Should I wait for the right one to lose my virginity or find a complete stranger on Craigslist?
Q. I am a 21 yr old male and I am a virgin. I am thinking about using Craigslist and having sex with a complete stranger to lose it. I know craigslist isn't the best place to go. . . My question is should I have sex with a stranger or wait until I ...
A. 3 December 2011: i will agree with starlights, and chickpea. i threw away my virginity at age 18 30 + years ago to a prostitute , and all it was sex. there was no emotional connection, i don't know anything about her. it was just sex,empty, and nothing special. i ... (read in full...)
Do you prefer sex with the lights on, off or dimmed?
Q. Just out of curiosity, I'm interested to find out, and would like to know: Sex with the lights on, off or dimmed? What do you prefer? What do you typically do? And why? Thanks! ...
A. 3 December 2011: at night while making love to my wife i like soft light , a candle ,or a lamp ,or the bath door cracked with light coming from the next room. i don't like it daylight bright at night but i like a soft light to see my wife's soft curvy body, and the ... (read in full...)
What should I do with my girlfriend who is into muscles
Q. This would sound a bit silly, but i've become to realize my gal is a MUSCLE fan. She even mentions it in a very inconsiderate way, like if we'd be talking, and i mentioned a guy's name, she's say "yeh the guy with the muscles" literately. No ...
A. 2 December 2011: it does effect a person when someone you care about talks about other people , it makes a person feel like they don't measure up to their standards. she is not being mature, and effecting the relationship between you two. you may ... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to over come lust and temptation?
Q. Whats the best way to over come lust and temptation? Even though I have chosen the single life, it seems that temptation is always around the corner and I get the urge to want sex. Iam a virgin so it makes things 100 times worse and im not religious ...
A. 27 November 2011: think of your goals ahead , don't lose sight of your goal of finding that special woman . making it all worth while in the future finding the love of your life, and not settling for anything less that you will have to look back on with regret. ... (read in full...)
He says he's given me 3 chances. Says he will not talk to me any more if I don't allow more than kisses and touching next time.What do I say to him?
Q. I like this guy ever since I was little , we grew up together and Finally one day we started texting dirty and he wants me to do stuff to him and I want to but I'm still a virgin and don't know if I could please him and I don't know how to do a ...
A. 14 November 2011: you need to stay away from this guy , he will get what he wants and after he is tired of you he will be gone to another girl. (lust wants it now) love is a growing relationship between two people . say to him NO! if he loves you he will not ... (read in full...)
Drunkenly danced and may have kissed another guy. Should I tell my boyfriend?
Q. I have been in an amazing relationship for 3 years. My boyfriend is perfect, supportive and 100% trustworthy. This weekend I got very drunk. I only remember the night up to a point but I will explain what I do remember and what I've been told. ...
A. 14 November 2011: if you are building a relationship on lies you will find very little trust between each other. you should come clean and confess to him. you say he is 100% trustworthy , if you start not being honest to him will he be able to say you are 100% trust ... (read in full...)
How can I forget these images of my girlfriend with her ex's?
Q. I want to know how can I take my mind off things from my girlfriend. She had sex with t different guys before she met me and several times with them but now I'm with her and since she told me I really got mad. It gave me the bad picture of thinking ...
A. 9 November 2011: i can understand how you feel, it is the thought of some other guy touching the girl you care for, love , and put up on a pedestal. if not a pedestal but a place were things in your life are special, things that are important are not set ... (read in full...)
Not had sex for 3 years now and not sure how I will react now that I have a new girlfriend
Q. I haven't had sex the last 3 years and I'm not sure how I will react when my new girlfriend and I get into bed. Has any of you guys been in a similar situation and what do you suggest?...
A. 9 November 2011: yes i went 3 years without sex when i was 20 till i was 23 when i got married.i did not go crazy during that time like you might think, and i did not attack her like a wild animal either .lol... (read in full...)
Don't want to be married anymore...
Q. I have been married for 3 years and have an almost 2 year old son. I'm 24 hubby is 26. More and more for the past 2 years I have been doubting if our marriage can last. I feel like I made a huge mistake by marrying him when I did. All my teenage ...
A. 8 November 2011: you may want your son but he is the one that is going to pay the price for selfish ways . yes you are looking for people to give you the go ahead and say divorce your husband so you can enjoy your 20s , 30s? , you did make a commitment to the guy ... (read in full...)
Is this a tactic of a womanizer to get yet another woman in his string?
Q. I would really appreciate advise from people who know about womanizers/players. I met my ex boyfriend four years ago. When we first met he was very intense and started talking about marriage very quickly. He seemed to fall in love with me much ...
