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No to a tubal ligation. But I never want to be pregnant. Terrified of it. What can I do?
Q. I’m a woman aged 28 years old and I’ve very big trouble. I’m dreadfully afraid of pregnancy and it affects my sex life more and more. I’ve a boyfriend, we’re together for two years, but sex has always been a stress for me. I want him and I want s...
A. 2 September 2012: The solution is simple :Get your fallopian tubes tied. I cannot provide the medical information but it's called tubal ligation, I think. It prevents any possibility of pregnancy, usually. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife passed away awhile ago but I feel I will always come second to her.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and believe me when I say that I do love him with all of my heart there is no one else that I would rather be with but my problem is,I know that there is someone else that he would rather ...
A. 2 September 2012: He needs to let go, but if he doesn't do that soon, then you may be suffering from this situation for a long while. My best wishes.... (read in full...)
Is it me? Why do I keep on attracting the type of men who are abusive, drink and do drugs?
Q. Yes I am looking for a decent well kept man that doesn't drink, do drugs ,and does believe in hitting women . I don't understand why do I attract these type of men if they aren't doing one then it's both or all three. I am so tired of this cycle.I ...
A. 1 September 2012: Any man who raises his hand against you is absolutely atrocious. ... (read in full...)
We were fooling around but stayed in our underwear, I am worried I could still get pregnant.
Q. My guy and I were hooking up last night in our underwear. He was wearing boxer briefs and I was wearing lace underwear that had a sheet of fabric between the lace. I was worried that since I think he precame and though I didn't remove my underwear ...
A. 1 September 2012: Very unlikely that you could be pregnant from that.... (read in full...)
I just started college but have no idea what type of job I want. Any suggestions?
Q. i started college last week and i really like it, i just have no idea what kind of job i would want, i want to do something that i would enjoy ,that would make me a lot of money and doesnt require that much school,i like to work with people and i ...
A. 1 September 2012: Medical is a good future,... (read in full...)
My marriage lacks a sex life so I have a friend with boundaries. How do I be happy with my husband?
Q. I am a happily married woman (20+ years). Hubby is great, we get along, we have grown children, built a nice life, etc. We work great together, have some of the same hobbies, and almost always agree. He is sweet and nice and we are happy together. I ...
A. 1 September 2012: I'll agree that it will probably backfire. But I can understand sexual frustration. It is difficult being a man and pleasing a woman. In my experience, oral stimulation usually helps if done right. If you search "double m on cunnilingus" in the ... (read in full...)
Is it me? Why do I keep on attracting the type of men who are abusive, drink and do drugs?
Q. Yes I am looking for a decent well kept man that doesn't drink, do drugs ,and does believe in hitting women . I don't understand why do I attract these type of men if they aren't doing one then it's both or all three. I am so tired of this cycle.I ...
A. 1 September 2012: I'll agree with "Karlos5031" that a gym might be a good place to meet a good man, and i'll add church. But in America's environment today, with our current leadership, high unemployment, etc., I think a lot of men and women are possibly slipping ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I want to try different positions, any suggestions?
Q. I’m tall and my boyfriend is short. Both my boyfriend and I enjoy having sex and are willing to try different positions, other than me on top and missionary! got any suggestions?? ...
A. 1 September 2012: Yes, Tisha, i think so, but it used to be less full of ads and stuff.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I want to try different positions, any suggestions?
Q. I’m tall and my boyfriend is short. Both my boyfriend and I enjoy having sex and are willing to try different positions, other than me on top and missionary! got any suggestions?? ...
A. 1 September 2012: Sorry, sex101.com doesn't seem to work anymore.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I want to try different positions, any suggestions?
Q. I’m tall and my boyfriend is short. Both my boyfriend and I enjoy having sex and are willing to try different positions, other than me on top and missionary! got any suggestions?? ...
A. 1 September 2012: Well I think the woman-on-top position, either front or backward, just about offers most everything for a woman. Doggie style can also be fun. There are various positions with missionary, but how can I explain in words here? You simply have to ... (read in full...)
Should I accept that I may not be able to lose my extra pregnancy weight?
Q. I'm 27 years old, and I just had my first child, well, not just almost a year ago. I m not nursing anymore and droped about 15 lb since I had my daughter. I m 5.4 and I weigh about 135-137 lb. Everyone around me tells me how beatifull I look and...
