ones we get into day to day living. just as your relationship with each other has changed since you ... (read in full...)
She I forgive her and resume our relationship, which is what she wants?
Q. So I have a issue and I need some help from people with experience. My girlfriend and I of 5 years split up for a few months and she ended up sleeping with someone else during this time. Now she wants to get back together but idk how to handle t...
A. 19 November 2015: i have been in situation similar to yours, many years back dated a girl for months the we broke up. we was apart for months and during that time she gave herself to a guy. yes it hurt, and it still hurts today. but i choose t... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to meet with him in a public place in day time?
Q. I'm 16 and he's 20 and we met online. Before you say I'm a naive stupid teenager I've thought this through oh too many times. It turns out we actually live very close (like same town close). I know he wasn't lying about where he lived because I ...
A. 16 November 2015: honeypie: has giving you some very good advice for your safety and well being. as you know people can pretend to be one thing on a computer and be off color in life. it would be wise to meet in a public place in a good par... (read in full...)
I feel unwanted ....
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5.5 years, and he is embarrased by me. Whenever he has an office party, I am not invited or he makes excuses about not wanting to go after he has invited me. Its hurtful, and it keeps happening. Cam any man tell...
A. 16 November 2015: could be a number of reasons, but with the limited information it will be taking a shot in the dark. he could be a type of person that acts totally different at work than when he is out of his work place or home. he cou... (read in full...)
How can I ensure that losing my virginity is special, and not a one night stand, nor a joke for the guy?
Q. Guys, would you ever take a girls virginity then that's it, never speak to her again? I'm 16 and a virgin and although I sort of want to lose my virginity I'm terrified in case it's with the wrong guy. I don't want my first time to be a one nigh...
A. 12 November 2015: you are young. it may not seem like it now, but time is on your side. don't rush this,you more than likely will have regrets to look back on. you have something you can give to someone special at any time in the future. you maybe feeling ... (read in full...)
Did she confuse me with someone else? Or is her excuse plausible?
Q. Hello, well I been seeing this woman for over a month, been great. I sent her a sweet tex this morning, she sent one back,but the tex said we should meet up for coffee, or a walk. It sounded like we never met before, so I ask her, she said some ho...
A. 12 November 2015: some times you have to trust your gut feelings on things. you may need to slow down and watch her for her character. trust worthiness, lies, breaking dates.
i am not saying don't trust her , but you have only known her for a mont... (read in full...)
I had an extra marital affair and am wondering if I should go and see him or whether I'm becoming a stalker
Q. Extra marital affair (both married)- he broke up after 5+ years for the right reasons to be with his family and what we had right now is not enough. The love is pure there is no doubt. It's been a tortourous month..I messaged him for his last ...
A. 3 November 2015: " should i go see him?" no you both are cheating if you both are married. the one that gets hurt in this deal is your husband, and his wife.
"am i becoming a stalker?" no you have become a cheater that is adultery with someone else.
... (read in full...)
If I chose not to have sex how do I find the willpower to wait?
Q. I'm 16 in my first year of college and I'm still a virgin (and proud to be one actually). But everyday becomes a little harder even though I know staying a virgin until I meet "the one" or near enough is the right thing to do. I haven't even kissed ...
A. 1 November 2015: one thing about it you seem to have a level mindset, and looking toward the future not just for the moment like a lot of your friends. one thing about it you have the opportunity to make your first time special.
you have some... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and left me and now he wants to talk. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was married for 30 years. My husband left me three years ago and went off with another woman who he met through as. He has been sober now for six months and I got the first text today from him saying he was sorry for all the hurt he caused and ...
A. 30 October 2015: he cheated , and then left you for the one he cheated with right.
it wont hurt to meet and talk. but you need to find out if the one he cheated with and left you for has dumped him and left him high and dry like he did you or if he is t... (read in full...)
Why did I cheat on the perfect husband?
Q. Why did I cheat on the perfect husband? I have been married for 4 years with a man I love dearly, but I cheated on him for about 1/2 a year with a former co-worker. I only did it for the attention so I changed jobs. I love my husband and now ...
