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When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 2 January 2007: Thanks Manya, that means a lot.
Me and Ellie are just good friends at the moment. I kissed her, but was overwhelmed by guilt. I felt like I was the one cheating on my ex.
My ex and I have been talking, but the more we talk, the more I know we ... (read in full...)
When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 18 December 2006: Just a quick update, a close friend of mine has been supporting me through my break up. We are really close now and she is hinting at a relationship now. I realise I can be happy again thanks to Ellie. We are going to just take things slowly for the ... (read in full...)
I was going to date her but my feelings have changed. How do I tell her this?
Q. I just want a girl to know that i was gonna ask her for relationship although the feelings are no more now..!!! Anybody could suggest something?...
A. 17 December 2006: Not quite sure what to advise on this one, but don't play games. There is no reason for you to tell her.
What would you say to her?
I used to fancy you and was going to ask you on a date, but now I don't have any feelings for you, so I wont ask... (read in full...)
I saw my ex today, but he made no attempt to acknowledge me - why?
Q. hi all just want some advice, which i probably know the answer to really! my boyfriend and i split up 2 months ago , is a long story, his decision to split , i was heartbroken. as we dont live far from eachother we said we would at least be civil e...
A. 15 December 2006: I feel it hurts him to see you. I don't think he is blatantly ignoring you. I think he probably does still love you, but maybe feels that he needs to move on.
Without knowing more about why you split, it is hard to understand why he would act in t... (read in full...)
I dumped her but expected her to contact me but she hasn't! Am I regretting all I did?
Q. Hi I finished with a girl I had been seeing as things were great then they were not. I have not been with anyone serious for years. This girl really made an impact on me, she was pretty different, fun no hangups. Although she start getting pr...
A. 15 December 2006: She probably accepts that you don't want her. What concerns me is, why do you expect her to contact you after you finished with her? It seems like you are playing games with her.
What would you say to her if she did contact you? If you want to spea... (read in full...)
She broke up with me, now all she does is ask me for money.
Q. Guys..... I'm feeling very lonely and VERY VERY lost right now... Well ever since my ex-gf broke up with me about 3 months ago ive been suffering from depression and loneliness. Ever since we broke up she has been asking me for money because ...
A. 15 December 2006: She knows that you want her back and she is playing on that. I feel you think that if you continue to give her money, then you may once again win her heart. What she is doing is very cruel. To take advantage of a persons emotions is not a nice thing ... (read in full...)
Who should I date?
Q. im 15 and ive got a 16 year old boyfriend im in year 10 and hes in college, he also works most nights and because of his religion hes not alowed to date girls, this makes it hard as he always has to come to my house but im scared of what my mum will ...
A. 14 December 2006: Well if you even thinking about dating somebody else, then it indicates you don't love your boyfriend. I think you should split up with your bf anyway if you feel the need to stray. You are flattered that this other guy fancies you and are ready to ... (read in full...)
My girl has done "porno" shoots before!
Q. Hi I've been seeing a girl now for two weeks. She's great and funny and attractive and smart (something you don't always get). But there's just one thing. She told me she did one or two porn photo shoots which she says she regrets and needed money ...
A. 14 December 2006: That depends on your outlook. I give her a LOT of credit for being so honest about it so early in the relationship. She regrets it, obviously a good sign.
I think that if you CAN'T accept it, then you should leave her. Otherwise the tension and anim... (read in full...)
I would like to get my boyfriend's 7 year old son a Christmas present - any thoughts?
Q. Hi everyone... I'm with my boyf nearly a year now and he's got a 7 year old son that he see's twice a week with out fail and I don't have a problem with that. I've met him a few times at family do's etc and he's a lovely little guy and I w...
A. 13 December 2006: Try sitting him next to you and looking through a catalogue. Or maybe take him to the shops and let him pick something himself.
I remember when I was 7 and my cousin took me to the shops. I was madly into the Dukes of Hazzard at the time and I set ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and I've tried to forgive and forget - will it always hurt?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me once, a week after we got together. She says it was only sex and doesn't know what got into her. She says it didn't mean a thing. She's been very open about it, apologetic, and has since then fallen in love with me as ...
A. 13 December 2006: Yes, it will always hurt, but cheating causes much more than just hurt.
Cheating affects people in different ways, so it is impossible really to ascertain a definitive answer. For instance, I was cheated on by a person who I initially trusted with... (read in full...)
When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 13 December 2006: Thanks again Sally and Manya.
