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Got none of my own, but feel passionate about young people having the happiest lives that they are capable of. I try not to judge, but my temper gets away from me sometimes and I can be too hasty in my words and jumping in where I may not be wanted. Mean no harm... Party on baby......
The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They have special services for teenagers in the UK and are able to provide advice and support.
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Porn Is Like A Drug
Q. Every thing I see and every body I talk to keeps on telling us young people how natural masturbating while watching porn is. But what I am here to say is "no". I believe that doing the aforementioned thing is bad. Now I'm not saying masturbation is b...
A. 24 July 2008: PS: It's not a very mature attitude to post an article, asking for debate about an issue, then saying your not listening and refuse to change your mind. What was the point of asking adults about their experience. If you think your gonna convince ... (read in full...)
Porn Is Like A Drug
Q. Every thing I see and every body I talk to keeps on telling us young people how natural masturbating while watching porn is. But what I am here to say is "no". I believe that doing the aforementioned thing is bad. Now I'm not saying masturbation is b...
A. 24 July 2008: Yes Grant, thanks for posting such an interesting article. One of the problems I have is that we speak about "porn" without really defining what it is. Are we talking magazines and video's here, or are we talking about all the erotic literature ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant and I'm only 15!
Q. i think i might be pregnant and im only 15! i am with the person whos it will be and have been 4 9 months now. tests r 2 expensive and they dont do them 4 free any where now. what am i suspose to do? and do u think my life will be over if i have a ...
A. 24 July 2008: Thanks Grant for frightening this young girl with your ignorance and bullshit. But luckily for her, she lives in the UK and will be treated kindly by our doctors and nurses who have more education, intelligence and medical knowledge than you'll ... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 24 July 2008: Your right about that Artistry, this man is educated, charming and very skilled. He's a good listener, kind, sensitive, not selfish and and very intelligent. He can speak a bit of Russian, can play the guitar and he's articulate, and well spoken. ... (read in full...)
We used protection, but now my period is late - could I be pregnant?
Q. hi cupids, im abit scared as my periods have gone all weird :-S i lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 11 months who i love dearly on the 13th june, yeah friday the 13th! and it was an amazin experience, he made it so special and i will never ever...
A. 24 July 2008: Your scared and your worried, that will cause problems with your periods. You used a condom and are on the pill, so you should be safe. If your in doubt contact your doctor or clinic again.
The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service.... (read in full...)
Any other ways besides hand jobs, blow jobs and intercourse for him to cum?
Q. hellooo just need some advice on the sexual front... ive recently got together with this guy and we are slowly moving onto more sexual activities... i havent slept with anyone and dont plan to do either (well before im married anyway) so we...
A. 24 July 2008: Fair enough Q, OK he care's enough to give you pleasure, I'll give him that. Have you tried a 69, oral sex together. You don't come, untill he has come, that should focus your attention on his pleasure.
A slow hand is good, stroking and kissing ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend kicked me and my daughter out after I lost our baby! Why is he like this?
Q. ive beenwith my boyfriend a few months and he had my little girl and me move out of county with him then i got pregnant. he was very happy then i lost the baby he got angry and told me i had until the end of the month to take my daughter and go and ...
A. 24 July 2008: A man who gets angry because a woman loses a baby and wants to throw her and her daughter out on the street is no good. If I was you, I'd be frightened for my daughters safety and move away as soon as I could. Your man sounds like a right PIG.... (read in full...)
I don't our relationship to be just about sex, so what do I do when my gf says she's horny?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together about 2 weeks but she seems very horny now and again (she has tried to have text sex with me and has rubbed my penis when we have kissed and said she is wet) I don't want our realationship to be just about se...
A. 24 July 2008: Sorry babes, wrong advice, I now understand your situation better. Your an adult, you got to slow her down. Spend a long time on everything that leads up to sex. Weeks kissing, weeks carressing, months of oral sex. Spend lots of time outside the ... (read in full...)
Is our age gap really such a big deal if I'm 23 and she's 16?
