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I am just me. I am 30 and live in Liverpool, England.

I feel I can help others with my advice as I have sweated blood and guts to pull through all of the problems I have had in my life. I am the true voice of experience. lol

Been there, done that, T-shirt is in the wash because of the blood and guts.

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Is he really getting married or was he lying?

Q.   A guy that I care about recently told me he was getting married it was only me and him around, he told me his wedding date but when I asked him her name or who she was he didn't tell me. Why is that? Is he really getting married or lying, should I ...

A.   5 September 2006: I still do not think he is getting married. I think he hopes to make you think he is so that you will try anything to stop him, maybe declare your undying love for him. He seems to be on some sort of power trip, playing mind games and trying t... (read in full...)

The 'butterflies in my stomach' feeling is gone with my bf.....but that feeling is there with his best friend!

Q.   Ok i'm 16 and my 19 yr old boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and a half now and problems are starting to arise. For one, I no longer want to be intimate...Having sex and kissing just freak me out...It's like everytime we do someting ...

A.   5 September 2006: If the feelings are genuine, then I think you should break up with your boyfriend. It is not fair on him, as he will start to feel strung along. He probably has already noticed your feelings have changed and probably already suspects. Give it time... (read in full...)

I practice kissing when alone... is this normal and do others do this ?

Q.   hi, 1)first question: im 14 and never kissed anyone before :( but at night i always kiss my hand and pretend its the person i fancy. is this normal or is there something wrong wiv me? does everyone do this? 2)second question: will kissing my hand ...

A.   3 September 2006: When I first started to learn to kiss, I used to kiss my hand. I was bad though and eventually received a slap. I decided it was time to move on to the real thing. P.S I have received a few slaps since too, lol... (read in full...)

I love him but he says he will never go out with me!

Q.   i love my best friend and he knows but he fools around and teases me because i love him. he says he will never go out with me because im 3 grades lower than him. please help i really love him,...

A.   29 August 2006: Well its not very nice of him to say that to you. My advice would be to just stay friends for a while, dont tell him you love him and try to act like you dont care.... (read in full...)

Is he really getting married or was he lying?

Q.   A guy that I care about recently told me he was getting married it was only me and him around, he told me his wedding date but when I asked him her name or who she was he didn't tell me. Why is that? Is he really getting married or lying, should I ...

A.   29 August 2006: To be honest, I think he is just trying to make you jealous. When is the wedding date?... (read in full...)

I cant tell him is that I love him more than a friend

Q.   i think im in love withmy best boy mate, weare so close and talk on the phone nearly every night, i have no idea how he feels about me because theres no tale talesigns. He knows me inside out and i always tell him whats on my mind, but the one thing ...

A.   29 August 2006: If you really feel this strongly about him, I think you should just tell him. He sounds like a really nice guy. Maybe send him a text out of the blue, just saying, Ilove you. See how he reacts to that one.... (read in full...)

I was raped and I cant talk about it

Q.   i am very self concious since i was raped even more than i was before and that was alot i find it very hard to sleep because wen i manage to sleep i only get bout 2 hours if that sumtimes i get less than 30 mins i dont eat because i cant it makes me ...

A.   29 August 2006: Babe, the first thing you need to do is talk to somebody. Do your parents know about this? Have the police been informed? How long ago was this? You have been extremely brave in asking for advice on here, but you really would benefit from spea... (read in full...)

Will my parents split my boyfriend and I apart if I am pregnant? How do i tell them?

Q.   i forgot something in the last question. my boyfriend said even if i am pregnant he wont leave me, and wants to spend the rest of his life with me no matter what the outcome is cause what ever happens is meant to happen. but if i am pregnant idk how ...

A.   29 August 2006: I think you would be surprised about your parents reaction if you were pregnant, they would not be happy sure, but they would be supportive. Same with your boyfriend, they would not be happy with him, but I am sure they would respect him more if he ... (read in full...)

