I'm unsure about settling down with him, and he has kids. How do I handle this situation?
Q. I'm in a situation and I don't know what to do for best. I would like to hear from any parents here... To start, I'm 20 years old and have been in a relationship with a guy of 32 (33 next month) for just over a year. I do love him but I'm unsu...
A. 11 February 2011: I think Cerberus was a little off on his view of the relationship between children and the people their parents date. I've been on my own for almost two years now, and in that time I have only introduced one woman I've dated to my daughter. I have ... (read in full...)
Husband has no interest in having sex with ANYONE!
Q. Dear Cupid, Seems like the question has been asked before....but for whatever reason I feel my situation is different. I have been with my husband for almost 5 years now...we had a long distance relationship and of course when we saw each other w...
A. 11 February 2011: Is this guy a lot older, or under a lot of stress at work? Something sounds off to me. I'm struggling to understand why a guy would go from a sex machine to completely uninterested in it.... (read in full...)
Since hearing of her with this guy, I've been with 2 girls myself, only becuase she did
Q. After 4 years, i broke up with my girlfriend. We'd been rocky the past 6 months. She slept with a guy far beneath her within 2 weeks. I knew she's a slut, we slept together the first night we met...but i thought after 4 years and the genuine love in ...
A. 11 February 2011: Well, I'm not really sure what your question is. Are you asking for advice in getting her back? Or advice if you should move on?
That said, I see a red flag. You referred to your ex-gf as a slut and gave a couple reasons why you feel that way. Rea... (read in full...)
Is it okay if my boyfriend licks me all the time?
Q. My boyfriend keeps licking me is it ok ? I'm 18 he's 23 I do love him and he likes doing it. He licks my stomach my neck and my arms and I do enjoy it but I wanted to know if it's alright . ...
A. 11 February 2011: Some people have a fetish for this kind of thing. My ex-wife used to like to lick me, particularly on the face. I always thought it was a sign of ownership, like back in one's school days. Bully's would threaten to steal your food until you licked ... (read in full...)
What do guys think about little breasts?
Q. Alright here it goes: so i don't have the biggest breast in the world. There close to a B. Big breast do not run in my family at all. I mean my mother is an A36. I just want to know what guys think about little breast. ...
A. 11 February 2011: I'm another guy that actually prefers smaller breasts to larger ones. I associate small breasts with fit, active, healthy women. I'm a very lean guy with an athletic build and low body fat. I work hard to maintain my physique, so I am attracted to ... (read in full...)
I'm unsure about settling down with him, and he has kids. How do I handle this situation?
Q. I'm in a situation and I don't know what to do for best. I would like to hear from any parents here... To start, I'm 20 years old and have been in a relationship with a guy of 32 (33 next month) for just over a year. I do love him but I'm unsu...
A. 11 February 2011: As a single parent with primary custody of an 8 year old, I have to tell you that the kids are part of the package. If you truly love this man, then taking on the role of step-mom is not an option - it is part of the deal. I understand your ... (read in full...)
Why is he insisting on seeing me? He lied about having a girlfriend, which is why I stopped seeing him!
Q. What should I do with my ex? I dated this guy who is 9 years older than me. He kept playing mind games with me throughout the time of us being together. He lied to me about his girlfriend saying they weren't really together when they were. Long ...
A. 11 February 2011: This guy is obviously a player, and he's trying to manipulate a younger woman with lines that he doesn't really mean.
You did the right thing in moving on, and I suggest that you not even be friends with this guy. He's a user.... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend really love me?
Q. My boyfriend and I are been together for 3 years..we have an age gap..he's only 18 and im 20. Im his first gf and first sex..even though we have an age gap..we are still on the same college level..here's my problem..with the age of 18..he still ...
A. 11 February 2011: I think this is a classic example of why younger guys don't generally work well with older women. Women mature faster, making that transition from playful teen to full-fledged adulthood at a younger age. The guy who is the subject of this question ... (read in full...)
Do you think it will last or will he want something more serious?
