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I feel I can help others with my advice as I have sweated blood and guts to pull through all of the problems I have had in my life. I am the true voice of experience. lol
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Is this implant making me sick or could i br pregant??
Q. I've had the implant in my arm 4 about 8weeks and i've started bein sick in th mornings and im feelin tierd all the time. I'm scared about gettin a pregnancy test dont want ppl to think im a tart or out. Could this be just the implant gettin u...
A. 27 August 2006: Well I am glad the dad will be there, there are too many guys who would walk away.
If you are pregnant, I wish you the very best of luck.
Please keep us informed.... (read in full...)
Can a seven year age gap work, is it worth taking the risk ?
Q. Very longwinded, so sit tight. I am a 14 year old girl. I have always ran with an older crowd, most friends being 17+, no reason behind it just for some reason the people I meet and get along with are a few more years than I am. So here is my pre...
A. 10 August 2006: I hope all goes well for you.
Best of luck
x... (read in full...)
He says that the dating site is just for laughs... should I accept this ?
Q. my boyfriend is still on a singles dateing site he told me when we first got together that he deleted his profile of there and just by chance i found out otherwise, he said that he is window shopping and only having a laugh!! should i except this??...
A. 9 August 2006: He dumped you?
This guy sounds like a complete plant, you are better off without him if thats his attitude.
You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Im really worried that my past lies will wind me up in trouble with my girl!!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my gf for over 6 months now. We love each other to bits and are really happy together. However in my first year of Collage (months before I met my current gf) a girl stayed over in my room. We didnt really do anything, ...
A. 9 August 2006: I think you should sit her down and confess all.
You are at an early stage in your relationship, so any possible obstacles are best to be cleared now.
Honesty is the key to any relationship, a relationship with secrets is destined to fail.... (read in full...)
He says that the dating site is just for laughs... should I accept this ?
Q. my boyfriend is still on a singles dateing site he told me when we first got together that he deleted his profile of there and just by chance i found out otherwise, he said that he is window shopping and only having a laugh!! should i except this??...
A. 9 August 2006: If he still has an active profile, maybe he does have other ideas. I am curious as to how you found his profile.
Did you already suspect him of being on the site?
Maybe it is all innocent, if that is the case, he would be happy to delete his p... (read in full...)
After sex, I have drops of blood on my underwear...what should I do about this?
Q. Sorry if this is a little graphic, I am just wondering if this is normal or not. I have been having sex for two months now and everytime we are done, I have a few drops of blood on my underwear or whatever. Most the time its very very little if any ...
A. 9 August 2006: Yes, my ex used to have the same occasionally, she was told that it can be quite normal but to just get checked at the hospital.
She was fine and this gradually stopped.
Just talk to your GP about it and take it from there.
best of luck... (read in full...)
Im a bit fed up and depressed and cant get out of it... Please help
Q. hey im just gonna get rite down to the subject, i feel so lonely and depressed at the moment, i feel worthless and that im never gonna accomplish anything in life, i dont want to talk to parents or that about it bcoz they think everything is ...
A. 9 August 2006: To be honest Sexybum, I am not sure if it stays with you forever.
I am on maximum dosage medication for it at the moment, but have suffered with it for most of my life thus far.
Sometimes I can go years without it bothering me, but sometime... (read in full...)
There's so much stress in my relationship. How do I vent?
Q. Now it's my turn to ask for advice. I'm in love with a man, he's only 2 years and 11 months older than me, but at this age that can make a difference in experience. He's been in serious relationships before, I haven't. Actually, I avoided them due ...
A. 9 August 2006: The gymn is always a good option, or maybe a martial arts class.... (read in full...)
Does it Matter that My 15-Year-Old Friend Won't Have Sex with Me?
Q. I'm really good friends with this girl in my neighborhood. She's 15 and I'm 19. we both want to get more into an intimate relationship and bring our friendship to the next level, sort of like friends with benefits. The thought of sex has come up, ...
A. 6 August 2006: If your intentions are purely sexual, then you are NOT the type of friend she needs.
If you respect this girl at all, you would walk away.