A. 29 October 2015: " if my husband is not doing anything wrong , why do i keep thinking he is cheating on me?" because it would ease your conscience about your adultery that you committed on him. it would give you an excuse not to confess to him that you cheated ... (read in full...)
I am the parent to my teen brother - our parents are deceased. My brother is now 14. How do I raise and discuss talking about sex and all that to him?
Q. When i was 16 i held my baby brother in my arms and said to dad "god he's small, i'm not baby sitting". Well i think i changed his nappies more times then mum used to. Honestly a few years later when i went off to university my biggest joy coming h...
A. 29 October 2015: the talk will be rough but could save him some heart ache down the road. getting a STD, getting a girl knocked up, ect..
these are areas that need to be touched on, they could change his future in big ways.
all you can ... (read in full...)
Why does my married lover remain with his wife if they've stopped sexual relations with each other?
Q. Been with my married lover for a few years now and the other night I asked him if he was sleeping with his wife? He didn't like me asking because I have kept mentioning it, anyway he said he didn't and if he was to cuddle his wife she would be ...
A. 28 October 2015: he has commitment with his family. children almost grown , but not quit. he has a wife he has not left because investment with her time and years.
you are the cake on the side. he has been with you but not gone through any comm... (read in full...)
How do I fix that I cheated on my wife and then kept lying about it?
Q. Over 2 years ago I broke and destroyed my wife's heart by having an affair, at a time when we should have been at our happiest expecting our first child through IVF. On revelation of what happened I cowardly hid the truth in order to save our rela...
A. 22 October 2015: it will take time, and her seeing you have these regrets, and changes in your life. but don't expect things to be the same as before,trust has been broken and trust will never be the same again. it will be earned, and watched. she m... (read in full...)
I hate my husband for throwing me a suprise party!
Q. My idiot husband threw me a suprise 50th birthday party "knowing full well" that I dispise parties of anykind. I had to lie to everyone and pretend that I was enjoying it, while secretly dispising the whole thing. It has been months and I still have ...
A. 13 October 2015: he meant well, and only did it because he cared for you. if he did not even think of you he would not have invested the time, and effort.
parties may not be your thing, but he went through a lot of trouble to get a lot of people toge... (read in full...)
My daughter thinks my husband and I should date other people but not divorce
Q. Had a strange conversation with my daughter and need opinions. A little history: I married very young at 18 because I got pregnant. My husband at the time was 9 years older. We were in love, only had 1 daughter and we made a life together. I ne...
A. 12 October 2015: if you invite another person in the marriage bed you are likely to do damage to what you have built together over many years. why not fix what is broken in your relationship now. maybe marriage counseling ?
if you invite another man ... (read in full...)
Men act like they like me but turn me down when I ask them out
Q. I keep asking guys out that act like they have feelings for me but they keep turning me down and I can't take it. What am I doing wrong?...
A. 12 October 2015: how about slowing down, let the guys ask you out. it makes them feel pressured , and makes you seem desperate. let them do the asking, calling. you just make yourself available , and be yourself everything should work better for you.
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I really do love her but I am troubled by something that happened four months ago. Is this a reason to break up with her?
Q. So I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months and I found about 2 months in she cheated with another guy and had sex. She was very drunk and doesn't remember a thing. I've talked to people that were with her that night and they all say it wasn'...
A. 4 October 2015: you need to tell her how it is making you feel. how it is putting doubt, mistrust in your relationship. ask her about her feelings toward you. the thing is it is creating hurt toward you. it has changed the relationship between you two, you... (read in full...)
I'm ten weeks pregnant and now my Bf tells me he ''isn't sure'' about our relationship. How do I respond?
Q. I'm about 10 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend has just told me he doesn't know if he loves me or wants to be with me. We have always known that we need to make more effort with each other, however which his lazy attitude he just never has. So I ...
A. 30 September 2015: he was willing to have sex with you, have his fun with you, but when HE gets you pregnant all off a sudden he is looking for an exit.
he needs to man up be responsible for his actions. " he says he wants to try to sort it out but now i just... (read in full...)
What exactly are morals?
Q. What exactly are morals? I would define morals as standards set by society. Are morals flexible? I am very guarded about my sexual side. I have often read about people who give advice on this forum saying keeping your body till marriage is outdated. ...