Q. Hey everyone, I just need your opinion on something I've had on my mind lately, whether you think I'm being paranoid or not. ...I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months he is 31 and I'm coming up 21, so this guys 10 years my senior and in h...
A. 8 February 2011: It depends on the guy and where his mind is at. Honestly, I don't see any reason why your relationship would have to end in the near future. I know plenty of guys in their early 30's that still aren't in a "settle down" mode. I wouldn't worry about ... (read in full...)
Why is it that every time I'm with a guy, they tell me they like me and the second I start to really like them back they decide that they just want to be friends?
Q. Why is it that every time I'm with a guy, they tell me they like me and the second I start to really like them back they decide that they just want to be friends? This has happened to me with the last couple guys I've gone out with....
A. 7 February 2011: I could be mistaken, but that is the angle that most players take with women in this age range. They start with the "I've fallen hard" angle to get what they want, and then they enjoy the ride while it lasts. When a girl starts to get too attached, ... (read in full...)
We've always cheated on our partners with each other, should we end contact?
Q. ive been having sex with my exboyfriend off and on for the last 8 yrs(dated in hs) we always seem to reconnect. we've always cheated on our partners with each other. should we end contact? he has a gf now and a one yr old...but he claims he doesnt ...
A. 3 February 2011: This is not a healthy relationship, and it continues to negatively effect your subsequent relationships. You do need to break contact. That appears to be the only way you can move on.... (read in full...)
I'm lying to both men in my life, they have no idea about each other!
Q. PLease no one judge me, I know what I'm about to reveal is horrible. I know it and I hate myself. That being said, I couldn't help falling in love with the man I'm seeing on the side. I am married and have a child. The ONLY reason I haven't gotten a ...
A. 28 January 2011: OP, you are correct that my daughter is very resilient. She gets that from me. I'm an eternal optimist and I never let anything hold me down, at least not for long. There's no doubt that my daughter's nature made it easier for her to cope with the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help save the relationship?
Q. So let me start out saying I am 17 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. I love him and he's honestly the best guy in the world. But lately we've fought a lot, we've just had a lot of little problems that we argue about and ...
A. 25 January 2011: It is possible that this boy is "the one" for you, but you are also very young and the fact that you lost your virginity to him could be clouding your judgment. I know in my case, I thought the girl I lost my v-card to was "the one", and it wasn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has slept with 6 women, but he's my first. It bothers me!
Q. I've been with my bf for 2 years and when we met I was a virgin and he had slept with 6 other people. I love him a lot but I find this incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. Sometimes it does't bother me, but when I think about it it weirds me out. ...
A. 25 January 2011: You're feeling the effects of retrograde jealousy. There are many similar questions on this site, packed with helpful information. The bottom line, though, is that this is something you'll have to learn to accept, or it will ultimately ruin your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been cheating with his ex wife
Q. I need some advice from someone i recently found out that my boyfriend of a year has been cheating on me with his ex wife my heads in bits. We have argued about it and he says he never slept with her he was only helping her out with money but we ...
A. 25 January 2011: Trust issues are particularly difficult to conquer. It sounds to me like this guy probably isn't worth the effort. My advice is to let him go and find someone with better character. Best of luck!... (read in full...)
He saw me holding hands with a friend and now he won't talk to me
Q. I've been talking to some guy and now he doesn't want to talk to me because he saw me holding hands with my friend and he got all pissed off now he won't talk to me...Its been about a week or so and hes still mad at me which i do not know what to do ...
A. 25 January 2011: Holding hands is a pretty clear sign of affection. I don't do that with "friends". So, even if this was just a friend, I can totally understand why the guy you like was offended. You might not be able to get him back, I'm sorry to say. Trust has ... (read in full...)
I'm lying to both men in my life, they have no idea about each other!
Q. PLease no one judge me, I know what I'm about to reveal is horrible. I know it and I hate myself. That being said, I couldn't help falling in love with the man I'm seeing on the side. I am married and have a child. The ONLY reason I haven't gotten a ...