I feel she is looking to you as a prospective boyfriend, but you are looking at her thinking only of sex.
Ju... (read in full...)
He is very controlling!
Q. ive got problems with my relationship - there are trust issues from my boyfriends side and he is now constantly questioning me and checking up on me by ringing my phone sometimes every hour asking the same questions - a month ago things got so bad ...
A. 5 August 2006: Your self confidence is going to suffer more and more the longer you stay in this relationship.
Make the correct decision and leave this man before psychological damage sets in.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be near her, help!
Q. There is this 17 year-old girl in my karate class, who I absolutely don't want to be friends with. She is way more girly and acts much more grown-up than me, and I feel uncomfortable talking to and being around her. I understand that she is trying ...
A. 5 August 2006: Why do you feel so uncomfortable?
I am sure she is only trying to be friendly and make a new friend.
Try talking to her, you never know what other interests you share.
I met my best friend at school because we fought each other over a bad tackle a... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting as I am fed up with her?
Q. i get fed up real soon at my gf she does stuff that make me get shocked like dancing with other guys and i dont like this things am a jealous person ?...
A. 5 August 2006: Yes, you are jealous, but I think the majority of us are jealous to a certain extent.
My fiancee is much younger than me and goes clubbing with friends etc. I get very jealous, but I realise that she got engaged and is with ME because she loves ME. ... (read in full...)
Bickering with my pal is getting me down
Q. Me and me best friend have been best friends for...about... 8 months now nd were 14 but we are very mature and act about 16 most people say.. lately we have the most pathetic niggles at each other though. we are very very close! and i know it sounds ...
A. 5 August 2006: Well it is important that you can still voice your own opinions without fear of upsetting your friend.
Maybe she has issues at home or elsewhere, this tends to cause people to lash out at those closest.
Just try to value your friendship and talk... (read in full...)
Do my parents care too much?
Q. What does anyone think of a situation where parents intervene in who they think is right or wrong for their children who've been brought up well and go to the extent of banning them from seeing someone. In this case it was a nice person but whose ...
A. 5 August 2006: This reminds me of when I was younger.
I had a girlfriend when I was 13 and I used to be in trouble with the police quite a lot.
I used to steal and use stolen money to shower her with gifts.
Both sets of families stepped in and came together to ... (read in full...)
Does the "right" person ever really come along?
Q. Dating related question! Does the "right" person ever come along and you live happily ever after? I'm always told that "the one" or "the right person" will always come along? does it ever?...
A. 5 August 2006: I believe the right person does come along, but only when you are not looking.
I had been through a turbulent relationship and thought I had lost 'The One'.
I got back to being myself and met somebody quite like no other, she has all the qualitie... (read in full...)
Im a bit fed up and depressed and cant get out of it... Please help
Q. hey im just gonna get rite down to the subject, i feel so lonely and depressed at the moment, i feel worthless and that im never gonna accomplish anything in life, i dont want to talk to parents or that about it bcoz they think everything is ...
A. 5 August 2006: Depression does run in the family, I have suffered with it since I was around 11 or 12. I am 29 now and still do not fully understand it.
Its important that you speak to your doctor about this. They take depression very seriously, especially in y... (read in full...)
Not sure how to interpret his text, does he mean we are over ?
Q. Have been going out with a lad on/off for the last three months. For the last week I've really busy and have been unable to return his msgs. Then yesterday he sent me this text here it is word for word "Deep heartfelt msg take1, sorry4annoying y...
A. 2 August 2006: I think he feels as though you are not wanting a relationship.
It seems like he sends you a lot of texts, yet does not receive too many replies or maybe the replies are short in content and emotion.
I feel that this guy loves you a lot, but feel... (read in full...)
Can a seven year age gap work, is it worth taking the risk ?
Q. Very longwinded, so sit tight. I am a 14 year old girl. I have always ran with an older crowd, most friends being 17+, no reason behind it just for some reason the people I meet and get along with are a few more years than I am. So here is my pre...
A. 2 August 2006: Yes, it can work.
BUT, not while you are 14.
Stay friends with the guy until you are 16 and if he feels the same, he will respect that.