I have been thinking about how I feel about her and realise that love and hate are basically the same thing. The feelings can often overwhelm you, make you happy and sad at the same time, can fill your heart with utmo... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits?
Q. What do you say when a guy says that he only wants to be friends? Yet wants to have sex? I feel like a whore!...
A. 12 December 2006: I know many people in this situation and have been there myself. The way I have usually seen it work is that the guy just wants the sexual part, yet the woman agrees to it in the hope something more meaningful will arise from it. Many women lower ... (read in full...)
When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 12 December 2006: Thanks Sally.
I have already finished with her. I finished it after she hung up 3 times. She was on the phone last night again, begging and crying. I think she assumed I would take her back, no matter what, just as TELLULAH said. She realises now ... (read in full...)
When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 11 December 2006: Thank you very much :)... (read in full...)
When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 11 December 2006: I should also add that, She begged me to take her back last night, which I eventually did. She then changed in the space of 5 minutes. I phoned her this morning, but she hung up 3 times 'accidentally' yet still insists that she wants to be with me ... (read in full...)
Do you think I could be a model?
Q. I'm 14 years old and 5ft 7, I've got striking eyes and cupids-bow(or whatever it's called) lips, i've got prominent cheek bones and know how to pose for photographs. I'm often told I could be a model, but I've got a reasonably big nose, VERY VER...
A. 9 December 2006: Yes, I do think you have what it takes. I especially like your eyes. They are very distinctive.
I think you should get a portfolio done and become registered with an agency. You really just need to be wary as getting in to the 'wrong' side of mode... (read in full...)
I dont want anyone to know that I fancy a geek!
Q. hi i have a friend thats a boy and i am starting to like him as more than a friend. the thing is he doesnt hang around with me and my friends cos he's kind of a geek :( he hangs around with the geeks. so none of my mates are friends with him. ...
A. 9 December 2006: I dont think you are a bad person, but people are not ugly on the outside. Just because you may not like a persons looks, does not mean they are ugly. You are attracted to this guy for some reason. When you figure out why you are attracted to him, ... (read in full...)
How can I find out about my dad who left when I was born? My mum shouts when I bring it up!
Q. When I was born, my dad left when I was very young. I can't even remember him. Now, 14 years on, I want to know about him. I want to know all about his life and if I have any brothers and sisters because at present I have none that I know abou...
A. 9 December 2006: I would speak to your friends of your mum if you have no close family.
My father left my mum when he found out she was pregnant. He wanted her to get an abortion. She changed her mind at the last minute. I know his name, I know where he lives. I wa... (read in full...)
The girl I fancy made out that I fancied her other friend
Q. I have fancied a girl who is about 6 months younger than me (we're both 16) for about 3 and a half years now. When I first met her, we barely spoke at all. I more watched her from afar. She had a massive crush on another of my friends, and they...
A. 9 December 2006: I think you should tell her how you feel. I have been rejected many times, probably more than most. Rejection is not really a bad thing when you think about it. If you are constantly fearful of rejection, then you will stay fearful and never seek ... (read in full...)
I dont want anyone to know that I fancy a geek!
Q. hi i have a friend thats a boy and i am starting to like him as more than a friend. the thing is he doesnt hang around with me and my friends cos he's kind of a geek :( he hangs around with the geeks. so none of my mates are friends with him. ...
A. 9 December 2006: What makes him a geek? Hard worker? Intelligent? Knows what he wants in life?
Don't even think of a relationship with him if you dont accept him for who he is.
When I was at school, it was bad to actually care about your education. The geeks at... (read in full...)
I feel like them 2 are going places and not with me
Q. Hi , I have 2 friends that are my best friends, it is just normally us 3 who hang with each other. One of my best friends fancys the other and the other feels the same. One has started asking the other out and they are being together and i feel i...
A. 9 December 2006: If they are together as a couple, then it would be better if you let them do their own thing. If you was with your girlfriend and one of your friends were always tagging along, how would you feel?
I am sure if you gave them the space, they woul... (read in full...)
Are braces a turn off for teenage boys?
Q. are braces a turn off for teenage boys?...
A. 9 December 2006: I don't see any reason why they would be. Braces are an indication of self improvement, it shows you are trying to make yourself more comfortable and are looking to become cosmetically better.
This can surely ony be a good thing. If the teen... (read in full...)
I always go for the bad boys...is there nothing I can do to make more sensible decisions?