A. 25 January 2011: OP, you can't tell me anything about children and divorce that I don't already know, having gone though it. It is a complete myth that divorce MUST be a devastating experience for every child. I used to believe that lie myself, which is why I waited ... (read in full...)
I'm lying to both men in my life, they have no idea about each other!
Q. PLease no one judge me, I know what I'm about to reveal is horrible. I know it and I hate myself. That being said, I couldn't help falling in love with the man I'm seeing on the side. I am married and have a child. The ONLY reason I haven't gotten a ...
A. 24 January 2011: "No...I think adultery was the less harmfull option"
There's your mistake. Adultery is really never the less harmful option. Divorce is something that children can handle as long as they get the proper support. Meanwhile, you're complete... (read in full...)
I like two guys, but I need help choosing the right one. Please help!
Q. I'm so confused. I met a guy on an online dating site. We exchanged numbers and have been texting... he lives about 2 hours drive from me and we haven't met up yet. Recently, I met another boy who I do like. However, the other day, the boy I met ...
A. 22 January 2011: I think it is too early to end it with either one. I don't think it makes someone a player if they are dating two people simultaneously, with the caveat that both are first or second date situations. It takes a few dates to really start to get to ... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend feel better about my past?
Q. I am a 17 year old girl, and my boyfriend is 19. We've only been dating for about 2 months, and I just recently got out of an abusive relationship of a year. He knows this, of course. He can't seem to get over the fact that we messed around, even ...
A. 22 January 2011: I agree with CaringGuy, although I think he's being a little too hard on your boyfriend. I believe your boyfriend is still rather immature, which is why he's suffering from retrograde jealousy. At some point he'll have to accept that the women he ... (read in full...)
I'm lying to both men in my life, they have no idea about each other!
Q. PLease no one judge me, I know what I'm about to reveal is horrible. I know it and I hate myself. That being said, I couldn't help falling in love with the man I'm seeing on the side. I am married and have a child. The ONLY reason I haven't gotten a ...
A. 21 January 2011: How long have you been seeing the other man? I ask because it sounds like you're still in the relatively early stages of the affair. You state "He is the man of my dreams" and say how perfect he'd be, and you're beginning to be upset by the fact ... (read in full...)
It seems like she wants me to chase her, even though we are official!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been talking for a year and some change now, and just in September we made it official. But its like she wants me to chase her, its like she doesn't like to call or respond to my texts unless I contact her. If i don't ...
A. 21 January 2011: I agree with CaringGuy. This girl sounds immature and/or may be a player. I'd cut her loose and move on.... (read in full...)
I feel like I am just a spare lover!
Q. I am dating my bf for 2 1/2 years. I have issue with my bf keep close contact with his ex. Him and his ex has been together for 20 years (divorced 8 years) but still keep close contact with each other almost everyday which he claimed is because of ...
A. 21 January 2011: I gather that your boyfriend is quite a bit older than you are. From your description, it sounds like he's using you. His ex wife should not be that involved in his daily life. I know, as I have an ex wife myself and we do have a child together. If ... (read in full...)
Does any of this mean she is interested in me?
Q. Hello Dear Cupid, I am looking for some opinions here... I have strong feelings for my coworker. Does she feel the same way? I don't know, it's fairly complicated. Between the 2 of us I believe she had interest first, but again nothing is certa...
A. 21 January 2011: I don't interpret those to be signs of interest. I've recently dated two different coworkers, and the green light signs they gave me were along the lines of overtly stating that they were single & unattached. Sort of a "hey, I'm single, are you ... (read in full...)
I'm lying to both men in my life, they have no idea about each other!
Q. PLease no one judge me, I know what I'm about to reveal is horrible. I know it and I hate myself. That being said, I couldn't help falling in love with the man I'm seeing on the side. I am married and have a child. The ONLY reason I haven't gotten a ...
A. 21 January 2011: I won't judge, but I'll say that I was the man married to a woman like this. Please, do you and your husband a favor and file for divorce. That's where this is headed anyway, and I can say from experience that you aren't doing your child any favors. ... (read in full...)
Why must it hurt when you fall out of love?