Q. Hi, I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female. We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok???...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi Mr Confused,
I answered on your last post, and now I know what's wrong and why you want to go slow. Forget what I said, I thought she was older. You have to stay in the driving seat, your the adult, you got to make sure you get the timing righ... (read in full...)
Any other ways besides hand jobs, blow jobs and intercourse for him to cum?
Q. hellooo just need some advice on the sexual front... ive recently got together with this guy and we are slowly moving onto more sexual activities... i havent slept with anyone and dont plan to do either (well before im married anyway) so we...
A. 24 July 2008: That's about it honey. If your already getting bored, after you start having intercourse you'll probably go off sex. You say you've only met this guy recently, but you've already done all of this. That dosen't seem slow to me. Pick up a copy of ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant and I'm only 15!
Q. i think i might be pregnant and im only 15! i am with the person whos it will be and have been 4 9 months now. tests r 2 expensive and they dont do them 4 free any where now. what am i suspose to do? and do u think my life will be over if i have a ...
A. 24 July 2008: What do you mean they don't do them free. The NHS has spent a lot of money and time providing free contraception and advice for teenagers. Who the hell have you been talking to. Make an appointment with the clinic as soon as you can, I'm talking ... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 24 July 2008: Here is some video advice on how to find a girl, how to be a perfect boyfriend and make women fall in love and go wild.
http://www.videojug.com/tag/find-your-soulmate
You should also try to get some tapes and books by Anthony Robbins. He's a... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 24 July 2008: And if I have the right qualities why are girls still saying no? Because you have a large dose of negativity. I'm sorry mate, but I'm from the UK too. Where are you living, it sounds like somewhere stuck from 200years ago. Other people find ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I need some tips! My boyfriend told me he hates it when the girl just lies there!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over a month now, we both want to have sex, but im a virgin and i reli want a bit of advice on how to make it good for him. hes quite experienced. he said that he hates it wen a girl just lies there so i want to ...
A. 23 July 2008: I don't know, this thing don't sound good. You've only been with him a month and already your talking sex. What happened to getting to know one another. After a month you want to shave your pubes and put the moves on him. Not very romantic for ... (read in full...)
A stranger came in to my husband's work today and asked if he'd spent the night with his 18 year old daugher!
Q. I've been with my husband for 15 years now and we have 3 kids together. Today some man my husband claims not to know came to his work today. Only 4 people work there but this man came straight to him, called him by name and asked my husband if his ...
A. 23 July 2008: One thing I'd like to know, was your husband with you that night, or dose he often stay away or come in late?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: LOL... now that's an update I really like... LOL... yes girlfriend, it's your time now, go out and make yourself feel good. Your the most important thing right now. Take care, blessings. Thanks for the response, now that made me smile. :)... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to do an abortion myself.
Q. okay, so im 14 and about a week ago, i had sex. and we didnt use a condom. but heres the thing, it was in the pool. im affraid to tell my parents that i might be preggo. and i dont want to tell them at all. my bf bought a preggo test, but i have to ...
A. 23 July 2008: You can't do an abortion on yourself, that would be suicide. It's very dangerous and you will bleed to death. Your parents will definately find out if you do such a stupid thing. Sorry babes, visit a doctor if you can, or just wait for the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I had difficulty, having sex, as he is very large, and it is painful for me, now we are growing distance, because we cannot acheive, satisfaction in the bedroom, what can we do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We had sex once 8 months into the relationship which was painful for me and resulted in cystitis. We tried to have sex twice since then but each time has been so painful we have had to stop ...
A. 23 July 2008: Dash, your question is a hard one. And my might be long as this will take some time. Please read ahead everybody else.
OK, boyfriend too large. Poor you. BigSis is right, lubricant will help. But that probably won't be enough. Trying t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: I agree Spirit Of Iona, fears come and fears go and waste a lot of time. Just wait untill he comes back, and then you'll know for sure. ... (read in full...)
Is he genuine about having a relationship or does he just want something from me?
Q. Ok, so Im a girl, Im 15 and my problem is with a boy, who is 18. Ive known this boy, lets called him "Josh" for little over two years now and we are really, really good friends. We text each other all the time, enjoy each others company and have ...
