Is it possible to have a bruise on that part of your body without it leaving a mark?
Q. I have a question about a mysterious bruise incident. Fact: She told me had a bruise and it hurt like heck and she got it by bumping into the sharp corner of her dresser in the dark, on her chest. Fact: The next day she showed me where the brui...
A. 3 November 2011: I'm also wondering why this bruise makes you suspicious. Are there other things, as well? This on it's own is really nothing to be concerned with in my opinion. However, I suspect that you've noticed other things which make you think your ... (read in full...)
He's been extremely annoying with his continual requests for anal sex!
Q. Hey everyone, I have a fantastic boyfriend who I love very much. BUT (isn't there always a but?) he keeps pressuring me to have anal sex with him. I'm happy to do it once a week or so, but every day is too much and it hurts. Also, he doesn't like ...
A. 3 November 2011: Yea, this guy is not fantastic. He's inconsiderate, disrespectful and selfish. He's more or less demanding daily anal sex AND insisting that you not use lubricant? I'm speculating here, but what may be "getting him off" is that you're in pain. He ... (read in full...)
What are the signs sex is good for a man
Q. Just curious to get some answers from men. If sex is good...I mean REALLY good with a woman,how can us women know it was good without the guy directly telling us? What are the signs? I've learned a lot of the time guys don't directly tell ...
A. 3 November 2011: If you're looking for ways to improve, judging how much a man enjoyed sex isn't necessarily going to help you. The reason is because every guy is different. We enjoy different positions more or less than others, have different fetishes, etc. So if ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: Sorry, but your logic "the only reason a partner would seek another person outside the relationship is if there is something lacking" is EXACTLY how cheaters justify their actions 99.999% of the time. Simply put, it is bogus logic. The right way to ... (read in full...)
We've gone ring shopping -- but he still hasn't proposed! How long is too long to wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I will have been together three years as of this coming February. We have talked about getting married and have even gone to look at rings on multiple occasions. To my knowledge, he has not gone back by himself to look again or make ...
A. 1 November 2011: OP, that new bit of information changes my opinion. Your boyfriend now sounds like a couple of guys I know, and they're the type who will string a woman along and really never intend to commit to her.
One guy, the 40 year old coworker I previous... (read in full...)
Is he more interested in sex than me? now all he seems concerned about is how soon we can become a couple and start having sex
Q. Hey guys would love an outsiders opinion to this... Long story short I've met this amazing guy two weeks ago who is sweet, cute, funny and matched and rivalled my humour and we got on really well. We've been talking non stop over this time and al...
A. 31 October 2011: I have to agree with the other advice given so far. This guy wants sex, and it doesn't appear he's genuinely interested in a relationship. He's not the person you thought, he had you fooled. Once you expressed interest in him, he dropped his act and ... (read in full...)
My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 27 October 2011: What you need to do is REALLY blow your ex off. Tell him NO, you will not meet up for dinner or drinks and that you do not want him to call you again. Done.
Honestly, 9 times out of 10 when an ex-bf wants to "meet for dinner or drinks and to talk"... (read in full...)
If he said no, why did he turn me down?
Q. So a few weeks ago, I asked the guy I like if he wanted to go to this Haunted Factory with a group of my friends and myself but he said no :(. I've liked him for months now, and all of my friends and I were pretty sure he liked me back. We have ...
A. 27 October 2011: This is just a guess, but if he's a shy guy then he was perhaps surprised by your invitation. Maybe it was so unexpected he said "No" as a reaction, but didn't really mean it. He might be cursing himself and wishing he had said yes instead if that's ... (read in full...)
Why is my G/f behaving like this?
Q. The first time discovered my girlfriend on the internet asking for quickies and affairs she became angry when I tried to discuss it and she just told me I`m paranoid and was being mentally abusive by making allegations through my own guilt, and I ...
A. 27 October 2011: Unfortunately I can relate. My ex-wife was just like this, only she'd use her cell phone instead of the computer to contact other men. She would get angry and defensive if I tried to talk to her about it, she was controlling and drove away my ... (read in full...)