I hate the thought of being the cause of her leaving her husband

Q.   I am 37 years old and back in April met and instantly fell in love with a married woman 8 years my junior. I didnt know she was married at first we were talking in a group of friends and I couldnt take my eyes off her then I found out she was marr...

A.   29 August 2006: You seem like a really nice guy and you genuinely care about her husbands feelings. It takes a man to do that. She does obviously love both of you and I feel that it is you that she wants to be with. If this is the case, then the right thing to d... (read in full...)

The 'butterflies in my stomach' feeling is gone with my bf.....but that feeling is there with his best friend!

Q.   Ok i'm 16 and my 19 yr old boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and a half now and problems are starting to arise. For one, I no longer want to be intimate...Having sex and kissing just freak me out...It's like everytime we do someting ...

A.   29 August 2006: I feel the intimacy feelings have gone because of this friend. You are really attracted to this other guy and no longer see your boyfriend in the same way. I think you and your boyfriend need to spend some time alone, without the other guy abou... (read in full...)

He still talks to her like once a week

Q.   Please help me figure this out. My bf says he is over his ex but something is telling me he's not. This was 2 years ago when they broke up. He still talks to her like once a week until I told him no. She recently got married and now he is talking ...

A.   29 August 2006: How does he still talk to her? Do they live close or work close? It does seem like he still harbours some feelings for her, I also think the marriage idea is a NO NO at the moment too. I think you are thinking along the right lines about him want... (read in full...)

Does he fancy me?

Q.   I'm 14, does my boy mate fancy me cos he's always txting me like every night. One night he asked if I could send him a picture of me naked! I said no obviously. He always smiles at me when I walk past. Does he like me do u think?...

A.   28 August 2006: If you gave this guy the picture when he has no respect for you, he would send it to his mates without a care. If you want your naked body on all the guys phones at school, then send him the pic. Would you send the pic to me? No? Do you want ... (read in full...)

My lover thrust too deep; now there are problems "down there"

Q.   i had sex with my b/f when he came to visit... when we had sex he went really deep and kinda hurt my lower stomach and i think my bladder... my vagina was really swollen and now when i go and pee it kinda tickles and is tingly.... the outside of ...

A.   28 August 2006: This happened when me and my fiancee first had sex, I hurt her but she never told me. For about a week afterwards, she was swollen and very sore, especially when trying to urinate. We put this down to the chemicals in condoms, but maybe there was ... (read in full...)

Does he fancy me?

Q.   I'm 14, does my boy mate fancy me cos he's always txting me like every night. One night he asked if I could send him a picture of me naked! I said no obviously. He always smiles at me when I walk past. Does he like me do u think?...

A.   28 August 2006: Well, if he does fancy you, he is not showing you respect by asking you for a naked pic. Friends dont do that, even ones that fancy you.... (read in full...)

I like the girl my ex run off with, but im sure he just thinks im trying to wind him up!

Q.   Last year my ex split up with me for another girl. I was so upset and it took me months to get over it. I havnt spoke to my ex since, and dont want to either, but the other night I got talking to his girlfriend and realised that I actually like her. ...

A.   28 August 2006: He probably cannot believe it, but you have had your closure and no longer see this girl in a threatening manner. You do not see her as your exes partner, you see her for the person she is. There is nothing wrong with that. I think he might still ... (read in full...)

I practice kissing when alone... is this normal and do others do this ?

Q.   hi, 1)first question: im 14 and never kissed anyone before :( but at night i always kiss my hand and pretend its the person i fancy. is this normal or is there something wrong wiv me? does everyone do this? 2)second question: will kissing my hand ...

A.   28 August 2006: The best way to learn to kiss is to kiss, funnily enough. When somebody does kiss you, try to follow their lead, like in a dance, do what they do. Move mouth slowly and gently, rather than rapid movements and dont tense. Stay as relaxed as poss... (read in full...)

I turned him down for a date and now he acts nasty toward me. What can I do?

