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What makes me tick? Hmmmm What makes me tick. Tick?

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Dating a married man for 3 years and he treats me like a queen. But I'm starting to worry. What should I do?

Q.   I've been dating a married man for 3 years. I ignored him for a year because of that reson but he pursed and treated me like a queen. He says he's leaving date after date but their's always an excuse. He's been w her since he was 12 has 2 kids and ...

A.   15 February 2008: You should definitely hang tight and wait until he divorces his wife and leaves his children and comes to marry you. I mean, his integrity and honesty alone make him a keeper. Um... what if he leaves his wife right now? What makes you think he... (read in full...)

My wife says she has never masturbated, surely this cant be true or can it?

Q.   i have asked my wife to masturbate when we are making love but she told me that she has never masturbated before and that it is not her thing i dont think she is telling me the truth do the question is do all women masturbate and lie about it...

A.   5 December 2007: Answer - No, not all women masturbate and not all women lie and not all women masturbate and lie about it. Some women masturbate and tell the truth about it. Some women don't masturbate and lie about it. Anyway - I have female fr... (read in full...)

My boyfriend isn't interested in sex. Has he seriously has lost interest in me? Could it possibly be he's THAT concerned about house issues?

Q.   Okay, so I've read the other questions about men not being interested in sex, but I think mine is different. Here's the deal. I'm 29 and my boyfriend is 38. We have been together a little over 3 years and a year and a half ago we bought a "fixer ...

A.   26 November 2007: P.S. Make sure he is getting good nutrition... I just read that bee pollen (yup - it's consumed as a nutritional supplement) can enhance sexual function. Hmmmm - I think I might put some in his coffee......(j/k)... (read in full...)

I've got two babies, and I'm married to an alcoholic, how can I escape this mess?

Q.   I have been married for just about three years, and they have been the worst years of my life. My husband is an alcoholic, and very verbally and emotionally abusive. He gets drunk EVERY day. He drinks in the shower, any where he can. I find ...

A.   26 November 2007: Um - contact your local women's shelter immediately. They have programs for just this sort of thing and can provide day care while you go through legal issues, job hunting and so on. They provide security and a place to live until you understa... (read in full...)

My boyfriend isn't interested in sex. Has he seriously has lost interest in me? Could it possibly be he's THAT concerned about house issues?

Q.   Okay, so I've read the other questions about men not being interested in sex, but I think mine is different. Here's the deal. I'm 29 and my boyfriend is 38. We have been together a little over 3 years and a year and a half ago we bought a "fixer ...

A.   26 November 2007: Hi, I posted an answer for a similar question and basically my advice was to take the pressure of sex off. My boyfriend and I have the same age difference and similar problems. My boyfriend and I weren't having sex for a while and it was reall... (read in full...)

Is there a better way of approaching than asking if they want a drink?

Q.   when i approach agirl in a club or pub i usally ask if they want a drink , it hardly works and cost money . is there an more succsessfull way because im single and i dont want to be...

A.   26 November 2007: Which girls are you approaching? Are they girls that have expressed some interest? See if any of the girls in the pub/club make eye contact. Or, if they see you making eye contact - linger a bit or smile shyly and look away. Are these bars/pub... (read in full...)

Several times in our marriage we have gone multiple years without being intimate. I need to feel loved, wanted... How do I leave without hurting my children in the process?

Q.   The Marriage Bed I “Lie” In About a year and a half ago, we bought a new bed. I think it was our third in 18 years of marriage. Our first king sized. If you were to look down on us sleeping in it, you would see two people on the outer edges and ...

A.   26 November 2007: Holy Hannah! What has counseling done? Have you both been going? 1. I'm not going to criticize you about the affair - it's what people do when they are unhappy. She might have had a couple herself. 2. The green grass is an illusion: Until ... (read in full...)

Is there something else I can use instead of a condom?

Q.   Is there something else i can use instead of a condom?...

A.   26 November 2007: Condom = only protection against chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis and HIV/AIDS. You are 16 or 17 so I presume you aren't about to get married. Who knows where the partner has been and with whom. He might even think he's clean but actually be carrying... (read in full...)

I'm in it for the long run, but his sex drive is waning, how can I put the spark back in?

Q.   What are some tips men can give me, about how to keep things exciting in the bedroom? My b/f and I have been together 2 years and already his sex drive seems to be in neutral. No, it's not health related. No I haven't gained 30 pounds and stopped ...

A.   20 November 2007: Um... I'm not a man but I had this issue too. I read that sometimes it's not anything to do with you (gaining weight etc...) but his own insecurities. Maybe he doesn't feel as Sexy, maybe he's gained weight. The issue was really bothering me... (read in full...)

Has my boyfriend cheated and given me a sexually transmitted infection?

Q.   My boyfriend of 1 year (we don't live together) left his email open on my computer recently. I couldn't help but look, and as it turns out he has a profile on AdultMatchMaker looking for someone special to share 'oral sex and one on one sex'. when ...

A.   20 November 2007: Ack! The same thing happened to me a while ago. I found mollescum and discovered later that my boyfriend had cheated. He used annoyance as a tactic as well when I had asked him about cheating and seeing other women. It's pretty common. A man with ... (read in full...)

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