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I feel I can help others with my advice as I have sweated blood and guts to pull through all of the problems I have had in my life. I am the true voice of experience. lol
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I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 2 July 2006: Thanks everyone.... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 19 June 2006: thanks willywombat
We are doing really well and have just got back from Paris.
There is no bitterness between us at all.
There was some tension, but she has been completely forgiven.
Her parents are coming round tonight to try to get to know m... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 16 June 2006: I am sorry for my presumptions Wildthang.
I had misinterpreted your suggestion... (read in full...)
Would you get with a pregnant woman (question for men)
Q. question for men.would you ever want to be with a women that is pregnant but with someone elses child.if u met a girl and she told u she was pregnant would u be put off...
A. 15 June 2006: That is such as shame, but that is his loss.
If he was the type to walk out at that stage, then you are much better off without him.
I hope you meet a really nice guy, you deserve it.... (read in full...)
I want to make a fresh start with new man...how do I tell my current one?
Q. hiya I've been seeing this 32 yr old for about 2 months now and i want it to end...reason being he cant offer me anything..he doesn't work, he has got 6 children already and all he does is sit around in his house. I just cant find a way of telling ...
A. 15 June 2006: Just be stright up with the guy. It will only be harder and more complicated the longer you leave it. You may end up losing both if you are not careful.... (read in full...)
I have a strange fetish, im now worried I wont find a like minded female.
Q. i have a dirty underwear fetish, not so much the smelling of dirty underwear which seems more common but nothing turns me on more than girlfriends wearing the same underwear for several days and nights on end. I have just split with the first and ...
A. 15 June 2006: Well, why did you you split with her? My main concern is that you seem more worried about finding somebody else so soon.... (read in full...)
I Acted in a threatening manner, she says I reminded her of her abuseful dad, she ended it and wont hear me out, what can I do ?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me two days ago over and anguement we had in which i threw a chocolate bar at the wall. She's had problems with her dad hitting her in the past and in the morning she told me that i reminder her of him cos apparrently he used ...
A. 15 June 2006: Just try to give her some time, maybe send her some flowers with a note. Try to make he see that she knows you better than to be abusive. Just try to make your you keep at the same tone or she may feel threatened. Make it clear that you repenct... (read in full...)
I really love my boyfriend, but I don't want to cut the other lad out completely!
Q. Hiya. I have a little problem: before I got with my boyfriend of 1 year, just before I got with him, I kissed another lad just casually. It happened on some occasions but we didn't take it further At this time my now boyfriend we were just kissing ...
A. 15 June 2006: Unless you are seeking to cheat on your boyfiend, then tell this other lad the situation amd tell him you love your boyfriend. This has potential to cause you to lose both guys. Make the right choice and remain loyal to your boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Would you get with a pregnant woman (question for men)
Q. question for men.would you ever want to be with a women that is pregnant but with someone elses child.if u met a girl and she told u she was pregnant would u be put off...
A. 15 June 2006: It would completely depend on the situation. If I really loved the woman, then yes and I would try to raise the child as my own. Also, the situation with the father would be an issue. As I said, circumstances are all important.... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 15 June 2006: Why should I leave? Am I not allowed to give other people advice?... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 15 June 2006: Yes I am... (read in full...)
He won't wear a condom, what should I do?
Q. My new bf sais he wont wear condoms, I am on the pill though. Should i have sex with him?...
A. 14 June 2006: Tell him, "You don't wear a condom, you don't wear me", This guy need to learn respect and quick.... (read in full...)
We've been talking and now I want to ask her out. But how?
Q. I like this girl. We were always in the same school and I never said anything to her, but now she knows me cuz we went on a group field trip to Italy. When I see her in real life I say hi and we talk, but my problem is I can't start a conversa...
A. 13 June 2006: Why do you think she is telling you a guy like her but she is not interested? A hint perhaps? Friends may joke about it, but I am sure they have all been turned down too a few times, we all have. I am sure you will enjoy turning the tables when ... (read in full...)
I just can't seem to trust guys!
Q. heya, I can't help it, I find it really hard to put my trust into guys, like the guy I'm currently dating. I get extreamly worried and jealous that he is going off me because of his msn screen name one part said "lv u 2 princess" I thought hang on ...
