Should I worry about my boyfriend's desire to have sex with another guy?
Q. My boyfriend is a wonderful guy and I love him so much and I know he loves me too. He isn't gay or even bisexual, guys themselves make him uncomfortable sexually, but he's really attracted to penises. Which probably seems weird. I know he's ...
A. 11 November 2012: How can a man be attracted to penises without being gay or bi? The stability of your relationship wont be known unless he does something to affect it like leaving you.... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend on dating sites, after calling me a slut and a stalker he then claims it was a virus!
Q. I have found out my boyfriend has been going on dating sites. When I asked him about it he went mad at me and started calling me a stalker, said I dont trust him because I myself am not to be trusted, called me a slut and then turned it around to ...
A. 11 November 2012: You do not know if he has met anyone off the dating site or whether he has had sex with them or not. He is not going to tell you. If I was you I would be angered and offended that I had been with someone who has no respect for you. He is a liar, you ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend getting on line and chatting because she is at home and bored?
Q. While I am out at work my girlfriend does nothing all day except chat to guys and flirt on the internet. I have found out about this now for the fourth time in a year. We almost broke up for good, and now I find she is doing it yet again. It is hard ...
A. 1 November 2012: What she is putting you through is abusive. Looking for reasons for her behavior says you are trying to hang on. Forget it. She is who she is. She does not care what you think, she wont have even thought about that. Make an exit now and dont go ... (read in full...)
Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of online affairs?
Q. I am wondering after ending a relationship due to his compulsive cyber cheating, whether it can be seen as something addictive. I have noticed a lot of questions on here about it. Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of ...
A. 14 October 2012: You have rightfully ended your relationship. I would not go looking for closure because it is unlikely you will find it. If anything, you may end up feeling more confused. You have got rid of someone who was killing your feeling of confidence well ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 4 years won't stop going on dating sites. Is it worth trying to sort this out?
Q. Hi, I am new on here and would really like some advice on what to do. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years. He wont stop going on dating sites. I have caught him doing it and seen it with my own eyes 3 times, I have also got to the point where I ...
A. 12 September 2012: It could be because you have caught him several times and always take him back, that he thinks he will get away with it all the time.... (read in full...)
B/f on dating site saying he was single, we've been dating for 3 years!
Q. Hiya, I'm in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend and I have started sharing his email account and he left his laptop here for me to use as mines broke. Basically I went to send a email and I found that he had dating matches so I had a look. It said ...
A. 9 September 2012: i don`t think he thought you would find out about this. You would be better telling him what you know. Hopefully he wont insult you by lying.... (read in full...)
After many difficulties we broke up. Would I be right in suspecting he had this girl waiting in the wings all along?
Q. hi readers. so my boyfriend of three years and i have split up again. we went through this circle of breaking up and getting back. he was a bit too possessive over my internet life and would not stop spying on me blah blah blah. now he has met s...
A. 14 August 2012: I dont understand why he was possessive about your internet life? Was he possessive about your real life too? An apology in advance if I am wrong, but I get the funny idea that you have been dumped for going on dating sites. Well, whatever it is, it ... (read in full...)
After many difficulties we broke up. Would I be right in suspecting he had this girl waiting in the wings all along?
Q. hi readers. so my boyfriend of three years and i have split up again. we went through this circle of breaking up and getting back. he was a bit too possessive over my internet life and would not stop spying on me blah blah blah. now he has met s...
A. 14 August 2012: I dont understand why he was possessive about your internet life? Was he possessive about your real life too? An apology in advance if I am wrong, but I get the funny idea that you have been dumped for going on dating sites. Well, whatever it is, it ... (read in full...)
I've been lied to again but don't know how to confront her...
Q. I've just found out from my girlfriend's brother in-law that she deceived me again. To cut a long story short, she's lied to me a few times on about where she's been and other different things. I met up with my girlfriends brother in-law to ta...
A. 17 July 2012: You have already put your cards on the table. She had already agreed to stop telling lies (remember). If you dont want to walk, then the best thing you can do is accept you have got to share her and embrace it. You either walk, or you share her. ... (read in full...)
I've been lied to again but don't know how to confront her...
Q. I've just found out from my girlfriend's brother in-law that she deceived me again. To cut a long story short, she's lied to me a few times on about where she's been and other different things. I met up with my girlfriends brother in-law to ta...
A. 13 July 2012: Overall it is not looking very good. You love her, but i think you need to love yourself a bit more. This type of behavior will wear you down and slowly turn you into a paranoid wreck. I think you will be far better off without her.... (read in full...)
