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I feel I can help others with my advice as I have sweated blood and guts to pull through all of the problems I have had in my life. I am the true voice of experience. lol
Been there, done that, T-shirt is in the wash because of the blood and guts.
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How can I bring him out of his shell?
Q. I recently started living with a family in the city I have my education in, and I have noticed one of their sons behaving very oddly around me. He seldom looks me in the eye, yet when he does, it's intensely and with a smile on his face. I can have ...
A. 28 September 2006: Awww, all this is so cute.
Are you attracted to him? I know the feeling he probably gets. I get it whenever I see my fiancee.
And burning CD's tut tut.
Oh well, I am just away now to sell some copied DVDs, cya around, lol
Best of luck
xx... (read in full...)
It was a no strings sex encounter, the fact I slept with someone doesnt make me a cheat right ??
Q. Before my boyfriend and I actually got together,we basically started with screwing each other.We both barely knew each other and so forth. From what i had assumed we were just messing. I slept with him and slept over his place 2 nights in a row ...
A. 26 September 2006: I totally agree woth lostandalone.
This is all about the guys own self worth. I knew my partner was cheating and got a private detective to keep tabs on her. I got pics of her having sex with another guy on many occasions. I destroyed the pict... (read in full...)
Why do I feel that white women are more beautiful than black women like me? Do I need professional help?
Q. i am a single black woman and i have issues with beautiful women. my self image was destroyed a while back and now when i see that black women are not as beautiful as white women so basically what im saying is what could be wrong with me or do i ...
A. 26 September 2006: I will put this simply.
ALL women are beautiful, regardless of colour, race, shape.
Personality is where true beauty lies.... (read in full...)
How can I bring him out of his shell?
Q. I recently started living with a family in the city I have my education in, and I have noticed one of their sons behaving very oddly around me. He seldom looks me in the eye, yet when he does, it's intensely and with a smile on his face. I can have ...
A. 26 September 2006: I have a feeling he fancies you.... (read in full...)
Vaginal wind problems?
Q. What happens to cause a vaginal wind (fanny fart) and what can you do to prevent this happening?...
A. 25 September 2006: Ah, love puffs.
They rock!... (read in full...)
How can I respond to a letter from a girl? I don't want to bore her.
Q. A girl has wrote a letter for me. It was really long and enjoyed reading it... the thing is i have to write back now and i have never writen a letter before - and i don't want to write anything that she will find boring! i like this girl and i think ...
A. 25 September 2006: Well, I would go through her letter and start by answering any questions she asks and making comments on any interests she mentions. You will soon find the pen flowing and you will be asking more questions than you are answering.
The letter can be u... (read in full...)
What do people do straight after sex?
Q. What do people usually do after sex? Do they both go clean themselve before cuddling up, or do they go straight to cuddle?...
A. 25 September 2006: Straight after sex - Clean themselves up
Straight after making love - straight to cuddling.
Depends on your outlook... (read in full...)
Why do I keep getting pregnant to men I don't really love?
Q. I am 23 years old and have a 4 year old child. At the age of 17 I had an abortion and it was a really harrowing experience as I didn't tell anyone. Then earlier this year, I had another, but this time felt able to tell family and friends, although ...
A. 25 September 2006: Well for a start, you should be using some form of contraception if you do not want to get pregnant.... (read in full...)
I can't remember the name of this website..can you remember?
Q. just a general question this afternoon when I logged on you had other related sites but now there is only one listed can you help I need to contact one of the other sights I cant remember the name but it was similar to this where it was like a forum ...
A. 25 September 2006: Try clicking the history tab on your computer, that will show all pages visited today, so you shoudl have no problem finding the site. The history tab is usually located on the onfo bar near the top of your comp screen.
Click it and a window will... (read in full...)
How can I get the bad feelings regarding my girlfriends past to go away?
Q. I recently broke up with a girl I was with from 22 to 26, we're both the same age, and she was the my first serious girlfriend really. I got an urge to break up as I kept getting a feeling that I missed out in my teen years as I didn't get a ...
A. 23 September 2006: I dont think you ever can forget completely, the only thing you can do is try to accept it. I am in the same situation myself because of my fiancee's past.
If you do find a method to forget, please tell me the secret.... (read in full...)
I caught my 12 year old son masturbating. How should I handle this?
Q. i am a father of a twelve year old boy, and i saw him masturbating,and i blew up, what should i do?...
A. 23 September 2006: I think you just really need to accept that this is normal. He is going to do it regardless of how you feel. If you try to chastise him, he will probably do it all the more.