A. 21 September 2015: "what exactly are MORALS?" there is morals or standards set by man,society and they can change with the times or views of people. " when does morals come in? /what is Morally right?" Morals are standards to live by... (read in full...)
We're both married but I want her in my life! How do I get her back?
Q. Hi Friends Really sad for me..... Both of us are married, she is 30 and I am 42. I met her few month back in her office. She is beautiful and nice. We start talking on phone and chat. But when she came to know my feelings through mail. She asked ...
A. 16 September 2015: so you want to break up two marriage's just to get what you want. you desire to build a foundation on cheating, and mistrust.
what happens to this woman when something better comes along to replace her with a newer mode... (read in full...)
Does he just want sex or could we be friends?
Q. So I've asked similar questions, but now there's more to it. So I lost my virginity to a guy who was a co-worker, at the time when I lost my virginity we were no longer co-workers because i had quit due to some family issues. I don't think it m...
A. 5 September 2015: "my question is , could he and i actually be friends? or is he probably just going to want to have sex again and thats all it'll ever be?"
to make it short and simple, if he has a girl friend with kids. you are the thing on the side... (read in full...)
I hit my wife. What can I do now to make her realize that I'm sorry?
Q. I need help. My wife and I have been in heated arguments near the beginning of our marriage (we're going on 6 years) which led to abuse. Both physical and emotional. I love her to death and can't imagine ever losing her, she is the best thing t...
A. 3 September 2015: it is a very low ,low point when a man hits a woman. in a heated argument the best thing to do is walk away and cool off.
it will take time for wounds to heal, but she will never forget what you did by striking her.
she will... (read in full...)
If your partner cheated, would you want to know?
Q. I've been on this site for a while and I'm horrified at the number if times cheaters have been told to keep quiet about the affair or the kiss 'to spare the partner's feelings'. If my partner cheated on me I would want to know. If he cheated and t...
A. 2 September 2015: i agree with you. a relationship with lies, mistrust, hidden secrets is built on shaky ground. a relationship should be built on trust, honesty,love, and nothing hidden. i have a friend where his wife cheated and kept it hidden f... (read in full...)
No one will take me serious when I say I don't want sex or partying?
Q. My siblings and I grew up in a house where my parents made it their goal to make sure that we a) graduate HS b) while not experimenting with drugs, alcohol, or sex. They let us listen to most the music we wanted to and read most the books we wanted ...
A. 1 September 2015: "what do i do? is it possible for a person who already had sex to say they are not ready?" you need to stand your ground with these guys . if you give in they got what they want, and it is going to leave you feeling used. they are after... (read in full...)
Friends to keep, or not keep? Should I just back away?
Q. I thank GOD that I have you guys to go to.i have gotten good advice before and need help again,i have been friends with a woman from school days back in the 70's she is a very soft hearted person. Her husband is very controlling,and she loves hi...
A. 1 September 2015: i am in the same age group, with a similar problem with connecting with a friend. he would not return phone calls, ect.. i finally sent him a note on face book told him i want bother him anymore to give me a call when he desires. have not... (read in full...)
Paying on a date. Am I making this too big of a deal?
Q. Am I making this too big of a deal? I have been seeing one guy for about 3 weeks now. Everything is good and I really love to be with him, he wants to be with me, we have fun together and everything is easy and we just click. He is very caring...
A. 31 August 2015: i am very old school , i believe a man should be a gentleman and open doors for a woman. pay for everything. walk beside her, give up a chair ect...
this younger generation needs to have mentors to learn from. sad we live in a me f... (read in full...)
Should I give away my virginity to an online stranger?
Q. I have been holding out long enough. I am tired of dating guys that as of lately has led to nowhere (trust, I know when to exit the relationship-if you called that). I'm managing to stay focused on my career. Just received a promotion last week. Not ...
A. 25 August 2015: you will regret it later. is not your virginity worth more than a "craigs list " add ? you don't know the person and what about a gift the stranger might give you that will last a life time, STD. You are worth more than that you will look back... (read in full...)
Should I get breast implants because my boyfriend wants me to?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to get breast implants, and I don't know how I feel about it. I am naturally very flat chested, an A cup. I've never really liked having small breasts but as I've gotten older I've learned to accept it. My boyfriend wa...