A. 6 November 2011: to me if he wants to be back with you he would not be seeing other women and put you first in his heart. i am afraid he just wants you around for the ride also, or he would dump the other women. his character is showing he is not only doing it to ... (read in full...)
Laundry drama. Is she being ungrateful, or am I messing up by doing an incomplete job?
Q. Since we have been living together (2 months) I have been the one doing the laundry. I have been the one primarily doing the laundry because I am much tidier than her and I generally don't like to go more than one and a half weeks without washing. ...
A. 5 November 2011: just my view on the subject. i she works more than you , or you have more time than her,it will not hurt you to help and do the laundry and do a complete job as possible including putting up some of her clothes that you know were they go. if you ... (read in full...)
He's a friend of my husband. What should I do now? I am so hurt by his behaviour after I played a trick and caught him flirting
Q. i always doubted that my boyfriend was not being honest with me when he said that he loves me so to prove my point i created a fake id on face book with a different female name and sent him a friend request which he accepted without knowing that it ...
A. 5 November 2011: it looks like lack of trust on both ends . you bated him on facebook , and tempted him with a fake woman I.D. that was coming on to him . he enjoyed the attention he was getting from a female, and maybe not getting from you. you were full of doubts ... (read in full...)
Does anyone regret having sex too young and not waiting until marriage?
Q. I'm just wondering had anyone regretting having sex too young, or not waiting till marriage as ive been in a steady relationship now for over a year and a half but havent had sex... me and my boyfriend are happy about this but im wondering about ...
A. 2 November 2011: good advice from anonymous ( DONT DO IT! ) don't give yourself any regrets on down the road to look back on, somethings in life cant be undone. think twice before you make a decision , and most of all don't be pushed into giving your virginity to a ... (read in full...)
Do most men want a younger woman and can't get turned on by their older wife?
Q. I'm really puzzled now. I want to know the truth about sexless marriages, when it is over 20 years long marriage. Now we reached 1 year with no sex, due to my husband lack of sexual desire, what started with an ED. But it stayed undiagnosed ...
A. 2 November 2011: i would disagree , i don't want a younger wife i am happy with my 48 year old wife . i think she looks hotter than ever. she keeps my motor running. i like older women, myself. our sex life started cooking after we hit 40. i would have him see a ... (read in full...)
Does marriage need more than love? My B/f Mom scolded me for wanting financial stability, education completed too, before marriage.
Q. my boyfriends mom scolded me and blamed me because my boyfriend wants to get married before he finishes his education and i told him that i want to get married after he finishes his aeronautical engineering licence, because then he can fully ...
A. 29 October 2011: yes financial security is important to a relationship, so is trust ,love, and many other things. it does not sound like your b/f is a dead beat he is going to school and and has set goals for you both a future. when my wife and i got married we both ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. Dear readers, I would like to hear your advice on my situation. To put it bluntly, I'm a 24 year old virgin male. I could try to look good and say that I've been waiting for that special someone, or I'd be honest and tell you that I've never had t...
A. 28 October 2011: i lost my virginity to a prostitute at the age of 18. it was just sex , self gratifying , self centered , and not looking for a relationship at the time.it was basically throwing my virginity away. i know nothing of the person i was with, not her ... (read in full...)
My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 27 October 2011: better your husband find out from you than the exboyfriend that is now in the neighborhood. better he find out from you than the exboyfriend calling or showing up at your house with explaining to do, or more covering up. besides you feel guilty now ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why do guys only want to sleep with me and not have a relationship?
Q. hey, i am 21 and know people say im still young should be enjoying myself not worried about realtionships but (and please dont judge me) iv slept with 53 boys and only 3 if had a realtionship with. it isnt that i dont what a reationship beca...
A. 26 October 2011: you are giving in to them for sex and that is the type of guys that are going to come after you. you are showing no self respect to your self, and the men can see it. if you want a relationship with a guy you need to change your behavior ... (read in full...)
I feel foolish being a virgin at 21
Q. I feel worthless because me being 21 and a virgin now that I look at it is foolish and pathetic. I was so blinded to actually think I was going to find someone to share myself with but now its really a fantasy. Women my age aren't looking for ...
A. 21 October 2011: i threw my virginity away at 18, and i met my wife at age 20. i did not marry her until i was 23, and did not have intercourse with her until we was married. just going out and having sex became empty, and unfulfilling before i met her.... (read in full...)
I feel foolish being a virgin at 21
Q. I feel worthless because me being 21 and a virgin now that I look at it is foolish and pathetic. I was so blinded to actually think I was going to find someone to share myself with but now its really a fantasy. Women my age aren't looking for ...
A. 21 October 2011: i threw away my virginity when i was 18, on a prostitute. oh , i was fine with it then, but i regret it now. i wish i would have saved it for my wife that deserved it. now i have regret and guilt of throwing away something of value that should have ... (read in full...)
