Love and bills.
Q. Hello, I'm in a relationship with a man who loves me and knows about my past. However, I have big financial woes (he knows about that too). I've almost 30 thousand dollars of debt in credit cards and personal loans. I'm embarrassed by i...
A. 27 December 2010: The person you really need to talk to is a bankruptcy attorney. Please, call one up. The initial consultation is free, and an expert is the only one who can advise you of what to do. Best of luck!... (read in full...)
Son's girlfriend cheated, now his whole outlook on life has changed.
Q. I need help really badly. My son he has been down for the last year or so. He had a girlfriend who he loved a lot. He did things for this for this girl that were super romantic and she reciprocated. I liked her. 5 years later,, and I repeat my son ...
A. 27 December 2010: I'm afraid dirtball is correct. While I can empathize with you as I am myself a parent, the hard reality is that some things our children must get over by themselves. Your son is only 21 and has had his heart broken (crushed and ripped out, really) ... (read in full...)
He is everything I've ever wanted in a man, but can I take this chance?
Q. I am a 35 year old single mother of one 8 year old girl. I was with her father for 13 years before he decided to leave. He is still in her life but we do not get along due to his verbal abuse and disrespect. it took me a while to trust men again bu...
A. 27 December 2010: I don't know anything about this guy other than what the OP posted, but I'm a little concerned that at age 28 he's still in school and living with his parents. Also, the OP didn't state how long she's been seeing this guy. If it has been less than ... (read in full...)
She is married but said she wants to marry me and have children with me, but now she has told me she needs some time! Why the change of mind so suddenly?
Q. Hi everyone, please help me clear out my thought. I'm apologize for it kind of long. here is my situation. 7 years ago, me and this girl were really good friend, always hangout together and shared all our up and down with each other. we both have ...
A. 27 December 2010: I think the text means the same thing she said before - she needs time. She is asking you to wait for her, and she knows that waiting is painfully tormenting but that if you feel she's worth waiting for then you'll give her the space she needs.
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If I'm someone he would consider dating in the future, then why would he suggest us being FWB now??
Q. hello i have a quick question, iv been on and off talking to a guy while going through a difficult time trying to decide whether or not to just let my relationship go or patch things up. this new boy knows this and trys to tell me to let it go for a ...
A. 22 December 2010: As a man, my opinion is that this guy is nothing more than a player trying to talk you into bed. When he expressed interest in "dating" you in the future, I don't think he meant it as anything more than casually dating, as in a way to sleep with ... (read in full...)
I'm not ok with him hanging around with women he's slept with!
Q. Ok I'm not comfortable with a situation I'm in and im not sure how to address it.. To keep it simple..prior to my relationship, my bf racked up a large 'score' so to speak.. and he's from a small town so everytime he goes 'home' he's around or p...
A. 21 December 2010: Put simply, this guy is a player. You have legitimate reasons to feel insecure in the relationship, and I'm afraid that's just not going to get any better in time because of his past behavior. I suggest letting him go and finding someone with better ... (read in full...)
Could a relationship and sex with a much younger man be a good experience for me?
Q. I am 42 and I have only been attracting younger men lately. The youngest recently was 24. I told him that’s way too young for me (only 6 years older than my oldest son) but he keeps trying to tell me why it could work between us. Not buying it. He ...
A. 20 December 2010: I second the comments by Cerberus. Lately quite a few women who are a bit older than me have come on to me, in some cases quite aggressively. They aren't looking for anything serious, believe me! If you keep it casual you can have a lot of fun. Just ... (read in full...)
She is married but said she wants to marry me and have children with me, but now she has told me she needs some time! Why the change of mind so suddenly?
Q. Hi everyone, please help me clear out my thought. I'm apologize for it kind of long. here is my situation. 7 years ago, me and this girl were really good friend, always hangout together and shared all our up and down with each other. we both have ...