The best thing to do is just accept he does it, it is normal for boys his ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 23 September 2006: A sent messages feature is already available. It is on the left side of your mailbox.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 23 September 2006: Regarding the ratings feature, how about using a feedback rating similar to the one used on ebay?
There would still be the 3 options, as is the case with ebay. When you leave feedback, you must also leave a comment. This left feedback can also be d... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 22 September 2006: Hi
The only problem I really have is the search feature. Maybe its just me but I find it near impossible to find a post I once saw.
Is it possible to add more categories? There are many questions which I feel do not really fall into any of the exis... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 22 September 2006: hence the need for a spellcheck or edit feature, lol... (read in full...)
He has a great personality but I don't like his looks! Physical attractions means a lot....right??
Q. hi, i met this guy on myspace and we have been on a date! i love everything about his personality and we get on well! its just his appearance, i'm not attracted to him! i'v kinda turned him down because i dont find him attractive, it may seem ...
A. 22 September 2006: Thank you BonyM, lol.
I have always been in the same situation, right through my school and younger days, I felt ugly and was always the short skinny one who nobody wanted to be friends with. I grew up with no confidence and was bullied regu... (read in full...)
Is this normal ?
Q. Me and my bf had sex without a condom, whilst i was on my period (time of the month), i was wondering, if this is ok, it was the first time we did this, we have been together a year... im worried now.. is this normal??????...
A. 22 September 2006: It is fairly normal, but some people prefer not to. The risk of pregnancy is very high though.... (read in full...)
How do I tell if my teacher really fancies me? He seems quite friendly to me!
Q. hi, i fancy my teacher and he seems to be extremely friendly and chatty towards me and my friends all say he does little things like when we were performing a play, one eye was following me around. how do i tell if he fancies me/loves me/just...
A. 22 September 2006: Crushes on teachers are very normal. I am sure he does like you, but not in the way you are hoping. This can be a very dangerous situation for him and his reputation could be severely damaged. If you do care about him, leave him alone and dont try ... (read in full...)
He has a great personality but I don't like his looks! Physical attractions means a lot....right??
Q. hi, i met this guy on myspace and we have been on a date! i love everything about his personality and we get on well! its just his appearance, i'm not attracted to him! i'v kinda turned him down because i dont find him attractive, it may seem ...
A. 22 September 2006: For me, looks come last.
I find personality to be the main attraction in a partner, looks are merely a bonus.
I am completely in love with my fiancee, she is charming, sexy, witty and very beautiful. But I would love her even if she was blue and... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 22 September 2006: I was all for a chatroom feature, but I now would prefer to not include one. As we all have computers, we could just use MSN or whatever if we all wanted a group chat.
I would like to see a spellchecker though, or the option to edit your own answ... (read in full...)
If I lose weight, will my penis become larger?
Q. Hello, I am in my early 20s and I am about 6'1" and weight about 310 pounds. When erect, my penis is 5.5 inches long. I know that's a good size, but my question is, if I lose weight, will my penis become larger when erect or be the same size? I know ...
A. 21 September 2006: In short, no.
It may look bigger once excess fat has gone, but the measurements will remain the same. Only downside is you will need smaller underwear I would imagine. I suppose it would depend on how much weight you actually lost though.... (read in full...)
My fiancee said it was either he goes or my smoking goes! But I have snuck smokes when he was away. Help me please!
Q. omg i dont no what to do my fiance told me 2 pick between him or fags and i picked him of course cos i love him so much problems is i love fags and he made me promise i wouldnt smock so i did and he away on holiday with his ex and kidz and the day ...
A. 21 September 2006: Well your friends are being very selfish and childish. If you love him dearly, then think about him every time you feel like a smoke. I am sure you would regret losing him over a 3 minute craving.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my bf...that he has real bad body odor?
Q. I'm in love with a guy who has bad b.o. and I don't know how to tell him. He smokes alot of pot so I think he doesn't remember to put deorderant on. Do you think I should bring it up to him? If so how? ...
A. 13 September 2006: You need to tell him. I worked with a guy who smelled like a dead cat in a dirty mop bucket. I had to sit next to him, so I dont know how you can live with him or get close to him.
You should maybe carry a tin of deodorant with you and spray the ... (read in full...)
Could I be bi and if so my friends won't accept me....
Q. I've been thinking for a while now about the posiblility that i'm bisexual. I know im not gay cos im attracted to guys. But, my mate had a house party a few nights ago and we all got really drunk. We were all laughing and carrying on when my mate ...