Q. This is no doubt a very common problem, but I always fall for the 'bad boy', and as I result I always end up getting hurt. There are guys I know who are totally into me who are really nice guys, and that are very compatable with me, but I'm just not ...
A. 9 December 2006: The answer to this one lies within yourself. What is it about these guys that make you happy? Fear? Adrenaline? Power?
I used to carry guns when I was younger, that was for totally different reasons and was never to cause menace. I carried for defe... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship anymore and the problem is...I can't forget about her! What should I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship for about a month or 2. I have been in plenty of relationships in the past, dumped some girls, been dumped, and moved on. My latest relationship, however, is rather different. I'm 17, she's 19. In the past month or so ...
A. 9 December 2006: I agree with Nikita on this one.
Hold your head up and just be a good friend. Let her realise how much she enjoys your company and how much fun you are to be around. Be supportive in times of need and provide a listening ear. BUT, however clos... (read in full...)
Could my medication interfere with my pregnancy?
Q. i think i might be pregnant and i am worried that the medicine im takin for my condition could harm my baby what should i do ...
A. 9 December 2006: You need to consult your GP about this. There should be some mention on the medicine box of whether it can harm your baby, but you really do need to consult your doctor on this one.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to go for this?
Q. ok answers based on UK law if possible please. as i live in the Uk am a 22 year old man and yesterday due to many random events i got a girls number. she is 16. and here in the UK age of consent is 16 so its all legal. there is nothing atm, but i ...
A. 9 December 2006: Completely legal, not too much of an age difference. I say go for it.... (read in full...)
I try to be supportive of my friend who is getting over cancer, but I feel she's just using me!
Q. My best friend is getting over cancer at the moment so I try to be nice and call her everyday or every 2 days, I sometimes go with her to tratment as her mom is ill,I try to be suppportive and nice though she keeps including a boy a don't trust and ...
A. 8 December 2006: You should tell her how you feel. Cancer can be one of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with. Your friend will need you more than anything, she has probably developed a very strong connection with you. But, you must tell her you need to ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent my hands from sweating?
Q. I get sweaty hands. It's really embarrassing at school when we do dancing or I'm shaking hands, or I'm making hand interaction - and I don't want a boyfriend because I would be embarrassed of my hands getting sweaty. I researched a little about this ...
A. 8 December 2006: This can be caused by many things, usually heat (obviously) nerves or stress.
The best thing to do is not to worry about it, it is actually quite normal.... (read in full...)
Can you ever take back someone who has cheated?
Q. What are your thoughts on cheating? It's a long story so I won't go into too much detail right now. If someone cheats and then realises they have made a terrible mistake...have taken steps to try and put things right...begging for you to take the...
A. 8 December 2006: Yes you can. Some people change, some people don't. Its all down to the individual.
I was cheated on repeatedly and always took her back, only for more damage to be done.
You can take them back, but you cant take away the memories or the damage. ... (read in full...)
What are the signs you're in love?
Q. well i was just wondering how do u know when ur in love???...
A. 8 December 2006: You will just know, its as simple as that.
The person can be a million miles away, yet feels like they are standing next to you. The thought of them keeps you warm through the cold nights. You think about them and nothing else. You cannot fath... (read in full...)
What are the signs you're in love?
Q. well i was just wondering how do u know when ur in love???...
A. 8 December 2006: You will just know, its as simple as that.
The person can be a million miles away, yet feels like they are standing next tou you. The thought of them keeps you warm through the cold nights. You think about them and nothing else. You cannot fath... (read in full...)
My bf of 8 months just broke it off with me. How can I deal with this?
Q. i just got an amazing cruise ship job as a lead singer and im going away for 6 months. me and my boy have been together for 8 months. he just broke up with me because of our 10 year difference and how i cant stimulate him mentally. my heart feels ...
A. 5 December 2006: If this is how he feels, then the only thing you can do is move on. That was a very selfish comment he made and shows much disrespect.
My advice would be to concentrate on your new job and let time take its course.
You will have such a good tim... (read in full...)
How do I make my ex regret what he did to me
Q. I am 15. How can I make my ex boyfriend regret dumping me? He is a coward and dumped me by text. I want to make him regret it... but how? ...
A. 5 December 2006: Move on with your life and let him see how much happier you are without him. This will dent his self pride and he will see that he obviously never made you happy.
Find somebody who will show commitment to you and give you the respect you dese... (read in full...)
