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Q. i am a young girl i am only 16 and going with a 32 year old and dont no what to do its got really seriouse be asked me 2 be his fiancee and i said yes cos wanted to but now i not to sure i only young plus he is wanting to marry me and all that its ...
A. 21 August 2006: Why dont you trusy him?
I am 29, my fiancee is 16, we got engaged becuase we both felt this was the right step to take.
I have been in loads of relationships with women my own age, yet this is the happiest I have ever been in my life and I love her... (read in full...)
I am not a sexual person so can those relationships work?
Q. I think this question might be a bit BIG to ask here, but I only ever think it to myself so it's nice to know that other people can finally know my thoughts [on relationships]. Ok... I am young[ish] (i'm 24) and although I've had sexual relations...
A. 20 August 2006: I would be perfectly happy to be in a sexless relationship.
I love my fiancee dearly and just being with her is more than enough for me.
I prefer the emotion and feelings of just being in company of a person. I do enjoy sex, I think it is amazing ... (read in full...)
Should I break free or carry on trying?
Q. I feel like I'm in a rut with my boyfriend. I'm unhappy most of the time due to his past, but just can't break free from the relationship because it's all I've known for a year. I guess I keep hoping it will get easier to deal with but now I know ...
A. 20 August 2006: I completely agree with Dr Pete.
It is a shame when the past affects the future in this way, but the past is all part of our make up.
I have found that a bad past can actually make you a better person.
I feel it is important to be honest at th... (read in full...)
Men... Need your views on a third nipple!
Q. Dear cupid, i no this may seem like a very stupid question but i was wonderign if i could get the opinions of some guys. I have a 3rd nipple and i was wondering whether it would put you (a guy)off having sex with me? i would like an ones opinion but ...
A. 20 August 2006: It would not put me off, I dont think it should put anybody off.
If they see it as a problem, then you should be happier in a sense because they are shallow.
I believe sex should be a mutual thing between 2 people with total love and respect ... (read in full...)
How can I make him ONLY want me?
Q. How can I make my husband to be madly in love with me and not to look to any girls anymore?...
A. 20 August 2006: This is not something you really have any control over, you cannot make him do or feel anything.
If he really feels the need to look at other people and is not madly in love with you already, maybe you need to consider the future of the rela... (read in full...)
We tried having sex but it hurts too much to make it special, any advice ?
Q. me and my boyfriend are serious and love each other and trying to have sex but for me it hurts to much and i wanted it to be special but just hurts to much for me i feel it is my fault and feel really bad has anyone got any advice to stop it ...
A. 20 August 2006: Very true
You need to make sure you are completely at ease.
Just make sure that you are completely honest with him and dont pretend it does not hurt.... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and I think I'm pregnant. Can my 18 yr old bf get into trouble for getting me pregnant?
Q. ok i have a boyfriend that is 18 years of age. well i have a feeling i maybe might be pregnant and im 16 (gonna turn 17 soon tho) we are a year and 3 months apart. so can he get in trouble for being 18 aand im pregnant? jus wonderin thanks...
A. 19 August 2006: I suppose this would depend on the country you live in.
The UK age of consent is 16, so he cannot get into trouble.
In the USA, I think it varies in certain states.... (read in full...)
Am I a 'zoophile'? I saw two dogs mating and it gave me a thrill! Help
Q. I think i might be a zoophile... Yesterday I was in the park watching 2 dogs mating and I got this rush, like when I kiss my boyfriend. Now I'm terrified that I'll start getting feelings for the animals themselves. What should i do?...
A. 19 August 2006: or a vet... (read in full...)
I can't ask for this girl's screenname directly! Should I ask her friend?
Q. So I just got out of acting school and I have screenames and myspaces and phone numbers of the girls that were in my class. The problem is there is this one girl and I want to get her screename but I can't ask her directly. I want to ask another ...
A. 19 August 2006: There are many things you can talk about.
Acting and ambition are interests you all obviously share.
Use your mutual interests to strike up conversation, maybe organise get togethers to practice. The choices are limitless.
Ask the girl outrigh... (read in full...)
Is his attraction to teenage girls normal?
Q. My boyfriend just told me he is attracted to teenage girls. He says he would never act on it, but its a pervertion of his. I dont know how to feel about this..he is 34 years old and so am I. I cannot compete with youth... Is this sick or am I being ...
A. 19 August 2006: Why is there something wrong with it?
If she is legal, which in the UK, it is, why is that a problem?
I am 29, my fiancee is 16, we are very happy and very much in love.
To us, age is but a number.
I am not attracted to teenage girls, the f... (read in full...)
To shave or not to shave...now THAT is the question!
