My husband wants me to wait 6 years to have children but I'm all ready at 27
Q. So my husband and i had a huge argument about having children. He's 23 and I'm 27. We had spoken about it before we got married and i had stated quite clearly that (at 26) I didn't want to wait more than four years as i think having children late ...
A. 30 July 2012: I've been on holiday and just saw the most recent followup and reply. I have to say I disagree with calling the OP's husband selfish. If he is not ready to be a father, then he is not ready. As a fellow man, I find his desire to establish himself in ... (read in full...)
He had sex with his ex. Do I forgive and forget?
Q. Ok My ex-boyfriend tryed to breakup with me, he said maybe we should be friends. But then I was saying sorry, so he said forget about everything. So he came over and I started crying, then he said he wouldn't leave me ect. Then we had sex, so then ...
A. 18 July 2012: Thank you for posting the followups! With the new info that the relationship was having a bit of trouble before he slept with the ex, I definitely think the best thing to do is give him space. He needs to clear his head, and honestly it would also ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to wait 6 years to have children but I'm all ready at 27
Q. So my husband and i had a huge argument about having children. He's 23 and I'm 27. We had spoken about it before we got married and i had stated quite clearly that (at 26) I didn't want to wait more than four years as i think having children late ...
A. 17 July 2012: "I think the problem comes from the fact his brother has so many children and had them a such a young age he just sees kids as something that ruins your life and takes your freedom." I was honestly thinking this could be a factor, too. I have seen... (read in full...)
We have feelings for each other but my sister likes him!
Q. Recently I've been spending a lot of time with a guy I've been good friends with for years. I was actually dating a close find of his a few years back. I have had a little crush on him for a few weeks now and spent all week with him this past week(i ...
A. 17 July 2012: This sounds like things could get really messy really quickly. Your ex is this guy's close friend, the two of you have feelings, and your sister also has feelings for him? Personally, this is not a relationship I would pursue. Too many close ties.... (read in full...)
He had sex with his ex. Do I forgive and forget?
Q. Ok My ex-boyfriend tryed to breakup with me, he said maybe we should be friends. But then I was saying sorry, so he said forget about everything. So he came over and I started crying, then he said he wouldn't leave me ect. Then we had sex, so then ...
A. 17 July 2012: It sounds to me like this guy did try to be somewhat honorable with you. He felt guilty about reconnecting with his ex, so he tried to breakup with you. So I don't think he's trying to keep you as his gf and see her as side action. For whatever ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and insecure of my boyfriend's childhood female friend. He admitted that he once loved her!
Q. I am feeling insecure about my bf and his female friend. My bf and I have been together for a couple of years and we live together, mostly quite happily. He and his friend have known eachother since they were small children. They have went on out of ...
A. 16 July 2012: My own opinion is that your boyfriend has likely had a crush on this girl for quite some time, probably years, and she has relegated him to the friend-zone. I'm not saying he would or has cheated on you, or that he would even break up with you if ... (read in full...)
I've been lied to again but don't know how to confront her...
Q. I've just found out from my girlfriend's brother in-law that she deceived me again. To cut a long story short, she's lied to me a few times on about where she's been and other different things. I met up with my girlfriends brother in-law to ta...
A. 16 July 2012: I have been in your shoes. I had suspicions over a period of many months, even years, before I came across irrefutable proof that my ex-wife was lying and cheating. My first reaction was almost exactly like yours. I wanted to confront her. I wanted ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to wait 6 years to have children but I'm all ready at 27
Q. So my husband and i had a huge argument about having children. He's 23 and I'm 27. We had spoken about it before we got married and i had stated quite clearly that (at 26) I didn't want to wait more than four years as i think having children late ...
A. 13 July 2012: I agree with the advice given by kc 100%. This is, unfortunately, the primary reason older woman / younger man relationships ultimately do not work out, and why the opposite type of relationship (younger woman / older man) often DO work out. Men and ... (read in full...)
I've been lied to again but don't know how to confront her...
Q. I've just found out from my girlfriend's brother in-law that she deceived me again. To cut a long story short, she's lied to me a few times on about where she's been and other different things. I met up with my girlfriends brother in-law to ta...
A. 13 July 2012: I'm sorry to have to give you this advice, but the best thing you can do is get out now, before things get any worse. She's lying about here whereabouts and sleeping over who knows where? She asked for space then went on holiday for a week? Ther... (read in full...)