Q.   Hello everybody!!! I have a little problem with a guy in my group of friends, he asked me out a couple of times, a long time ago, and I said I just wanted him to be another friend and he behaves nasty to me many times saying things to cause ...

A.   28 August 2006: I would tell him that you are glad you turned him down because you can see the type of person he is. If he really did care for you as much as he says, he would not treat you with such disrespect.... (read in full...)

Help me with my list of pro's and con's about him

Q.   ok ..tell me if i should or if you would stay with a guy if you had these pro's and con's about him. thanks. some of these things i got over though like the feet thing and i'm getting over the age thing. pro's -he's ALWAYS there for me -h...

A.   28 August 2006: Well I think the pro's outweigh the con's here. But the fact that you are judging him in this way is not really fair. You should be with a guy who you love completely, cons should not be an issue. We all have imperfections, but I dont think he would ... (read in full...)

Tatoo turn off!!! How do I tell her?

Q.   I have a dilemma. My girlfriend has a tattoo. It's not very large, and its right in the small of her back. The problem is, I really don't like it, and for a bad reason. A tattoo in that spot just has negative associations for me: 'tramp stamp' an...

A.   28 August 2006: I think if it is really THAT much of a problem for you, then you should tell her how you feel. She can probably tell that there is something which repulses you when she sees you looking at her. This can cause potential paranoia and psychological ... (read in full...)

Boys tease me about having no breasts. What can I do?

Q.   im 14 and have no breast and all the boys tease me wot can i do?...

A.   27 August 2006: Does it really matter what people think hun? Just look down at them and point out the fact that is is them who is below average. Say something like, YOU have got no right criticising anybody, Peewee... (read in full...)

Liked this guy so I made up a false persona on msn messenger. Now he wants to meet me! What should I do?

Q.   I have liked this guy at my school for 2 years, and we got put in the same class this year. well he is really quiet and shy and never talks 2 anyone or is at school much. i wanted 2 see what kinda person he was, so i added him to msn. However i ...

A.   27 August 2006: Personally, I think you should try to come clean. You say he is attached to 'Jess', I take this to mean the personality of Jess 'YOU'. I think you should try to eplain your real identity, but fully explain your reasons for creating a fake ID. Tell... (read in full...)

Is this implant making me sick or could i br pregant??

Q.   I've had the implant in my arm 4 about 8weeks and i've started bein sick in th mornings and im feelin tierd all the time. I'm scared about gettin a pregnancy test dont want ppl to think im a tart or out. Could this be just the implant gettin u...

A.   27 August 2006: Well I am glad the dad will be there, there are too many guys who would walk away. If you are pregnant, I wish you the very best of luck. Please keep us informed.... (read in full...)

I keep giving him oral sex while e dates other girls! I can't seem to give him up. What's wrong here?

Q.   hi im a teen and i had a boyfriend and we broke up and after that he said he still liked me but was with another girl and after they finished i gave him oral sex and then 2 weeks later he went out another girl. Then whilst he was with this other ...

A.   27 August 2006: You will find a boyfriend soon and look back at this guy. You will realise that he is a using loser, get rid now. He probably cant believe his luck... (read in full...)

I found out he's gotten close to another girl..now he ignores me! What did I do wrong??

Q.   I wrote in Last week about my boyfriend's band being on tour and a girl who was from a different band staying with them and she got jealous when i was talking to my boyfriend, well i found out they got close, now he always comments her on myspace ...

A.   27 August 2006: He does not deserve you, plain and simple. You can do much better than this.... (read in full...)

I am 16 and he is 27!

Q.   my boyfriend is 27 and i am 16 there is 11yrs different and my parents arent the happiest of people and most of the people i tell are very shocked what do i do to make them not say all this bad stuff about him to me because its really annoying and i ...

A.   27 August 2006: Do you live in the USA? If you live in the UK, then it is legal as long as you are 16 or older.... (read in full...)

Call for moderators to help out with DearCupid!

Q.   Hi everyone, This is another appeal for volunteers to be moderators. You get to approve and categorise questions and approve answers. If you could spare say ten minutes a few times a week, then this could be for you! Just add your name in thi...