I don't want to date a man with kids. Am I expecting too much?
Q. So I have a son who is 16 months old. And for some reason I don't think dating a man with a kid is an option. I find that men with kids tend to have a lot of baggage; child support, baby mom drama, and no money.. I simply don't want a guy who is ...
A. 2 July 2012: Some men may also find women with a child have a lot of baggage; Baby daddy drama, no time, saggy breasts, no money etc. The biggest turn off is someone who is self absorbed. It`s a far bigger turn off than having children. Yes, you are expecting ... (read in full...)
He put pictures up on Facebook of his ex wives, am I right to be upset by this or am I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend has recently put a couple of photos of his ex wives on his phone, and his FB timeline. I was a bit shocked when I saw them. His explanation was that they were a part of his past and he wanted them there. I found this odd, I too have ex ...
A. 4 June 2012: Anyone who has pictures of an ex up on facebook, against the wishes of their partner, is self absorbed and not worthy of your time.... (read in full...)
How can I save our relationship and make him trust me again?
Q. I've lied to my partner for nearly 2 years now about my online activities, and after so many fights and break ups I finally came clean and told him the truth,(but still left out a few things as to not hurt his feelings). He did not and still won't ...
A. 17 May 2012: If you actually face up to the cause then maybe you may find a cure. You HAVE NOT come clean because you have missed out truths and by the way it sounds, he knows about these truths anyhow. If you cannot grasp what you did wrong then you probably ... (read in full...)
Am I getting into the wrong relationship?
Q. I am 10 months into a relationship after a painful divorce. My previous marriage consisted of 1 son and a step daughter. My girlfriend has 1 son and we get on. my main concern is my (ex) step daughter. My girlfriend is constantly telling me stop ...
A. 25 April 2012: I think I would think long and hard if I was you. She seems unable to understand anything outside of her own interest. It is good of you to keep up with your step daughter and see her. Don`t allow her selfish insecurities to change you into her ... (read in full...)
I cheated now he wont he talk to me
Q. hi , a couple of years ago i dated a young man for a few months , he was a good lover , was very nice to me but unfortunatley i was rebounding from my ex who was totally opposite to my new boyfriend (my ex was always on and off with his wife with ...
A. 9 April 2012: I think you have lost this one. For the benefit of you, him, his girlfriend, your ex, your ex`s wife etc. Move past it.... (read in full...)
He has a new girlfriend only 3 weeks after we broke up, will he really be ok when I meet someone else? I cant believe this after he used to say I was the love of his life!
Q. My ex and my baby's daddy has a new girlfriend, he keeps telling me that it will not bother him when i meet someone else, is this true? we were together four years have two children together. he says i was the love of his life his world but only ...
A. 26 March 2012: Carry on with your life. Do what suits you. His games will only affect you if you let them.... (read in full...)
My wife wants the woman I cheated with to tell her about things before she can let it go!
Q. hi there i had an affair 11 years ago and my wife found out 14 months ago .The affair lasted 2 a half years and my wife was devastated i have tried every thing possible to win her back.we have been on holidays i buy her flowers all the time and ...
A. 19 March 2012: My sympathy goes out to your wife. You suddenly realise how much you love her the moment you stand to lose her? The other woman DID mean something to you, she meant enough to risk losing your wife for. ... (read in full...)
Rather than dealing with our problems, at the first sign of trouble she goes straight onto dating sites!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 3 years now. It appears that every time there is a problem or I am not up to scratch, that instead of telling me what I have done or not done, she goes on date sites and talks to men. For the last year I have been ...
A. 16 March 2012: I think you would be better getting out it. If you dont then she will continue to abuse you so much, that you will end up just as screwed up as she is. She is immature and living in a dream world.... (read in full...)
I'm in a happy relationship now, so why wont my ex move on like I have done?
Q. hi everyone i need to understand why my ex is still tracking my movements on the internet? we were together 7 years, its been over between us for 2 yrs but only stopped sexual contact 10 months ago. we have had zero contact except on 3 occasions via ...
A. 23 February 2012: All that you should be concerned about is your child and encouraging some form of contact. Zero contact to me looks like he probably has moved on. How is he got access to track you on the internet?... (read in full...)
He claims his chatting with his ex was harmless, but it really hurts me. Who is in the right here?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months, and I love him dearly. A few months ago I found messages on his Facebook between him and an ex. The contents upset me as they were flirting, although nothing too major. I told him how I felt, and he ...
A. 23 February 2012: He said to her "he wouldn't have met me if she hadn't dumped him" It does not seem he is with you as his first choice. He got angry because you was not supposed to see it. He`s not sounding like a safe bet long term.... (read in full...)
Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 21 February 2012: If you don`t think it`s necessary that he knows your history, then don`t insist that you know his. If you get found out (which you probably will), that after asking questions, you yourself kept secrets from him, the question of trust will be ... (read in full...)
How can I make him see how right we are for each other?
Q. I have been seeing someone for the best part of 5 years, although it has been on-off for the last 2 years. Yes we sometimes argue and its obviously not going to be like the honeymoon period 24/7, but we have so much fun together and so much love ...
A. 21 February 2012: Being on and off and constant arguing are NOT just normal in relationships, unless you enjoy drama.... (read in full...)
I'm getting tired of defending myself against boyfriend's thoughts that I might cheat
Q. My boyfriend and I began dating exclusively from the day we met. He calls frequently and tells me he can't live without me and if anything is a bit over-possesive. He always makes comments that imply that I'm ready to have an affair with the ...
A. 20 February 2012: I think the likeliest thing is that he himself is not trustworthy.... (read in full...)
My G/f screamed at me publicly because I was looking at this gorgeous redhead on the train!
Q. Hi guys and girls im a bit of a chump - thats how i feel right now atleast... i made my girlfriend a beautiful silver necklace for valentines, took her away to a hotel/spa for the weekend, she absolutley loved it, as a treat for me she took m...
A. 20 February 2012: Gauping at another girl would have been embarrassing for her, but the way she`s reacted to it is a big red flag.... (read in full...)
Lies stacked upon lies and now my ex doesn't trust me
Q. I have been with this girl for 2 years and we have been very much in love. The problem is, when we first met I told her some lies about my past and as time went on I didn't know how to take them back. so I told more lies and things are in a very bad ...
A. 19 February 2012: Look at it this way, could you trust someone who lies and lies again?... (read in full...)
He said, "when you've finished with your boyfriend, I'll take you out." Did he mean that?
Q. A man i know said " where have you been hiding? " , because he hadnt seen me for a long time.I saw him when i was out with my new boyfriend in a bar.This man asked me if he was my boyfriend,as it was the first time he had seen me with him,and i said ...
A. 17 February 2012: Of course he was rude, people get beaten up for things like that. I don`t even know why you are giving it any thought.... (read in full...)
He says move on, but I want to get back together. What do I do?
Q. I'm seperated from my partner for 8months and we've got 2 children together who are living with me. The children have said to him several times that they want us to come back but he said 'NO'. I've not had sex since then and i want to with him. He ...
A. 17 February 2012: There is not a lot of background to go off. Whether he comes back or not, who knows? What exactly caused the split? Knowing that may be more helpful.... (read in full...)
I lost my fiance because of online dating sites! Why do I do this to myself and how do I get out of this hole I've dug for myself?
Q. I have been on and off dating sites now for over 4 years. almost 2 years ago my fiance walked out on me after catching me on them again after giving me several chances. Since that, I have met guys off the sites but nothing ever came of them, I was ...
A. 15 February 2012: To get out of the hole you dug, you climb out of it and fill it in so you dont fall back down again. Even if it means throwing out your PC. Your ex`s happiness should not have any bearing on changing your lifestyle, do it for yourself. I also ... (read in full...)
Why am I not enough for him? Why is he active again on those dating sites?
Q. Hello, I need some advice and I hope you can help me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now. We've had our ups and downs, but for the most part (at least in my mind) it's been good. I've enjoyed spending time with him and he'...
A. 13 February 2012: Just because he is dating site dependant does not mean other men are. I think he`s a sad man really. If he needs dating sites to make him feel good about himself, then long term prospects are not very promising. ... (read in full...)
His balding is becoming such an obsession lately...how do I get him to embrace it?
Q. I have been dating my guy for hitting 2 years now. I am 29, he is 35. His hair is thinning, just as it was when I first met him. It has become such an obsession with him over the last six months, and its driving me nuts. He has stopped going out ...
A. 12 February 2012: You need to look up photos of hair transplants that have gone wrong and compare them to photos of men with shaven heads. http://kaizan28.hubpages.com/hub/10-sexiest-bald-men ... (read in full...)
I don't want to get back with my ex, but I need help understanding his behaviour. Why couldnt he stop going onto online dating sites? Why did he lie so much?
Q. I write in a midst of confusion. I have ended a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend due to his do or die determination in dating site memberships. It has been a constant cycle of him getting caught, lying, convincing me I am seeing things, then ...
A. 10 February 2012: His reasons? He probably wont even understand what he`s done wrong. Forget it now, it`s past. Look forward to a brighter tomorrow.... (read in full...)