A. 20 December 2010: Part of the problem here is that she was married when she got involved with you. Speaking as someone who was in a failed marriage, she needs some time on her own to clear her head and get herself right. I suggest giving her space and letting her ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him so he can leave me alone?
Q. Somebody plz help me. I made a stupid decision that can cost me my marriage. I'm ashamed,embarrassed, and feel like crap. I got myself involved with a man at my job who liked to do phone sex. He is older than I and married. It was fun at first ...
A. 17 December 2010: I'm sorry, but someone this obsessed and crazy is very unlikely to be satisfied and "go away" if you have sex with him once. Rather, it is more likely it will just give him more leverage over you and lead to demands for even more sex.
You'v... (read in full...)
How do I shave without leaving stubble?
Q. How do i shave my pubic area? My boyfriend has recently asked my to completely shave my vagina, but when i did it with a razor, it just turned stubbly so wasn't very attractive. How do i shave without leaving stuble for a more sexy look?...
A. 17 December 2010: You use a razor and shaving cream, preferably while in the shower and that will give you a smooth pubic area. You'll need to shave often, as in daily, to avoid stubble.... (read in full...)
What are your top 5 "Must haves" and "Can't stands"
Q. Poll (just for fun). For women and men, for you, what are the top 5 "MUST HAVES" and the top 5 "CAN'T STANDS" when evaluating members of the opposite sex as a potential lifelong partner? I guess mine would be Must Haves: friendly dispos...
A. 17 December 2010: Must haves:
1. Physically fit & active, has to keep up with me
2. Intelligent, has to challenge me & keep me on my toes
3. Good values, has to have a value system that is compatible with my own
4. Close with family and a desire to have... (read in full...)
He has a thing for younger girls and I am worried he might try it on with me now I'm 18!
Q. So I am a senior in high school and 18. For two years now I have been singing with diffrent musicians at diffrent venues. Now that I am "legal" I am able to sing in bars....I have a new musician Im working with named "tom"...tom is 33..he has an ...
A. 16 December 2010: This guy sounds like a predator, and the fact that he has a live in girlfriend is a red flag. Do yourself a huge favor and keep things professional between him and yourself. If you get involved it will only lead to heartache.... (read in full...)
Thoughts on having sex on the first date?
Q. is it ok to have sex on the first date/night you meet someone?? recently i haven't had a lot of sex, its been almost 6 months, and although i thoroughly enjoy it, i feel the need to get out there and have a few one night stands.. ive been chatt...
A. 14 December 2010: As a guy, I will gladly accept first date sex. However, a girl that does that should know that she eliminates herself from any long term consideration. Instead I will view her as someone fun to hang out with once in a while, but not worthy of a ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that when I start to age, my 18 year old boyfriend will dump for a young hottie!
Q. I am a 32 year old woman. my boyfriend is 18. I love him like i've never loved another man. I'm just worried about the age difference. Men take longer to mature usually than women. I'm just so indecisive about this relationship and it's all ...
A. 11 December 2010: An 18 year old male is still more a boy than a man. He's going to change and evolve as he gets older. He doesn't have life figured out yet, or know what he wants out of it. What if in 10 or 15 years he decides he wants to start a family, for ... (read in full...)
Is it a turnoff to look older than you really are?
Q. I was out the other night with a group of friends, we went to a restaurant to eat. Our waitress looked about my age and was fairly attractive, and I made a comment to my friends saying as much. My friend's girlfriend looked at me funny and made a ...
A. 10 December 2010: I'm a bit of an expert on this topic as I started getting gray hair at age 20. By my mid 20's I had a fair amount of gray. It was for this reason that I primarily dated older women, eventually marrying someone who was 28 when I was 23.
Now a... (read in full...)
Should I settle for the unfit woman or wait patiently for the woman who is respectable?
Q. Hey I'm looking for some thoughts on my situation. I've taken a liking for a woman I met 2 months ago. The thing is I've since found she has a history of messing with married men and married women. She's also a compulsive lier but I'm still attrac...