Q. Do men prefer a shaved woman or not?...
A. 18 August 2006: I really dont mind either, but do prefer shaven.
As long as the hygeine is there, the (hairstyle) is unimportant.
Shaven feels nicer though, plus less mess :)... (read in full...)
calling all agony aunts
Q. right i know this is going to sound so strange but i really need someones advice/help. when i get upset about sumthing that i can't handle i tend to take it out on myself, whether its not eating, throwing up etc its just always seemed to help when ...
A. 18 August 2006: Hun, the first thing you need to do is to speak to your GP.
You have taken a very brave step by requesting advice on her and I am sure we will all give the same advice.
You are showing signs of severe depression, which can spiral right out of contr... (read in full...)
Do guys want to marry sexy women?
Q. Hi there, This may seem a silly question but for some reason it has me worried! I am 25 year old blond female. Most guys I meet who get to know me always say I am very sexy. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Do guys w...
A. 17 August 2006: I love redheads!!!!
For me sexiness is all about personality.
I have often found that the nicer lookers are the ones with the ugliest personalities, not always the case.
A good looking female with good personality, perfection.
My fiancee meets ... (read in full...)
I am confused by what my ex-fiancee wants!
Q. I wrote before about my problem with my fiancee. We split up and now she wants to start over as best mates (who dont snog or do anything with anyone else) and see if we make it to the same stage again. I am now very confused as she does not yet ...
A. 17 August 2006: It seems to me like she wants to start afresh with you.
She indicates that you should both remain faithful to each other, this only shows that she does see a future for you both.
She wants to start off as friends, then build a relationship with you... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend hate my ex? They've never met!
Q. I am in a new relationship after being with my ex boyfriend for seven years. My new guy is a nice person except that he has a jealous streak and constantly makes nasty references to my ex...he has never met him and it bothers me. I still hold my ex ...
A. 17 August 2006: As you hold him in such high regard, your new boyfriend feels insecure and probably threatened.
It probably seems to him like you still have strong feelings for your ex, so he probably half expects you both to get back together at some stage.
I was... (read in full...)
Caught him with his pants down, was it more to it?
Q. hi, my bf and i have been together 3 years, about 10months ago i saw my bf doing something which i have always qestioned in my mind. im 20 his 25. one day i was coming home afer school early , i opened our front door and walked in and saw my bf st...
A. 17 August 2006: Showing her a scar, I will have to remember that one.
Read your post as though it was not who who wrote it.
Ditch this guy and his scar.... (read in full...)
Unhappy and depressed, and scared of something,am I going Mad?
Q. Everything bores me. I feel unhappy and depressed constantly. I feel like there's nothing to look forward to in life and there is absolutely no point in life. I can't remember the last time I really enjoyed myself. ...
A. 17 August 2006: Yes, depression is the culprit here.
I have suffered with it for around 16 - 17 years.
You must visit your doctor and I am here to listen to anything you want to say.
I am in the situation where I can wholeheartedly say, I know exactly what... (read in full...)
How do you stop sex farts, you know those sounds when air gets trapped? Any tips?
Q. Does anyone know how to prevent those embarrassing noises during sex that are made when air gets trapped? You know, that sounds like farting (sorry to be vulgar)....
A. 16 August 2006: Ah, the old love puffs.
You cant stop them, best to just enjoy them and laugh them off.... (read in full...)
Ladies:- Being a toned guy would it be better to wear Briefs or boxers ?
Q. Lady's. im am an athletic build and my whole body is toned. would wearing briefs turn a girl off or would boxers be the best option?...
A. 16 August 2006: Designer boxers go down well, lol
I am toned, but briefs are just not my thing.
If you are being paid to model them, fine, otherwise a big NO NO.... (read in full...)
If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?
Q. Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...
A. 15 August 2006: Maybe he was seperated from his wife for a while, maybe a chemical reaction to the ring, lost ring, replacement ring.
Could be many things.... (read in full...)
Is 18 considered late to still be a virgin ?
Q. I'm 18 never had a proper girlfriend and never had a proper kiss with any girl and obviously never had sex. I'm getting fed up of all this pressure to have sex (there was this thing on BBC Radio 1 about sex) and it just brought back all this pre...
A. 15 August 2006: I lost my virginity when I was young to a girl a few years older than me, no emotion involved at all.
In later years, I met a wonderful girl and wish I had saved my virginity for that one special person.
You can look at it as experience, I look at ... (read in full...)
How much of an age gap is too much ?
Q. What are the age gaps between you and your partners? And at what stage do you think a age gap is too much? Thanks! x...
A. 15 August 2006: I have a 13 year age gap between myself and my fiancee, we are very happy.... (read in full...)
My "one off" guy sort of became my boyfriend, hes treating me oddly at the mo and I dont know what to do because I love him!