A. 12 September 2006: It could mean you are bi, yes, but alcohol seems to heighten emotion. It is easy to get carried away at such parties, especially when inhibition is at a low.
You say you have been thinking about the possibility for a while, maybe you are. If it make... (read in full...)
Is he flirting with me, and if so how can I tell him I like him too ?
Q. Dear Cupid, Im confused about a certain man in my life.I need to know whether Im not confused about the messages he's sending out. He's always staring into my eyes for quite a while without looking away. He shows me sex jokes on his phone. He ...
A. 12 September 2006: To me, it seems like he is more interested in getting you into bed rather than dating you. He seems to be making his intentions clear enough. Just be careful with this one.
Maybe I am wrong, but his actions do not display serious affection, they... (read in full...)
My parents call me a "child molester" for having a girlfriend who's three years younger!
Q. I'm 18 dating a girl who just turned 16. I'm in college and shes a junior in high school. My parents would not a approve of me having anything to do with someone younger than me, there very strict. I will be 19 soon in december ( about a 3 year ...
A. 12 September 2006: I think it is extremely unfair for them to even think that, let alone say it.
Ignore their comments and do what makes you happy, best of luck to you both.... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 12 September 2006: I would like to see a chatroom feature and the ability to see which users are currently online. Also the use of html would be handy for posting actual links.
Another feature I would like, would be the ability to see where each rating come from, ie, ... (read in full...)
Had sex with my boyfriend and another guy in the same week, now im pregnant!!
Q. i been going out with this guy for four years and very confused.im not inlove with him no more but at the same time i dont think i can live with out him.i feel like his mom i work and go to school while he just goes to school.but i basically suppot ...
A. 12 September 2006: If you used a condom with this other guy, then chances are you are pregnant to your boyfriend.
If you are not in love with him and you are cheating on him, then he is obviously not the one for you. I think you should break up with him. It will be h... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem interested...Could I be pushing him away???
Q. my fiance seems off with me all the time also doesnt seem interested in me anymore he says he is but i think he is.he always has a go when i get jealous like he talks other lassies on msn and got numbers and when i said something he had a go at me ...
A. 12 September 2006: Here are the full lyrics.
If you're ugly, I'm ugly too
In your eyes the sky's a different blue
If you could see yourself like others do
You'd wish you were as beautiful as you
And I wish I was a camera sometimes
So, I could take your pic... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem interested...Could I be pushing him away???
Q. my fiance seems off with me all the time also doesnt seem interested in me anymore he says he is but i think he is.he always has a go when i get jealous like he talks other lassies on msn and got numbers and when i said something he had a go at me ...
A. 12 September 2006: I am in a similar situation, my fiancee does not believe me when I say she is beautiful, she is always putting herself down and says no whenever I say she is sexy or beautiful. She says my ex and friends are more beautiful than her, which is not ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him out???
Q. hi i really fancy this foreign lad whos in the yr above me.i want to ask him out but im scared girls should be asked by a lad,also im scared what he'll say to me (yes/no).he always smiles at me whenever i catch his eye.and i said to him in his ...
A. 11 September 2006: erm....wrong thread methinks... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my on off guy realise that I want a great life with him ?
Q. I am divorced seeing a guy 9 years younger, on and off for the past 5 years, i want more but it feels like he is testing me all the time to prove myself to him. i have 2 children my own home. what do i do to prove i have waited all this time for ...
A. 11 September 2006: What do you think he wants you to prove?... (read in full...)
he called me nasty names but claims he loves me!!?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend of a year gets angry and starts calling you names when you are arguing and he makes you cry, by calling you a "slut", "hoe", "dirty" and that hes had better than you, even though he is in love with you???...
A. 11 September 2006: Had better than you has he?
Dump the insensitive shit... (read in full...)
How can I get back with my girl after cheating on her ?
Q. How can I get back together with my girlfriend after I cheated on her? My girlfriend of a year recently dumped me after finding out I cheated on her with someone else roughly 5 months ago. I didn't tell her because I was afraid of losing her becau...
A. 11 September 2006: Just be a good friend to her and let the trust build up again. Dont pressure her into taking you back, just because she says she has forgiven you does not mean she trusts you.
She obviously still has feelings for you, but you dented her pride. Trea... (read in full...)
Called my girlfriend my ex's name ..help!
Q. Hi, well recently i had my girlfriend over, we watched some tv and then went up to bed, and i accidentaly called her my ex-gf's name, which i found odd becasue the girl whos name i called her we didnt even have a good relationship with, let alone a ...