A. 31 August 2012: Some walking, every day or two, can do wonders. Try to do about a mile (or kilometer).... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife passed away awhile ago but I feel I will always come second to her.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and believe me when I say that I do love him with all of my heart there is no one else that I would rather be with but my problem is,I know that there is someone else that he would rather ...
A. 31 August 2012: You wrote, "So basically this is never going to change, nothing is ever going to get better?"
Well I think it will get better, but will likely require a lot of patience on your part. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife passed away awhile ago but I feel I will always come second to her.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and believe me when I say that I do love him with all of my heart there is no one else that I would rather be with but my problem is,I know that there is someone else that he would rather ...
A. 31 August 2012: Well I still talk about my ex-wife and that ended 16 years ago. Some things in life can simply not be erased.... (read in full...)
I have made conflicting plans with two different friends, what do I do?
Q. So me and my friend (friend A) were talking about going on holiday next year as we will be 18 and we can finally go away without parents, However one of my other friends (friend B) has asked me to go away with her and 9 others next year too, and i ...
A. 30 August 2012: You just do whichever you want to do. ... (read in full...)
I'm not depressed but I feel so numb!
Q. For the last few years i've felt incredibly numb and emotionaless, i'm not depressed, i'm genuinly a happy person, but I feel like I dont really have any emotions when it comes to major things in my life. I started feeling like this when the pe...
A. 30 August 2012: Sorry darlin', but I think you ARE depressed. I'm the same. It is not incurable. ... (read in full...)
Tightness of a virgin, truth or myth?
Q. OK, I have often wondered about this. I have never been with a virgin but have always wondered if I am missing out. My wife was VERY inexperienced when we got together. 2 guys a total of 3 times.Not sure she could feel any tighter when we first ...
A. 30 August 2012: No, I do not think that having sex causes a loose vagina. Having children might, under certain circumstances, but usually not much. I've had relations with a woman who had eight children, and it still worked for me.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife passed away awhile ago but I feel I will always come second to her.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and believe me when I say that I do love him with all of my heart there is no one else that I would rather be with but my problem is,I know that there is someone else that he would rather ...
A. 30 August 2012: Well I think you should probably be somewhat tolerant, but I understand your concern. It takes a good while to get over loss of a spouse. ... (read in full...)
Our anniversary is on a Thursday but he wants to go out on Saturday. Why?
Q. it's me and my boyfriends 1 year anniversary next month. I mentioned it and he said he'd already planned to take me to a certain restaurant I like so I'm happy that he's put some thought into it. our anniversary falls on a Thursday but he wants to ...
A. 30 August 2012: That is close enough.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife passed away awhile ago but I feel I will always come second to her.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and believe me when I say that I do love him with all of my heart there is no one else that I would rather be with but my problem is,I know that there is someone else that he would rather ...
A. 29 August 2012: There is nothing in this world that he can do to bring back his former wife, so he must move on. It depends on the person whether he can do that. You cannot erase the memories, but life must go on.... (read in full...)
Your opinions on the state of virginity in teenagers today.
Q. This question is not really a screaming for help, but most likely is just for own purpose, I just want to know other opinions. Since my 'career' in dating started, I woke up and realized that girls, lost their virgins younger than ever. I mean, from ...
A. 29 August 2012: In America, I think the looser attitudes about sex began after the big war, but then there was the 1920s as well. But in my personal experience, sex became really widespread during the 1960s - and into the 70s and beyond. I'll agree that finding a ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I cheated on my Gf last night and never felt guilty about it. Is it something within me?
Q. I really don't know what's wrong with me and i hate what i am doing. I am 27 and i have always been a ladies man, to say. I don't know what my problem is. I have always enjoyed going out and meeting girls in bars and having fun. I am a good ...
A. 29 August 2012: You are simply not ready to settle down. ... (read in full...)
Disastrous attempt at first time sex!
Q. Okay me and my gf lost our virginity to each other. We had sex but I dont believe I fully went inside her. She kept jumping. It was my first time so I didn't know what to do. So now im fustrated and believe I did a terrible job. She wouldn't let me ...