Q. about 3 months ago i cheated on my boyfriend (he is now my ex) and went with a 45 year old man, i am 17, and yes i was drunk and it wasnt supposed to have turned out to be anything more than a one off. but once me and my ex boyfriend had split up he ...
A. 15 August 2006: Love this guy or not, he has physically and emotionally abused you.
You really need to see this guy for what he is sooner rather than later. Get out of this relationship before any real damage is done.
I dont think your family would turn their ba... (read in full...)
Should I deceive my partner and get pregnant?
Q. If you were to get yourself pregnant on purpose without your partner knowing your intentions, and you had their baby and loved it with all your heart because it reminded you of him, is it still a wrong thing to do? Considering that this kid will...
A. 15 August 2006: If you want your partner to despise you, resent everything about you and lose any respect he had for you.
Go for it!... (read in full...)
I'm 13 yrs old and smoke , how much harm is this doing to me?
Q. i have smoked 6 or 7 cigerettes 3 in 1 go kinda 1 after another n then the n 3 or 4 after it seperate ..im only 13 and i wanna know how much harm i have caused to myself please be persific ...
A. 14 August 2006: Even at 15, you can still stop.
I smoked for 12 years and just stopped, no cutting down
I was smoking, put it out and never smoked again.
That was 8 years ago.... (read in full...)
Happy camping?!?
Q. Me and this guy I like went camping last night. He likes me too. I was drinking so I layed down in the tent. My sister stopped by and he said I was already sleeping. My sis and him started talking about me and he told her that he wasn't sure if I ...
A. 12 August 2006: Maybe he knew you were awake and you could hear what he was saying.
I think the reason he did not want to sleep by you was more a decision of respect.
I think he wants to be sure of your feelings before any further action is taken.... (read in full...)
Should my abuser get away with it?
Q. Hey guys I would like to bring the man who raped and abused me 11 years ago to justice. This is the problem I found out through counselling that I was abused as a child after careful thought I have decided to bring my rapist to justice is that ...
A. 12 August 2006: If he abused you, then there is a chance that you were not alone.
I think you should bring him to justice, if he is not already serving a sentence that is.... (read in full...)
Meeting the parents...
Q. im in need of urgent help! my boyfriend of nearly a year has a family occassion coming up in a few weeks, iv never met his parents, iv only met the family member who's wedding it is. i dont know if im invited as its not been mentioned so i d...
A. 12 August 2006: I think you should just ask him outright if you are invited.
If you have been together for that long, he should ask about you regardless of whether you were personally invited or not.
When you are at the wedding, I feel your boyfriend will spend mu... (read in full...)
Could I have gotten pregnant?
Q. This will sound silly but its worrying me.While i was with my ex we were once sat on my bed,and i noticed a 'wet patch'around his penis,i was sat virtually on top of him,and now im 20 days late,i was due on the 23rd of july and its now the 12th aug ...
A. 12 August 2006: You say you noticed a 'wet patch'.
I assume this to mean he was wearing some clothing.
If this is the case, the chances are very slim, but not impossible.
Just get a home pregnancy test or make a visit to your GP or local family planning cli... (read in full...)
He said he won't give me oral sex because I smell different to his ex-girlfriend!
Q. Dear cupid. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months now and everything was going alright until i asked him why he had never attempted to give me oral sex when i have given it him. Basically he said it was because i smelt different from ...
A. 12 August 2006: Ignore him babes, find yourself a more sensitive guy.
Dont let his rude comments affect your self confidence.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant if I come on my period?
Q. I think I might be pregnant but if I come on my period after doing things does this mean for certain I am not pregnant or do I still need to take a pregnancy test?...
A. 10 August 2006: It would probably depend how long after sex it was that you came on.
If it was a matter of days, them it is possible you could still be pregnant.
I would wait until you are next due and take it from there, but you could still take a test which wo... (read in full...)
I've got this crush on a guy I'm never going to see again... what should I do ?
Q. I have a crush on this really cute guy and we started to get closer and closer, but he moved away and now I'll never see him again. The worst part is that he was with someone else. He told me that before he left and now i'm mad plz help... What s...
A. 10 August 2006: The best thing to do babe is to try to forget about him.
I know that this is not what you want to do, but you will drive yourself crazy otherwise.
Just try to occupy yourself with friends and hobbies, you will soon have a clearer head.... (read in full...)
Can a seven year age gap work, is it worth taking the risk ?
Q. Very longwinded, so sit tight. I am a 14 year old girl. I have always ran with an older crowd, most friends being 17+, no reason behind it just for some reason the people I meet and get along with are a few more years than I am. So here is my pre...