A.   25 August 2006: I would be very interested in a moderator position if possible. thanks ... (read in full...)

He's in a band and I trust him..but I don't trust the girls he's around. What can I do?

Q.   My boyfriend is in a band and are on tour now i managed to go to the first gig where a girl from another band was giving me dirty looks becuase i was talking to my boyfriend and now she is stayin at the same hotel as him for the next week, also my ...

A.   24 August 2006: OK, I was in a band myself years ago, I was the guitarist, so I can see this from his side. I was 100% loyal to my girlfriend at the time, even though I had many chances with female fans. These girls get off on the fact that maybe the centre of atte... (read in full...)

My ex is ruining my new relationship and ultimately my life!

Q.   I am a 27 year old guy and 2 yrs ago I was dumped by my 8 months pregnant girlfriend after 5 yrs of being together. She told me there was no chance of getting back together. So after 2 months of trying it was time to give up. About 4 months a...

A.   24 August 2006: I am sorry to hear this, but I am sure your new girlfriend is trying to be as understanding as possible, she sounds really nice. Maybe you could move away from the area and change your phone number, this will show your girlfriend that you are will... (read in full...)

I orgasm when I got the loo!! Seriously how can I can stop this ?

Q.   Ok I need some serious help. About two years ago I started doing kegel exercises every day. Needless to say it really helped. I experience way, way better orgasms, and I can grab a hold of things a alot better. If you know what I mean. Now sometimes ...

A.   23 August 2006: I have an orgasm when I finally release the turtles head. Or maybe thats just a big sigh of relief. Does that count? ... (read in full...)

Handy Work!!

Q.   hi all i was just windering if anyone could tell me how to toss a lad off i don't ave a clue what to do.... plz help xxx...

A.   23 August 2006: I love that book, lol... (read in full...)

What's the secret question?

Q.   What is the "Secret Question" to ask a stranger if they are gay?...

A.   23 August 2006: The secret answer is, yes it is a ruler. He will then introduce you to te KING. Now I have to kill you.... (read in full...)

What's the secret question?

Q.   What is the "Secret Question" to ask a stranger if they are gay?...

A.   23 August 2006: I cant tell you, its a secret.... (read in full...)

Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?

Q.   Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...

A.   23 August 2006: Tut tut, I feel it my agony uncle duty to inform you that I think this marriage was awfully rushed. I think you should wait and take things slowly before embarking on the road to passion. Ar you sure you both are ready for children already? Let me k... (read in full...)

I was in bed with my boyfriend's best mate... When my boyfriend walked in on us

Q.   my boyfriend and his best mate are really close there together all the time and class eachother as brothers. i was at my boyfriends house over the weekend while his mum an dad where away and we had a party and i got pretty drunk and ended up in bed ...

A.   23 August 2006: Well, it all seems to have been planned to me. It sems like your boyfriend had planned a threesome with his mate. As for him being bi, did the 2 guys actually have sexual contact. I am curious as to how you and his mate ended up in bed together... (read in full...)

Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?

Q.   Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...

A.   23 August 2006: Well bonym, it does look like Pete is amazing afterall, lol... (read in full...)

Which accent do you find more annoying: Liverpool or Mancunian?

Q.   OK I know this is going to be controversial especially if someone reads this from one of the 2 cities. This is really for people who have been to Manchester and Liverpool in the UK: but what accent is more annoying, Liverpool or Mancunian? I ask be...

A.   23 August 2006: Whereas the Liverpool version would be, Giz a bifter there lad.... (read in full...)

Does personality change as someone (a guy) ages?

Q.   Do you think someones personality can change - as in mature as they grow older? I dated a guy when i was at school who was really immature and had only one thing on his mind (sex) so in a way selfish but i guess typical of all young blokes they get ...

A.   23 August 2006: Well, I act completely different now than I did when at school. I was a selfish rebel at school, I still have my moments, but am now much more mature and considerate with everybody. People grow and mature, personality expands but never comp... (read in full...)

