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Q. Why did you start this site?
A. I've had a long standing fascination with agony aunt columns. I hoped to bring them into the Internet age and harness the wisdom of 1000s of different people.
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A. My time goes in for free as a part time effort, and all the moderators are volunteers :-)
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Any other good websites to get advice about approaching women?
Q. OK I know this sounds like a stupid question but does anyone know any good places to ask about relationship advice (approaching women etc.) APART FROM this site. I ask because I went onto askmen.com and although some stuff was good advice, it ...
A. 21 January 2007: I researched this when I first looked into creating dearcupid... most of the advice on the 'net is nonsense written by guys who I sincerely doubt have much success with chicks. I was thinking of creating a "tips" section on dearcupid but not sure ... (read in full...)
Should I see a doctor for the lump on my neck, or will it go away?
Q. i currently have a problem, my neck on one side at the bottom nearing the shoulder has some sort of lump while the other side is straight. i would like to know is this worth goin to see a doctor or will it just go away in a few weeks??? plzzz hel...
A. 18 January 2007: Anyone with health concerns should visit their doctor.... people on this site cannot tell you weather it's cancer that's going to kill you or an insect bite that's going to go away.
But a doctor can.
A.
(site guy)... (read in full...)
How comes no one has replied to my question? What's goin on?
Q. Hi. Last week I posted few questions on the website’s other option of “just post my question without registering”. By now I still have not receive any reply. Again here are my questions. Whether registered or not and when posting questions, can ...
A. 18 January 2007: If you care about your question - just register and you can see when and where it is published
(and if not, why not)
Andrew
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Questions about DearCupid
Q. Hi. When posting questions, are readers allowed to write over a page or more? Or is there a total limit? And could readers request for their questions to not be displayed on the website? or in others words, be dealt privately by allowing their ...
A. 13 January 2007: Hi
There is no limit on question length but it's best if you keep your question concise - i.e. don't make it longer than is necessary.
There is no way to post a "private" question or request this (the question would jsut be rejected) but li... (read in full...)
New to dearcupid..is it okay to post a question that is quite long?
Q. hi. i'm new to using dearcupid. most or all posted questions and answers are viewed by everyone, right? is it ok if posting a question is that is quite long? probably even take nearly whole page to write or discuss problem. what do you suggest?...
A. 12 December 2006: Yes long questions are fine.... (read in full...)
Site error message??
Q. Ok this is to the people who work on this site. Why is it that when i try to view my question it says error? ...
A. 5 December 2006: I found it and fixed it.
A... (read in full...)
Site error message??
Q. Ok this is to the people who work on this site. Why is it that when i try to view my question it says error? ...
A. 5 December 2006: Which question?... (read in full...)
If you have that problem you need to register.
Q. just a minor problem here; whenever i type in a problem or an answer on this site i can never find it again, or if i do it takes ages. anyone else have this problem? ...
A. 29 November 2006: Like I say, if you can't find your question/answer, REGISTER. It takes like 30 seconds of your time and you can see the status of all your questions.
While I'm here, anyone else got site queries, suggestions feel free to post in this thread. ... (read in full...)
Is this question is a hoax or not??
Q. Hi there, How can you be certain a question is a hoax or not?? I've seen a question posted, then it disappeared a few hours later. Thanks, Alex...
A. 31 October 2006: I occasionally delete retrospectively (i.e. after publication).
We have a very small handful of people who have little more to do with their life than post fake questions (usually along very similar lines)... we keep blocking them but they usu... (read in full...)
Are you single? Please reply here!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....
A. 19 October 2006: That's great to hear babygirl, don't forget to invite me to the wedding :-)... (read in full...)
Are you single? Please reply here!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....
A. 19 October 2006: Great feedback so far, thanks everyone!... (read in full...)
My coworker is moving to another section..should I tell him how I truely feel before he goes?
Q. I have wrote to this site before for advice, and all the help received was really appreciated. However due to my nerves of the fear of rejection I have not acted on any of the advice given. My problem is I have fallen for one of my co -workers, ...
A. 12 October 2006: Feel the fear... and do it anyway. You have nothing to loose and everything to gain.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 23 September 2006: Hi everyone
There have been some interesting ideas here.. I am going to "unsticky" now but will post shortly with what the next site update will contain. Thanks to everyone for their suggestions!
