Confronted my husband about porn, Was I justified or wrong?
Q. Hi guy,I wrote before about the porn lie problem. I told you about my husband denying that he watches porn. Well ,today I had conversation with my husband about that,He found on the history porn website that i was looking at,and he asked me if i...
A. 22 October 2009: I love Satin's advice Lena...
Take it!... (read in full...)
Does it mean he likes me when he acts jealous?
Q. Hello Before I dated a guy once and that was all. We did not meet again. Now I am dating the same guy and today we went out for together (this is our second date) and he asked me some questions like when was your last boyfriend, and how long did...
A. 2 October 2009: You got the "interview"..yes, indeed. Jealousy is akin to MUCH insecurity and even more possessiveness. But was he jealous? You know, from what you wrote he didn’t really sound so much jealous as he was trying to get a feel for where you were at ... (read in full...)
How do I tell this guy that I love him?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I have been crushing on this guy for about a year now, and I believe it may even be love at, well, second sight. We're really good friends now and he seems to be flirting with me a lot. I don't want to sound like another obsessed ...
A. 2 October 2009: DOOONT tell him that you love him! Waaaay too premature for that and if you do; if you really know when you feel it, you'll ruin it. You will scare him...I mean it! If all that is going on, you need to get into a, you know, relationship with him...a ... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 28 September 2009: Jace... you are a good man! I dont know that I could do what you have done with the class, tolerance and grace that you have.
I just have to give you your props, man! Truly! You have looked a huge mis-step of judgment SQUARE in the face and, by DAMN... (read in full...)
I'm a 36C, do I still need breast implants?
Q. Ive always loved my breasts. Im a full 36c. Well a few months ago my bf at the time always made fun of my breasts saying that they were small and sagging(im only 18, there's no way their saggy). We would have sex and he would still comment on them. ...
A. 25 September 2009: Nooooo! Well, I say no from a man's point of view because, personally, I, like you, think "natural" is the way to go. To me, it looks better and feels better. Plus, I've been on this gripe campaign lately about how plastic surgery is becoming the ... (read in full...)
How can I see the positive in all of this?
Q. Hi, So here is my story, I am feeling really really low, I don’t know where to start a massive combination of things. Firstly I hate my job, I have been here 2 years almost and am treated with no respect. I am 30 and treated like a teenage wo...
A. 18 September 2009: Well, you seem to be a bit overwhelmed and under "thrilled". You know, you sound kind of exhausted emotionally, mentally and probably physically. Well, I dont think it’s a case of you imagining it, blowing it out of proportion or not doing enough, ... (read in full...)
For the guys: How often do you call a girl?
Q. Question for guys: How often do you call a girl you are sorta interested in but its really new and fresh and your taking it slow. Is it once a week? once every 2 weeks?...
A. 12 September 2009: You dont want to go too fast and you dont want to go too slow. Really, it just depends on the guy, the girl and the situation. There is no "set" number of calls. If you like her, once a week - maybe that's ok, but once every couple of weeks sounds ... (read in full...)
A Dignified Life
Q. As the years go by, as the number of bodily aches add up, as the dream of having a feline I can go home to fades more and more, I often wonder if humanity would be capable of standing on their own two feet. If they would choose the options that ...
A. 3 September 2009: A very thought provoking article, indeed, GM and so many interesting and good points to think about. In a time where self-entitlement and self-pity seems to have saturated much of society, we have to wonder why more people are not asking the ... (read in full...)
B/f says he is goingthrough an identity crisis..what dos this mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I had been having a good relationship since our last break up, which was almost 7 months ago. Anyways, I thought everything was going great, he was being very attentive, sweet, and just perfect; but 1 week ago he started to get ...
A. 30 August 2009: An "identity crisis"??? Wow. Ok. That sounds deep, if he really means what he's saying. The meaning of it is as varied as the people who say they go through it, I venture. Someone who doesnt know who they are, fundamentally, that's what it is.
A... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I wont find love again. I need some advice.
Q. So my ex broke up with me over 5 months ago. I loved here dearly and was devistated when she broke up with me. I did all the wrong things for 4 months after the break up. I kept in contact with her a lot and I acted extremely needy and desperate. ...
A. 24 August 2009: Twenty three??? I know it's the oldest you have ever been, but I met my wife when I was 38...Been through MUCH nonsense before that and wondered the same thing. One thing I can tell you, make sure that you are ok with YOU! "Nice and sweet guy, so ... (read in full...)
We're ready to get married but his parents won't consent - is there a way around this?
Q. I am an 18 year old mother of 2 beautiful boys and their father is only 17..we are trying to get married so he can go of to the army but its becoming impossible because his mother does not approve..we have been together for 4 years now and were ...