A. 13 June 2006: Well at least you have now found out. There is nothing worse than a cheat, some can be forgiven in certain circumstances, some can't. You need to just walk away from him and find someone who really cares about you. You will soon gain trust whe... (read in full...)
How do I stop this embarrasing situation from happening?
Q. This is really embarrasing but something has to be done. My boyfreind suggested that he do me up the bum, so I thought, why not! We used a condom. When my boyfriend took his penis out it had my poo on it. I was really embarrased but my boyfriend ...
A. 13 June 2006: You cant really stop this from happening without some of the mentioned methods. If your boyfriend tries to embarrass you, offer to give him some bum love and see if he can do any better. This answer may not help, but might make you smile... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my GF, any tips?
Q. I'm planning to have sex with my girlfriend of six months for the first time (and its my first time with anyone). What I want to know is when having sex, does the entire female body become "sensitive" when you touch any part of her body or are there ...
A. 13 June 2006: Different girls enjoy different things. The best bet is to just ask her what she enjoys and what she doesn't enjoy. Be as open as you can with her and enjoy discovering new things about her. The key to any relationship is honesty, so ask her about... (read in full...)
I don't want my mate telling everyone that we used to kiss! We're both girls!
Q. heya. I'm 14 and i dont know what to do. A few years ago me and my mate started kissing round at her house. We did it regularly when I went to her house. We were 12. Now we go to the same school and are not mates anymore (just grown apart really) ...
A. 13 June 2006: Don't worry about it. I am sure this girl is just as worried as you are about it. As the others have said, this is perfectly normal and I am sure most of us have done it. Many would say they haven't, but chances are, they have. Don't let it ... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 13 June 2006: I told her last night.
She blames herself because of the cheating.
I asked her to come to the doctors with me and explained that I had the illness before we met, so not blame herself.
The hardest part for me was seeing those tears rolling from... (read in full...)
Is it possible to increase ones intelligence?
Q. Is it possible to increase ones intelligence?.. thanks...
A. 13 June 2006: Sudoku is a very good brain excersise, also try to memorise order of playing cards.
These all help memmory, logic and concentration and therefore increase intelligence.... (read in full...)
I slept with a man I like from work, help!
Q. there is a guy i work with we have been flirting and emailing all day long.i bumped into him on a night out and we ended up sleeping together and had an amazing night.i really like the guy but i feel that now he doesnt want anything more to do with ...
A. 12 June 2006: This sounds to me like he is afraid that you regret it and dont want to talk to him.
You are probably both in the same frame of mind.
You need to break the ice as it seems unlikely that he will make the first move here.
Email the guy or ask him o... (read in full...)
I already have 2 children, im now pregnant and not sure whether to have a termination, or will this fill me with regret!?
Q. I found out a couple of days ago that i'm pregnant. I'm 20 years old have 2 kids aged 1 and 3 and my teenage sister is living with me. So i already have a lot to deal with and am thinking about an abortion. However when ever i see a new born baby i ...
A. 11 June 2006: I think you already have your mind made up that you would rather keep the baby.
Deep inside, you are confronting your feelings and heart is telling not to terminate.
Just remember that first time your child looks at you, you already have 2, so wi... (read in full...)
I dated a guy at 15, then found out "he" was a "she", now im confused about my sexuality!
Q. I got into a long-distance relationship [my first relationship] with a guy at age 15, found out that "he" was actually a "she" at age 16, and broke up with him/her at 17; about 6 months ago. Before I found out about the person's real identity, I had ...
A. 11 June 2006: These fears will disappear when you meet the right guy.
You will look back and laugh at this.
I think everybody has thought about their sexuality at one stage of their life, espacially at such a young age.
It is normal babe, dont worry about ... (read in full...)
How do I know when I've turned my boyfriend on?
Q. heya just wondering - how do u know when a teenage boy has an erection? do they act differently or have a different facial or body expression? do they give off any clues to having an erection? also second question me an my boyfriend have been tog...
A. 11 June 2006: If u were laying down or standing up, you would probably feel the movements. Like I said, it would really depend on what you were doing to try to turn him on. If you were sitting, you would probably be able to see the difference. If that fails, ha... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 11 June 2006: I have accepted that, we spoke on the phone and I am planning on taking her back.