We've gone ring shopping -- but he still hasn't proposed! How long is too long to wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I will have been together three years as of this coming February. We have talked about getting married and have even gone to look at rings on multiple occasions. To my knowledge, he has not gone back by himself to look again or make ...
A. 26 October 2011: As someone who rushed into a marriage, which ended in a painful divorce, I tend to side with caution. While you may feel ready for a proposal, I advise you do not pressure your boyfriend. When he's ready, he'll buy the ring and ask the question.
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I cannot stop obsessing about my boyfriend's height! Please help.
Q. Dear Cupid. Please help. I am driving myself crazy. I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and I love him so so so much, but I am absolutely obsessed with his height. I am 5ft 9.5", and he is about 1-1.5" taller. Yet whenever we a...
A. 26 October 2011: SwanLake, if it makes you feel any better I am a couple inches shorter than my ex, who I was with for over 10 years. She is 5'10" and I'm about 5'8". During all the time we were together, her being taller than I am was never an issue. Nobody ever ... (read in full...)
Should I tell people I'm a virgin when I meet them?
Q. I'm 26 and still a virgin. I've not had many boyfriends, i'm quite shy and don't go out much - prefer saving money for holidays and concerts. Whenever i meet someone should I tell them i'm a virgin or not? Thanks...
A. 26 October 2011: Definitely *do not* say anything about being a virgin until you get serious with a guy and believe the relationship will become sexual imminently. The reason I say this is your history is a private matter. It is information that very few should ... (read in full...)
I am buying new home and the mortgage lender advised that my name does NOT go on the mortgage!!! Why?!?
Q. Mortgage lender told my hubby to NOT put my name on the title of the home, just put it in his will. That does not sound right, is this normal advice? So once again, we are having relationship problems when I thought we had worked it all out. Wh...
A. 24 October 2011: There are two different issues here to be addressed. 1. The deed to the home. This is the document that defines who actually owns the property. Since the two of you are married, in the majority of situations both of your names should go on the... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that he's having a family with someone other than me
Q. I have a problem. Back in January, I was told by a guy on facebook that my on again off again boyfriend and father of my three year son was seeing another woman while he was trying to work things out with me. At first I wasn't bothered by it since ...
A. 24 October 2011: I feel and understand your pain. My ex reacted the same way when I filed for divorce, she got angry. Cheaters don't take any responsibility for their actions, so they never view anything as their fault - it is much easier to blame those around them. ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this guy my girlfriend is hanging out with?
Q. So my gf meet this guy on a dating sight just like she meet me. But this guy is 30 and says age is just a number. He buys her whatever she wants and she hangs out with him i know she hates this guy. SO DO I. But he keeps touchin her and picks her ...
A. 21 October 2011: Sorry, but I also have to say the problem here is your girlfriend. I absolutely do not believe a 30 year old man is going to take an 18 year old girl out and not have sex with her. A guy that age wants sex, and he knows how to get it.
You need to ... (read in full...)
If you are with a divorced man does that automatically mean I have to have a second best wedding and a second best life?
Q. My partner of 3 years is a nice guy, he makes me laugh, he’s good company, he cooks me dinner, we share interests. Intimacy is great. He got divorced 6 years ago. I have never been married. The problem is he has so many problems and we cannot ge...
A. 21 October 2011: I think the issue here is this particular guy's financial situation. Whenever there is financial hardship, regardless of the cause, it strains a relationship. Sometimes it can bring a couple closer in the long run, but that's assuming the ... (read in full...)
Can it really be so weird for a guy to sleep with his pregnant woman?
Q. I am currently 26 weeks pregnant. I have not gained any weight but my belly has grown seeing how there is a baby in there lol. I've been with my boy friend who is the father for two years. Over the past couple weeks I've noticed our sex life is ...
A. 20 October 2011: When my now ex-wife was pregnant with our child, I found that the key to enjoyable sex is the positioning. Missionary and cowgirl were great early on of course, but when she started showing and later when her belly got big those positions were ... (read in full...)