A. 23 August 2009: Been together for four years and with children yet? Wow...Why wont she consent? Well, I'm assuming there is some legality that keeps you two from it due to his age, but that is temporary and doesnt take away the fact that he is daddy. I guess the ... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 23 August 2009: Larry1, you speak of affection and the display of it as something that is unclean, dirty and regrettable and you seem to do that in the name of God and religion. Moreover, you are acting like this young girl you say you care for has just confessed ... (read in full...)
I found out he's an Escort! What should I do here???
Q. I have a very strange situation and although i have my own opinions and views, others would be appreciated. To summarise, i met a guy who was involved with someone else and told him he could only be with me if he left her, and so he did, he left ...
A. 22 August 2009: He has taken himself off the escort site? If it's that easy, why didnt he do that before?...because he was still taking appointments. I think the issue, here, is he didnt tell you and you found out...or HAD to find out by your own means of ... (read in full...)
I need ideas for a special, romantic night with my busy boyfriend!
Q. My boyfriend has been having his exams for two months and he's finishing soon! I never see him! What could I do him (as a special night) when I see him? What could be done nice? As in,sex and in cuddling and any other thing?????????...
A. 22 August 2009: Well, I dont know what you two have enjoyed in the past, but I would think that if he's been weighed down with exams for the past 8 weeks, he's going to want to RELAX and do something that will shut his brain off! I'm thinking, get away somewhere ... (read in full...)
Men: Do you like clingy women?
Q. I've read a lot of advice from females, but i really want to know what males think. Apparently, males don't like clingy girlfriends. That true? What if the male was clingy, wouldn't he want a clingy girlfriend? What do you think about clingy girlf...
A. 22 August 2009: When I think of the word "clingy" I think of insecure. Maybe that's not what you mean, but I am a busy person who needs to get things done during the day. If I'm in a meeting, for example, and my phone goes off several times because of a "clingy" ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any experience dating an Italian man?
Q. I am a 26 year old and dating a 29 year old Italian man. Does anyone have experience with Italians? Are the stereotypes of the men actually a reality in most cases? The relationship is not yet to a point of where I can't emotionally get ...
A. 20 August 2009: I'm half Italian and I'm not sure this has much to do with being Italian so much as him and his set of morals and surrendering to personal weaknesses. Sure, a culture is a big part of learning "who" we are, but here again, it's a personal choice ... (read in full...)
I can't kiss!
Q. well the thing is with every lad ive been seeing ive never kissed them i just cant il do anything to avoid humilation i hate feeling stupid and not knowing what iam doing i just find the whole thing emmbarssing and recently iv been seeing this ...
A. 20 August 2009: Well, I'm glad you feel like you can talk to me...Actually I really do get what you're saying about the tongue roaming around bit. That, um...can be a little "eh??"...and sometimes it can be just gross. The tongue thing is, in my personal kissing ... (read in full...)
I can't kiss!
Q. well the thing is with every lad ive been seeing ive never kissed them i just cant il do anything to avoid humilation i hate feeling stupid and not knowing what iam doing i just find the whole thing emmbarssing and recently iv been seeing this ...
A. 20 August 2009: Well...Poor thing, you're putting a whole LOT of concern into something that is really very enjoyable and you're going to worry yourself into a state about it. I'm thinking that you're going to find out - just like the rest of us have - that you ... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 20 August 2009: Here's the key..."before we started dating". What she did "before" you and she began dating is just what she did. The same holds true for you. It didn't concern you then, she wasn't your girlfriend. If THAT is something that would have kept you from ... (read in full...)
I can't stand being with him when I don't love him...so how do I break up with him?
Q. Hi So I've been going out with this boy for about a month now. He asked me out a few times and he really likes me eventualy I said yes as I thought I liked him but I have found out that I only like him as a friend. To add to this I was alre...
A. 20 August 2009: Well, you just need to say what you've said to us. "I really just want to be friends. I dont think we're 'couple' material.." or the ever-popular "It's not you. It's me"...NO, just kidding. Dont do that one! But something similar to what you told ... (read in full...)
I can't kiss!
Q. well the thing is with every lad ive been seeing ive never kissed them i just cant il do anything to avoid humilation i hate feeling stupid and not knowing what iam doing i just find the whole thing emmbarssing and recently iv been seeing this ...
A. 20 August 2009: But why does it make you cringe, though? What goes on in your mind about it?
Is it just the romantic kiss that bothers you or is it ALL kissing? A kiss can communicate SO many things SO much better than words...... (read in full...)
B/f friend masturbates over friend's pictures!
Q. Is it normal for your bf to masterbate over your friends, by either thinking of them or looking at pictures of them? My bf has admitted that he does this. He also sed he likes the thought of cheating on me, is this normal? He often brings up ...