A.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 22 September 2006: Hi Wendy
(going to reply to all the earlier feedback, too)
Quick note on ratings. You're right they are far from ideal. Currently, poor = 1, average = 5 and excellent = 10 so I just average it (after stripping out lots of ratings to get r... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 20 September 2006: Jadzia - noted about what answers are top rated. I'll look into this but I think last time I looked individual answers get so few ratings that they are meaningless... It's only when you aggregate ratings for all answers that anything meaningful ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 20 September 2006: Wild - click on "see your sent messages" on the mailbox screen, to see previously sent messages!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 20 September 2006: Hi everyone
Thanks for the feedback so far, every suggestion is valuable! I've stickied this question and will leave it at the top for a couple more days.
Helen1986 - chat room is often suggested and may happen one day but not in the near futu... (read in full...)
I have scars from my bad skin in the past. How can I get rid of them?
Q. Hi I have had bad skin in the past and now im left with the scars!! I was wonderin if anyone knew how to get rid of the remains of my childhood??Anyone know... any help would be great!!...
A. 6 May 2006: Check out www.acne.org they have lots of information and messageboards from people battling with the same problem.... (read in full...)
Private mails (user to user email) now live... !
Q. Hi everyone, You can now send private mails to other users. Couple of points to note - You can block people from contacting you again. - Please don't ask questions direct to aunts, they will get overloaded and won't respond. - This is ...
A. 6 April 2006: How do you get to send private mails?
Easy - register/login and click on the "mailbox" link at the top of the screen (in the yellow bar).
Or easier - use the "send ... a private message" link on each person's profile page.... (read in full...)
Private mails (user to user email) now live... !
Q. Hi everyone, You can now send private mails to other users. Couple of points to note - You can block people from contacting you again. - Please don't ask questions direct to aunts, they will get overloaded and won't respond. - This is ...
A. 5 April 2006: PS drop me a private mail to say "hi" and a little about yourself if you like.... (read in full...)
Hey Moderaters how do you know if the question is a hoax?
Q. Hi there, A question about dearcupid.org. I read one question on here and someone suspected it of being a hoax. How can you tell whether the article is a hoax or not?? A.N. Other??...
A. 3 April 2006: No problems with posts from public computers. To anyone who is worried about whether their questions are getting approved or not always make sure you create an account or login to your existing one that way you can see the status. Any problems with ... (read in full...)
Hey Moderaters how do you know if the question is a hoax?
Q. Hi there, A question about dearcupid.org. I read one question on here and someone suspected it of being a hoax. How can you tell whether the article is a hoax or not?? A.N. Other??...
A. 2 April 2006: I forgot to say... If you do suspect hoax questions I can always be contacted, just follow the contact link at the top of the site.... (read in full...)
Hey Moderaters how do you know if the question is a hoax?
Q. Hi there, A question about dearcupid.org. I read one question on here and someone suspected it of being a hoax. How can you tell whether the article is a hoax or not?? A.N. Other??...
A. 1 April 2006: Hi
It's not always possible to tell and I do sometimes see questions posted that I think may not be true, although I'm sure the vast majority are good.
We also have some secret tools behind the scenes that give us an indication of wh... (read in full...)
Call for moderators to help out with DearCupid!
Q. Hi everyone, This is another appeal for volunteers to be moderators. You get to approve and categorise questions and approve answers. If you could spare say ten minutes a few times a week, then this could be for you! Just add your name in thi...
A. 27 March 2006: Hi guys thanks for your replies and so quick, too!
Sexybum, I have prepared some guidelines for what's in and what's out that all the mods get.
I will contact everyone individually, shortly.
Please, anyone else interested keep adding y... (read in full...)
Site news: Forums now live!
Q. Hi people The forums are now live (www.dearcupid.org/forum or click the link at the top right of the screen). This is very much a work in progress. So, get on over there and get started. Any relationship QUESTIONS or PROBLEMS should sti...
A. 24 March 2006: Just means that it will always link through to that individual message no matter how many are in a thread................. but probably could be clearer.... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 17 March 2006: Sexybum: v.v.v. helpful thanks for compiling, this will be added to a new look "resources" page shortly :-)... (read in full...)