A. 9 December 2010: Speaking from experience, have your fun with this one but DO NOT get into a serious relationship with her. If you find a woman to be unsuitable because of her shady past, believe me when I say that she is not going to change. I've been there and ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like anal sex with women?
Q. Why do guys like anal sex with women? Is it because it feels different or a bit "dirty?"...
A. 9 December 2010: The answer is yes to both. It feels different, as in tighter than vaginal intercourse. For some guys the "dirty" / taboo part of it is a turn on as well.... (read in full...)
Products to remove hair efficiently? And should you use lotion to make it smell better down there?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 months now, and all we've ever done physically is make out. He's not a virgin, but I am, and recently we've talked about trying oral together. I'm comfortable with our relationship moving forward ...
A. 9 December 2010: As a male, I can offer a different perspective on this topic.
First, about the scent I don't suggest taking any special precautions. Just be hygienic, but not to the point of obsession. That area should have a natural scent which many men find att... (read in full...)
Should I move on or wait a while for her?
Q. So I was seeing this girl for about a year. We did everything together and had everything but the official title of boyfriend and girlfriend. About six months ago I had some personal issues that came up that were going to take me away for a while so ...
A. 9 December 2010: My advice is to move on. Life isn't a rehearsal, it is a one shot deal. Time spent waiting, pining for someone is time wasted, time that you'll never get back. You can always keep the lines of communication open while dating other women, and ... (read in full...)
Why would he want me to smoke when I clearly don't want to???
Q. hey, im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. so he smokes pot and something else called buddha bud a lot. he says he doesnt do it that much but ive noticed that its a lot. he knows i dont like it. so last night we were texting and here is our ...
A. 5 December 2010: Why are you even with this guy? It appears obvious to me that your head is on straight and his is not. Sorry if this appears overly negative, but this guy smacks of a go-nowhere loser. You can do so much better.
But to answer your question... (read in full...)
He cheated and denied it... I'm stuck and want to get a divorce!
Q. im 36 with three kids under 10. ive been married for 11 years. my husband about a year and a half ago signed up on ashley madison .com. i found his profile three days after he signed up. at that time i also found out that he was talking to his ...
A. 5 December 2010: My situation is similar, yet different, because I'm a full time working dad who finds himself a single father now. My ex-wife was a cheater and I dealt with the same mental torment that you feel. It sucks, I know, but time will heal your wounds.
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For the guys: Have you ever made a move on a girl you did not like right away, but fell for after you got to know her?
Q. i need a guys opinion on this one... have you ever met a girl and straight off you the bat you were not attracted to her (she was overweight, not what you'd consider pretty, etc, etc). BUT, after getting to know her as a person things changed.....
A. 2 December 2010: I have to contradict the advice from Cerberus. I'm a very fit man and I spend a lot of time and effort keeping myself that way. I won't consider dating an overweight woman. It isn't that I'm shallow, because personality is very important to me, but ... (read in full...)
He has asked me to be his girlfriend but the only thing holding me back is his height!
Q. I have been seeing this guy for three weeks, we have kissed and i really like him but he is about 2 1/2 inches shorter than me. in public i tend to go a little apart from him just so it wont seem awkward, when in reality all i want is to hold his ...
A. 19 November 2010: I disagree completely with CargingGuy's advice. If a guy is perfect, other than his height, it is shallow to dump him because of something that he has no control over.... (read in full...)
Why are younger women attracted to older men?
Q. I am posting this to ask for opinions more so than answers. It is my hope that the opinions expressed by people in reply to this can help me to answer my question - myself. What I would like to get your opinions on is this Why do you think tha...
A. 11 November 2010: I have a few different things to say on this particular topic. First, I'll echo the speculation by the anon female poster who is asking whether the OP is interested in a girl that has a thing for older men. It does appear that may be a possible ... (read in full...)
