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Should I worry if I'm the one who usually calls first?

Q.   I have a boyfriend that I have been with for almost a month and called him on Tuesday wanting to talk to him since I started school the next day, I called while he was eating so I said "How about you call me when you're done?" he said "ok" and that ...

A.   6 September 2008: You are being played. It is called the game. You are being psyched out until you submit to his voice at his appointed time. run for your live. Many professionals and boys are learning that technique and playing it on girls that they do not want. ... (read in full...)

Ever since my two best friends became friends I've felt left out!

Q.   So here's the thing, I have these two best friends *Karissa* and *Jason*. I've known both of them since Kindergarten. The three of us drifted apart. Then, in the 8th grade, Jason and I reconnected and became best friends. We stayed this way all ...

A.   6 September 2008: So what. Stop clinging to those people. go meet new people and always keep in touch with the old. they love you but they want to expand their territories. do the same while remaining friend with them the way they want it to be.... (read in full...)

My parents don't aprove of my boyfriend because he's a few years older than me. What do I do?

Q.   Okay, so I went to this camp, Habitat for Humanity, and I met the greatest guy. He's sweet, caring, and we have ALOT in common. He really likes me, and he is dealing with my emotional baggage and all my other problems and faults. The only problem ...

A.   6 September 2008: You are only 13. You are too young to already want a male partner. A male partner will do sex with you for sure. Yeahhhhhhhhh and because your body is so young you are at risk for cancer inside your kouchi kouchi YEAAAAAAAAAAA and love has a wa... (read in full...)

Je suis desolé

Q.   Je suis desolé I never meant for it to end this way, Your woe breaks my heart, I guess what I want to say, Is I don’t want us to part. It kills me that I upset you so, I was just so happy to know you, I hate that I made you feel so ...

A.   6 September 2008: Hey that is life. that is a nice thing to go back and say I am truly sorry. It takes a big person to do that. ... (read in full...)

How do I live with my boyfriend and avoid sex?

Q.   I want to live with my boyfriend. How can I avoid sex before marriage? What excuse should I give when he asks for that? ...

A.   23 August 2008:  You are too stupid for your own good. You are your worse ennemy. I bet you a dollar no matter what we tell you after a month you will be doing kouchi kouchi all day with him. See respect and integrity should be within you. do not go curling ... (read in full...)

I'm very skinny and I feel very depressed because of my thin figure.

Q.   Ever since I was a small child I have been extremely slim. I have always looked slim! I have always been made fun out of because of this, people used to call me (and still do) twiggy, skinny, flat, a LINE (!), even a STICK. I always used to ask m...

A.   23 August 2008: Well you belong to one that only likes skinny looking girls. Take your time and wait for him instead of trying to belong.... (read in full...)

Any good ways to tone up my tummy fast?

Q.   i feel really embarrassed in front of guys about the way my tummy looks. its kinda fat and i wanna get it looking good for summer so i can comfortably wear bikinis, spesh in front of guys. are there any really good ways to tone ur tum fast? thx xx...

A.   23 August 2008: there are no quick fix for this one. Start at least one day you will be proud and the boys too will be proud.... (read in full...)

He says that he cannot be a friend to me any longer, because he loves me! But I do not reciprocate.

Q.   my best friend who is a guy says he has feelings for me. weve been friends for 8 months and we talk and txt all the time. we enjoy each other's company. when he said that he has feelings for me, i thort it would ruin our friendship because his ex is ...

A.   23 August 2008: Too much drama. Stop talking to both of them for a while. Stop playing soap opera. Get yourself another friend and another man. it is never wise to scratch your friend for a boy because always the boy will dump you. He sound sweet because you ... (read in full...)

Hot and cold relationship! Is she frightened of commitment?

Q.   For the past year I have had an on/off relationship with a woman aged 42(I am the same age). By on/off what I mean is she blows hot and cold. Whenever she has ended the relationship, saying she just wants to be freinds she has maintained constant...

A.   23 August 2008: I wish I knew what I know and answered you `a year ago. this guy is not frustrating you for nothing he is controlling your emotions. it is a deadly game. where they call you every day and suddenly stop calling, they will not answer your calls, will ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with our best friend, but I don't want to hurt my husband or break up our friend's marriage.

Q.   okay here it is.about three years ago i started sleeping with my husband and mine's bestfriend. but I fell inlove with him .i told him i was inlove he said he loved me too.he's also married with 3 kids.he is not happy in his marriage but feels his ...

A.   23 August 2008: Men always say that they are unhappy in their marriage when they want to have some free exiting time with you. In return they will stay with what makes them unhappy. and if by chance they live and marry you then you will become the unhappy one. ... (read in full...)

Why would he lead me on in a long distance romance?

Q.   I met a guy(we'll call him Pete) two months ago at my friend's wedding. We were both staying there the week leading up to it, and hit it off...even though I have a boyfriend. The night before the wedding he kissed me. Nothing else happened because ...

A.   23 August 2008: You are being pranked, psyched and toyed with. the love story is in your brain. he has done nothing, nothing to make himself love. Love yourself and I wish I knew what I know and answered you `a year ago. this guy is not frustrating you for noth... (read in full...)