Is he cheating, or is my past catching up with me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months n we were on a solid path. It's been work to secure him of his trust issues as well as mine. The last relationship I was in ended over a year ago to a cheating man. So before I met my current bf I went ...
A. 13 July 2012: Unfortunately, Chlamydia can in fact lay dormant for months, or even years, with minimal symptoms. It can be a low grade fever that isn't even noticed by the infected person.
So with that in mind, I agree with your gyno. It is entirely possible... (read in full...)
Why do women insist on pursuing a man knowing that he's in a relationship?
Q. This question is primarily for females. Why is it when u meet someone new or connect with someone from ur past and one of u are in a relationship with someone else, WHY DO WOMEN PERSIST ON SEDUCING THE PERSON KNOWING THEIR IN A RELATIONSHIP? Is it ...
A. 11 July 2012: Let me flip this around for a moment, and share that I once pursued a woman who was in a relationship even though I knew she was taken. I was single, she was engaged and living with her fiance. What was I thinking? That the only reason she was ... (read in full...)
How long should an erection last?
Q. Hello, I am 20yrs, and have this issue about sexual erection. Well,I am a virgin and lately I have become quite concerned about just how long should a sexual erection last? I feel quite uncomfortable when I am horny especially in the morning sinc...
A. 11 July 2012: Unfortunately, no. I have found that the ability to maintain an erection for a long time without stimulation does not correlate to how long you can last having sex. If I'm really into a woman and I don't pace myself, I can have an orgasm within a ... (read in full...)
How long should an erection last?
Q. Hello, I am 20yrs, and have this issue about sexual erection. Well,I am a virgin and lately I have become quite concerned about just how long should a sexual erection last? I feel quite uncomfortable when I am horny especially in the morning sinc...
A. 11 July 2012: Yes, that's normal. I've had morning wood erections that last for multiple hours, even at age 36. Usually this is when I'm laying in bed, horny, and in a state of semi-consciousness. As long as you aren't taking anything like Viagra then there is ... (read in full...)
If the scar on my thigh going to turn guys off when I start having sex?
Q. When I was little I was bitten by a donkey, and I have this massive scar on my thigh. I worry that when I finally have sex, men will be repulsed by the scar. Should I try and hide it with make-up or something??? ...
A. 11 July 2012: Definitely do not worry about it. When you are old enough for sex, and I stress that you should not rush into it and instead wait for the right time, the lucky guy you choose will be so happy he's seeing you naked AND you're willing to have sex with ... (read in full...)
Why would he go away so far, with a woman 24 years younger? And leave his devoted loving wife?
Q. so i know this is out there a lot but my husband left me for a younger girl 24 years younger. they are living together oh and she has a 2 year old. Anyway just wanted to know if anyone could shed light on why he would leave a good wife that woul...
A. 27 June 2012: I have to agree with the majority. This situation is, unfortunately, not uncommon. My uncle did this to my aunt about 10-15 years ago. In their case the marriage did ultimately continue (they got divorced, then remarried on their original wedding ... (read in full...)
Older female falls for young men and gets hurt every time! Do I stop, or alter how I feel about the inevitable end?
Q. i know im in trouble. i even know how i got here. i just dont know how to stop. im a girl who is an artist and i enjoy the company of artistic feeling when it comes to love; sensuality, beauty, emotional feeling and connection, spunk and spirit...
A. 25 June 2012: In my latest post I meant to say I can empathize with the OP. Spell-check picked the wrong word.... (read in full...)
Older female falls for young men and gets hurt every time! Do I stop, or alter how I feel about the inevitable end?
Q. i know im in trouble. i even know how i got here. i just dont know how to stop. im a girl who is an artist and i enjoy the company of artistic feeling when it comes to love; sensuality, beauty, emotional feeling and connection, spunk and spirit...
A. 25 June 2012: To address the OP's latest follow up, I am a single father with primary custody of my daughter. So I know how difficult getting out for dates, or even meeting potential mates can be. I can emphasize when it comes to the cost of getting a sitter, ... (read in full...)
Older female falls for young men and gets hurt every time! Do I stop, or alter how I feel about the inevitable end?