She rejected me because she doesn't want to risk our friendship!
Q. Hey there, after a long friendship I finally built up the courage to ask a this girl out. We've always had a very flirtatious and hands on relationship so I thought it was the natural step. Apparently not. I asked, I got a on. She didn't want to ...
A. 20 October 2011: I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but almost every time when a girl says this it means she isn't attracted to you. I'm sure she likes you as a person and enjoys your friendship, which is why she doesn't want to be blunt about it. So girls ... (read in full...)
Liking pictures of half-naked girls on Facebook, not changing his relationship status-Should I just give up on my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend nearly 5 months. We see each other 1-2 times a week on average. The past 3 weeks, we have only seen one another twice, as he has cancelled on me numerous times. I asked him about it, and he just said he had a lo...
A. 18 October 2011: From a guy's perspective, the lack of sex could definitely be causing him to lose interest. 5 months in a relationship is, relatively speaking, quite a long time to wait for intimacy. I'm not suggesting you should necessarily have sex with your ... (read in full...)
Am I completely in the wrong and deserve this? Or is he overreacting?
Q. I met a guy on a dating website 2 months ago, we met after a week and kept seeing each other every weekend. At first it was a but bumpy and he wouldn't text for days, he works away in the week n so we would only see each other on weekends. He calls ...
A. 18 October 2011: OP, I see several red flags. For one, I think it is a bit too soon for this guy to be throwing the "I love you" out there. You only met two months ago and have only seen each other on weekends? Plus he wouldn't text for days at at time early on? ... (read in full...)
Am I completely in the wrong and deserve this? Or is he overreacting?
Q. I met a guy on a dating website 2 months ago, we met after a week and kept seeing each other every weekend. At first it was a but bumpy and he wouldn't text for days, he works away in the week n so we would only see each other on weekends. He calls ...
A. 17 October 2011: As someone who 1. has been cheated on and 2. has experience with dating websites, I have to disagree with the advice from 19reginna84.
The analogy I draw with dating websites is that they're like speed dating. You can get to know several differen... (read in full...)
Personality vs looks?
Q. Hi, So I was wondering... Is personality or physical attraction more important? Any thoughts would be appreciated!...
A. 17 October 2011: For me, both are important. A girl can have an awesome personality, but if I don't find her attractive then I will not be interested in her. Likewise, a girl could be a fashion model but if her personality isn't a match with mine then any possible ... (read in full...)
Should I just stop talking to the guy I met online? I think he is talking to other women as well as me.
Q. Hello everyone, I used an online dating site for the first time. I met a man that I was interested in meeting. We have been emailing each other once a day for 1 week. He keeps pointing out how much we have in common and how great I seem. H...
A. 12 October 2011: Aunt honesty is spot on. I used a couple different dating websites for about a year and a half, and I can tell you from experience that basically *everyone* on dating websites has multiple conversations going at any given time. It it something you ... (read in full...)
Should I approach him based on his body langauge?
Q. Hi everyone, I usually prefer trying to give advice rather than ask... But there has been something- rather someone- on my mind since last January. I'm basically asking if he's interested (typical I know) by the signs I list, or if I should...
A. 11 October 2011: Honestly, this isn't much to go on. You've got a few instances of eye contact, which definitely could be a sign of interest. Then again, it could be nothing. More obvious signs would be touching you or getting really close while conversing with you ... (read in full...)
DC aunts, do any of you like going out to bars and clubs by yourselves?
Q. Do any women here like going out to bars and clubs on their own ? I'm in my 20's and dont really have many friends so i'm wondering whether to go out on my own ? I think i would feel nervous and self conscious though.i think men are brave to go out ...
A. 5 October 2011: Well, I know you are looking more for the opinion of a woman but I can give you my perspective as a guy. Many of my friends are married now so I learned to go out on my own out of necessity more than anything else. I can't say I really enjoyed it ... (read in full...)
Married and cheating but I don't want to put my children through a divorce!
Q. Ok. Here goes. I am totally depressed. I have been married for 13 years and have two wonderful kids. We haven't been happy in 6 years when I felt he had an affair. He would not admit and still denies but in my heart I know he did. But that's not ...