Q. Why must it hurt when you fall out of love? That person says he loves you, you have their heart always and forever, or they make you feel like you are the most precious thing on this earth. Then after you and him have been together for months and ...
A. 20 January 2011: It's no different for guys. We fall in love only to heave our hearts broken by the object of our affection. That's the risk of loving. We put ourselves in a vulnerable position, where we're at the mercy of someone else. They can hurt us if they ... (read in full...)
Not sure if I should settle or not! Help please!
Q. Hello All!! I have been divorced for a long time (after writing this, it is becoming more clear why), since the mid 90's and have had two other serious relationships along with a few years of trying to work it out with the ex-wife and then few...
A. 20 January 2011: I totally agree with the advice given by AuntyEm. You have to know what you want to start with, and you should definitely not "settle". Settling leads to unhappiness later, which will in many cases lead to the demise of the relationship.... (read in full...)
Should I ask this co-worker out?
Q. Should I ask this girl out? I work with her and have recently realised I have feelings for her when I actually look forward to go to work just because she is there. Problem is while we flirt and stuff we aren't very much alike she hangs out with a ...
A. 20 January 2011: Big red flag that she's basically pursuing a married man. I'd avoid her even if she's really hot.... (read in full...)
Men: Would you date a taller woman?
Q. I am tall for a woman, just about 6'-0." While I physically prefer taller men, I can't really afford to be picky and so have dated shorter men. Sometimes though, they seem embarassed about the height difference, too embarassed to take me seriousl...
A. 20 January 2011: I'm 5' 7" and my ex wife is 5' 10". Height was never an issue between us, and I really enjoyed the fact that I was with a woman who had the build of a professional model.
Even now I prefer women who are 5' 5" or taller. I routinely chat up women... (read in full...)
How do I get over him if he is everywhere I go?
Q. I dated this guy that was a lot older than me and he left/cheated on me for another girl. It was horrible and took me a long time and a lot of emotions to finally get over him. He did apologize multiple times to me and told me that it was our age ...
A. 20 January 2011: Older men will use younger women for sex because they're easier to manipulate than older, wiser women are. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I believe that's what this guy wants from you. You're a "fall back" for when he doesn't have anything else going ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the affair I had?
Q. I have been with my now husband since I was a teenager. We got engaged my first year of college. He had joined the military, and was stationed outside of the continental united states for 3 years. During this time, I had a relationship with another ...
A. 19 January 2011: Well, as someone who was cheated on by my ex-wife, I believe if you tell your husband everything it will only make his pain worse. So I advise against doing it.
As far as how you move on, you have to accept that the "closure" you're seeking,... (read in full...)
Girlfriend unsatisfied with the way life turned out for her
Q. Hi, I have been dating an older girl (by a few years) for a little over a year. She says she is very into me and that I am her world, as she is mine. From the start, my girl had a lot of baggage for me to handle, which I didn't mind at first because ...
A. 19 January 2011: This is eerily similar to my history. When I was 21 and still in college, I met a woman who was 26 at the time. This girl had a lot of baggage that came out, and it was difficult for me to handle at times but I managed to keep it together. After ... (read in full...)
My marriage proposal sucked! Should I let him do it again?
Q. SO I’m engaged but my proposal Sucked!!! he didn’t even decorate there was no romantic music and he knows that I love flowers and he didn’t even give me one!!! He used a beat up candle that was already used and I didn’t even get to dress up nor ...
A. 14 January 2011: I agree with dirtball. OP, you sound like a lot of work to keep happy. Also, it is very old fashioned to ask a girl's parents before popping the question. I know a lot of girls that would actually be offended if their man felt he needed to ask mom & ... (read in full...)
I cheated and don't love him anymore
Q. I been with my boyfriend for 5yeras we ahve a child together.. I been very unhappy and i cheated.. He found out but he still wants to be with me but I dont. I dont know what to do. I dont Love him anymore....