A. 11 September 2006: This is why its easier to call your partner babe or something, I never called any of my partners by their name, they would have thought it strange if I did. My last 2 exes both had the same name, so that would not have been too much of a problem.
S... (read in full...)
My boyfriend farts alot...Is something wrong with him???
Q. This might sound like I'm weird, but my boyfriend seems to fart alot. I know everyone does and it's a human thing, but sometimes I feel very embarrassed with him doing it in public. My questions is: Is he doing it because he doesn't care what other ...
A. 11 September 2006: "not worry about it sure so long as he doesnt start trying to blame them on you!!!!!!!"
Now thats when the fun really starts!
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I really like her, and she seems to like me but she is going through a split with her husband...
Q. Hi guys, I'd like to know if you think I am doing the right thing or not... So...there is someone i've known for a good while but i've got to know her a lot better this year (since i split from my ex). I've realised the more i know her, the mo...
A. 11 September 2006: I wish you luck, you really do sound like a nice guy. I hope it works out for you both.... (read in full...)
Stuck between a rock and hard a place and dont want to be left feeling unattractive...
Q. my boyfriend is goin through some depression and before this i was having panic attacks things are ok with me now but hes still goin through his depression waiting to get some help etc! basically we have not had sex for months i understand this mus...
A. 10 September 2006: OK, Has he been to see his GP about his depression? Depression does cause a lack of interest in sex, so don't take it personally.
I am glad you are trying to understand his condition and he will need all your support at the moment, especially if h... (read in full...)
Long distance Love
Q. Hi I need some advice. The Guy i love will just be coming back from his University….by the time I am only just LEAVING college to start my University. How can we stay together? Do long-distance relationships work? If so….can they work for FOUR YEAR...
A. 10 September 2006: If you both have computers, I would suggest MSN and a webcam. This would help and make the distance a little more bearable. I am sort of in the same situation myself and have to travel to see my fiancee. I try to get up to see her at least once a ... (read in full...)
How do I give a hand job ?
Q. ok well i have a question to ask guys. i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me...
A. 10 September 2006: " this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it....."
Is this guy your boyfriend?
Going by your post, I would say you were very young, maybe too young to engage in this just yet.
This guy offers to help! I think he is more concerned in... (read in full...)
I want to know what experiences people have with age-gap relationships...
Q. I don't really have a problem..(well i do, but thats a dif. story..lol) Anywho, I just want to know if there is anyone out there that is dating or married to someone with an age difference of over 15 years,and if so what makes it work and what ...
A. 10 September 2006: I am 29 and been with my fiancee for almost a year, she is 17 now. She has made me the happiest I have ever been.
We have had our troubles like everybody, but she is my soul mate and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is he just being friendly?
Q. i dont know what to do i dont know how to tell if this guy likes me. when we are on our way to college he will ask me what i have lesson wise and when i open my folder he will lean across my shoulder to look at it. he waves at me from across...
A. 10 September 2006: You say he asked you out, what did you say?
I think he does like you. Next time he asks you, you should reply with something innocent but suggesting. Something like, are you asking me on a date, lol?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend farts alot...Is something wrong with him???
Q. This might sound like I'm weird, but my boyfriend seems to fart alot. I know everyone does and it's a human thing, but sometimes I feel very embarrassed with him doing it in public. My questions is: Is he doing it because he doesn't care what other ...
A. 10 September 2006: There is nothing wrong with him, he is just being a guy.
Guys enjoy a good fart, nothing like it to clear the air, so to speak.
If you are not on the same level regarding his anal acoustics, then maybe a quiet word will do the trick.
If this f... (read in full...)
I really like her, and she seems to like me but she is going through a split with her husband...
Q. Hi guys, I'd like to know if you think I am doing the right thing or not... So...there is someone i've known for a good while but i've got to know her a lot better this year (since i split from my ex). I've realised the more i know her, the mo...
A. 7 September 2006: Yes, we feel as though you are doing the right thing. Its nice that you have fully explained your intentions. You seem like a nice guy, she sounds like a nice girl and you sound like you will make a nice couple.
I wish you both the very best of luck... (read in full...)
I really like her, and she seems to like me but she is going through a split with her husband...
Q. Hi guys, I'd like to know if you think I am doing the right thing or not... So...there is someone i've known for a good while but i've got to know her a lot better this year (since i split from my ex). I've realised the more i know her, the mo...
A. 7 September 2006: I think you are both doing the right thing and am glad you are both taking things slowly. I feel you are going to have a future together.
This relationship is building on a foundation of trust, respect and a genuine friendship, surely that can only... (read in full...)
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