A. 23 July 2008: "Why would he want to go with me?" and "Why isn't he going for prettier girls?" ....... LOL....If he's a nice guy, why should only the pretty girls get him......LOL
You and Josh have been talking for two years, and your really good friends.... (read in full...)
Is he genuine about having a relationship or does he just want something from me?
Q. Ok, so Im a girl, Im 15 and my problem is with a boy, who is 18. Ive known this boy, lets called him "Josh" for little over two years now and we are really, really good friends. We text each other all the time, enjoy each others company and have ...
A. 23 July 2008: "Why would he want to go with me?" and "Why isn't he going for prettier girls?" ....... LOL....If he's a nice guy, why should only the pretty girls get him......LOL
You and Josh have been talking for two years, and your really good friends.... (read in full...)
We're having a baby and there's no problem... except telling my dad will be a problem
Q. Me and my GF are having a baby, I've got all money saved up so everything is fine to that perspective, I've look after my mates baby for a week and have a good idea of what's needed, I need to tell my dad but want to tell him nearer time as I'm not ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hello Mr Anonymous,
You remind me of a similar post I answered earlier. However in that case the guy didn't have any money saved up, he had no childcare experience, but was still trying to get his girlfriend pregnant.
Luckily you are in a ver... (read in full...)
He called me "a mate" in a text to a friend. I'm not "a mate". I'm his girlfriend! Help.
Q. I hope someone can give me advice about this becuase I didn't sleep a wink last night for thinking about it. I was out with my boyfriend last night and we had a really good time, but something spoilt it - he sent me a text message which was for so...
A. 23 July 2008: Yes babes it makes perfect sense... "I love him with all my heart but sometimes I wonder about him - does that make sense?... Cause you know what I know you love him and treat you good, I do worry about him though"
"I've done alot for him and he h... (read in full...)
What is so appealing about the women in porn? And how can I feel better about myself?
Q. I know this is probably asked around a lot, but I just can't help but feel awful. I've checked out porn, and while yeah, some porn starts have downright UGLY faces, make squirrel like sounds (how can you guys get off to that pitch?) and most...
A. 23 July 2008: "Do you really think if these men had even a chance with the women in porn they wouldn't dump us in a flash...they are not with us because they CHOOSE us over the porn stars"
LOL.... tehhehehhe.... sorry, Ms anonymous... but your really need to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: "I want to do it AGAIN"..... Ok lets try this....
Boyfriend needs to find himself before he settles down, understanding girlfriend says "ok piss off and do what you got to do".... She's knows this is a test, and she's willing to wait, even if ... (read in full...)
Is 10 minutes of foreplay enough?
Q. hi everybody, i need your answer for different viewers (men and women) my question is how much time would a girl satisfied of foreplay before getting in? its ok if i take 10 minutes foreplay before getting in? Thanks...
A. 23 July 2008: Annalisa, your words are so true....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: Sorry just saw your update. I should have said before, ask him, stuff the privacy, he went away a long time. You had a feeling and started to worry and now your confused. Wait untill he comes back, and then ask him. If he's nothing to hide he ... (read in full...)
Porn Is Like A Drug
Q. Every thing I see and every body I talk to keeps on telling us young people how natural masturbating while watching porn is. But what I am here to say is "no". I believe that doing the aforementioned thing is bad. Now I'm not saying masturbation is b...
A. 23 July 2008: Hey mate talk for yourself, I've never had a problem with porn and I thinks it's strange people do. However different strokes for different folks. If you have a problem then you should stop straight away.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: She texts him "I really want to see you again", he thinks "Stuff that" and dosen't even answer. She is determined so she text's again "meet me", he texts back "sure sometime never".... No problem, he goes on with the trip.... (read in full...)
How can I get the kid I tutor to open up? He's very quiet.
Q. I'm tutoring this kid. He's 15, I'm 19. I met him through my therapist (also a patient). He told me he needed lessons and asked me if I'd be interested in doing so. Sure I was! Extra money that I don't have and experience, as I want to be a ...
A. 23 July 2008: Your 19 and he's 15, well there is not much difference in age. How would you interact and communicate with your friends, how would you talk to a shy 19year old, well treat him the same way.