A. 3 October 2011: Speaking as someone who was in a loveless marriage myself, I think the best thing for you to do is to seek a divorce. While you may feel you are doing right by your children in staying with your husband, what you are really doing is undermining the ... (read in full...)
I met him on a trip, but after we got home he became distant. What happened?
Q. I met a guy while working in Alaska this summer. He'd been there for about 6 months and I was scheduled to be there for two. It was a really great opportunity for me to get out of my home town and away from all these people that I didn't like and ...
A. 3 October 2011: Unfortunately, I believe that the Max you have had trouble with recently is the "real" Max, and the one you met while traveling was his away-from-home personality. When he was away from home, away from friends and other outside influences, you were ... (read in full...)
Men: Who hasn't cheated? I'd like to know why.
Q. Are there any men out there that have NEVER cheated on their girlfriend, or wife? I mean - no form of cheating. No online flirting, no emotional cheating .. etc. If so, what made you stay faithful? ...
A. 3 October 2011: I have never cheated, even when I KNEW my now ex-wife was cheating on me. I remained loyal to her through years of marital problems. So it wasn't affection for her or a lack of interest in other women that kept me from cheating. That went away long ... (read in full...)
How to get him into running? I do not want to suggest too obviously that he might think his huge belly is bothering me
Q. I have been seeing this shy guy for six dates. I started to like him and he seems to like me too, otherwise he will not ask me out :) We have entered this friend zone. I like his intelligence, some sense of humor, quietness, and like me, he is a...
A. 3 October 2011: I have to agree with the other advice given so far. I'm sorry, but this is not a healthy way to start out a relationship. You're just getting to know this guy and already you want to change things about him. Not just minor things, but major ... (read in full...)
He is 40 and I am 25. Is that too old if you both like each other?
Q. im 25 and the guy i like is 40. is that too old if you both like each other? and do older men think 25 is to young? im pretty mature i mean ifinished grad school, and still live with my parents but am looking to eventually move out.. i was wondering ...
A. 30 September 2011: I have been in relationships with nearly that much of an age gap. I'm 35 now, but before my birthday I was 34 and dated two different women who were 22, and another that was 23. It varies based on the individual of course, but I personally feel that ... (read in full...)
He contacted me. Now he's ignoring me. Is he having second thoughts because he's married? Or jealous that another guy is interested in me?
Q. An old high school flame contacted me on facebook after 10 years. We were in love and we had to break up due to his move to another high school. He met a woman nothing but a year after we broke up and he is married to her now with a child. I am...
A. 21 September 2011: My gut feeling on this is that this guy contacted you in the hopes that he could have an affair behind his wife's back, and since you made it clear to him that you would not be willing to engage in something like that he has lost interest. The signs ... (read in full...)
My husband is very particular about how he likes oral, is this normal?
Q. Hello, I have written in before and gotten excellent advice. My last posting was about a week ago about my mom objecting to the way my husband and I treat each other. We have three kids (biological), 8, 5, and 2, and have the adoption of an 1...
A. 13 September 2011: Well, everyone has a fetish and for your husband it sure appears his fetish is BJ's. I don't think anything you described is problematic in any way. He's being considerate of your comfort with the knee pads and using a mirror to get the view he ... (read in full...)
I am worried he may feel smothered in this relationship...what should I do?
Q. Lately my bf and I have been spending lots of time together. We have been with each other every day for 3 weeks. I also have been staying his place even though i have my own place. Previously was not like that and im really quite happy to be with ...
A. 12 September 2011: What should you do? Talk to him! The best way to avoid problems in a relationship is to communicate. There's really no way to know if you're smothering him or if he's just as happy as you are without having a conversation about it. So, you should go ... (read in full...)
His age information isn't matching up with the background check!
Q. I really really need help and advice because I'm so confused at this point. I met a guy online and at the time, his profile said he was 30 and now a year later, he's 31. I believed him. But today I was talking to a friend about stalkerish thing...