A. 14 January 2011: It sounds to me like this relationship is over, whether your boyfriend recognizes it or not. Sometimes a couple will stay together thinking it is best for the child, when in reality a child deserves to be raised in a loving, harmonious environment. ... (read in full...)
So many lies.....Can I ever trust my wife again?
Q. I have been married for 3 years and just found out that my wife has done nothng but lie to me about almost everything including 2 1/2 of the years the marriage she has been texting and running in to one of her old boyfriend and about 6 months ago ...
A. 14 January 2011: I'm sorry, but this woman is not trustworthy. I've experienced this myself with my ex-wife. When she says that nothing physical happened between her and the other guy, it is a lie. They're adults, of course they had sex.
The only option I see for ... (read in full...)
Am I a bit weird for not particularly liking kids?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but i would be interested to hear what people think. Ever since i was about 13 (i'm now 23) i realised i wasn't the maternal type. People would show off their kids and these women would go all ga ga over them and...
A. 13 January 2011: I'll add another no. My ex-wife is not very maternal. I didn't exactly coerce her into it, but she certainly wasn't as enthusiastic to start a family as I was. After one child she was DONE having kids, and after the divorce I have primary custody of ... (read in full...)
S it healthy for a man to masturbate even if his girlfriend will give it to him whenever he wants?
Q. Is it healthy for a man to masturbate even if his live in girlfriend will give it to him whenever he wants? Do I have a right to be upset if he rejects having sex with me time to time yet masturbates instead..keep in mind, two days in a row wihtout ...
A. 13 January 2011: I'll risk being in the minority opinion and say that if a man has a gf as willing to satisfy him as you are, then he should never need to resort to masturbation. If I'm being honest, the only times I masturbate are when I don't have a willing woman ... (read in full...)
In a very emotional "Love Triangle." It is driving me crazy at times...MEN PLEASE HELP!
Q. The man I have been dating, he is 30 years old has been going back and fourth between this other woman. Currently he is with her but is confused about if he wants to be with me instead. He says he cares about me a lot and likes me. He feels like ...
A. 13 January 2011: I have to agree with the advice given so far. This guy is either stringing you along or he doesn't know what he wants. Neither is a good situation. At 30 he should have his act together, and not be mistreating women he is supposed to care about. I'd ... (read in full...)
One minute I think he might be flirting a little bit and the next not at all and it just continues on in a little bit of a cycle... any thoughts?
Q. I've had a crush (thats the best term I suppose) on a guy that I've worked with for several months now and while workplace rules prevent anything the situation is about to change (so that we could date if we wanted) and I'm not sure what to make of ...
A. 13 January 2011: As someone who recently dated two different female coworkers, I know how delicate this situation can be. It is entirely possible that he's interested in you but that he hasn't asked you out because he isn't sure how interested you are in him. It is ... (read in full...)
We have tried counselling, but I am still unsatisfied and now considering an affair. What should I do?
Q. I am married and unsatisfied. I'm not sure if i love my husband and I am contemplating having an affair. We have tried counseling...what should I do?...
A. 11 January 2011: I agree completely with Denise. If you have an affair it will only make things worse. Seek different or individual counseling, and if that doesn't work then do the right thing and separate from your husband.... (read in full...)
What is she thinking? What am I to her?
Q. There is this girl I like, and I feel that she likes me too, based on all the hints/stuff she said. However, since we haven't meet up for more than half a year, due to both of our busy schedule. But recently, I'm trying to find time to accompan...
A. 11 January 2011: I'm sorry to be so blunt, but it appears evident to me that this girl is trying to avoid you. She is being evasive in answering your questions and is not making herself available to spend time with you. Those are clear indicators that she's not ... (read in full...)
I need to turn up the heat in the bedroom.
Q. Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost five years and although i enjoy the sex it always seems to be the same and everytime we try different positions they dont seem to work out right or i dont orgasm. So i was wondering if anyone had ...
A. 11 January 2011: First Q - there are a lot of ways to spice things up, and every couple is different in what works for them. You could role play, introduce food like whipped cream and chocolate, try adding some toys into the mix, use a lube to change the experience ... (read in full...)
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