Before you start lessons, make him feel relaxed ... (read in full...)
He wants to stop seeing me because I will not commit to a relationship. I don't want him to go.
Q. I a 28 years old and have been in and out of relationships since i was 14 but i can't seem to settle for what ive got and always mess fings up I have just recently come out of a relationship and have had to move back with my parents for the ...
A. 22 July 2008: "But i find it hard to find a sexual spark with him, its so frustrating because he has everything else a girl would ever need"
Unfortunately he will for some other woman, but this woman isn't you. Don't worry, you'll meet somebody else one day.... (read in full...)
I want to makeout with him, how do I let him know?
Q. i wanna makeout with my boyfriend but i don't know how to let him know. can anyone help me??!! we've been goen out for bout 3 months and we've kiss like little pecks on the lips but i wanna makeout with him and i don't know what to do. like if i ...
A. 22 July 2008: You present as aged 13-15 (underage) and currently living in the USA. Why do you want to make out with him, how come your in such a hurry. You've only been with him for three months and your in already in a hurry to get to the next stage. Why, ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant? Also, am I having a miscarriage?
Q. I just want some help, not judgements...please? I had sex with this guy and didn't use a condom, so I took the M-A pill within the 72hours time-band. Stupidly, I got drunk and repeated the incident a few days later. As silly as it sounds I didn't ...
A. 22 July 2008: The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't have sex with me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months and we do have a happy relationship, but my boyfriend still won't have sex with me! I have tried to be alluring and sexy for him but he just never seems interested in me. I'm still a virgin and i feel ...
A. 22 July 2008: You present as aged 13-16 (underage) and currently living in the UK. Your boyfriend has been very sensible, it is illegal to have sex untill you are 16. Aside from the problems of pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, the police take underage ... (read in full...)
Bush wants to redefine birth control as "abortion", what do you think?
Q. This site seems to have a good cross section of folks from different walks of life, so I wanted to see what people out there think about this. The Bush administration is proposing a redefining of the term "abortion" to include birth control. The ...
A. 22 July 2008: Trish, that's not fair, we all know how powerfull America is and we are only thinking of her good health. Why can't we put you American's in charge and give everyone in the world a vote. It's the same as when we asked to vote in your elections and ... (read in full...)
He gone cold because I was ill and couldn't see him. What do I do?
Q. Okay, Well Im 15, dating this 16 year old guy. My first time dating, hes been in previous relationships and I haven't. I had an accident and I wasn't able to leave the house for 6 weeks. Over those 6 weeks, things started getting a LITTLE w...
A. 22 July 2008: You have had many responses, but the advice from the men is most interesting I think. They think he's a bit immature, maybe shy, and he didn't know what to do when you got sick. You say he had a relationship before, maybe he was shy then and then ... (read in full...)
He gone cold because I was ill and couldn't see him. What do I do?
Q. Okay, Well Im 15, dating this 16 year old guy. My first time dating, hes been in previous relationships and I haven't. I had an accident and I wasn't able to leave the house for 6 weeks. Over those 6 weeks, things started getting a LITTLE w...
A. 22 July 2008: Dump him, he's treating you with no respect. If he didn't want to be with you, he should have contacted you and told you so, rather than ignoring you in public. If he can't treat you good when your sick, and can move on within 6weeks then he's no ... (read in full...)
When gets back from strip clubs, I don't want him to touch me. I can't get over it!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles I need quite a help. I know this question has been asked probably million times, but I just can't help myself ... I have to ask again! I love my BF - together nearly 2years... and I know he truly loves me. He is with me 24...
A. 22 July 2008: I posted before you updated, it seems you were quicker than me and have already sorted some of this stuff out. He loves you, he dosen't want you worried, and he really dosen't want to go. I believe him, and I think you should too. It's not a ... (read in full...)
Is he genuine about having a relationship or does he just want something from me?
Q. Ok, so Im a girl, Im 15 and my problem is with a boy, who is 18. Ive known this boy, lets called him "Josh" for little over two years now and we are really, really good friends. We text each other all the time, enjoy each others company and have ...