A. 20 August 2009: I have NEVER masterbated to a picture of any of my wife's girlfrieds or any former girlfriends friends, for that matter....Not ever. I cant imagine what goes on in his mind about them as he does this. Like Uncle Phil said, the handwriting is pretty ... (read in full...)
He turned down my marriage proposal, now what do I do?
Q. I have been with my partner for five years, we have been living together for three years. We are both in our 50's and divorced with three teenage children between us. He is my soul mate, we have built a stable loving home together for the kids and ...
A. 19 August 2009: You're quite welcome. Really, best of luck to you.... (read in full...)
How do you feel about lending your partner money? My guy asked for £1,000 and I said no!
Q. My boyfriend of eight months has asked me to lend him £1000. He says he needs it to pay his landlord. He's generally an honest person but this came out of the blue and its a lot of money. I'd be happy to lend smaller amounts, but I'm currently ...
A. 19 August 2009: My philosophy on lending ANYONE money is dont! If you dont have the money to GIVE to them, you dont have the money. Financial institutions "lend" money. Friends, relatives, partners "give" money and that way if they dont or cant pay it back, we can, ... (read in full...)
He turned down my marriage proposal, now what do I do?
Q. I have been with my partner for five years, we have been living together for three years. We are both in our 50's and divorced with three teenage children between us. He is my soul mate, we have built a stable loving home together for the kids and ...
A. 19 August 2009: Absolutely! I'm sure you don't simply “want” the same level of commitment, you know it is ESSENTIAL to have or the relationship doesn’t have a chance and will always be a one-sided effort. I think you've begun a process of enlightenment here, my ... (read in full...)
Falling in love so easily?
Q. why do i fall in love so easily every girl i see i'm thinking she's hot blah blah and if the girl starts checking me out im like falling in love and then i leave and start all over again why?...
A. 19 August 2009: Like, HTH said...not love. Infatuation, maybe? Lust, probably. I think what you're liking too is the response from the girl. The attention. It's always exciting to see a "hot" girl and realize she's thinking the same thing about you. But is there ... (read in full...)
B/f friend masturbates over friend's pictures!
Q. Is it normal for your bf to masterbate over your friends, by either thinking of them or looking at pictures of them? My bf has admitted that he does this. He also sed he likes the thought of cheating on me, is this normal? He often brings up ...
A. 19 August 2009: Wow...I bet it makes you feel a few more things than just not good enough. That's actually a pretty disgusting thing to be thinking with regard to your girlfriend or anyone you have a commitment to - "likes the thought of cheating on you". Oh yeah! ... (read in full...)
To the men out there - do you get excited by the idea of seeing your wife having sex with another man?
Q. I would like to see my wife having sex with another man, the thought excites me. Does any other male have this feeling....
A. 13 August 2009: The thought completely nauseates me. ... (read in full...)
Love of my live - mother of my son, Everything seemed fine! Then suddenly she broke it off! What do I do?
Q. ok, this is the first time ive done this. so here it goes. i met this girl, and for a couple weeks we flirted and just kind of picked on each other.it finally came about that we liked each other, so we started hanging out. we went on a couple d...
A. 9 August 2009: Man, that is sad! Really. I cant imagine. As a man, one of my biggest fears would be to give my all, like you have here, only to find out it was "all" for nothing AND with children involved yet. I feel for you. I do. I can tell you have been trying ... (read in full...)
I don't think he'll like me because I'm of mixed race... how do I get him to love me?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, My biggest problem right now is that I'm crazy in love with a very handsome guy, but the thing is, I'm mixed race, half-black half-mexican, and I don't think he'll be into me cause of that. Please help me find a way to get him t...
A. 9 August 2009: Being of mixed heritage and race myself, that was kinda painful for me to read, my dear...You know, you being worried and almost regretting your heritage over a guy you think wont accept or "love" you because of it... because of WHO you are.
H... (read in full...)
Is it OK to be 34 and be strictly platonic friends with a 15 year old girl?
Q. I know that guys in their mid-30's shouldn't really be friends with teenagers (especially girls), but one of my friends has a 15-year-old daughter who really wants to be my friend. I think she is really awesome and I would like to be her friend ...
A. 7 August 2009: If you're asking the question, something's got you thinking twice. Better listen to your own insticts and apply the brakes right now! Friends? What do you have in common with a girl less than half your age?
Best not play with fire on this, man.... (read in full...)
"Go find someone else to treat bad!" ...that's what she said and it hurt me!
Q. My girlfriend was in a bad mood after work which is understandable. I was being nice and asked my friend to leave so we could be alone. She started taking out something the dog did that was not my fault. She thought she heard me say something under ...
A. 26 July 2009: Good days and bad days...we all have them. She was frustrated and you were standing there. She was looking for an outlet and chose you then said things, I'm sure, she didnt mean. That doesnt take the hurt away, I know. You cant "unsay" a hurtful ... (read in full...)