She apologised to me andI do believe her to be sincere.
I am going to take her to Las Vegas soon as a surprise, but I will tell her about illness when she comes ov... (read in full...)
How do I know when I've turned my boyfriend on?
Q. heya just wondering - how do u know when a teenage boy has an erection? do they act differently or have a different facial or body expression? do they give off any clues to having an erection? also second question me an my boyfriend have been tog...
A. 11 June 2006: Ok, can I just ask your age?
It would depend on what you were doing to turn him on.
An erction isn't the hardest thing to notice (no pun intended)
If you were kissing and cuddling closely, you would probably feel the difference instantly.... (read in full...)
Men; what irritates you about a women??
Q. Hi, im just wondering if any guys out there can help me with my problem. Im a 23 year old girl and quite recently I have been getting alot of male attention from different guys. I dont mean to sound big headed, but I am an attractive girl with a n...
A. 11 June 2006: The thing that attracts me to somebody is personality, humour and confidence within themself. Some women can tend to seem unapproachable, mainly because they can seem to think they are better than others. I like somebody who is content with the... (read in full...)
How do you get true love out of your mind??
Q. they say that true love means letting go of sum1 you love but i can't seem to get him out of my mind, i still love him . . . . please help me ???...
A. 11 June 2006: I dont think you can ever let true love go, it just becomes more bearable over time. You need to try to occupy yourself as much as possible. Why do you need to let him go? ... (read in full...)
Caught sending sexy texts to my 14-year-old girlfriend! Can the police really stop our love?
Q. Hi, I really really really need help. I've been kinda stupid. I'm 18 and I'm going (or was) going out with a girl who's 14. see my previous question (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/broke-up-with-my-gf-of-3-yearsnow.html) Since that (well ab...
A. 11 June 2006: Yes, a friend of mine is sort of in the same situation, but he is older. Speaking to him, I can see that he really is in love with her and would marry her tomorrow if he could. The police are involved already after her parents found out about ... (read in full...)
I have been dared to have a gang bang at 13!
Q. hi am a jade and i am quite young still i am 13 years and 11 months and i am quite average i like to wear girly clothes and do social thigns but yesterday i went bowling with 5 of my guy mates that i get along with really well. i enjoyed it and we ...
A. 11 June 2006: Well done babe, you made the right choice. You walked away from peer pressure, you are much stronger than you ever realised. Best of luck for the future x... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 11 June 2006: Thanks all I tried to tell her yesterday, but when I sat her down, she confessed to cheating on me. She has been with some guy 6 times over space of 2 months. Now I am unsure whether to take her back, she says she is sorry and is begging for forgi... (read in full...)
Should I tell my crush I have dreams about her
Q. do you think i should tell my crush that i have dreams about her a few times per week eg. stroking each others legs. i wouldn't want to scare her. i would like to ask this girl out but do'nt really know what to say....
A. 10 June 2006: Well dont break the ice by telling her that you dream about stroking her legs.
Just casually ask her out for a drink, leg stroking can maybe be brought up in a later conversation, lol... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: Thanks everyone, you are all so supportive. I plan to tell her soon, I need to let my mum know too. I am just gonna make sure that the remaining time she has with me is the best times of her life. I never thought it possible for anybody to ... (read in full...)
I want to be exciting for my boyfriend
Q. hi im 15 an just started going out with a boy. i dont want our relationship to be boring so i want to make it exciting. but i dont know how. i wanna just hug and make out but i wanna make myself seem really exciting to him. but i dont know how, any ...
A. 10 June 2006: Why do you want to make yourself seem exciting? Just be yourself, let time take its course and things will be exciting.... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: Thank you both, I have made an appointment with my doctor for tuesday, so I am gonna take her with me. I was thinking of marrying her before I go, but that is not a good idea. I dont want her to be a widow at 16. I am just terrified that s... (read in full...)
Breaking up with my ex has been very hard
Q. I know I'm being stupid, but I need the opinion of someone in a relationship that was the one that "broke up" the relationship. I'm keeping my distance from my ex and its really killing me, and I haven't called or been in contact nor has he even ...