He's acting like we're over, but I can't get a straight answer out of him...

Q.   Hi there. I am in a weird situation. My b/f of about 2 years just stopped speaking to me and all of his friends. Nobody can get through on his cell phone, because he keeps ignoring the calls. I sent him a text message asking to meet, and he said ...

A.   23 August 2006: This sounds like it could be depression, I have been in this situation where I just shut myself off from everybody. I lost all interest in everything I enjoyed, plus prefered to just be on my own. I would switch my phone off and just lie in bed and ... (read in full...)

Which accent do you find more annoying: Liverpool or Mancunian?

Q.   OK I know this is going to be controversial especially if someone reads this from one of the 2 cities. This is really for people who have been to Manchester and Liverpool in the UK: but what accent is more annoying, Liverpool or Mancunian? I ask be...

A.   22 August 2006: Eh, Calm down! I am Scouse and proud, accent is great, not funny. Shame about the stereotype though.... (read in full...)

I lied about my age!!

Q.   Hello, A few weeks ago I met a boy who I instantly got along with. He told me he was 18 and so I lied about my age and said i was 17, a year older as I'm actually 16. At the time I didn't think I would see him again, so i didn't think It would ca...

A.   22 August 2006: You should come clean with him as soon as possible. Lies so early in a relationship are never a good sign, otherwise, you will find yourself lying to cover up old lies. Then you will have a situation. Clear this up while its easy.... (read in full...)

I don't want to have sex with my bf! He wants it and I am scared he will hurt me if I turn him down! Please help me!

Q.   hi, im 16 and im going out with a boy, but he wants sex and i dont want to i want to wait until im 20 or even marriage but he keeps pushing me into it and im suppose to see him tommorow and night and do it but i don't want to, i can't tell him beca...

A.   22 August 2006: The first thing you should do is contact the police. Any guy who ever hits a girl can never be called a man, this guy is a coward and gets his kicks from bullying vulnerable girls. Do you have any male friends who can help you through this? Ma... (read in full...)

Is cheating ok so long as he doesn't find out?

Q.   I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 yrs, he is 27, I am 22. Three months ago I slept with some one else, so I split up with him, but didnt tell him why and he still doesnt know. We got back together three weeks ago, in the meantime, I ...

A.   21 August 2006: Try reversing the situation. How would you feel if your boyfriend was doing exactly what you are doing? You are currently running the risk of ruining everything you have built up together. I think it is despicable how you are treating him. Do the... (read in full...)

Liar Liar

Q.   me and my fiance is very happy itill i lie to him i cant help it and after i feel bad and he knows i lied. and one day he is going to finish us i i dont want that i love him for than anything he knows that but i cant stop lyin and dont no why ...

A.   21 August 2006: If you find that you are lying to him about anything, chances are this is because you spend a lot of time lying to yourself. This is a problem which can become out of hand very quickly, the lies start off small, then you lie to cover up prev... (read in full...)

16 dating 32

Q.   i am a young girl i am only 16 and going with a 32 year old and dont no what to do its got really seriouse be asked me 2 be his fiancee and i said yes cos wanted to but now i not to sure i only young plus he is wanting to marry me and all that its ...

A.   21 August 2006: Why dont you trusy him? I am 29, my fiancee is 16, we got engaged becuase we both felt this was the right step to take. I have been in loads of relationships with women my own age, yet this is the happiest I have ever been in my life and I love her... (read in full...)

Is this implant making me sick or could i br pregant??

Q.   I've had the implant in my arm 4 about 8weeks and i've started bein sick in th mornings and im feelin tierd all the time. I'm scared about gettin a pregnancy test dont want ppl to think im a tart or out. Could this be just the implant gettin u...

A.   2 July 2006: Yes, the implant does upset the system for a short time. This is normal, however, if it starts to become really uncomfortable or makes you sick constantly, then go back to your gp. You can then discuss other options. Best of luck x... (read in full...)

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