I lied to my boyfriend but now that I have come clean and am telling the truth he doesn't trust me
Q. I lied to my boyfriend about my online- activities prior to us moving in together. When he found out, I denied it, then I changed my story and told him what I was doing (emblishing the facts as I thought it was what he wanted to hear), I then took ...
A. 6 February 2012: It`s likely he has caught you on a dating site and even though he knew you still continued to lie. This question misses out the point, so you`re still far from honest. I dont think you even care what you did, but only that he doesnt trust you. How ... (read in full...)
We've broken up, she's been with other guys, but the feelings for her are still there!
Q. Recently (start of January), me (21) and my girlfriend (19) of 2 years, broke up. Her accord - wanted space, to be alone, had secret feelings for someone else. Through a long and hard month of being distraught, finding truths behind so many o...
A. 4 February 2012: You do know where you stand though. You need to do exactly what she does and spread your wings. I am not sure if the reason for her secrets was to avoid hurting you. I think it was to do with wanting to leaving her options open in case she wants to ... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend's logged in on multiple sex sites but he swears it wasnt him, just a hacker using his details. Is that even possible?
Q. ok so here it goes, last year i found something on my bf laptop by accident he was sitting next to me and i asked wat it was,i logged into it coz his face was strange and it brought me to a profile with all his details on a fuck buddie site, logged ...
A. 4 February 2012: I should add that his excuse will not go down as a good conspiracy theory. He is probably just as shocked at you finding out, as you are of what you now KNOW.... (read in full...)
My partner slept with her ex-boyfriend and now I feel bad when I'm near her.
Q. I would be grateful of your thoughts. My partner walked out last April without saying a word. In July she took the lease on a rented flat and said that she had realised she still wanted to be with me. In the same month she had sex with her ...
A. 4 February 2012: I think the best way you can get rid of that feeling is by getting rid of her. Stop being her safety net. It is not the first time she has done it and maybe it`s not her last.... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend's logged in on multiple sex sites but he swears it wasnt him, just a hacker using his details. Is that even possible?
Q. ok so here it goes, last year i found something on my bf laptop by accident he was sitting next to me and i asked wat it was,i logged into it coz his face was strange and it brought me to a profile with all his details on a fuck buddie site, logged ...
A. 3 February 2012: He is taking the piss out of you. No ifs,no buts or maybe`s. He is not the best liar you will encounter. A good liar would have come up with a far better story than that.... (read in full...)
Before we dated she revealed that she used to meet up with strangers for sex. I'm disgusted. Am I being too judgemental?
Q. I have been dating a girl for the last 6 months. Last week she told me that she has used internet sites to meet guys for sex. This was before we dated and has not done it since. I am having a problem accepting it. It was not my business, I ...
A. 21 January 2012: I am trying not to be judgemental either, but I could not accept it if my partner had done that. It comes across as sleazy, sad and desperate (people who do it may well have different views). You may be better off getting out of this relationship.... (read in full...)
What are girl's erect penis shape fantasies?
Q. I Always wonder what erect penis shape makes girls more horny when they look at it (upward , downward or straight) ? and why? what shape of erect penis(upward , downward or straight) do you girls imagine in your fantaces? PLEASE answ...
A. 20 January 2012: I do fantasise about them but the fantasy is about the man its on.... (read in full...)
Am I Playing Hard To Get?
Q. A guy I went out with twice texted me on the fourth day saying he had fun but he'll be out of town on business during the week. He asked to see me on the following weekend but we didn't say when, what time, etc. There was no other contact during ...
A. 20 January 2012: If he was keen he would have found time for you during the week to say a simple hello. Sounds like a user to me.... (read in full...)
Online fling caused my guy to walk out of a 3 year relationship?
Q. Is a stupid online fling what i had a good reason for my guy of 3 years to walk out on me and our 2 kids? I never even went meeting the guy. The worst i did was a bit of naughty chat. Would you agony aunts think he was looking for an excuse to bail ...
A. 19 January 2012: What was you expecting? A pat on the back? It may sound weird to you, but you are wrong, not him.... (read in full...)
My wife seems to be addicted to making friends with men on the internet!
Q. What is your take on this? My wife is addicted to the internet. She is on there constantly, to the point that she neglects just about everything else in her life. I found out a few things and it has been bothering me to no end. What started the susp...
A. 17 January 2012: I am with code warrior on this one. I dont believe for a moment she would tolerate this shit if it was you. Her disrespect for you and your relationship will not be realised until something drastic happens. ... (read in full...)
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