A. 9 September 2011: It is VERY likely he's actually 39 given that the other info about him was accurate. It sure appears he deliberately lied about his age. As you said, 30 or 31 is a pretty big gap for a 22/23 year old, and 39 is basically old enough to be your dad. ... (read in full...)
Is being a slut the way to mend a broken heart???
Q. Hi again Aunt/ uncle agonies. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read. I am going through an awful breakup, and all i wanna do is move on. I've been getting advice from all my friend on how to achieve this, but for some odd reason every sug...
A. 9 September 2011: For a majority of women, I think this is a resounding NO. If you don't normally act that way, and it sounds like this is definitely the case, then what will happen is that your self esteem will actually be even lower after you "act a slut". In ... (read in full...)
Will my strategy to ask her out work?
Q. She's a good friend, I think we both have feeling for each other, so Im going to make the first move and ask if we could date. Would it be fine (put yourself in her shoes) if I asked her if she had time to quickly meet up during the weekend so t...
A. 2 September 2011: OP, from what you just described it sounds like things are already headed in the right direction. You're doing just fine! She let you pay for the second dinner "date". There was more flirting. Those are clear signs of progress.
My advice is just ... (read in full...)
Will my strategy to ask her out work?
Q. She's a good friend, I think we both have feeling for each other, so Im going to make the first move and ask if we could date. Would it be fine (put yourself in her shoes) if I asked her if she had time to quickly meet up during the weekend so t...
A. 1 September 2011: I find it best to avoid using the word "date" or any form of it. It makes things awkward. Girls are keenly aware of what kind of activity constitutes a date and what doesn't. If you ask a girl a question such as "I'd like to take you out, when do ... (read in full...)
Why is dating a middle aged man so hard?
Q. Why is dating a middle aged man so hard? He's 43 and I'm 30. He doesn't call much but when he does, its a 2 hour chat. He calls only once or twice a week. When we go out, its an all day outing. I've told him we can hang out for only a couple of ...
A. 1 September 2011: I'm a believer in taking things slowly myself, but the way the OP describes this relationship it sounds much too slow for an adult relationship. Honestly, this is how I'd expect a school age, first-love kind of relationship to start out. This guy is ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to see if he contacts me?
Q. how long do i wait before i move on? Went on a first date, at the end he said 'you should holler at me some time' i said okay, but im not one to 'holler' at guys. so am i supposed to contact him first?? i would just like to wait to see if he ...
A. 1 September 2011: Again, no... I suggest you do not contact him. While I acknowledge that is what he said when your first date ended, the main thing here is a guy's actions and not his words. If he's interested in you, he will pursue. He will call and ask you for a ... (read in full...)
Will my strategy to ask her out work?
Q. She's a good friend, I think we both have feeling for each other, so Im going to make the first move and ask if we could date. Would it be fine (put yourself in her shoes) if I asked her if she had time to quickly meet up during the weekend so t...
A. 31 August 2011: I have to agree with the advice you've gotten to this point. Your plan is pretty formal for the times, puts pressure on you and her, and comes across as awkward and needy, and maybe even desperate. Women are much more comfortable when relationships ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to see if he contacts me?
Q. how long do i wait before i move on? Went on a first date, at the end he said 'you should holler at me some time' i said okay, but im not one to 'holler' at guys. so am i supposed to contact him first?? i would just like to wait to see if he ...
A. 30 August 2011: First, I agree with the advice not to call him, even though he asked you to contact him after your first date. If a guy is truly interested he will pursue. I'm not an advocate of playing games, but expecting a guy to put in some effort is very ... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that he's having a family with someone other than me
Q. I have a problem. Back in January, I was told by a guy on facebook that my on again off again boyfriend and father of my three year son was seeing another woman while he was trying to work things out with me. At first I wasn't bothered by it since ...
A. 21 July 2011: I'm sorry to have to give this advice, but unfortunately your ex is not someone you should waste time on. He's done to another woman what he did to you. He got you both pregnant. He cheated on both of you. That's all you need to know.
For the sake... (read in full...)
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