There is a fine line here and one that should not be crossed.
I was 28 and got talking to a girl who was 15... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from checking up on my boyfriend?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a bit now and at the moment he is on a trip away with his friends in amsterdam. he is a really good guy and i dont think he'd ever cheat on me cuz he has good morals and he told me he wouldnt. Its just that ...
A. 30 July 2006: I have been in a smiliar situation.
The more I love someone, the clingier I get.
Just try to let him know you are there for him, maybe text him to just tell him to enjoy himself.... (read in full...)
She no longer wants to have sex and won't tell me why
Q. Recently my girlfriend of 1 year has decided she no longer wishes for us to have sex. She will not give me a reason, and when i ask her why she does not want to she says, i dont know. I can deal with waiting for a bit because i love her dearly, but ...
A. 30 July 2006: How old are you both?
There could be a number of reasons for this.
1 - She feels like you only want sex from her and wants to test how much you love her.
2 - She feels unready or uncomfortable.
Just be there and try to support her best you can... (read in full...)
My 40 year old boyfriend is obsessed with a 17-year old
Q. My loving boyfriend mentioned a week ago what a very very attractive seventeen year old had joined where he works!!! in the last week her name just constantly comes up in the evenings when we are together,i know he loves me but i think he has crush ...
A. 30 July 2006: Is there a possibilty he is making this up to make you jealous?
Maybe it is true, but he has became infatuated with her.
Maybe she has paid him compliments which he was not used to and some sort of feelings have started to develop.
If this is an i... (read in full...)
I'm having gay fantasies; what does this mean?
Q. I am definitely sure that i am straight! but sometimes i have dreams of doing sexual things with other girls (some i know, some i don't). Is this normal even when you're straight? I was thinking, maybe it's because me and some of my friends always ...
A. 30 July 2006: I am 100% straight, (hopefully), but I have the odd dream too.
I think it is just normal and nothing to worry about.
Whe you dream of this, it feels right and normal to an extent within the dream.
I think of this and remind myself of dreams where... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and obsessed with sex... How do I stop?
Q. I'm kind of obsessed with sex right now. I go on porn sites and watch live sex cams. What will i do. I really want to stop it. I'm only 14!!!...
A. 30 July 2006: Whoah slow down, I think some of the other comments here are out of line.
You are approaching this in the right way and are being brave in admitting your problem.
I think you should drop the hint to your parents that you accidentally accessed... (read in full...)
Was seeing this guy but now...I like his twin! Should I just not go there?
Q. Hey. Here's the deal..i was seeing this guy for a while, nothing serious and it kinda frazzled out a few weeks ago. My dilema is.. I kinda like his twin brother now...is that wrong..?? should i just not go there..?? Thanks xx...
A. 9 July 2006: Dont go there.
This is likely to cause rows between the 2 brothers.
How old is everyone involved?... (read in full...)
He wore protection but could I be pregnant?
Q. well me and my partner were having sex and he was wearing a condom but the thing is that he didn't cum. and that was in january i got my period throughout the other months.. i missed june can i be pregnet!!?...
A. 9 July 2006: Worrying about it can actually delay the period longer.
Get a test and put your own mind at rest.... (read in full...)
Can you really get "love-sick"? What does it mean?!
Q. Can people really get Love Sick? What is it? ...
A. 8 July 2006: I dont think you can just stop being love sick, but things will settle in time.
Many people get lovesick when they have split up, but some get lovesick when they are away from their partner.
My fiancee lives 300 miles away from me, I am lovesick... (read in full...)
Can you really get "love-sick"? What does it mean?!
Q. Can people really get Love Sick? What is it? ...
A. 7 July 2006: Yes, I have been love sick
You think about the person 24/7, you cant sleep and you stop eating.
It is a horrible, horrible feeling being apart from the one you love.
It is similar to depression in the sense that people who have never suffered wit... (read in full...)
First I said yes I would, now I don't want to
Q. Hia, Me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over 2 weeks. He's much more experianced than me (He's 15, and I'm 13). The other day he asked me if I would give him a hand job (wank him off), and I said yes. He's coming over my house on Tuesd...