He's recovering from prostate cancer, any suggestions on how to please him sexually as he pleases me?

Q.   my guy friend had prostrate cancer a year ago and figures he hasn't got feeling back yet the way he's supposed to, but the other night I started giving him head and he almost got an errection, any suggestions to help me please him as much as he ...

A.   23 August 2008: Ask your doctor how long that should take before normal sexual experience. I also know that trauma cause a lot of emotional strain. That is one year that you have been bending backward to get that darn thing to get up. Now it is time to love ... (read in full...)

My BF would like me to use a strap on dildo on him. Any suggestions?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have quite an adverterous sex life where we like to try lots of new things . Lately we've been doing a lot of anal play and my boyfriend feels he would really get turned having me f___ him with a strap on dildo. I have no problem ...

A.   23 August 2008: You sound like an unpaid prostitute. For me to do so much to please a partner I want to see the rock in my finger first. since that you are so willing and you have no bounderies why doesn't he chose a d for you. By the time a good man will chose ... (read in full...)

Why would he lead me on in a long distance romance?

Q.   I met a guy(we'll call him Pete) two months ago at my friend's wedding. We were both staying there the week leading up to it, and hit it off...even though I have a boyfriend. The night before the wedding he kissed me. Nothing else happened because ...

A.   23 August 2008: Girl you are in training. I repeat, in training. It is a prank that boys and men play on girl that has romantic follies. they lead you on , some kind of cinderalla stories for some times and after that you are addicted to them., they dump you. ... (read in full...)

She is going back to her ex for the sake of the kids even though she loves me more!

Q.   i have been seeing a girl for the past few months, we have become very close and have fallen in love with each other! she has been getting pressure from her ex to get back together and has been pulling on her heartstrings and saying she should give ...

A.   23 August 2008: Tell your girl that what is outside is always more attracting. If you were in and her husband was out, she then would like the husband more.... (read in full...)

I don't know how to act around guys

Q.   Hi. I don't know when i'm acting over the top around guys, i want to look funny and sweet.. but i think i might look demented. I don't think i look nice, i tell friends that i look fat when i'm skinny as a stick. It's hard to say that i like them...

A.   23 August 2008: Easy. Forget them . Be busy loving yourself and caring for yourself, and making yourself happy. and the whole world will follow you... (read in full...)

Are there possibilities of pregnancy with the withdrawal method?

Q.   If you have unprotected sex can you get pregnant if the guy stops before he comes. I did and we were disturbed so stopped before he did but i have skipped a period. Is it my imagination or is it possible...

A.   23 August 2008: Yes, Yes, Yes, and Yes. You soon will be pregnant. ... (read in full...)

I just wish he'd wake up one day and tell himself, I was the one he wanted, and not his girlfriend.

Q.   I met this guy recently. It didn't take long before the innocent talks became outrageously flirtacious. I am totally into this guy, and I know he would definetly go for it, if he was single.. I don't know much about the two of them together, ex...

A.   23 August 2008: Wake up. You are setting yourself up for grab. If a man did not tell you he love you = He Does not. however they will take anything you throw up their way. Your choice.... (read in full...)

I'm stressing over the smallest things! Please help!

Q.   i seem to have a problem latley......I cannot stop worrying over tiny little things or stressing over things that dont even matter! is there something wrong with me, is there any treatments out there that could help this...Im stressig over tommorow ...

A.   23 August 2008: You probably have some deep angry feelings that you have never let go. these angry feeling will surface in small thins and they will destroy your health at the end. Expect diabeties, high blood pressure,cancer etc.... and your facial expression ... (read in full...)

She said she cannot commit to a relationship, why then was she flirty? How to progress with this?

Q.   I have been going out with this girl for about three months, although we have kind of paused twice whilst we each went on holiday about a month of that. We are both 33, and it has been a year since we both broke up from long term relationships. We ...

A.   23 August 2008: Back off and be only a friend until you understand her.First make sure that she is not toying with you . Second make sure that she is not interested to someone else. 3rd. Make sure that she is not traumatized by the last jerk. Stay calm and coll... (read in full...)

Does milk serve as a facial care product? What else could I use for this purpose?

Q.   hi i was just wondering if u can use milk (like drinking milk) to get rid of or to help reduce the appearance of spots on the face or any other area. i read that u culd on a website but i didnt know if it was true can u let me no if it is or ...

A.   23 August 2008: Depending on your age. If you are still in the teen years, most likely you will end up having pimples except if you drink complete fat free milk. If you want nice skin, try to care for it inside out. Like Juicing every day. your 5 fruits and ... (read in full...)

He's sending mixed signals, it's so frustrating, what can I do!

Q.   I'm really confused about this guy I know. He is definitely attracted to me (and I to him) but he keeps sending mixed signals. He goes through these periods of time flirting with me in a very obvious way and then when it comes to a point that he ...

A.   17 August 2008: I wish I knew what I know and answered you `a year ago. this guy is not frustrating you for nothing he is controlling your emotions. it is a deadly game. where they call you every day and suddenly stop calling, they will not answer your calls, ... (read in full...)

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