I just don't know why no one likes me. Can you help me?
Q. Why am i so lonely? I mean, I am 14 and I have never been kissed and have only ever had one gf but I dont understand because I think Im a nice guy and im quite sensitive but I just dont know why no one likes me! can u help me please??...
A. 23 July 2009: I'm sorry, you guys... I'm going to have to disagree with you, just a little. I get what you're saying in theory, but not many girls like jerks and assholes, by and large, because they dont feel like they can trust them. I know they always say they ... (read in full...)
Is 5 months too soon to propose to her?
Q. hi every1, would u say 5 months is too early to propose? my girl moved over here from scotland last year, we met through work and got it together end of feb. i know for sure she's the one. i'm going to scotland with her in 2 weeks to meet her family ...
A. 23 July 2009: Nope. Not in my view. I did it. Met my wife in February, asked her at the beginning of June and we were married in late September - met, dated, engaged and married within 7 months time of the same year. The reason I tell you 'nope' so emphatically ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give up my dream but I am so very discouraged!
Q. Music is something I love more than anything else in the world. I haven't given up my dream of being a professional musician, but right now I am feeling so discouraged that I'm beginning to wonder if I'm crazy for not having given up. I'm...
A. 19 July 2009: I'm a musician...and I have a question for you...WHY do you need external encouragement? Why do you even seek it? I already know the voices you hear in your head. You're starting to believe them, arent you? Because things havent progressed like you ... (read in full...)
She has developed her own life's needs and wants which does not coincide with mine
Q. Hi ladies and gents, I am 29 going on 30 soon. I have been with my high school sweetheart for the past 13 years. We separated 7 months ago, right after new years. We have 2 kids a 12 year old daughter, and a 6 year old son. We had ups and downs, and ...
A. 19 July 2009: OH man! God! What a heartbreak! This lovely woman of yours is lost at the moment. Did I miss it?...Did you ever marry her?
Well, she clearly feels like she has missed out on life, no..on herself! She likely feels taken for granted, missing her yout... (read in full...)
Do men think about other women in a sexual way?
Q. Hi I have a question for guys or girls in the know. I was wondering how often men think about women in a sexual way. Does it vary if you are in a relationship; is it a reflection on the girlfriend the amount the guy checks other girls out? Do men ...
A. 19 July 2009: I dont know in what particular instance you are referring to; sex with a partner, masterbation, just walking down the street...but to be totally honest, yeah, I believe as a man, that men do think sexually about other women at times. Not necessairly ... (read in full...)
What is your meaning of life?
Q. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do. I thought maybe reading other people's raison d'etre might help me figure my own. So does anyone here know why you exist?...
A. 19 July 2009: Whatever your "belief" is, whatever religion or spiritual solace is...specifically, for ME my purpose here is to be happy and happiness has many faces. When you're 3, like my goddaughter, happiness is birthdays, ice cream and self indulgence. When ... (read in full...)
We're poor and this is affecting our relationship
Q. Hi there, I am 25 and my partner is 34. We both lost our jobs a few months ago and haven't been able to find anything since. We have cut down our outgoings to the bare minimum, and this is the only way we can survive until we find work. Our savings ...
A. 19 July 2009: You're comments, here, made me think of my grandparents who often talk about the Great Depression in the 1930's. Many people suffering tremendously, they say and you learned "make do" or "do without"...
I made a comment to my grandmother some year... (read in full...)
How do you find ways to go about not feeling sexual desire?
Q. It is a bit complicated question.So I'm in my late 40 es and I used to be a modell. I don't want to go on about myself, but I'm attractive ,and sort of smart . Now my husband ,stoped showing any desire a few years ago, and I feel I'm wasting m...
A. 18 July 2009: HOLD IT!...
"maybe you have become fat.
Maybe you had children and your body, including down there, have changed shape and size and he no longer enjoys you"
I'm sorry, I don’t usually do this but WOW, Frank! Was that necessary? For such a matur... (read in full...)
How do you find ways to go about not feeling sexual desire?
Q. It is a bit complicated question.So I'm in my late 40 es and I used to be a modell. I don't want to go on about myself, but I'm attractive ,and sort of smart . Now my husband ,stoped showing any desire a few years ago, and I feel I'm wasting m...
A. 18 July 2009: I'd say the better objective should be to find out what's going on with him. I'd neeeaver recommend trying to learn to live without something so basic to the human spirit as love, attention and sexual want. Actually, I wouldnt even know where to ... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 17 March 2009: Yes, indeed. What did you do here? You really thought you had things under control, I bet. Well, I don't want to make you feel worse. You're feelings of shame and disgust in yourself are coming through loud and clear. I'm sorry you couldn't just ... (read in full...)
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