Friendship... or more???
Q. Hi, Is it possible for a man to show a genuine interest in a woman's hobbies/interests (by asking her about them frequently) and talk about his family with her but not be 'attracted' to her. Can men that do these things still just be friends with ...
A. 7 November 2010: There's not enough info to say what his intentions are. Is this man married? If he is married then it is likely he's attracted to you, but only as a booty call. If on the other hand he's single, then I expect he just wants to be friends. Otherwise ... (read in full...)
Did anyone know immediately "Thats the girl I'm going to marry!"?
Q. Helloooo... Just a bit curious is all :) Haven't got a girlfriend, haven't for some time, still I'm quite happy where I stand. Yet a few joke that I'm more likely to marry then anyone else due to my understanding of girls... Lol. Did an...
A. 7 November 2010: I agree with aunt honesty. Moving too fast is a really bad idea, as it takes a long time to truly get to know someone.... (read in full...)
How do I approach my boyfriend about these butt comments?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were watching tv, and there was a shot of a girl with a big butt bending over. And he makes the comment "she ain't got any kind of panties on". Now in the past I have gotten upset at him oogling over YouTube videos of girls ...
A. 7 November 2010: I'm sorry, but I don't see anything wrong with your boyfriend's comment. You are honestly jealous of a girl on TV, or upset that he noticed she wasn't wearing panties? Those aren't rude behaviors in my opinion. I don't think any real guys exist who ... (read in full...)
Husband has me under lock and key I'm not happy but worry about our son
Q. my husband and i dated for about 2 years , found out we were pregnant, got married when i was 5 months pregnant had a beautiful boy,about 10 months after we had our boy we separated for about 7 or 8 months and durring that time i started to see ...
A. 7 November 2010: I agree completely with TWD's advice. I was in a miserable marriage, and tried to "make it work" for the sake of my daughter. I discovered the hard way that it is misguided to believe that staying together is always best. The truth is that no child ... (read in full...)
BJ with or without a tongue piercing
Q. How does a blow job feel with a tongue stud compared to one without? I've never had one with, but I am very turned on by a pierced tongue. I'll never get to experience a BJ with one, but was just wondering. ...
A. 7 November 2010: It's a good thing for sure. Part of is is mental, but there's also additional stimulation from the hardware. In my experience, the biggest difference is felt right at the start. A piercing turns up the heat in a hurry.... (read in full...)
I really don't want to hurt this man but I don't think I can be with him my whole life
Q. I am so conflicted right now. Sorry if this gets long - I am 27 in a relationship with someone who is 48. We met because we have a mutual sexual fetish that while completely normal and not one of those weird ones, is a little uncommon. I h...
A. 7 November 2010: I'm going to limit my comment to the aspect of religion. My advice is to be careful not to minimize the significance of differing views, specifically between those you hold and those of your dear friend. In my opinion, a couple must hold pretty ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll end up in love with him and he'll start going out with his ex again
Q. I don't know what to do. I recently started liking a guy from work. He became my friend and we talked and hang out together outside from work. He just got out of a bad relationship turns out his girlfriend cheated on him with his best friend and ...
A. 7 November 2010: This sounds really complicated. First of all, if this guy has any clue then he will not even thing about getting back with his ex. She cheated on him, that should be the end of it. Secondly, if he's still not completely over her then you definitely ... (read in full...)
Does that just happen in porno movies?
Q. Do you think it is really Possible to Cum while a guy is Fucking you from the back?? Because it always feels like its gonna cum squirting out but its either he dont do it long enough or that just happens in Porno movies....
A. 7 November 2010: First, a lot of what you see in porno's is just acting. They aren't exactly the best source of sexual guidance.
Yes, a woman can achieve orgasm while being penetrated from behind. However, many women cannot reach a climax without some clitoral... (read in full...)
Am I destined to be alone because I don't want children?