A. 10 August 2006: I hope all goes well for you.
Best of luck
x... (read in full...)
I want to go out, but I don't know how to ask boys, or if I should...
Q. Hi, I'm 15 Years Old and Never had a boyfriend All my friends have had boyfriends and had sex with them. They all say to me just go out with anyone, screw them and dump them. I don't want to do that but I do want a boyfriend. The problem is al...
A. 10 August 2006: Well, I think your friends are pathetic for trying to get you to do that.
Don't physically go looking for a boyfriend, you will meet the right guy when you least expect it.
BTW, you should be proud you are a virgin, especially when you have fri... (read in full...)
I'm only 14, I'm in a serious relationship, problem is he has kissed girl!!
Q. I am only 14, but i am in a serious realtionship to a guy i lost my virginity to, but yesterday i found out he kissed another girl, but it was in a game of truth or dare, and he is really sorry, i told him to delete their numbers off his phone but ...
A. 10 August 2006: Well, I suppose it would depend.
As it was a game, the kiss would have not meant anything, BUT, if the kiss was a snog then thats different.
You say he is really sorry, I would give him another chance to prove his commitment to you.
Best of... (read in full...)
He says that the dating site is just for laughs... should I accept this ?
Q. my boyfriend is still on a singles dateing site he told me when we first got together that he deleted his profile of there and just by chance i found out otherwise, he said that he is window shopping and only having a laugh!! should i except this??...
A. 9 August 2006: He dumped you?
This guy sounds like a complete plant, you are better off without him if thats his attitude.
You deserve better.... (read in full...)
What can I say in a text to grab the attention of the boy I like?
Q. i really want this boy to text me back who i did go out with. he rings me sometimes but i dont hear the phone ring so i miss him. hw can i grab his attention in a text message for him to text me back? what can i say? help please its urgent...
A. 9 August 2006: I would text and say
GUESS WHAT!!... (read in full...)
How to get on with my life after a marriage breakup
Q. I am getting a divorce from my husband. We have 2 sons aged 27 and 34. I left 3 years ago, but have kept in (kind of) friendly contact with my ex, even to the point of inviting him around for Xmas dinner for the past 2 yrs, as he would have bee...
A. 9 August 2006: You cannot be expected to keep this a secret from your ex, he does need to be told though.
Maybe you should go around and tryu to explain that you have met another man and have fallen in love with him.
How does your present partner feel about th... (read in full...)
How many times do I forgive him!
Q. Please advice - My partner is keeping secrets from me, and I need to know - does not matter how bad. Forgiveness will be given because we have a connection....
A. 9 August 2006: It depends on various things, the severity of the secret, etc.
Without more details, I cannot try to give suitable advice.
You can forgive so much, but do not let your forgiveness consume your pride.... (read in full...)
His friend is freaking me out!
Q. My bf and i have been together almost 3 years, the problems is not with our relationship (its great) the problem is with my bf's male friend. my bf's friend has stayed at our home countless times in the past and my bf has recently told me some thi...
A. 9 August 2006: I think your boyfriend is hoping for the right moment to suggest a 3some.
He seems to be wanting to guage your reaction.... (read in full...)
Im really worried that my past lies will wind me up in trouble with my girl!!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my gf for over 6 months now. We love each other to bits and are really happy together. However in my first year of Collage (months before I met my current gf) a girl stayed over in my room. We didnt really do anything, ...
A. 9 August 2006: I think you should sit her down and confess all.
You are at an early stage in your relationship, so any possible obstacles are best to be cleared now.
Honesty is the key to any relationship, a relationship with secrets is destined to fail.... (read in full...)
He says that the dating site is just for laughs... should I accept this ?
Q. my boyfriend is still on a singles dateing site he told me when we first got together that he deleted his profile of there and just by chance i found out otherwise, he said that he is window shopping and only having a laugh!! should i except this??...
A. 9 August 2006: If he still has an active profile, maybe he does have other ideas. I am curious as to how you found his profile.
Did you already suspect him of being on the site?
Maybe it is all innocent, if that is the case, he would be happy to delete his p... (read in full...)
Can a seven year age gap work, is it worth taking the risk ?
Q. Very longwinded, so sit tight. I am a 14 year old girl. I have always ran with an older crowd, most friends being 17+, no reason behind it just for some reason the people I meet and get along with are a few more years than I am. So here is my pre...
A. 2 August 2006: Yes, it can work.
BUT, not while you are 14.
Stay friends with the guy until you are 16 and if he feels the same, he will respect that.
There is a fine line here and one that should not be crossed.
I was 28 and got talking to a girl who was 15... (read in full...)
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