A. 10 June 2006: I know exactly how you feel, I suffered the same thing a few years bac and thought I would never be happy.
Now I am engaged to a beautiful girl who I love more than anything, so am quite thankful to my ex for making my life unhappy and forcing me t... (read in full...)
I just don't like kissing guys
Q. hi i was wondering if its normal to not enjoy kissing at all. i havent had many different guys, but i just get really bored with it very quickly. i dont mind him kissing me other places, but actually making out is so boring to me. is this weird, ...
A. 10 June 2006: This seems to be because there is no feelings for the person.
When you are with somebody who you love, you will notice the difference. Kissing is the nicest thing a couple can do.... (read in full...)
We've been talking and now I want to ask her out. But how?
Q. I like this girl. We were always in the same school and I never said anything to her, but now she knows me cuz we went on a group field trip to Italy. When I see her in real life I say hi and we talk, but my problem is I can't start a conversa...
A. 10 June 2006: Try callin her and saying you dialled the wrong number. Play the 'I am so stupid' line, that will get her laughing and maybe break the ice. Conversation will soon flow. Best of luck... (read in full...)
She doesn't feel the same as I do about her....what can I do?
Q. i'm a 23 years old male i fell in love with my best friend,i told her about it and she didnt feel the same way with me,i love her so much,what should i do?...
A. 10 June 2006: No problem. As I said, just try to continue being a good friend, otherwise she may feel that you are turning your back on her. As was also said, try to get some more hobbies to occupy yourself and help take your mind off things. I realise that th... (read in full...)
I'm dating a much older guy, would it be okay to bring it into public?
Q. Im dating a guy who is 18 years older than me. Im 17 he is 35. Iv been with him for 2 nearly 3 years now and thinking about coming out in public and letting everyone know because i really dont want to keep it bottled up inside anymore. I really do ...
A. 9 June 2006: Well, providing you love each other, public opinion should not matter. My fiancee is much younger than me, but we are happy. It was uncomfortable for both of us at first, but it only made us stronger. I dont see age as a problem in a relationshi... (read in full...)
Why did my ex tell me he was going to ask out someone else?
Q. Hi I'm 12 and in the sixth grade. I've been on and off with this guy, we'll call him AJ. We met almost a year ago and I fell in love with him right away. He's not what a lot of people call cute but I feel in love with him for his personality, not...
A. 9 June 2006: To be honest, I think you should break up with him.
He went with somebody else right after you finished.
That does not show he cares about you because he did not seem very upset.
I think you should forget about him and find someone who will tre... (read in full...)
How do you get over having an abortion??
Q. How do you get over an abortion when the reason for it was a medical complication and you actually really wanted the baby??...
A. 9 June 2006: I am so sorry you were faced with this situation.
You must just realise that you did what you had to do because of love for the unborm baby.
There must have been a good reason for it otherwise baby and mum could have been at serious risk.
Y... (read in full...)
The breakup was a total surprise, and I was his soulmate. Now he says he might be bi...
Q. I'll try keep this brief, I'm so so confused. Please help again. I'm trying to be strong thru my surprise breakup, and it was 3weeks ago. My ex said that he didn't want to be with anyone else and that he needed to sort out where his life was goi...
A. 9 June 2006: I think you need to just try to get on with your life.
I understand why you want to hurt him, but the best way is to get on with things.
It will hurt him if he thinks that you are not bothered about the break up.
Sometimes people just seem... (read in full...)
She doesn't feel the same as I do about her....what can I do?
Q. i'm a 23 years old male i fell in love with my best friend,i told her about it and she didnt feel the same way with me,i love her so much,what should i do?...
A. 7 June 2006: Well, what was her response when you told how you felt?
Just be as supportive as you can be as a friend, maybe feelings will develop over time.... (read in full...)
I have been dared to have a gang bang at 13!
Q. hi am a jade and i am quite young still i am 13 years and 11 months and i am quite average i like to wear girly clothes and do social thigns but yesterday i went bowling with 5 of my guy mates that i get along with really well. i enjoyed it and we ...
A. 7 June 2006: Hey, these are NOT the kind of friends you want.
If they see you as this sexual object, they obviously are not interested in friendship.
Walk away from them!... (read in full...)
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