A. 6 July 2006: You need to just tell him NO, simple as that.
If he cant respect that, then you should not want him as a boyfriend anyway.
Besides, you should not be doing this at your age anyway.... (read in full...)
I'm 23, shes 15! We love each other and will wait until she is 16, but will this work, is there any point!?
Q. Sorry if this gets a bit long.. Ok here goes I’m 23yrs old and have been close friends with my next-door neighbours since I can remember, in fact they are more like family than friends… Anyway we moved about 3 years ago, but only 10 minutes away so ...
A. 4 July 2006: I met my fiancee when she was 15, she is now 16 and we are engaged. I am 29.
We are probably the happiest couple i know of and everybody who knows us will agree that we are totally inseperable.
Relationships like this can work, although it is other... (read in full...)
Got smashed and can't remember what I did to alienate all my friends!
Q. Hey, Recently on a night out I got really drunk and I honestly can't remember anything, but lots of peop. I don't remember what I said and no one will tell me either. It's really upsetting me as I hate to think that I offended my best friend so m...
A. 4 July 2006: I think you should call her and ask her outright what you did.
Explain that you really cannot remember what you said.
I am sure that this friendship still has hope.
As camille said though, ease off the drink if it causes this type of problem.
Go... (read in full...)
Should I go for it with my cousin?
Q. I’m not sure but I have a funny feeling that my female cousin, if the situation was right, would let me have sex with her. Some time ago over her house she shows me a tattoo that was on her ass. Then when over at her house while asleep on the sofa...
A. 4 July 2006: I think you 2 need to have a talk.
Tell her that you seem to be getting signals and ask her what her intentions are.
Either way though, you may be playing with fire.
Just talk rather than acting out on what could be nothing more than a harmless t... (read in full...)
How do I outlaw my in-laws?
Q. I'd like to get peoples advice on this...what do you do about your annoying, nosey inlaws? Im talking about your spouses parents. My inlaws always look for a way to see whats going on in our marriage so that they could butt in, rule it some how (my ...
A. 4 July 2006: I think you should maybe take this to the extent where your husband is given an ultimatum.
I think he has too much respect for his parents to tell them how he really feels.
I think he knows he does this, but is fearful of upsetting them.
I think y... (read in full...)
After a one night stand I think I love him
Q. How do I get him??? We started talking on a dating site and agreed that we would just meet casually because we were both mutually attracted to each other on a physical level. Well, we met and the night was amazing. He turned out to be an even better ...
A. 4 July 2006: Maybe the reason you felt so comfortable around him was the fact that emotions did not play a part.
It seems like you have fallen for this guy because of the way you connected with such ease.
I fear that this guy was only interested in sex and has ... (read in full...)
What is a posh wank?
Q. I've heard my mates talk about it but I'm too embarrased to ask what they're on about.......... What is a "posh wank"?...
A. 3 July 2006: Just enjoy it, remember.
You dont have to be posh to be privileged... (read in full...)
Is it possible for some loser like me to date and have a long term relationship with a girl I like who is popular?
Q. I wasn't very popular at school (both primary and secondary) though not in a bad way, just people dind't want me to be their best friend. Even when I got my year book and people wrote stuff about me in it, it made me embarrassed because it was ...
A. 2 July 2006: People will see you as a loser if you believe that you are one.
Try to be yourself and sont try to be something you are not. Girls like a guy with natural charm.
As for being bullied, you have now became a much better person than the bully, s... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 2 July 2006: Thanks everyone.... (read in full...)
How much is too large an age gap?
Q. I am 28 and my boyfried is 2 1/2 years younger. It's not an issue for us, but is that too big a gap? His friends don't seem to approve although they are my age. Princess...
A. 2 July 2006: Who cares what people think?.
I am 29, my fiancee is 16.
We are completely in love and past the,'but what will the neighbours say?' stage.
If you really love the guy, age is but a number.... (read in full...)
Is this implant making me sick or could i br pregant??