Q. i know im in trouble. i even know how i got here. i just dont know how to stop. im a girl who is an artist and i enjoy the company of artistic feeling when it comes to love; sensuality, beauty, emotional feeling and connection, spunk and spirit...
A. 22 June 2012: I may take some flak for this, but I'm here to give my honest and unfiltered opinions and advice, so here it goes...
I am 36 and have been single on and off for the last few years. When I first "hit the market" again after a 10 year marriage... (read in full...)
Is there any way to salvage this relationship after the text I sent? Is it even worth it?
Q. I met this guy in an online date app. He is frickin gorgeous! We talked for a few days and decided to meet up for lunch. The first few dates went fairly well, and we even kissed a time or two on the second. He seemed very interested. So, all t...
A. 21 June 2012: I suggest you let it go, OP, and also that you try not to fret too much over it. The fact that he wouldn't give you a straight answer when you invited him to go swimming, that the communication slowed down after the second date, and that he flat out ... (read in full...)
Do I write him off to the island of lost men?
Q. Hi, I need some relationship advice. I have spoken to the friends, who tell me to write him off to the island of lost men! I am too. But why are even the nice guys like this. (and we are late 20's/early 30's not even teens) I met a guy, 2 ...
A. 18 June 2012: I sound pretty similar to this guy, except I'm probably a few years older at 36. My advice is also to write him off as a lost cause. If he were still interested, he would have contacted you by now. Something, or a combination of things, has probably ... (read in full...)
How do I get my guy to change the motion he uses during sex?
Q. i have problem , i really don`t enjoy the in and out thrusting during sex ,it`s not pleasurable for me so i want to ask my boyfriend to go for slow circular mouvement but i don`t know if cicular mouvement inside the vagina feels good to me...
A. 12 June 2012: To add a different bit of advice, why not take control? Get on top of your boyfriend and take charge for a while. It's nice to change things up like that to keep it fresh and interesting, plus it is another way to communicate to your boyfriend the ... (read in full...)
I've had 3 kids and b/f says I'm tight. Is he just saying that? I don't quite believe him
Q. I have 3 kids and I'm engaged to be married. I've been with my fiance for almost a year now and one thing he says really bother me when we have sex. He always says my vagina is really tight and how he loves having sex with me. His average size down ...
A. 8 June 2012: The tightest woman I've been with to this point was the mother of two children. I have been with women who haven't had any kids who were not nearly as tight as her. I personally don't feel there's any correlation between having children and ... (read in full...)
My wife is still in touch with former lovers ....
Q. I'm very concerned about something that I dont know if I should be. I married a little over a week ago. I've known my wife for nearly 3 years. When we first started dating, I'm not positive she was exclusive with me, and I found evidence about 6 ...
A. 7 June 2012: I'm very sorry to say this, OP, but I see several red flags. Your wife was FWB with a married man, so that brings into question her morals. She's apparently hiding communication from you, another no-no. The fact that she's still in contact with ... (read in full...)
Can't get my bf to cum when I give him Oral
Q. i need help! i recently gave my boyfriend oral for the first time and i couldn't get him to cum! i asked him what i could do and he just said don't worry its not your fault. and i said well why couldnt i? what was different? and he just said it ...
A. 6 June 2012: Sandman gave excellent advice. I happen to be one of those guys who doesn't cum from oral. It has only ever happened one time, and once a girl tried for two hours - no exaggeration - and couldn't make me orgasm.
So it could be the way your boy... (read in full...)
He already has a girlfriend of a year and has been married twice
Q. A man recently added me on Facebook through a good mutual friend. First we just made friendly conversation and such, then he asked if I wanted to meet up for coffee. I agreed. We got along really well. He already has a girlfriend of a year and has ...
A. 1 June 2012: He's too old for you, he likely has commitment issues - meaning he is willing to commit prematurely when the relationship isn't really healthy, and he uses Facebook as a pseudo-dating site. All of that is bad news.
Time to distance yourself... (read in full...)
Guys: Is a bossy girl a massive turn off?
Q. Hey, i was talking to my friends the other day about guys we've hooked up with and now im a bit worried. When im with a guy i tend to sort of tell them what I want them to do...like if they're not turning me on, i'll say 'do this is me...'. But my ...
A. 1 June 2012: I like a vocal girl who gives me qualify feedback, and is confident enough to take control once in a while. If a girl is constantly bossing, though, then yes that becomes a turn off. It's also bad when a girl never says anything, though. The key is ... (read in full...)