A. 29 August 2012: Yes, as "fishdish" mentioned, her hymen may still be intact. That would make sex uncomfortable the first time or two. Indeed, more foreplay may help. And I'll agree, be gentle and very patient.... (read in full...)
Tips on having sexual intercourse? It will be the first time for both of us.
Q. hi, i'm an 18 year old girl. I was just wondering if you guys could give me any tips and suggestions for my first time having sexual intercourse! It will be both his and mine firt time. Thank you! (:...
A. 28 August 2012: It should not be much of a problem if you engage in enough foreplay - kissing, fondling, maybe some oral - those kind of things. I'll admit that my experiences with first time sex was long ago, but we never needed artificial lubricant of any kind. ... (read in full...)
How can I know if a woman is sexually interested?
Q. hi all, how can we understand that a woman is sexually interested on a man. as frequent guests we used to touch or sometimes stand closer etc. but I tend to feel that this woman has an attraction on me. but this is an intuition. are there indirect...
A. 28 August 2012: In my experiences, it was never too much of a mystery that a woman was interested. As you suggested, she may stand closer - and look you in the eyes. But you might try touching her, put an arm around her, and see how she reacts to that. There is ... (read in full...)
Is he not into sex because he's aware of what is going on around him?
Q. Hey, silly question. The other day I was having sex with my fiancé and right in the middle of the action he noticed my head was banging against the wall - nothing major, really, I could just feel the wall touching my head... I wasn't hurt or ...
A. 27 August 2012: Must agree with most others - he cares about you. So what's the problem with that?... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to women, but don't "like" women - anyone else like that?
Q. I am a straight, single, social, male, 24-years of age. I've been single for a long time now (last 'relationship', if you can call it that, was back in high school, which wasn't really anything) and it's got me thinking and others frequently asking, ...
A. 27 August 2012: A lot of women have come and gone in my life. Yes, they are hard to deal with most of the time. I was lucky once and a marriage lasted almost 20 years. She was my best friend. Hard to find. I think you just need to keep looking and hopefully find ... (read in full...)
I love my wife but I am not sure I can live with her because of her slovenly habits
Q. I have been married for 20 years and each year my frustration grows. The basis of my frustration involves seemingly insignificant things which, over time, grow into issues for me. Let me give three examples: 1) Laundry My wife does not ...
A. 27 August 2012: Well some people are rather lazy about such things. I've been single a good while and I get lazy until a problem becomes overwhelming. But what you described is worse than I could endure. ... (read in full...)
How can I be less lonely?
Q. I have a serious problem of loneliness for two years,maybe more.I am 24 years old,all my friends (and old boyfriend)went to study abroad and gradually forgot about me.With my best friend haven't talked for a year since our vacation together,1 year ...
A. 26 August 2012: Church might be a possibility. I also do not care about Facebook, but have used dating sites at times. And use the Internet to reconnect with former friends from school.... (read in full...)
How long should a girl wait after giving a guy her phone number?
Q. How long should I wait for a guy to call or contact me after giving him my number. There was a guy at work who I thought was cute we had been flirting and my friend told me he was interested. I gave him my number but I'm not sure if I scared him ...
A. 26 August 2012: In my opinion, you wait until he calls - it's up to him. And if he doesn't call, let it go.... (read in full...)
Will he grow to love our child?
Q. Dear Cupid I am separated from my husband for a year. Had an affair meanwhile and now I'm pregnant. My bf doesnt want anything to do with me or my pregnancy now. Will he ever love my child if I go on with my pregnancy, I don't want my child to be de...
A. 26 August 2012: In my opinion, "no nonsense Aidan" provided such good advice that - who could add to it? ... (read in full...)
Married one year. He disgusts me and he will not sleep with me. What should I do?
Q. My husband and I just passed our 1 year anniversary ... However he disgusts me. I can't stand to be around him, he won't even sleep with me.. So I resent him for that. He won't take showers for days, doesn't even change his underwear, won't brus...
A. 25 August 2012: Very unfortunate. Marriages and relationships do not always work out, but it is especially unfortunate with a child involved. You did not ask a question, but you obviously have a serious decision to make.... (read in full...)
Pointers for a virgin having sex for the first time!