Q. I am a 25 year old female and I do not have children. I dont want children- never have and never will and this is something that I will not compromise on as its not fair to bring a child into this world that is not wanted. Anyways, that ...
A. 3 November 2010: I have several guy friends, and a brother, who do not ever want to have children. So you can certainly find guys who are like minded.
However, I find that the men who don't want to have children are also the kind that generally don't want to be "t... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend not want oral sex?
Q. Do guys love oral sex? Why does my bf does not want me to give him oral? we never did it but am really looking forward to it...
A. 2 November 2010: Honestly, not all guys enjoy receiving oral. I'm not into it much myself. If a girl really wants to give me oral I will let her, but it doesn't do anything for me and I never request it.... (read in full...)
For the men: Do you count on your wives to look after the house and kids, or do you take charge and help out around the house?
Q. i want to know how many guys out there who work full time are married and have kids. when you get home from work do you spend time with your kids, help with housework, dissapear and do your own thing? i dont mean to sound rude but im just curious ...
A. 1 November 2010: My ex-wife was the one that disappeared and did her own thing while I took care of our child, helping with homework and such. No surprise then that I have primary custody post divorce.... (read in full...)
If he cant orgasm through a hand job, what will happen when we have sex?
Q. hi, well i have a question for guys i dont know what to think, my boyfriend and me we dont have sex but we try hand job he has see me naked and i think he likes because he always has an erection when he see me naked or when he touch me but he never ...
A. 1 November 2010: Reaching a climax is 90% mental, so I wouldn't be alarmed if he can't orgasm from a hand job. It is probably something that he's just not into, rather than an indication of how attractive you are to him.... (read in full...)
My fiance has been cheating for the last 3 years! What do I do?
Q. Please help! I have been with my fiance for over 7 yrs and just found out he has been cheating on and off for the past 3 yrs! I am scared to be alone and would take a huge financial hit if we separate as we own businesses and real estate together. ...
A. 1 November 2010: CaringGuy is spot on. Speaking from experience, my ex-wife cheated on my for several years before I filed for divorce. I shouldn't have waited. I feared getting back into the dating game, but when I finally did at age 33 I found it to be a whole lot ... (read in full...)
His busy life is getting to me, what should I do for the best?
Q. Well hello there. :) I'm here just like half the other people here. Advice on a relationship. Here's my story; My boyfriend and I have been together for a little amount of time. Not the longest relationship on the record but it's a decent one. We're ...
A. 1 November 2010: You probably won't like my advice, but I think it is best if you moved on from your boyfriend. There are two reasons for my opinion. The first is that you cheated on him. Trust is the very foundation of a solid relationship, and unfortunately you've ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend too young for me?
Q. I really need some help i am 27 my boyfriend is 24 is that to young for me....
A. 1 November 2010: I dated several older women in my early 20's, and in fact my ex-wife is 5 years older than I am. My experience is that it just doesn't tend to work out in the long run when the woman is a little older than the guy. I'm generalizing here, but women ... (read in full...)
Can this relationship grow?
Q. My boyfriend and I don't have anything in common. He has things that he like to do and the same for me. He stated to me that he don't think our relationship will grow because we don't have anything in common. He wanted me to listen to this song of ...
A. 29 October 2010: In my experience, a couple needs to have a fairly large overlap in interests to survive. Put another way, I believe that the "opposites attract" concept is mostly bunk, as it just doesn't work over the long run.... (read in full...)
It was my first time without a condom and I'm very nervous!
Q. Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months. WE've had sex before but today I let him cum inside me for the first time. I'm on birth control and I've been on it for a while. I'm just a little nervous because my whole family is very ...
A. 29 October 2010: I think the advice given so far is too alarmist. Sure, there is a chance that a woman can become pregnant while on the pill. However, many couples rely upon the pill as their primary and only means of birth control, and do so quite successfully. If ... (read in full...)
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