A. 21 August 2015: i have trouble with that. if he loves you he accepts you for who you are, not what he sees in his mind that he wants you to be. you are who you are , should that not be enough for him to love,and accept !
... (read in full...)
Why do these high school girls think that the relationship will last forever?
Q. I have three main "exes" from last year, and two years ago. I did some thinking and dating with these girls, all different from one another, but they all seem to have it in their mind that I broke their hearts and they can never be the same agai...
A. 19 August 2015: i met my wife when she was 16, and i was 20. we have been married 32 years now so what is your point?
you made need to mature some and grow up a little more and catch up to those girls you are complaining about. put away your play... (read in full...)
Do I let my wife have a threesome with 2 guys? I feel I'll lose either way
Q. My wife wants me to watch her have sex with 2 of my buddys Do most girls want to have sex with 2 guys at the same time ??? I don't know what to tell her. If I say no. ??? She may cheat. ?? If I say yes she may always wAnt it. ???...
A. 11 August 2015: if it happens your marriage will not be the same again. tell her why you say NO ! a third party in will not enhance but take away what you two share. if she says she is going too have a threesome anyway after you say know, she is then say... (read in full...)
Is it over? Wife met up again with guy we had 3sum with and let him do things she has never let me do
Q. I recently got talked into a 3sum by my wife where she let the other guy do a sexual act she has always refused me. I've now found out that the same night, after when she took him to the train station they did it again in the car. Is it over?...
A. 8 August 2015: their has been damage done in your relationship by inviting a third party. the purity of the relationship between you and your wife has been stained.
the best thing you can do is seek marriage council. what has happened has happened, and ... (read in full...)
What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?
Q. What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?...
A. 7 August 2015: it takes a man that is loyal of good character, that wants to be with one woman. that is happy to be with one woman. that is not the type chase after every woman he see's.
it helps on the woman's end to not be easy, & cheap. pres... (read in full...)
Are there no gentlemen left? ? My dating has left me not interested in sex, though I have had sex
Q. I'm 20 and I've got this problem with boyfriends. I only had four of them when I was in HS. "Matthew" was a relative of a friend and he was nice, but he annoyed me because he would just show up at my house without calling first or else he would...
A. 23 July 2015: women are the gate keepers, you give it out easy a guy will take it, and expect it. your actions may even tell them you may putout. to get a gentlemen you will first need to play hard to get ,and find a different guy, and maybe fr... (read in full...)
Does anyone believe it is possible to love two people at the same time?
Q. I am not exactly young or naive, but does anyone believe it is possible to love two people at the same time? I don't understand why so many peole think it is impossible to truly love to people when you can love more than one child, more than one ...
A. 22 July 2015: i believe you can let romantic, or affair relationship with another person cloud your thinking. or to make the committed person you are with not seem as important or like old news as compared with the new person you may be with.
then... (read in full...)
How do I find out what web sites my husbands on and see his profiles
Q. How do i find out what web sites my husbands on and see his profiles...
A. 22 July 2015: must be trust issues between you and your husband? go to the computer look for history if the web browser has it on it would be the easiest way to search, but he could clear it every time before he gets off the web sites.... (read in full...)
What happens after we die?
Q. I wonder if anybody cares about this issue , but I think about it all the time. I'm not religious, but I feel sort of not really strong in any theoeies about after life. I wish if there would be nothing after we die, but I just have this s...
A. 20 July 2015: what happens after we die?
The Bible is the road map to Heaven. their is only two choices heaven and hell. it does not matter if you have been good all your life, followed the golden rule ect..
It comes down to what you have don... (read in full...)
Do we all have a soul mate or soul mates? What signalled for you that a particular person was the ''one''?
Q. Questions for the men and women on this site. 1 ) how old were you when you found the " one "? 2) did u ever give up waiting? 3) were u ever jealous if someone find their special someone before you? 4) do you believe in waiting for that spec...
A. 11 July 2015: (1) i was 20
(2) we broke up for 18 months , got back together and got married 6 months later.
(3) no
(4) i don,t believe in rushing things, you can create more problems, and heart ache by ending up wit the wrong person by just want... (read in full...)
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