New feature: Ratings by question asker
Q. Hi guys if you go to the "top agony aunts" link (www.dearcupid.org/people), you will now see ratings by question asker. I'll shortly be rolling this out to your column page too so you can see your ratings at a glance. Thanks! Andrew PS. As...
A. 16 March 2006: PS glad you like the new rating feature :-)... (read in full...)
New feature: Ratings by question asker
Q. Hi guys if you go to the "top agony aunts" link (www.dearcupid.org/people), you will now see ratings by question asker. I'll shortly be rolling this out to your column page too so you can see your ratings at a glance. Thanks! Andrew PS. As...
A. 16 March 2006: Hi Sexybum
So far had a really poor response to the newsletter so I was waiting until we had over 100 subscribers before I sent anything out. If growth of it continues to be slow I'll probably ditch the idea! This is how this site works I roll o... (read in full...)
New feature: Add an aunt as a friend (favourite)!
Q. Hi guys, we now have "social networking" where you can add friends to a list of favourites. I still need to add the functionality to see all their posts but you can start building your list. There is an "add as a friend" link on the question pag...
A. 15 March 2006: Hi Sexybum
Yes I'm thinking that how it will probably work is you can email people who have added you. So for people to email YOU, you would need to have them added as a friend, if you wanted to stop them emailing you could just remove them.
... (read in full...)
New feature: Add an aunt as a friend (favourite)!
Q. Hi guys, we now have "social networking" where you can add friends to a list of favourites. I still need to add the functionality to see all their posts but you can start building your list. There is an "add as a friend" link on the question pag...
A. 12 March 2006: Hi anon!
Great question and I'm glad you asked :-)
1) There will be a page on your "friends" link so that you can easily keep track of what your favourite agony aunts are writing (this partially came out of my request for what features people ... (read in full...)
New feature: Add an aunt as a friend (favourite)!
Q. Hi guys, we now have "social networking" where you can add friends to a list of favourites. I still need to add the functionality to see all their posts but you can start building your list. There is an "add as a friend" link on the question pag...
A. 12 March 2006: Add me! Use the "+" sign (you need to be a registered user and be signed in)... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 10 March 2006: happytochat, great list thank you
I will definitely add them to a resources page.
Can anyone come up with a similar list for UK / USA ?
Andrew... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 10 March 2006: Just a quick heads-up guys. I'm going to leave this topic "stickied" for another couple of days so if you have any further feedback / ideas / complaints please post now!
Some great stuff received so far, thanks all.... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 10 March 2006: Ms. M / Mags - good point and well made. Also, appreciate the "no-charge" ;-)
I will bear this in mind when designing the "resources" section. I am, unfortunately, unqualified to seek out the best resources so will be relying on readers to help ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 10 March 2006: Hi female anon
Yes there are some topics that we do not approve. If you use a login you can see which questions have been disapproved - and if you want me to look into it feel free to email me your username at andrewXatXdearcupid.org (remove ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 9 March 2006: Hi LadyBaby
Ratings tend to get more accurate the more answers people provide. From the feedback I've received I see how important ratings are to people and am committed to providing everyone with more info on the ratings and encouraging people t... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 9 March 2006: HappyToChat, great idea, if you have any ideas for websites that I should link to please add to this thread!
Thanks... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: Mystify - yes the ranking system definitely needs more explanation and I will do this when I combine it with the introduction of two new rating scores, by reg users and by the question asker.
You also bring up an interesting point that user rat... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: Beentheredonethat - thanks for your thoughtful views. I tend to agree on user-to-user email there is a lot of potential for harm so I am only going to proceed with that if I can figure out how to mitigate it.
The discussion board so far seems fa... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: Mystify - thanks for your feedback.
On the subject of keeping track with what your favourite aunts are writing, at some point in the near future you will have the ability to add an aunt to your favourites. Under your account you will then have a p... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: To StarNews - the site has been live since Nov 2004, if you scroll all the way to the bottom of the home page you can see the number of questions by month since it was launched!
About me.. ? I've always been interested in agony aunt columns,... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: Hi Guys
The talk about ratings got me thinking. Introduced shortly on your column page will be the rating the you got from the original question asker... Which is probably THE most important rating. Following are the top 20 based on this inf... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: Hi DreamMaster,
Thanks for the feedback. User to user email will require quite some thought in terms of permissions because otherwise I can see people spamming the top agony aunts hoping for a reply and those people will get overload... (read in full...)
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