Would you date a woman/person who is separated?
Q. Hi everyone. I am especially interested in MEN'S opinions but this question is open to everyone: Would you date a woman who is separated if you liked her or would her separated status stop you from asking her out or considering her for a lon...
A. 30 May 2012: As a formerly married man who went through a divorce, I can tell you definitively that I would not get involved with a woman who is separated from her spouse. Would I be her friend? Sure. But no dating, no relationship, and I would not pursue her. ... (read in full...)
She cheated twice but I still love her, help!
Q. Hey guys, i need some advice. My girlfriend and i have been together for roughly 2 and half years. We live in the same home town but go to school 5 hours apart. We wanted to make the long distance relationship work. At the beginning of the year it ...
A. 23 May 2012: It's going to hurt to let her go, but it will hurt even more if you don't and she cheats again, which will happen. She's very young and her actions show that she doesn't respect you or the relationship. Time to move on.... (read in full...)
How do porn actress do things with no health risks?
Q. How do porn actresses do things like a2m and rimjobs without any health risks? And how do they prep for anal to make it look so easy?...
A. 23 May 2012: The only true answer is - they don't. When a porn actress does a2m she is putting herself at risk. Whether the actresses know it or not depends on how gullible or astute they are... but even the ones who are well aware of it do it anyway because of ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends best "girl"friend is a roach. I need a terminator!
Q. I NEED HELP! Here is my story... so at a point, my boyfriend of 3 years was in prison. At first, we were not together, I broke it off because I wasn't gonna deal with what he was doing. While he was gone we began writing and eventually got back ...
A. 23 May 2012: OP, here's what you need to do in my view - distance yourself from this entire mess.
It sounds like you have your life together. You have a job. You have sound moral standards. You're stable, not the type to go off on someone.
So, why then ... (read in full...)
I'm on birth control, but I don't know why I haven't beaten the odds
Q. Im almost 17, And i cant stop thinking about being pregnant... I know this is odd, and i'm not crazy, its just, okay, Im faithful with my birth control pills, and me and my boyfriend do have sex a lot, and im just curious on how i'm not pregnant? t...
A. 1 May 2012: My ex-wife was sexually active and on birth control pills starting at a young age. The pill truly is very effective when taken correctly. During our relationship when she was taking the pill she never got pregnant and her cycle was very regular. ... (read in full...)
Like a girl at work but she is seeing someone so I'd rather move on than be friends. So what is she doing now she claims she wants to go on another works night out soon?
Q. Hi, I really like one of my colleagues. I know this is not always a good idea, but I work in a big company and we don't work that closely together. We went out on a big works do a few weeks back and got on well but she went home early as she was ...
A. 30 April 2012: I agree completely with AuntyEm. In fact, her suggestion also tells me that she knows you like her, and she's trying to diffuse the situation. She wants to put you into the "friend zone", hence her suggestion of another work night out. If you didn't ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on holiday with his ex wife and kids, should I just accept it or should I say something?
Q. Iv been dating a guy since January and he has just told me that at the end of may he will be going on holiday for a week to Tenerife with his ex wife and their two children. He says it's just to make the children happy but I still feel jealous and ...
A. 27 April 2012: I've been through a divorce and my ex-wife and I have a daughter. I would NEVER think of going on a trip with her. I find it highly, highly irregular that your boyfriend wants to do this. It is difficult enough to move on from a failed marriage, and ... (read in full...)
I am separating, but my male friend is dating someone else. Why won't he wait for me?
Q. Here is my story. I am in the process of separating from my husband. The separation is in the beginning stages. We are going forward with it but are in the process of selling our home. Hubby works in another city and is rarely home which makes it ...
A. 26 April 2012: OP, I think it is unreasonable to ask someone to wait. For example, my recent ex-girlfriend and I had a breakup about a month ago. After a cooling off period we reconnected. She told me she wanted me in her life as a friend, but that she wasn't ... (read in full...)
How do I distingush whether he likes me or just likes to have sex?
Q. I started to date a guy and wish to have a serious long term relationship. If the guy want to have sex with me? How do i distingush whether he like me or just like to have sex? How long or how many dates should have before the intimacy? thanks an...