He said I could console him with sex!
Q. Hi. This guy I kind of know (we had a little 'thing' a while ago) is going through a really tough time at the moment as his mum has just passed away. I feel so sad for him and I asked if there was anything I could do, and he wants me to stay the ...
A. 20 October 2011: its wrong and he is just using you, he is looking out for him self. he is playing on your emotions. have self respect for your self so you want feel bad later. you can be there for him , but to stay over for sex to get over his hurt is wrong.... (read in full...)
My fiance slapped me. Should I dump him?
Q. im engaged and my weve been together for 3 Years. Yesterday we got in a argument and i told him something that pissed him off and he slapped me in the face twice. He has a bad temper but that was overboard.at the moment i told him that i was done ...
A. 20 October 2011: you have received some great advice below and i hope you will take it. a lot of these body builders are in love with them self, egos are inflated,and immature. if he is hitting you now i am afraid it will only get worse after you get married. do ... (read in full...)
Does he really care... so confused!!
Q. ok heres my problem, i have known this guy friend of mine for five years and we have always been just friends but, he is the sweetest thing such a gentleman always bought me presents never asked for anything in return. we lost contact for a couple ...
A. 19 October 2011: it sounds like he has a lot on his mind right now with his father . he may have a lot of concerns right now ,things may not be good with his dad right now. sounds like he maybe overloaded right now. it does not sound like he has lost interest or ... (read in full...)
I suspect something is going on with my girlfriend and another guy, should I let her go?
Q. Hey...my 17 yrs girlfriend is giving much time to her male frinds than me, and i suspect something is going on with this other guy and when ever i put the issue on the table she tels me that if i ask the guy anything it wil be over betwen us. please ...
A. 19 October 2011: well she is telling you that it would be over if you put it on the table. i would confront her if you get the answers you want fine, if not i would confront them both together. if you get the answers you need good , and if not you need to decide if ... (read in full...)
I promised not to have sex with her until we get married, but I cant help not trust her and think she will lose it to someone else!
Q. My girl friend is 17yrs i love her so much, and i promise not to have sex with her until we wed. But am afraid she may lose her virginity to another because you cant trust most girls. What should i do. ...
A. 17 October 2011: if she knows you love her and that you have told her that she is worth saving for marriage, that she is that special that you value her above the rest of the girls out there. you need to let her know that she is worth waiting for. you two will need ... (read in full...)
I want to make sure he's not just using me for sex!
Q. I know this is going to sound silly but I,ve recently slept with a guy that I,ve been dating for 3 months now and he was my first. The thing is since we slept together he's been kinda distant.( silliness bout to come up ) But I want to make sure he ...
A. 17 October 2011: time will tell, if he seems distant it may be because he got what he wanted and is pulling away from you, or he may also feel guilt along with it. my advice would be to not distance yourself from him show him the same love you always have to him ... (read in full...)
Will a guy go back to his old ways?
Q. My boyfriend and I had broke up for a while. He lied and hid a lot from me in the past. After he realized what he had lost he came back to me promised no more of that and because I love him I decided to get back with him. A part of me believes him ...
A. 12 October 2011: if you go back to him you need to be careful, and watch him . if you don't see any changes in him then you need to make a choice. you don't need to do anything for him to avoid lying, you don't cause someone else to lie . lying is in the heart of a ... (read in full...)
Have I lost him?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years but suddenly yesterday, after a bad argument I solely threatened to break up with him, and he told me that it was the right thing to do, that we do not work and he doesn't want a headache ...
A. 11 October 2011: i would say you have not lost him until one of you walks away and finds someone else . so if you are starting arguments all the time you need to set back and think what are they over? are they worth the trouble they are causing ? are they important ... (read in full...)
He said I can't get pregnant because he didn't cum
Q. My boyfriend broke the hymn in my vagina and didnt wer a condom after he broke it he put on a condom he said You cant get pregnant as he didnt come is that true?...
A. 9 October 2011: yes it should be true what he said,if he used a condom before he ejaculated the condom caught the cum. he should not have cum by just entering you and pulling out, and then placing a condom on.... (read in full...)
Love my job, but! Married Boss is badgering me to have an affair. What's the best realistic thing to do in this situation?
Q. I have been at my job for about a 18 months. about 6 months ago, my married boss started badgering me for sex. I emphatically told him I wasnt interested because he had a wife. plus he is not my type-- although i couldnt say that to his face beca...
A. 7 October 2011: nothing good will come from it. he is married and he will most likely stay with his family over you , an affair will cause a divorce, or marriage problems. more than likely he is looking for a plaything on the side, and your it. it will cause ... (read in full...)
How do you define "sex"?