A. 22 July 2008: You present as aged 15 (underage) and currently living in the UK. Your friends have warned you against this guy as he has a reputation of getting girls into bed. You've been talking to him for two years, and you both have become friends and you ... (read in full...)
When gets back from strip clubs, I don't want him to touch me. I can't get over it!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles I need quite a help. I know this question has been asked probably million times, but I just can't help myself ... I have to ask again! I love my BF - together nearly 2years... and I know he truly loves me. He is with me 24...
A. 22 July 2008: Hi babes, it's me again.
I've been thinking hard about your problem. I've probably offended you with my words. Oh well, no harm done, we can't get bothered, we just got to find a solution to your problem that you can live with. Before I was thin... (read in full...)
What is so appealing about the women in porn? And how can I feel better about myself?
Q. I know this is probably asked around a lot, but I just can't help but feel awful. I've checked out porn, and while yeah, some porn starts have downright UGLY faces, make squirrel like sounds (how can you guys get off to that pitch?) and most...
A. 22 July 2008: Hi babes,
I'm not sure what country you come from, but did you know that the average size for a woman in the UK is 14-16 and getting larger by the day. The world has an obesisity problem, everybody is getting fatter.
If you want to feel bett... (read in full...)
Bush wants to redefine birth control as "abortion", what do you think?
Q. This site seems to have a good cross section of folks from different walks of life, so I wanted to see what people out there think about this. The Bush administration is proposing a redefining of the term "abortion" to include birth control. The ...
A. 22 July 2008: Sorry Yargh,
I couldn't respond to your post because I got angry too. You mentioned the words Bush, politics and contraception and I started foaming at the mouth....... I really can't answer this one as I'd make Politically lawfull look sens... (read in full...)
I don't our relationship to be just about sex, so what do I do when my gf says she's horny?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together about 2 weeks but she seems very horny now and again (she has tried to have text sex with me and has rubbed my penis when we have kissed and said she is wet) I don't want our realationship to be just about se...
A. 22 July 2008: I wish all women could read this, then they'd find out that men have feelings too, a lot of women think that all men think about sex with every woman they see.
I like option one, take your time and see where she leads you. You present as aged 22-... (read in full...)
When gets back from strip clubs, I don't want him to touch me. I can't get over it!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles I need quite a help. I know this question has been asked probably million times, but I just can't help myself ... I have to ask again! I love my BF - together nearly 2years... and I know he truly loves me. He is with me 24...
A. 22 July 2008: Can I ask you a question? You say "I think a man, that is really a MAN...." What should a "woman who is really a WOMAN do to please her man"
"You should be respectful and honest and good to your partner in every way" ..... Ok you start first, g... (read in full...)
Bush wants to redefine birth control as "abortion", what do you think?
Q. This site seems to have a good cross section of folks from different walks of life, so I wanted to see what people out there think about this. The Bush administration is proposing a redefining of the term "abortion" to include birth control. The ...
A. 22 July 2008: Hi PoliticalyLawful,
I've been listening to you spout off your unintelligent, biased views all day. Why are you here, this is a site that helps people with relationship and sexual problems, not a place for a political debate. Your a clever kid,... (read in full...)
When gets back from strip clubs, I don't want him to touch me. I can't get over it!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles I need quite a help. I know this question has been asked probably million times, but I just can't help myself ... I have to ask again! I love my BF - together nearly 2years... and I know he truly loves me. He is with me 24...
A. 21 July 2008: "Can I go and play with some male strippers ding dong?" Do you think this is what he's doing, is this what makes you upset?
"but I would definetely be flirty", again do you think he's doing this, but wouldn't you define this as cheating if he di... (read in full...)
When gets back from strip clubs, I don't want him to touch me. I can't get over it!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles I need quite a help. I know this question has been asked probably million times, but I just can't help myself ... I have to ask again! I love my BF - together nearly 2years... and I know he truly loves me. He is with me 24...
A. 21 July 2008: Hi babes,
I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation but the other aunts are right. This thing is torturing you and destroying your self esteem and making you insecure and crazy. This can't go on. It's easy for everyone to say leave him, but ... (read in full...)
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