She has given me unconditional love but there are parts about her I just don't like...
Q. If I have someone's unconditional love, should I be "blinded" by feelings ? To get a bit more into details, I'm in a relationship with a woman that trully loves me for who I am and I know she would just do anything for me. I do love her too,...
A. 4 December 2006: Tough question, yet only you can figure out the answer. I will try to advise best I can though.
I feel this relationship does have a future, but you must both sit and talk through any issues you both have. She loves you unconditionally, so that show... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about the every three month shot
Q. i'm sixteen. My boyfriend and I started having sex a few weeks ago. He's been using a condom, but I think I'd feel better with something that's more effective so I don't get pregnant. I'm thinking about the every three month shot. Anyone have ...
A. 3 December 2006: The injection is a good method, as is the implant. You should really discuss this with your GP and work out which method would be the most suitable for you.
All credit to you both for using contraception. Very sensible actions from you both.... (read in full...)
Anyone got any tips to be popular with guys?
Q. Anyone got any tips to be popular with guys? And to be their mates? Most of my friends are mainly girls, and i think that if I let guys get to know me a bit more, they might fancy me more. Anyone got anytips?...
A. 3 December 2006: I dont agree with that. Just be yourself. Dont try to be something you are not. A guy will not fall for the real you if you dont let him see the real you.
Dont try too hard, dont put on an act. Let him see you are genuine.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates it when I'm "on"... Should I let him sleep with other girls? Is there a "third way"?
Q. I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. He's a great guy but, lately, he's been annoying me a bit. I'm 20 and he's 27. We have a good sex life but he moans when I'm on my period. I am usually on for about a week and he moans that we can't have ...
A. 1 December 2006: lol, well said Shania!... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my family called the police because I'm dating a 25 year old!
Q. Lets start off with the fact that i'm 15. the guy i like is 25... and if thats not a big enough deal, he's my cousin's ex-husband. Jis brother is dating my sister, so we started hanging out alot. and before we knew it, we fell for eachother. the ...
A. 27 November 2006: I am with Martini on this one. Most of you are saying this guy is a pedo as she is only 15. She wont be 15 forever, so will you all still class him this way when she turns 16, 17, 18, 19?.
I met my fiancee when she was only 15, we got on great and ... (read in full...)
Do teen girl masturbate as often as teen boys?
Q. hi, do teenage girls masturbate as often as teenage boys?...
A. 22 November 2006: Probably about the same, just more boys tend to admit it.
My fiancee probably does it more than most people.... (read in full...)
He hasn't texted me today and this is unusual! Should I worry?
Q. hey people My bf is away at the moment and although i find that hard to cope with whats killing me at the min is that i havent heard from him today I know what your thinking One day big deal but i always usually hear from him and its te...
A. 21 November 2006: Maybe you just havent received it yet. Maybe he hasn't got yours yet.
I have had this argument before, then received 5 texts the next day from the day before. This had made me feel really guilty.
Just text him again or even call him to put your min... (read in full...)
age limit advice
Q. for a 16 year old girl..what do u think the limit in age would be for a boyfriend? i like someone whos 25..is anyone my age or older in a relationship with an age gap so big? if so please let me know if age really matters or wether its basically ...
A. 16 November 2006: I am 29, my fiancee is 17. Happiest I have ever been in my life. Age is just a number, but a number which causes problems. The hardest part is caused by opinionated people who feel they must try to interfere. Once you get past this stage and are ... (read in full...)
My BF hit me across the face when all I was doing was joking around - will he do it again?
Q. I love my boyfriend so much but the other day he hit me across the face when i was pretending to pull his pants down. It was suposed to be a joke. I ran of crying after that shocked and hurt. He has apologised so much but should i be worried he ...
A. 16 November 2006: I think this was instinctive more than anything. Sort of like when you hurt yourself and say ow without being able to control it. I really do think this was a one off.
Only you can tell the kind of guy he is. Personally, I think any guy that hits... (read in full...)
Why does my bf act so differently now? Is it because I get so jealous?
Q. My bf has totally changed way he acts, now i am always accusing him and getting jealous and the other day he said he doesnt love me as much as used 2. So i dnt give him any space its cos i love him and there is distance. he is always talkin to ...
A. 13 November 2006: The only thing I would suggest is to give him his space. I was in a similar situation where I was being accused of things I hadnt done. I had female friends and was often accused of flirting etc. Constant accusations can really put a person off. I ... (read in full...)
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