Q. So here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/women-how-important-is-sex-to-you.html someone asked how important to you is sex. I have a slightly different question... DEFINE IT... is it just the act of intercourse? is foreplay mandatory? ...
A. 6 October 2011: you will probably get a different answer from different view points. i look at the definition of sex as the act of oral sex performed on a male or female,and intercourse penetration . i look at foreplay as a prelude (worming up) to having sex. i ... (read in full...)
Should I stick around to see if he'll ever love me?
Q. He said, "I do love you" the other night...in the dark. I took it to mean he's trying to convince himself he loves me. He's already told me he loves just me and his brother. I'm guessing he's not in love with me but he does care and love me - he ...
A. 6 October 2011: it sounds like he loves you from what you wrote. love between two people can grow during a relationship. you are not giving him time to grow closer to you. you say he's the quit and shy type, i am too and being like that it is harder to express your ... (read in full...)
How do I make guys interested in me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm an average sized 15 yr. old girl- 5'6", 130lbs, ect.. and I model on the side. But guys at my school have never showed interest in me. I'm outgoing and athletic and generally easy to get along with, but they find me unattractive!...
A. 4 October 2011: just be yourself, have self respect,and don't be easy. ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and he's been with 25 people! I'm freaked out!
Q. I,m still a virgin and yet a guy i,ve been seeing has literally done it all and he's only 22! I asked him how many women had he slept with thinking it would only be 3 or 4 he told me its about 25 people including 3 ways and 4 ways and a ...
A. 4 October 2011: just be careful you might be his next prize ( conquest ) if you decide to stay with him don't give yourself any regrets to look back on. and if you stay with him will his past haunt you in the future. you need to ask yourself these questions. if you ... (read in full...)
Are some people meant to be together because of coincidence and fate?
Q. hi, i really wanted to know if there is such thing as fate, or coincidence,as people called them. so,ok there is this guy in my school. he's one year above me. its been 4 weeks into a new year in my school. i really don't know him at all; he is an...
A. 4 October 2011: i will give you my story and you can decide . back when i was around 14 years old my dad and i was riding on a back road , we past by a place where two girls were playing and something ( i will have to say GOD ) said deep into me ... (read in full...)
Men: Who hasn't cheated? I'd like to know why.
Q. Are there any men out there that have NEVER cheated on their girlfriend, or wife? I mean - no form of cheating. No online flirting, no emotional cheating .. etc. If so, what made you stay faithful? ...
A. 3 October 2011: i am committed to my wife and her alone, i love her . without trust we have nothing. i am responsible for my reactions and no one else, wither i do right or wrong it is me that doe's it. she has never given me a reason to cheat and if she did i ... (read in full...)
How can I make a man want to marry me?
Q. How can I keep my man satisfied in our relationship? Including all factors. How could I make him want to marry me? ladies or fellas, thanks in advance! :-)...
A. 1 October 2011: be honest,be yourself,other words don't put on a front. have self respect or ( don't be easy). a guy that finds a girl that is easy will not be out to marry her , but have a good time until he is tired of her and looks for another. have an inner ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a marriage will last?
Q. How do you know if a marriage would last between you and your love?...
A. 30 September 2011: you need to ask yourself is he the one you can not live without . do not marry someone you think you can live with, make sure they are the person you don't want to go through life without. commitment and love ( giving yourself for that other ... (read in full...)
Do all guys use girls?
Q. Why do all the guys i know say they like but just want to use me for sex? Then the guys i do like will like my friends or just stay long enough to get wat they want then wen they do they stop talking to me until they want something else? Are all ...
A. 30 September 2011: if you are giving it to the boys, they are going to take it. don't be easy ,have self respect for yourself. you will have plenty of regrets later in life if you don't stop.wait for that special guy to come in your life ,the one you cant live ... (read in full...)
Why am I treating this girl so badly?
Q. Please can you help me.I have been with my partner for 2 years she was my soul mate my best friend and my lover, we had planned our life together, and I was going to ask her to marry me. I have had a very difficult 3 months, with work and my health, ...
A. 30 September 2011: i will agree with very confused it sounds like you are depressed . you need to let her know that you love her and that you maybe depressed that could be effecting you. i believe you care for her and love her or you would not be posting asking for ... (read in full...)
We work together, fight all the time. Should we get a divorce?
Q. I'm married for 4 years and since there i had good moments and bad moments too, like every marriage is. But the last months it's getting hard keep the balance. Work, finance, family, relationship, pressure to have kids, i dont know if i'm up to ...
A. 30 September 2011: let me ask do you love her ? why did you marry her? you say you make up , do you forgive each other when you make up? it sounds like money could be the main trouble, you need to do what ever you can to correct or take some of the money pressure ... (read in full...)
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