Q. Hey I want your advice on how will I know I'm ready for sex. I want to have sex, but I think it will be really embarrassing and awkward, is it normal to think this? I'm 20 and a virgin with a boyfriend. Any tips or pointers for a virgin? Thank...
A. 24 August 2012: Probably to ease into this. Actual intercourse is likely quite a leap, although I'll admit that in my youth, I supposedly introduced sexual intercourse to several young women. My approach was always to be very gentle, if that helps. I think it ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the size of my penis
Q. hi, so im worried about my penis size... im 19 still a virgin, i have recieved oral sex before and im just worried about the size of my penis, its roughly (ive never had it measured by a doctor) 3 inches depending on how warm/cold i am, i might get ...
A. 24 August 2012: That's about normal size. No worries mate.... (read in full...)
My social anxiety and loneliness is killing me... Any advice?
Q. I just feel so alone right now. So tired of seeing happy couples everywhere I go. I feel like all I need right now is a girlfriend who I can share my life with. Sure this reeks of desperation but I can't hide the truth. It seems like all the ta...
A. 24 August 2012: Wow! In my opinion, you are way too young to be thinking that way. Good things will happen for you. Do not be so impatient. Relax and be calm.... (read in full...)
I need a plan for a first date.
Q. I recently went out on a date with a girl who's number I got at a local coffee shop. It wasn't anything crazy, just a casual late lunch at this bar and grill place (which is good because she said she doesn't like fancy restaurants). It went really ...
A. 24 August 2012: Personally, I prefer dates during which I can talk with the date. You can't do that very well during a movie. Dinner or lunch dates work better to get to know someone, in my opinion. It does not need to be fancy. ... (read in full...)
He's moving overseas for work, but I want to keep the door open for later. Do you think this will work?
Q. I'm looking for advice and to hopefully hear some success stories where people reunite after some time. The situation is that I met a guy while he was in the process of moving overseas for a job contract that will last 15 months. We dated for 2 m...
A. 24 August 2012: A reunited relationship may work, or not. You and he dated two months? Big deal. However, it may be worth a try.... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is a professional liar and cheat. How do I tell both new ladies about each other, without leading back to me?
Q. I am an ex of boyfriend who is professional liar and cheater... I left him after 18 months, but then I was shocked to accidently find secret accounts, dating site membership. Membership to secret email...(he left his IPAD open accidently in bathroom...
A. 24 August 2012: Not your problem. Let them figure it out. In my opinion, you should just move on.... (read in full...)
Trouble being on top.
Q. My boyfriend asked me to ride him, i had never done it before but i was keen to give it a go, but i couldn't actually move once i was straddling him. I don't know if it was because he was thrusting too, but i couldn't do anything. I felt really bad ...
A. 23 August 2012: In my experience, it is a matter of position. Place your knees forward and pump up and down with your hips. All this is difficult to describe. There are also different positions "on top." It can be reversed, for instance. I think that practice makes ... (read in full...)
I'm having inappropriate sexual thoughts. How can I stop this?
Q. Currently I have been extremely turned on and have been craving oral sex. My boyfriend is the best I had ever had, but recently I have been having awful thoughts. For some reason I am craving being gone down on by someone with full lips and I ...
A. 23 August 2012: It is a little hard for me to imagine why full lips have anything to do with giving good oral satisfaction to a woman, but so be it with you. As one who has done cunnilingus more times than I care to divulge, it's much more about the tongue, but it ... (read in full...)
Bf saying picture of porn with girls that look nothing like me
Q. Hello guys:) Recently, I've been having a few problems with my boyfriend, not major ones at all, just little ones. Now, I found out he watched porn because I went to type in youtube on his computer and it came up with a porn site in his history...
A. 23 August 2012: These days, guys are going to watch porn. Many women do as well. The thing is, "Does it actually affect your relationship?" When I was much younger - a good while ago - pornography was rare. Or at least, I didn't know much about it and didn't care. ... (read in full...)
Old friend keeps blowing me off for her new friends!
Q. This isn't a relationship q, but about friendship and I would really appreciate the input. I have been best frinds with a girl since I was 12, and we are now both 26. She used to be quiet and shy, but the past couple of years she has been coming out ...
A. 23 August 2012: Sometimes in life, you have to put past relationships behind. That goes for most everything. ... (read in full...)
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