Q. I've had the implant in my arm 4 about 8weeks and i've started bein sick in th mornings and im feelin tierd all the time. I'm scared about gettin a pregnancy test dont want ppl to think im a tart or out. Could this be just the implant gettin u...
A. 2 July 2006: Yes, the implant does upset the system for a short time.
This is normal, however, if it starts to become really uncomfortable or makes you sick constantly, then go back to your gp.
You can then discuss other options.
Best of luck
x... (read in full...)
Do boys know when girls have a period
Q. do teenage boys know when teenage girls are on their period?...
A. 2 July 2006: Aside from your emotions being different, eg. being moodier than usual, there is no way anybody can tell.
... (read in full...)
Thought I'd gotten over the guy I fancied, but then the feelings came back!
Q. I fancied this boy from school and didn't see him for 4 months cos he was on holiday. I got over him but as soon as I saw him again when he got back my feelings came back. :( Is this normal to fancy someone, then not fancy them anymore, then fan...
A. 1 July 2006: Oh yes, this is normal.
I was in exactly the same situation.
I thought I was completely over a girl and tried to make a go of things with my ex.
I then saw this girl again and realised just how much I loved her.
We are now engaged and very... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have sex with my boyfriend. Or do I?
Q. I'm 13 and I keep feeling like I want to have sex with my bf. We've been going out for around 5 months (give or take a bit). We tell each other EVERYTHING and we're best friends. But anyways, all the time I keep feeling like I want to have sex ...
A. 1 July 2006: You have your own doubts about this, this indicates that you are not yet ready, especially given your age.
It is normal to feel this way at your age, but the best thing to do would probably be learning to masturbate.
At least then, you can have the... (read in full...)
Are the nice guys boring and do girls prefer a bastard? Views please!
Q. Be honest, Do most girls love a bastard? Is it sexy or a turn on? I know that doormats aren't sexy but they usually treat their woman right. A guy who is a bastard and keeps to the 'treat em mean keep em keen' regime usually gets on all right in the ...
A. 26 June 2006: In my opinion, women prefer guys who just be themselves and not try to pretend they are something they are not.
Some women do like a bad boy, although this is generally a short term relationship.
For long term relationships, a guy should be confi... (read in full...)
Is my 30 year old wife too old for this "playful frolicking" with her dad?
Q. Ok my wife is 30 yrs old and still sits on her dads lap and they cuddle and she gives him a kiss. Hell she still calls him daddy! Isn't she too old for this? Shouldn't all of this stop by the time shes like 10. It isn't sexual or anything, I just...
A. 22 June 2006: I would have thought she was too old for this.
How often does this happen?... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 19 June 2006: thanks willywombat
We are doing really well and have just got back from Paris.
There is no bitterness between us at all.
There was some tension, but she has been completely forgiven.
Her parents are coming round tonight to try to get to know m... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 16 June 2006: I am sorry for my presumptions Wildthang.
I had misinterpreted your suggestion... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 15 June 2006: Why should I leave? Am I not allowed to give other people advice?... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 15 June 2006: Yes I am... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 13 June 2006: I told her last night.
She blames herself because of the cheating.
I asked her to come to the doctors with me and explained that I had the illness before we met, so not blame herself.
The hardest part for me was seeing those tears rolling from... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 11 June 2006: I have accepted that, we spoke on the phone and I am planning on taking her back.
She apologised to me andI do believe her to be sincere.
I am going to take her to Las Vegas soon as a surprise, but I will tell her about illness when she comes ov... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 11 June 2006: Thanks all I tried to tell her yesterday, but when I sat her down, she confessed to cheating on me. She has been with some guy 6 times over space of 2 months. Now I am unsure whether to take her back, she says she is sorry and is begging for forgi... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: Thanks everyone, you are all so supportive. I plan to tell her soon, I need to let my mum know too. I am just gonna make sure that the remaining time she has with me is the best times of her life. I never thought it possible for anybody to ... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: Thank you both, I have made an appointment with my doctor for tuesday, so I am gonna take her with me. I was thinking of marrying her before I go, but that is not a good idea. I dont want her to be a widow at 16. I am just terrified that s... (read in full...)
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