A. 24 April 2012: I agree with the advice given by Odds, and not really the advice given by traeumerin. You definitely shouldn't have sex with anyone before you feel comfortable, that's true. However, if you deliberately make a man who is experienced in dating wait, ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 24 April 2012: I'll be completely honest and say that I would date a woman who has done porn, but the relationship would never be anything serious. A woman who has been involved in porn does not share my values, so that would disqualify her from any kind of ... (read in full...)
What kind of guys are likely to be interested in me? My husband wants a divorce. Feels tough right now.
Q. Hi everyone need some positive advice. I have just turned 40 and my husband has left me and wants a divorce - we don't have any children. I am feeling numb and empty but we have had a bad marriage for a long time. However I am worried that I a...
A. 20 April 2012: As a single guy in the same age bracket, I'll be 36 in a couple weeks, I agree with the very first anonymous female poster. Your biggest serious relationship appeal will be with the 40-50 year old male group, who basically don't want children (they ... (read in full...)
Problem with girlfriend's past?
Q. So here's the issue. I am 18 and my girlfriend is 24, about to be 25. We met on a joke app (Funny Jokes) and found out we lived a couple hours away so we just started texting each other. Then we started Skyping and added each other on Facebook. And ...
A. 20 April 2012: You're only 18, but I'm very impressed with how mature and rational your approach to this relationship is. I have to agree with your mind and tell you to move on. There are many reasons I see why this won't work out. 1. Her history is too m... (read in full...)
We have been dating for over a year but still no sex!
Q. So I'm 24 and have been dating a man that is older than me, he is 40. He is the best guy any girl can have we have a really great connection. We have been dating for a little over a year now but we havent made it "official" we don't believe in ...
A. 20 April 2012: I'm with YouWish on this one. A 40 year old man has been seeing you for a year and you haven't had sex with him? That's a MAJOR red flag. You say you're a woman and have needs. I totally understand that. The other side of the coin is that unless t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend only lasts 5 minutes!
Q. My bf is 14yrs older. I notice now that I dont get more thsn 5 mins of sex with him. He lasted longer before. I dont know why. I just want an orgasm too. But I never get it....
A. 20 April 2012: My advice is to incorporate some foreplay into your sex life, or perhaps toys such as a vibrator or dildo. You'll have to experiment to find what's fun for both of you.
For example, my previous girlfriend would become too sensitive if she had an o... (read in full...)
He's stopped going down on me! What can I do?
Q. Hey there! I've been with my fiancé for a year now and we will get married in the Fall. I love him deeply and so does he. One little thing is bothering me though... at the beginning of our relationship he went down on me a lot and then he stopped. ...
A. 20 April 2012: I cannot disagree more with the advice given by some here. Issuing ultimatums... "I'll only go down on you if you go down on me"... is childish. It creates conflict and doesn't work toward a permanent solution. There are more creative and less ... (read in full...)
Worried that a future partner won't be as financially stable as my ex
Q. Hi All. Okay me and my long distant boyfriend of 9 months have just recently split up. The relationship was like a rollercoaster from day one, he would ignore me for days, accuse me of being with other people, act secretive i.e his phone, we split ...
A. 18 April 2012: Money isn't everything. It's only the shallow that forsake actual love and real relationships that are true partnerships, in exchange for money and a life of luxury. Eventually all of the shiny things lose their luster and you'd crave something ... (read in full...)
Is it alright for a married person to look up ex-boyfriend or girlfriends?
Q. Is it OK for a married person to lookup ex boyfriends or ex girlfriends? Our friend has been divorced for about 2 years now, and we're still friends with her since she was our friend before she married the POS loser. Anyway, she has been searchi...
A. 18 April 2012: I agree completely with your friend. Nothing good, at all, can come of contacting ex's. What's the point? They're an ex for a reason, and are best left in the past.
I think your friend is odd for looking into this, or they still have feelings... (read in full...)
Is it normal for sexual orientation to shift over time?
Q. Is it normal for your sexual orientation to change over time? When I was around 15-17, I identified as bi, then for a couple years something changed (no reason, it just did) and I was pretty much exclusively into guys, and now (when I'm 19) I'm ...
A. 12 April 2012: To be perfectly honest, I'm not sure how normal this is. I'm straight and have been ever since I first started noticing girls as a preteen boy.
However, it is true that as we get older and mature our perspectives change, and what we desire i... (read in full...)
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